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I convinced my soon to be wife that we should take Frank’s pre-marital course, seeing we had issues to cover.
Also,our relationship had been a rocky one from the start.
To my surprise , the experience was different and very straightforward.
Frank’s heart is 100% into seeing you get the right tools and conversations on the table. He shares from his own personal experience, to make sure it’s clear and relatable. I came into this thinking that I knew the ups and downs of a relationship and equipped with enough information to avoid the pitfalls of a failed marriage. He spelled out what needed to be taken care of for us specifically, and underlining the issues that needed to be resolved for future success.
At the end of the program, Frank warned us not to get married, unless very specific issues were dealt with FIRST. He warned us that our marriage would not survive if we did not work on and change very specific things.
Plain and simple, we had a gap on a few things, the major one was communication (how we react and how we communicate).
We decided not to listen and because we loved each other, we got married anyways. In less than 5 years together, and two kids, we have fought so much and came very close to filing for divorce.
Wished I would have taken Frank's warnings serious and addressed the issues then.
Frank has got your premarital needs covered and he can spot the problem you have before it is too late.
Go see him and listen, you will save unnecessary hardship later.
-Review by David,
Montreal
A review of Frank's couple coaching.
I knew of Frank's teachings for a while before I met my partner. I had been to various ‘pickup boot camps’ and read the teachings of many who had a lot of credibility in the field and I reflect and feel that I really wasted my time and thousands of dollars.
Frank has helped me improve myself and the way that I speak to women better than any other.
He taught me how to classify the differences between the different types of relationships so that I would know when I met someone special. He told me why a woman left me when she thought the relationship was getting too serious and we were meeting too often (this surprised me) and helped me improve all of my interactions with women.
I am not perfect, but I am much better than I used to be and I am often asked to give advice in certain situations.
When I met my current partner I knew that she was the one.
I don't know how I knew and I even asked friends how they knew that they were ready to get married and everyone simply said 'you just know'. That is true, but that doesn't mean that your relationship is going to work in the long run.
I introduced my partner to Frank and he spent a long time focusing on our life goals to make sure that we were going to be compatible in the long term. We spent approximately 40 hours with Frank and those long talks were really needed; we were asked to consider some serious questions.
At the time, this caused some conflict between my partner and I, but we resolved those issues and this helped lay the foundation for a strong relationship. We would still happily talk to Frank to resolve any issues and trust his advice completely.
Last week, we got married on a beach in Thailand for our 3 year anniversary and we even invited Frank.
My wife and I are proud to say that we are married and we thank Frank for the time that he has given us.
This is not to pretend that life is roses, we have many problems but our relationship is the least of any worries.
My wife is my best friend and we face the challenges of life together. Many thanks to Frank.
-Review by James and Jill
United Kingdom and Taiwan
I cannot remember, with all the people I have spoken with, all the money and time wasted, Frank was the only one to teach me a new word which now affects my decision making; Barriers. Of course we all know what the word means but it has new meaning to me.
More I think about it the more it makes sense how it affects the good and bad aspects of my life. Frank, you are worth more than your weight in gold. And thank you for talking to me like a real friend and putting me in my place.
-Review by Jon "Pickles"
Montreal Quebec Canada
I'd like to recommend the counseling services of Frank Kermit rather highly. He stepped in during a crisis situation -- I was afraid I was going to lose my marriage!
Frank was able to make my husband's position as a man very clear, and was able to help me phrase my needs and wants in a way that my very male husband was able to take to heart. Our marriage is much stronger now. I know that without Frank's help during this crucial period I'd have been lost. He saved our marriage, and I'm very grateful.
~Review by S.F.,
Los Angeles, California, USA
To Whom it May Concern,
My wife and I have been going to Frank Kermit for counseling for 4 months now. After 43 years of marriage, we had communication problems, and Frank was a great help in teaching us about emotional needs, and he never took sides with our problems.
