Sometimes people might want to answer "A. As Often as Possible" because they figure that it is like getting "free" sex and they should take as much as they can.  That does seem reasonable.

Sometimes people might want to answer "B. 2-3 Times a Week"  because they figure, it is just like dating someone anyways and they want to enjoy themselves with their lover and it gives them time to see their friends-with-benefits lover AND still have time to go out, do their errands, and have time to themselves. That does seem reasonable too.

Sometimes people might want to answer "C. Every Weekend"  because they figure the person is just a friends-with-benefits and they have busy lives, but that they should be willing to commit to meeting every weekend so that neither one has to date anyone else so they can have guaranteed sex, and a guaranteed plan for the weekend, and no one ends up lonely.  That does seem reasonable as well. 

Sometime people might want to answer "D. Once a Week, Or Less"  because they figure that a friends-with-benefits is not a serious commitment sex partner, and that they want to enjoy the benefits, but still keep a proper emotional distance.


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These are ALL REASONABLE INTERPRETATIONS.

But there is only ONE RIGHT ANSWER

The Answer is D. Once a Week, Or Less

A proper FWB relationship means you only see each other once a week. Twice a week on occasion if you plan a special getaway.

​One of the biggest mistakes that partners make in FWB is that they try to see each other as often as they can in a short time period. All this will do is confuse the issue.

Seeing each other more than once a week is acting like more serious relationship than it is, and can nurture romantic feelings to develop.

​If you act like you are more than just a FWB, you can expect one or both partners to start feeling, wanting or expecting more from each other


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And just because the complaints were so amazing, I posted a number of them here:


Playing hard to get, taking time to respond, hot & cold thinking it'll make the guy more interested.
-R.​

People who feign interest in another person with no intention of following through to boost their own ego. example: When a woman tells a man she wants to see his new place. Then the man tries to set up a time to make that happen and the woman suddenly stops responding or says she was just kidding.
-J

​What is CookandDate?
by Cristina Mucciardi

CookandDate is one of, if not the best way to meet likeminded singles today…

Of course I’m bias as to why CookandDate is such a great way to meet potential mates because I am the founder, however time and time again we get so much positive feedback that we can’t think otherwise. 

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The concept is simple, get a group of singles together (average 16) in a private kitchen, with a preset menu and have them mingle and cook together before enjoying the wonderful meal. 

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We advertise 10-15 year age categories so that people can choose an appropriate age group based on whom they are looking to meet …

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​CookandDate, offers weekly culinary and cocktail events for singles. The evening's format has guests interact by cooking several courses and a sit-down meal. Chefs cover various cuisines, including French, Italian, Mediterranean, Indian, Kenyan and Caribbean. CookandDate recently launched events in Toronto and New York City as well as an expansion across  Canada and the United States.  

You Do Not Have Time For Toxic People
By Frank Kermit
 
When I lecture, coach or regularly talk on the radio about Toxic people,

I usually define Toxic people as lacking the capacity to reason, or people who have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you.

I often advise that the best way to deal with a toxic person is not to deal with that person at all.

The Hierarchy of Sex, Dating and Relationships
By Frank Kermit
 
One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it.

​The Ten Levels of Commitment In the hierarchy of relationships (specifically romantic relationships), the categories are: 

• Legal Spouse (can be substituted with Life Partner, or Co-Parent)
• Engaged Fiancé  (can be substituted with Live-in Partner) 

• Monogamous Exclusive Partner  OR  Non-Monogamous Primary Partner (Same Level)
• Casual Dating (Public) Partner
• Friends-With-Benefits (Private) Partner
• One-Night-Stand
• Non-Romantic Friend
• Off-Limits-For-Now
• Off-Limits-For-Ever
• Toxic

From least committal (Toxic) to most committal (Legal Spouse).

Below is a Chart from the chapter The Hierarchy of Dating and Relationships from my coaching workbooks.  One of the principles I teach in my coaching workbooks for men and women, "I'm A Man, That's My Job" and "I'm a Woman, It's My Time" respectively is that to make any relationship work is that COMMITMENT MUST BE EARNED. ​

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​For example, let's say the person you are casually dating (non-exclusive partner) is someone that drinks alcohol regularly, but your personal criteria for a spouse is someone that rarely drinks at all.
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The reason being that there is no point in getting exclusive with someone if there is no long term possibility with that person. Even if you are madly in love with that person, you still must resist the temptation to seek a stronger commitment with that person.
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When you take your relationship to the next level (promote your partner up the hierarchy) it has to be based on how your partner continues to prove he or she satisfies your personal criteria.

And when you demote a partner down the hierarchy (from exclusive partner to friends-with-benefits) it cannot be because you "just are not feeling it right now".

