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What Made You Fall In Love With Your Partner?

2/14/2018

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What made you fall in love?
SHARE YOUR STORY!

Did you know each other for years and slowly fall in love?

Were you recovering from an illness, and that person was there for you?

Did you bond over food, music, or hobbies?

Perhaps you worked together?
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Happy Valentine's Day! 



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To Belly Dance Or Not To Belly Dance

6/9/2017

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To Belly Dance or Not To Belly Dance

To Belly Dance Or Not To Belly Dance
Written by: Pillow Talk Gal
Updated February 28, 2018

 

When I was asked if I wanted to take part in a belly dancing class and write an article about it, I was really excited. Then, the more I thought about it the more I began to worry a little. I have never really attended any kind of dance class (if you don’t count when I was little) so belly dancing seemed like a bit of a leap. I have to admit though; I was curious and nervous at the same time.  



The day of my first class had finally arrived and my excitement/curiosity had made me almost an hour early. At least parking was a breeze (I found a spot literally in front of the building). I had some extra time to kill, so I decided to sit in the park right across from the dance studio. Despite the honking of cars and bustle of the city, it was very relaxing and helped to calm my nerves a little bit.


Then, before I knew it, it was time to meet the group and start my belling dancing experience.

I was met by Brooke Megan (teacher and belly dance guru) with the warmest of smiles and the most welcoming of greetings.

The studio had a very warm and inviting vibe and I was instantly put at ease. 


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Brooke Megan Belly Dancer


​An introduction to the rest of my fellow dancers was given and everyone was gracious and friendly towards me (the new comer). Students had the option to bring their own hip scarves or to choose one from Brooke’s wide, not to mention beautiful, collection.  Not having any of my own, I chose one of Brookes’ (I would later find out that she’s owned this particular hip scarf for 8 years- no pressure).  




Once everyone was ready to begin, we all took our seats on our mats and Brooke began her introduction to what holistic belly dancing is all about. 



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Brooke Megan Belly Dancer



​Brooke’s view is that

‘’Dance is more than just a series of movements, and by underscoring its strong links to mental and spiritual health, it can be used to guide women toward a greater understanding of self’’. 




The class was a safe space where women could share their thoughts and emotions without judgement.  After Brookes’ explanations, we all sat in our circle and experienced the openness of touch with one another.  



We all paired up and gave our partners hand massages using essentials oils (this exercise is practiced openly to learn to relax and give of ourselves but also to receive from others. 




​Also it helps one to be open to new experiences and emotions by letting go of any negative energy we may have stored up). 


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Brooke Megan - Belly Dance Classes

We were given a small demonstration as to how to massage the hand then we were off  (of course it is clearly mentioned by Brooke that any and all activities done in the classroom are not forced upon students and anytime anyone is not comfortable with something, they are free to sit out with no judgement or issues).  This said, I sat back and allowed my partner to give me my hand massage. 
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At first, I was clearly not relaxed as my partner was so keenly able to detect (by simply feeling how tense my forearm was). Then as she calmly told me to relax and enjoy, I found myself surrendering to the calming music playing in the background and found that my massage was actually very pleasant.


I found myself letting go of my tension and just giving into the moment.


Once we had given and received our hand massages, we gathered in our circle once more and captured what we had taken away from the experience, in our journals.  

​The group then proceeded to share their thoughts on the massage exercise and what they had taken away from the experience. I myself shared how impressed I was with my partner’s ability to almost immediately detect where I was holding all my tension in my forearm (carpal tunnel syndrome- a common job hazard among writers) and therefore she was able to relieve some of the pain.



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Brooke Megan - Belly Dance Classes
Now that our spirits were open and our emotional palettes were cleansed, it was time to warm up our bodies and belly dance. We started by stretching out and getting our muscles ready. Then came the moment I had been so anxious about: experiencing what belly dancing was all about. 


Poses and stances were front and center and I awoke muscles my body seemed to have forgotten I had.

​We observed ourselves in the studio mirrors so as to mimic what Brooke was showing us (to the best of our abilities).

Brooke gave us a phenomenal example of what we could eventually accomplish with these wonderful moves and she performed for the entire class.

It inspired us all and definitely made me want to give it a whirl.

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Brooke Megan - Belly Dancing Classes

The amazing part is by this time I wasn’t feeling self conscience at all. I was totally comfortable in the environment that Brooke had created for the class.

We all moved to the music, holding our belly dance poses and receiving encouragement from each other and Brooke.

The aspect that surprised me the most is that as a woman, I have spent the better part of my life trying to make my body giggle as little as possible.

Now, I was being encouraged to shake all my little bits as much as I could and it was fabulous! No shame, just pure liberation and enjoyment of the female form in all its glory.