We solved most of our problems with his advice. We couldn't have managed without his help.
-Markus in Montreal
Thank you for the talk you had with me about my situation 2 Saturdays ago. You gave me the strength to end things with my boyfriend. He again said he was busy with school and work and couldn't see me for a week or so and that maybe in the future he may want kids (I do not want children) and didn't want either of us to be hurt as we were getting attached quickly. I then told him if he wanted I would continue seeing him but date others as well. He did not like that idea (he wants me all to himself) so I ended it with him. You gave me strength to see the red flags and realize I deserve more. I am single again but actively looking. I am sure the right guy is out there for me. I will not give up or wait for him to knock on my door.
-Mary, Montreal
A coaching review from Debby: Hi Frank! You and I had a telephone coaching session back in January. I want to thank you for helping me to make sense of my relationship with my boyfriend.
You advised me to think about whether exclusivity was a good idea given the fact that our relationship was and had always been long distance. You also said that it was important to define our relationship and be on the same page about our wants and needs for the future. You also pointed out that at age 40 I needed to decide whether I wanted to have any children. Of course this subject had been floating around in my mind for a while, but you really put it out there and told me that these decisions needed to made very, very soon!
Our relationship was going on for a year and a half and there were no solid plans for the future. At that time, I was very concerned that my boyfriend did not show any urgency towards closing the gap between us and building a life together.
The following month after our coaching session, I told my boyfriend that I had to do some serious thinking about my life and make some important decisions about my future. I asked him for a couple of weeks without contact to figure this out. I explained that some of what I needed to think about was regarding him and that some of it had to do with other aspects of my life. I asked nothing of him other than the temporary space I needed to discern everything.
Within two weeks he contacted me to say that he realized how much he did not want to lose me and that he no longer wanted the distance between us. He asked me to move to California to live with him. I agreed. I am moving on June 1st.
Then last week, he asked me to marry him!
Thank you so much for giving me the wake-up call that I needed! What you said about the situation was the truth. I just wanted to update you to let you know how it turned out.
Thanks again for the coaching!
-Debby, USA
I'd been thrown a tough relationship issue. Wasn't sure how to deal with it. When that happens, there's really only one man I know I can trust to help me sort through it. I called Frank.
We talked for an hour. He asked me a series of questions. He came to a set of conclusions. He had a plan on how I could deal with it. I'm not going to say I liked his advice. The things he suggested I do were not fun. They would not put a smile on anyone's face.
But they were honest. They were fair. They were right.
Thanks, Frank.
-A.D., Ontario
Topic: Review of Frank’s coaching and it helped us stay together and enjoy our first threesome.
(Transitional Dating)
In the past, I had my first threesome experience with a female friend and her boyfriend, but I didn’t really enjoy it. I remember feeling awkward afterwards and I wondered why she agreed to let her boyfriend have sex with me in front of her?! At the time, I was single and I had never considered having a threesome with any of my other boyfriends during past relationships; I never thought that this was appropriate in a relationship and I didn’t think it was right to share my lover with another woman. This was all before I learned about the concept of open relationships.
Why do I decide to have threesome with my fiancée?
The biggest reason that I was willing to try having a threesome with my fiancée is that in myself I have realized that I have some sexual feeling towards other women, but I need a man at the same time.
My fears of having threesome with other women:
After my fiancé and I decided to try a threesome with another woman, I started to feel nervous, I panicked often, and I felt threatened by it. The decision completely triggered my abandonment phobia so much that occasionally I had to take medication to calm myself down. I was afraid that my fiancé would fall in love with the other woman or that she would try to steal him from me, so I lost a lot of self-confidence.
How did I overcome my fears?