It has to be because they have stop satisfying your criteria.
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How you feel about a person plays less of a role in emotionally healthy relationships that most people think.​

Open Relationships vs Infidelity
By Frank Kermit
 
*This is an excerpt of my Ebook: FRANKTALKS VOLUME 3: MONOGAMY AND NON-MONOGAMY EDITION EBOOK

Poly Can't Cure A Cheater Addicted To Cheating
Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous relationships.


Some advocates of open relationships may even claim that the monogamous relationship structure forces couples that would otherwise be happier in open relationships to lie and be unfaithful.

 
This is also based on the premise that having sex with someone that is not your primary partner is not considered cheating if your primary partner knows about it, and consents to it. I personally concur that consent of extra-marital sex negates the concept of cheating.


However, just being in open relationships does not automatically eliminate the cheating ways of a person that cheats for reasons other than dissatisfaction with monogamy.

People that cheat regardless of already having the opportunity to have sex with others outside their primary pair bonding relationship generally do so as a means of escapism.

So whether you practice:

• monogamy,
• some form of non-monogamous relationship structure,
  
• polyamory,
• or even in a committed fetish alternative relationship,
  

people who cheat because they are addicted to the perceived thrill of cheating do so for their own reasons, and not because of the relationship structure they are in;

and changing relationship structures with this kind of addict will not help.

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The Silver Lining of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
by Josee St-Onge


There were many things in my life that were not planned nor desired. Developing PTSD certainly was not one of them. Nor was the assault that lead to it. 


For me, it was like waking up in a foreign country. 
An outsider, within my own life. 


Even the simplest of tasks required a revision of each step in order to be able to accomplish it. At times, I did not feel much. At other times, I felt too much.  Caught between two elusive worlds, I clung to anything that would help me to stay present.


The laughter of my children was the first thing to seep in. 

Sleep was my enemy. But being awake was not my ally.

Every cell in my body felt like it was irritated and angry. Utilizing every ounce of my energy. There were no reserves to access.  No clear healing path to follow.  

And then a thought occurred to me.

I had survived the worst. It was time to just be. 

Be who I need to be at the moment in order to move forward. Letting go is far less painful but rather a scary thing to do.  Allowing myself to feel, transformed me into something unexpected. Showing me that there is no shame in taking a step back in order to reconnect with our innate self.

Over time, we seem to lose this connection and define ourselves through our career, family status, age or religion.  But these are not who we are as spiritual beings. But merely the costumes we wear as we progress through the various stages of life. 

I assure you that as a nurse, care giver and mother of three. I had lost that connection long ago. Sacrificing, giving, guiding, teaching and loving. All wonderful, in their own ways. But all draining of fuel that if not re-filled, may lead us to feel empty and resentful.

The world will take as much as you are willing to give. Giving is needed. However, giving without accepting is maladaptive, counterproductive and draining.  I found myself, completely depleted. I needed to be refueled. 

​Through old-fashioned hand crafted soap making, each of my senses began to awaken one at a time.

Creativity started to bubble up from deep within my soul. 

I let it.

Slowly, inspiration took over. 

It was like welcoming home an old friend. One that had been lost, yet returned like not a day had gone by without. Creativity was the friend that showed up and carried me when I could no longer carry myself.  

On the days when I am feeling overwhelmed, I take out my supplies.  First choosing my scents, then my oils. My tolerance for being in the here and now, grew from there.  

It seems odd to say that soap saved me. 

But it truly has.  

Along with the help of a qualified therapists and the support of family and friends! It would have been way too easy to numb my pain with drugs or alcohol.

I can understand why one would want to.

Trusting that we somehow have the internal resources to deal with the unimaginable is perhaps the most difficult part of the healing process.  

Creativity Is Your Friend

Creativity is an old friend. This old friend and I, have a long healing journey ahead.

But once past it, I will surely keep it around.

I could never undo the amount of internal growth that it has helped me to achieve.  

I do not see myself as broken. But rather, broken open.

It is this unfortunate event that jolted me out of my robotic way of living.
I was so focused on what needed to be accomplished in my day, that I was no longer just being.  

On those challenging days, finding even the smallest of joys may help ground us.

It can be as simple as enjoying our favorite tea.

Or applying a scented hand cream.  

A few minutes of taking in the life around us can make the world of difference.

I am excited about today.

I am excited about the future.

But most of all, I am excited about the deepened person I have become. 

There is not one thing or a person that can define us.

We are the only ones with the power to do so.  

​We must remember to just be!

Soon, I will be revealing the final product of my inspirations.  Feel free to reach out and share what is keeping you grounded. Let’s continue to inspire and uplift one another!
 
-Josee St-Onge

https://www.facebook.com/beeefriendly

Working from home means that I don’t usually worry too much about grooming each day.
I work in my pj's and sometimes go a day or two without a shower. For this reason I always keep my hair short (usually a like a crew cut). Then my wife signed me up for BzzAgent.