As we danced and learned how to move our bodies, time seemed to just fly by. Before I knew it, the class had come to an end and it was time to cool down. Brooke gave each and every one individual high-fives and congratulations on a job well done. It was such a rewarding experience.



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Brooke Megan - Belly Dance Classes

So that marked the end of my first belly dancing experience (the first of many to come). As I said my goodbyes to my fellow belly dancers, I mentioned how I was looking forward to the next class.

​I made my way home and discovered that I had a level of renewed energy and optimism that I have not felt in a very long time. I felt a boost both mentally and physically (even though my muscles were telling me otherwise).  





I am so looking forward to next week’s class.

Namaste!

​-Pillow Talk Gal



About Pillow Talk Gal

Born and raised in British Columbia, she is a professional woman managing a career, marriage, and a teenager. Life can be challenging at times but she's a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason, and more often than not, she tries to understand those reasons. 

"Join me in my journey throughout life’s issues and I guarantee you’ll be left pondering an issue or two."  - Pillow Talk Gal



*Disclaimer: All photos of Brooke Megan are copyright Brooke Megan and all persons in the photos retain all their rights, interest and titles in the photos. All photos appear here with written permission on file with Brooke Megan.

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About Brooke Megan and House of Lavender
- Holistic Belly Dance Group


Located at: 5582A Sherbrooke Street O, Montreal, QC H4A 1W3
Telephone number: 514-814-7557
Face book page: House of Lavender: Beauty and Wellness
 
Brooke Megan has been teaching belly dancing for 8 years and has extensive experience in dance through her teaching at Carlton University in Ottawa.

She herself was introduced to belly dancing through group lessons and was compelled to share this wonderful art form with others. She has performed at the Shenkman Art Centre in Ottawa, various art galleries and cafes. Her goal in offering belly dance lessons is to educate people with regards to the beauty and strength of exotic  dance. She wants to have people experience this art form at a grass roots level.




Her six week program is open to all who wish to explore their creative side all the while relieving stress and getting fit.

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For more information call 514-814-7557 or check out her Face book page: House of Lavender: Beauty and Wellness




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Birthday Ideas For Your Partner

6/7/2017

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Some personalized birthday ideas are explored in this contributed post.
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​I always try to make sure I plan to perfect birthday for my husband. I know that many of my readers also have partners, and so I wanted to release an article that gives you some great ideas. If you struggle to organise the celebrations for your loved one, you can use this post as inspiration. At the end of the day, you just need to show them that you care. You also need to make them feel special for that one day out of the year. Don’t worry if you haven’t got a lot of money to spend at the moment. A happy birthday isn’t about how much cash you throw at it, and there are always ways in which you can make savings.
 
Search for quirky gifts
 
Regardless of how much you can afford to spend, you’ll want to get your partner something different for their birthday. When all’s said and done, they have cash of their own. So, if they wanted anything from a high street shop, they’d probably go out and buy it. The experts behind Cuckooland's gifts for men say there are more quirky and unique product sites than ever before. So, you need to turn to the internet to find something interesting. You always find better prices online, and there is no reason to spend a fortune. Just select something that he probably hasn’t seen before.
 
Cook his favourite meal
 
Everyone likes to eat a decent meal on their birthday. So, you should remember your partner’s favourite dish and prepare it for his big day. You can also make some cookies or some other dessert he’ll love. Make a list of ingredients a couple of days in advance, so you have enough time to get them from your local store. You can then sit down and eat together during the early evening. You could also give him his gifts at the same time if you have children. They way, they can enjoy him opening the presents too. If you give them to your loved one in the morning, the kids might miss out because they have to go to school.
 
Spend time together
 
Lastly, I advise that whatever happens, you spend some time together. That could mean going out for a few drinks or staying home and cuddling on the sofa. In truth, it doesn’t matter how you spend your time so long as you’re by your partner’s side. When all’s said and done, there are only a few days each year in which you have to make each other feel special. So, plan something that will allow you to achieve that goal. Again, if you have children, you should think about involving them in any activities you organise.
 
As you can see from that advice, you don’t have to work hard to plan the perfect birthday. You just have to make sure you have some time together. Your partner isn’t going to care about gold Rolex watches or anything expensive. If they love you, they’ll feel happy just being in your company. One last thing; make sure both of you book the day off work. You deserve to take a break on such an important date.

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Le Retour Des Seducteurs

5/10/2017

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The Return of the Seducers in Montreal Quebec

Le retour des séducteurs
​par François Guérard
 

Dans l’art de la séduction, l’homme québécois ne serait pas de taille à rivaliser avec le Français, l’Italien, l’Espagnol, ou le Belge. Qu’à cela ne tienne, des gourous de la drague viennent à son secours. Notre journaliste a fait enquête.