Just as my abandonment phobia was getting worse, my fiancée introduced Frank as a relationship coach to help me understand what an open relationship is and how it works. Frank explained why people choose this relationship style and I was able to ask him lots of questions because I was particularly worried about how we would still stay together after our first threesome. Frank helped me to understand why my man would choose to have an open relationship with me instead of being monogamous. Frank has explained to me that when a man chooses to be non-monogamous it is in part because the man doesn’t want to cheat behind his partner’s back. Sex can easily become boring in a monogamous relationship for some men, and some men will want to look for some fun with other women and can end up cheating on their wives. Frank explained important concepts to me and also helped me overcome my fears of losing my fiancée. “Men may be willing to have sex with other women, but it doesn’t mean that he will fall in love with her because she doesn’t address his emotional needs and he chose to have fun together with me and another woman [instead of just with another woman].”
How do I feel afterwards our first threesome?
I didn’t know how I was going to feel after the first time that I saw my fiancée have sex with another woman in front of me. I was quite nervous about the whole situation at the time. I felt awkward at first when we simply tried to get another girl turned on by us, but then I started to feel more relaxed once I realized that she was enjoying herself and that was also when I became excited by her reactions. In the end, we enjoyed the experience with the other girl, I didn’t feel any negative feelings at all and I completely enjoyed the threesome. Afterwards, my fiancée and I sent the girl home, he held my hands and we talked the whole night. He made me felt calm, satisfied, and I didn’t feel abandonment at all. The experience has helped me to trust my fiancée even more than ever and it pulled me out of my extremely bad abandonment phobia.
I am extremely grateful to Frank for all of the help that he gave us. I would not have had the confidence to explore this part of my sexuality without his teachings. Frank has made our relationship stronger and has always has our back! If you have any relationship difficulties or your marriage is in danger, please contact amazing Frank!
-Review by Melissa
United Kingdom
Dear Frank,
I have read your reviews. I have even read some of your philosophies. I would like to know where all these men are that have read your books? I am currently living in Virginia and all I have ever met is losers. I even married a few of those losers. Can I meet one of your male readers please?
-Review by Angel M.
Virginia, USA
I was married for 5 years and I've been divorced for the last 10. After I split up with my ex, I immediately got into another unhealthy relationship that lasted 3 years. When I finally got out if it, I couldn't stand the sight of women. Swore I'd never get close to another one again, let alone get married. I was lost, alone, and the most confused I'd ever been.
Then I met Frank.
The timing was perfect because I was ready to throw out anything I thought I knew and truly learn. No ego was left to have to fight against. No pride or macho attitude. I was a willing vessel - and boy did I get my fill. I learned what women want, and what I should want out of a woman. It's not simple, but I did the work and my life was transformed.
The last 8 years have been amazing. I've had fantastic short and long term relationships. They've always enriched me and I know I've enriched the lives of the women who've been with me. In some ways, I wish I'd known all this stuff from when I was a kid. But the truth is, I needed every experience I've had to make me into the man I am today - and I'm very proud of who I am.
When I told Frank the news that was was getting married a few weeks ago, he was thrilled. He asked me how I knew she was the one. My answer is below: "Simplest version - she meets my needs, and I want to meet her needs. It's the Frank formula for a great relationship. If I go down the list of Emotional Needs Analysis every "addressed" box has a check mark.
Our values are incredibly similar. Her strengths are complimentary to mine. Our vision for how we want our lives to go are totally aligned. We've had some incredibly stressful stuff to deal with together. Aside from serious illness, any one of the issues we've gone through over the last couple of months would be considered a major life stress. We had to deal with 5 major life stresses simultaneously. I'm actually really glad things turned out that way because now I've seen her tested. She didn't break. She didn't turn childish. She didn't hide from any of it. She wanted to give her input and follow my lead, supporting all the way. That's what I've always wanted and now I know I have it."
I can tell you that if the wedding hadn't been in private-family only event, I would have had my closest friends here with us. Frank would surely have been among them. When my new wife and I make it home, it'll be a pleasure and an honor to introduce her to my coach Frank.