In anticipation of being a BzzAgent, I skipped my barber appointments to get the full experience. That’s when I received Head & Shoulders 3 Action Formula shampoo in Classic Clean as well as a bottle of conditioner. So I have been letting my hair grow and using both regularly.

My wife's has been having fun running her fingers through my hair. She has not done that in years. (……)

Since then two people have remarked about my hair.

One has been my doctor.  I took my kid in for a check-up and my doctor who has only seen me with short hair, commented on the fact that not only did I have longer hair, but he also commented about how it made me look younger and how full and healthy it looked.
It was a nice change, as my doctor has only ever commented about my need to lose weight.

      “You still need to lose weight, but your hair is amazing!”

I told him about BzzAgent and that I was using Head & Shoulders 3 Action Formula shampoo and conditioner.

Although I work from home, I do have some projects that take me out of the house, and in those cases, I work closely with a colleague. I see her about once a month. She also remarked that I should keep my hair longer as it looked so full and wavy and how it made me look more attractive.
“It’s looks great! I don’t understand why you keep your hair short when it grows out like this?” I explained to her that in the past, I would let my hair grow out and it would not be this robust and that I was a BzzAgent and told her I was using Head & Shoulders 3 Action Formula shampoo and conditioner in Classic Clean.
 
Working for myself from home these last few years, it is easy to become comfortable with not having to make appearances,and receive positive comments about my style including my hair. Maybe, a little too comfortable? But I have to admit, the attention and positive comments were a really nice feeling to have, and although I do plan to go crew cut again at some point, I might have to make less trips to the barber this year.

This review is #notsponsored and no payment has been received.

BzzAgents are given the chance to review products and give their honest opinion.

 
#GotItFree  #BzzAgent  #HealthyHairSecrets

At which point, many would-be lovers flee before the next dating encounter.
 

For those that reject dating adult aged virgins, reasons may include: 

• not wanting to deal with the pressure of being someone’s first,
• not wanting the virgin to regret losing their virginity (facing resentment), and ​
• not having to wait for the virgin to feel ready for sex.  

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Potential partners who have previously been sexually active tend not to revel in the notion of waiting what could be weeks, or even months, for the virgin they are dating to feel ready and comfortable for first time sex. 
 
It makes no difference if the potential partner is simply seeking a casual dating partner and sex for fun, or those looking for a more serious commitment.  Neither of them wants to wait longer than they are used too in order to explore sexual compatibility and enjoyment. 


In fact, even some match making companies will refuse to take on virgins as clients because of how difficult they may be to find a match for.
 

As far as my personal practice goes, the only people that hope to meet a virgin to marry one day are those from very strict religious and cultural backgrounds who seek the same.

With all this said, THERE IS REALLY NOTHING WRONG with being a virgin at any age. What matters is that the virgin is comfortable with being a virgin.  
 
It is only an issue is the virgin is not happy being a virgin, but refuses to challenge him or her self to do something about it. 

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10 Reasons why you need to appreciate the vibrator!

1. Vibrators can be used to spice it up and keep the monotony out of your sex life.
2. They speed up climax times
3. Professional Tool for Professional Results! Did you know vibrators were actually invented because a doctor was too tired from getting women to orgasm from manual stimulation?
4. Vibrators were actually invented to cure a condition called hysteria.
5. Can be use on both men and women
6. The more orgasms she has the more her body wants them, so use that to your advantage!
7. Vibrators can create more intense orgasms and offer the option for blended orgasms
8. Vibrators add a third without a third person being there
9. Women should be having at least 200 orgasms a year to help with heart health and many other health reasons, so vibrators allow her to have 200 orgasms much more easily.
10. Vibrators are a good alternative when her man isn’t available.

Men provide much more to a woman than a vibrator can!  

Women seek from men: companionship, love, touch, protection and more.


All things a vibrator can’t provide and that is why vibrators are not competition for men.  So embrace the vibrator, understand that it is your ally. Have fun and be safe.
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If you need more help in area of dating and relationship, schedule a free 30 minute discovery call at www.KarlyStein.com !

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Karly Stein of www.KarlyStein.com  is your Wing Woman when it comes to dating and relationships. She is the host of Dating, Mating and Relating with Karly Stein on www.tapthemicradio.com. Author of 101 Ideas to Create Fun and Memorable Dates and the upcoming book Anatomy of a Bad Boy, How to be the Nice Guy and Still Get the Girl.

In 2012, Karly started her path into this industry by signing up to Sell Intimate Products and she quickly discovered that she loved learning everything she could about dating, relationships, intimacy and sex and then discovered a passion for teaching about it.

In 2014, She took a Passion and Intimacy Coaching Certification course and that quickly changed her path into coaching.

Karly is passionate about men stay out of the friend zone in relationships and helping women fully embrace their feminine side.

Karly Studied Communications and studio art at the University of Denver.
She currently lives in Denver, CO.
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