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Relationship Advice: The Pros And Cons Of Looking To Others

7/21/2019

Looking for relationship advice? Consider all of your options before you move forward. Read this post to discover some pros and cons to asking for help.

Find Balance When Asking For Advice

When you’re in a rut, there’s a temptation to look to others for advice. People who have been through the same thing and have relationship experience can enlighten you on how to proceed. Of course, asking others for help is also very dangerous. There is no way to tell if their words are helpful or harmful until you’ve put them into practice, and then it might be too late. You need to find the perfect balance between making your own decisions and following the path well-trodden, and the best way to understand the pros and cons.

Here are two each to consider when you start experiencing relationship troubles.

Pro: They Can Empathize

A shoulder to cry on is always a nice feeling because it’s healthy to vent. However, couples who have been through the same thing can empathize, and that’s worth its weight in gold. Sometimes, there are generic things you need to do to get your relationship back on track, and they can talk you through them. Plus, there will be caveats that they figured out along the way which should come in handy. Without the need to stumble through in the dark and grope around, you can avoid saying and doing irreparable things.

Con: People Aren’t Transparent

Sadly, too many couples like to show off and make out as if they are the gold standard of love when they are in as much trouble. They shouldn’t throw stones from their glasshouse, yet they do - stones of hypocritical love. And, they do this while attending marriage counseling classes and trying to repair their damaged relationship. There is nothing wrong with giving advice, but it should be truthful and in the proper context. Otherwise, you might make the same mistake and end up in the same boat on a very dodgy looking creek.

Pro: They Want The Best For You

Often, the people we turn to for advice are the ones we love. It’s not like you’re going to stop a stranger on the street and ask their opinion. As a result, you know that everything you hear comes from the heart. They love you and want to help you be happy, which is why there is nothing untoward. Thinking with your head is the best policy, yet, sometimes, the heart has to rule over everything. To see it in real-time might inspire an epiphany which goes on to save your relationship.

Con: They’re Not Experts

The flip side of the coin is this: they amateurs. Sure, they’ve been in a successful relationship for years, but they have never stopped to analyze it. As a result, they don’t know the forensic details like a marriage counselor with qualifications and years of experience. A piece of good advice is only helpful when the process is on point as you might try and apply it to areas of your relationship where it isn’t applicable.

Listening to advice from others is comforting because it proves you’re not alone. Still, it’s essential to understand the limits of your confiders and seek professional help too.

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How To Spice Things Up In Your Marriage

7/21/2019

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Read this contributed post to discover ways you can add some spice to your marriage!

Find Ways To Spice Up Your Marriage

We all know how it is. When you begin dating, you are all too familiar with those feelings of butterflies in your stomach and when you see each other, you just can’t wait to get your hands all over one another.
But as time goes on, you become more used to each other, and though your love it still deep, the spark just seems to be gone. So, what to you do to spice things up? Here are a few ideas.

Date Night

When you were young, the two of you went out together often. But now, there barely seems to be time for you to get together. And even if there is time, you have to think about getting baby sitters for the kids and the expense of treating yourselves to a restaurant or movie.
Well, for the sake of your marriage, it may be time to throw practicality out the door. Even taking some time out to take a walk in the park or sit on the hood of your car watching the stars can be a great way for the two of you to rekindle that old flame. And no matter how much money you may spend…it’s still a lot cheaper than a divorce!

Bring Sexy Back

When marriages start to become ho-hum, one of the first places couples will feel it is in the bedroom. Limited time and having the kids around makes it hard for you to find the time to be intimate, and as you have grown used to each other, the spark just seems to be gone.
Well, there are little things you can do to bring that spark back. Send each other sexy texts during the day. Take time out to look attractive. Take little moments to whisper in each other’s ears. Touch each other often. Go shopping together for sexy toys and lingerie. Try something new in the bedroom.
These are all things you can do to bring sex back on the mind to ensure that you both make it a priority in your marriage.

Celebrate Milestones

Another anniversary?

After you are married for a while, anniversaries can start to seem ho-hum. Many couples barely acknowledge these milestones while others forget about them entirely.
This year, when your anniversary is a few months away, start thinking of planning something big. A vacation or a night on the town can be great ways to celebrate, but throwing a big party with family and friends will surely bring some of the excitement back.
Anniversary parties can be small cocktail affairs or big ragers so decide which direction you want to take it in. But whatever you do, be sure to hire a band that can provide the right mood. There are many cover bands who can do anything from sultry jazz standards to rock and pop hits assuring they will be right for any type of event.
A band is sure to get you and your husband, along with your guests, on the dance floor for slow, romantic numbers as well as upbeat, energetic tunes.

Don’t Forget the Small Stuff

Lastly, don’t forget to be kind to each other. Little gestures of kindness, like turning down the bed, helping each other around the house, or just saying thank you can go a long way in letting your spouse know they are still loved and appreciated.
The flame of many marriages can fizzle as the years go on, but that doesn’t mean you can’t keep your love going strong. Take time out to be with your spouse, keep things sexy, celebrate your love and show each other you care and you are sure to have a marriage that will stand up to the test of time.

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Quick Decor Ideas for Your Summer Wedding

7/1/2019

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Explore some ideas on how the right decor can make your summer wedding unforgettable.

Beautiful lights can add some sparkle to your wedding when the sun goes down

Summer weddings are so popular that many people find themselves getting ready for wedding season at some point in their lives. With so many summer weddings, making yours memorable might seem like a difficult feat. One thing to focus on might be summer decor, but there are many ideas you can consider to make your summer wedding unforgettable.

Beach Theme

You don't have to be on the beach to have a wedding with a beach theme. Even if your wedding is mostly indoors, you could still create a summer atmosphere. You could do anything from a lounge area with deckchairs to bottles of colored sand decorating your tables or a seashell motif. Think of natural and earthy tones, combining sandy colors with blues and greens.

Set Up Some Evening Lights

The longer days of summer and warmer weather are perfect for partying into the night at your wedding. But when the sun does start to go down, make sure you have plenty of lighting. It's a great opportunity to set up some beautiful lights, from strings of fairy lights to candles and lanterns. Just be careful with any open flames.

Get to Know Summer Flowers

Your choice of flowers can be a big part of your wedding. Choosing seasonal flowers helps you develop a theme, and it's better for the environment too. Get to know your choice of summer flowers by looking at the infographic below, which takes you through some of the most important things that you need to know.