-Review by A. D.,
Ontario, Canada
My husband had heard Frank on the radio on a show about relationships. We had separated. He encouraged me to contact Frank. I went to his website and saw his videos on YouTube. I then contacted him. His unique approach (using the Emotional Needs Analysis system) to couples coaching has changed my life...our lives.....
My husband and I both agree that if we knew this stuff when we were 20, our lives would have been very different....in a good way. This guy is the best coach we have ever found.
- Review from Anonymous Wife
I needed some advice on how to handle a unique relationship issue and had decided to enlist Franks' help. Frank was very professional in his approach and gave me not only sound advice and support but was willing to explore possibilities and scenarios that are for my best interests. I now feel more confident and better equipped the handle the on-going situation that I need to handle.
Thank you Frank
-Review by Klas,
Ontario. Canada
Reviews of Frank-On-Demand
Talking to Frank right at the moment I need to process overwhelming emotions and determine how I can best behave in calibrated ways had been very effective for my situation. I am (hopefully) in the process of restoring my marriage from rock-bottom - it has been a long, steep and stormy climb. My wife is understandably hurt through how much I (unknowingly) violated her emotional needs and she has been punishing me in what I interpret is (hopefully) a part of a healing process.
At some point along the way, from being happily in love, due to the extreme stresses of life, we started turning away from each other and I started thinking how do I get MY needs met - over a prolonged time, this severely violated her needs. We started acting out of angry and resentful impulses rather than controlling those and behaving consistent with values of love, receptiveness and forgiveness.
With Frank as my guide, I have been developing skills in how to meet her emotional needs of knowing I will be there for her long term and passing the tests that she has been dishing out daily and hourly.
My challenges have been many and have come up on a daily and hourly basis - and I have Frank to thank to for helping me through them. Bit by bit, he has helped me up the mountain and without him, with the severity of the storms, I am certain I would have given up or perished in the snow and the gales.
On-the-spot coaching has been what I needed to get me through the severe spots and paramount tests and it is Frank's ongoing support and relationship genius that has helped me stay true to my values which are that my marriage and family are my first priorities in life.
I realize that our situation is an extreme case and while Frank cautioned me regularly about what I was subjecting myself to, I felt deep in my heart this is the right thing to do and Frank has helped me determine the calibrated wording or actions suited to my situation. Now, I have learned how to deal with the day to day extreme tests myself, they have gotten milder and milder and I am hoping that one day soon, we will restore our marriage and save our family.
Whatever the future brings, I am doing it because it is the right thing to do - being the best person, husband and father I can be: loving, patient, calibrated, fun, and healthy - and thereby attractive. Thanks Frank for being there for me every step of the way and helping me learn the resources to accept reality while being empowered - these skills will stay with me my whole life.
In case you are wondering, since recently, I am starting to implement ongoing, consistent, positive relationship habits, demonstrating love (without talking about our relationship), helping my wife feel understood, improving the chances her heart will feel an attraction for me once again and hopefully creating a softer relationship environment where we will be able to work things out.
I first learned about Frank Kermit and his Emotional Needs theories on a cross-country trip that took me to Montreal for 3 days to learn about relationship skills in hopes of saving my marriage - a person started talking about Frank's emotional needs theories and light-bulbs just started going off - I immediately knew learning more will be a game-changer for me and my marriage.
Without Frank, we would have been divorced long ago and my wife would not be considering giving me another chance as I feel she is currently in the process of doing. I wholeheartedly recommend Frank's coaching on retainer and I trust you will get excellent value if your situation needs daily attention like mine earnestly did.
-Review by D.R.
Western Canada
Testimonial: To summarize my experience in doing Frank’s 2 hrs per week/ten week coaching program I would say the following: Most coaches give you a game-plan for the night, Frank gives you a game plan for life. A big thanks for the work that we did - I found the course to be an absolutely fantastic investment of time, money and effort. It'll be with me for life. Also looking back it also made me think of all of the work you must have put in over many years to acquire this much understanding and course material. It's incredible. I'll certainly be e-mailing you in the future to let you know how things are going whether or not we need to do any more coaching.
