12-Steps for Obese Recovery

Coach Frank is currently researching and developing a 12-Step program
​that will be secular and obese recovery specific.  

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12-Steps Notes

The basic path of the steps is: you start with admitting you have an issue that needs fixing. Next you accept that you cannot fix it by yourself. Next you commit to finding outside help. Next you do the inner work including examining your resentments, fears and guilt. Next you share these with someone you trust who helps you look at what personal qualities enable you to engage in these unhealthy behaviours. Next, the undesirable qualities are listed and you make efforts to be rid of them. Once you make peace with yourself, you make amends to those you have hurt. Finally you engage in regular maintenance behaviours like meditation, self-reflection, and service to others. ​

These steps are not a cure for mental health problems. They are part of a balanced recovery approach for people who want to improve their lives and reduce their desire to engage in self-destructive behaviors. They can be used in addition to competent licensed professional therapy, but not as a replacement for competent licensed professional therapy.

The 12+ Steps of Obese Recovery (working draft)

Step 1: Admit we were caught in a self-destructive repeating behaviour pattern and need to learn coping tool to break the pattern

Step 2: Trusted that a healthy lifesylte is attainable through social support and consistent self-improvement

Step 3: Committed to a lifestyle of recovery, focusing only on what we could control

Step 4: Made a comprehensive list of our resentments, fears and harmful actions

Step 5: Shared our lists with a trustworthy person

Step 6: Made a list of our unhealthy character traits

Step 7: Began cultivating healthy character traits through consistent positive behaviour

Step 8: Determinded the best way to make amends to those we had harmed

Step 9: Make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would cause more harm than good

Step 10: Practiced daily self-reflection and continued making amends whenever necessary

Step 11: Meditation on a regular basis 

Step 12: Sought to retain our newfound recovery lifestyle by teaching it to those willing to learn and by surrounding ourselves with healthy people

Step 13: Prioritize your physical health

Step 14: Prioritize your unique nutritional needs

Step 15: Commit to getting the sleep and rest your need

Step 16: Engage in assertive communication when necessary

Step 17: Identify and commit to bringing fun into your life on a regular basis