I’ve studied pick up and relationship material for a few years and applied it, but very quickly I reached a plateau. Sure I learned how to pick up girls better than before but that brings in as many problems as it solves. How do you manage dating multiple women at the same time? How do you break up with women? How do you keep them as friends with benefits? How do you turn them into your girlfriend? Frank has better answers than any coach I’ve seen. I was particularly interested to hear his perspectives on non-monogamous relationships and their management as I’ve always believed there was another way for me than the traditional roles of being either ‘single’ and commitment free, or in a totally monogamous relationship. Even coaches with very solid material don’t seem to go into non-monogamous relationship advice – typically they advocate being single and having experiences forever – but this gets lonely.
Frank’s material is on a much higher level altogether than anything else I’ve seen out there – and honestly I’ve read an enormous amount and I have always put it into practice. That's not to say that there isn't other good stuff out there but Frank has a profound, detailed knowledge of relationships, going into areas often neglected by others such as the best locations for dates and the best locations to actually meet single women who are looking to meet guys. These sound like obvious points but they once you have the skills, these are the kind of questions that need addressing. More importantly though is Frank’s ‘hierarchy of relationships’ and ‘emotional needs analysis’ theories give you immediately usable tools to manage, screen and maintain your relationships in a way that is healthy for both men and women. The programme was a reasonable investment for me but those modules alone were worth the fee. I’ve quite literally never encountered anything that gives you the perspective of these two tools. The Hierarchy of relationships in particular gives you the framework to manage all relationships.
I work in the field of education myself, and at numerous points during the programme I really have thought that this material should be available to all students aged 18 – the government should send you a copy as birthday present! Seriously, if I’d had this preparation ten years ago I would have had so many better relationships and most certainly have caused far less emotional upset through mismanaging relationships. When you learn the depth of this stuff you realize that most upset and real traumas in relationships and breakups are cause by ignorance of emotional needs or poor management of relationships. Nobody wants things to get messed up – it’s just that society leaves us largely ignorant in these matters. That’s why some of Frank’s discoveries are so amazing and so valuable.
I worked hard on the programme and really committed to the assignments. I’m glad I did as it really allowed me to make the most of the sessions and I got a huge amount out of them. Frank doesn’t mince his words in the sessions – he gives you direct and often challenging perspectives. I can’t count the number of times I’ve come away from the sessions feeling like I just understood something about relationships, women or myself in a new, deeper light. Frank’s not a flash teacher, he conducts the classes from his home and doesn’t seem to have any outward features that would make this stuff come easily to him. In fact if anything, outwardly you’d probably never guess at the depth of wisdom and experience he has in dating and all types of relationships, including non-monogamous ones. The programme exercises were unorthodox to say the least but they make sense if you do them properly. Frank’s depth of knowledge about all areas of dating and relationship management is staggering even to someone who has encountered a lot of it. Frank’s original theories are innovative and incredibly helpful – seriously I would even go as far to say they are a true masterpiece of insight for relationships. I really hope this knowledge spreads to as much of the world as possible as people can only benefit from it.
After a 10 week course (2hr per week) I now have a ton of material to go over and to continue to update over the years. Before this programme this area was hazy and I was going round in circles despite putting effort in. I now have the course is set, I have my compass and map at hand and all I have to do is to keep going on my journey.
I honestly would have no hesitation in recommending Frank to anyone who was looking to get greater fulfillment in relationships. In fact, I would say that if you are not working with Frank or reading his material, honestly you're missing out. Even guys who already know how to get women could really learn a ton from him - in fact I think that for more advanced guys - Frank is the only coach out there who can actually help you to progress further in whatever direction you want to go in.
-Review by Joseph
United Kingdom
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