​Ce soir, le petit bar du Plateau-Mont-Royal est interdit aux femmes. L’écriteau sur la porte indique «Fermé». Sous une lumière orange, une société secrète de séducteurs tient réunion. Une trentaine de gars, ayant entre 20 et 45 ans, discutent en anglais, assis en rond. Ils sont francophones et anglophones, de toutes origines ethniques. À tour de rôle, ils exposent un problème ou décrivent une rencontre dans un café, un flirt sur la piste de danse. Les autres analysent et dissèquent. Le grand timide assis à ma droite note frénétiquement tous les trucs de drague dans son calepin. Les gars cachent leur identité derrière des pseudonymes: Buddha, Jetset, Vic 20, Cowboy. Moi aussi, je dissimule la mienne. Personne ne sait que je suis journaliste. Et c’est mon tour de parler.
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The Story of Loser To Seducer

Je me présente, faussement, comme un nouveau célibataire qui vient de rompre après des années de vie conjugale. Mon problème: je ne sais plus comment accoster les femmes. Certains hochent la tête. Ils sont passés par là. On me propose une méthode: je dois aborder cinq belles inconnues par jour. Un gars, fin vingtaine, m’explique: «Engage la conversation avec les serveuses et les vendeuses. Dans la rue, demande ton chemin. Profites-en pour échanger quelques phrases.» À ce rythme, dans trois mois, j’aurai brisé la glace avec 450 demoiselles. Plusieurs gars du groupe l’ont fait. Et ils abordent maintenant les jolies femmes dans les cinq à sept avec un naturel désarmant.

Ces gars cherchent tous la même chose. Darwin dirait: «Assurer la survie de l’espèce.» Eux disent plutôt: «Amener une femme dans mon lit.» Pour cela, ils sont prêts à explorer un territoire sauvage cartographié depuis longtemps par le sexe opposé: celui des relations humaines. Pour de nombreux hommes, la séduction reste un mystère. Entre eux, ils parlent peu de leurs faiblesses et de leurs inquiétudes à l’égard des femmes. Ils glorifient leurs conquêtes, mais l’hésitation à téléphoner à une telle pour l’inviter au cinéma ou le manque de courage pour embrasser une autre restent enfouis dans leur jardin secret. 
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Ethical Seduction
Les membres du Montreal Seduction Lair (le repaire des séducteurs de Montréal) ont brisé le tabou. Ils interprètent les détails d’un flirt avec une minutie toute féminine. Comme le feraient de bonnes amies autour d’un thé vert. «Combien de temps devrais-je attendre avant de répondre à son courriel?» «Que devrais-je lui écrire?» «J’ai ramené une fille chez moi la nuit dernière, mais nous n’avons pas fait l’amour. Qu’ai-je fait de mal?» C’est le genre de questions qu’ils posent.

​On se croirait dans une réunion des «invincibles» Carlos, Rémi, Steve et Pierre-Antoine. Comme dans la populaire série télé, les membres du Montreal Lair signent un pacte qui prévoit toutes sortes de situations. Par exemple, un membre a le droit de choisir deux femmes de son entourage — une sœur ou une collègue, par exemple — qui ne pourront être draguées par les autres membres. «Ne parlez pas en détail de ce que nous sommes à vos amis, à votre famille ou à vos associés», indique le document de 14 pages qui m’a été envoyé par courriel après la réunion. Les femmes n’aimeraient pas apprendre que leur nouvelle flamme élabore des stratégies de séduction en groupe…

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No More Just Friends
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Lose Your Virginity

​Dans les cinq dernières années, la demande de conseils en séduction par des hommes a explosé. Marc Boilard, agent artistique devenu animateur de radio, chroniqueur à la télé et gourou de la séduction, remplit des salles de spectacle partout au Québec grâce à sa «clinique» de drague. Le concept: il fait monter des gars sur scène et, sur le ton de l’humour, relève leurs maladresses avec les filles. Sa chronique de séduction à la station de radio Énergie de Québec est le quart d’heure le plus écouté dans la capitale, avec une moyenne de 32 500 auditeurs. 


​La consultante en séduction Marie-France Archibald fait de bonnes affaires en offrant des cours privés de drague aux hommes de la région de Montréal. Pour un tarif moyen de 95 dollars l’heure, la jeune femme prépare ses clients à affronter différentes situations: aborder une femme dans un bar, un flirt au bureau, une sortie au théâtre. Les clients peuvent aussi profiter des services d’une styliste pour refaire leur garde-robe et d’un photographe professionnel, histoire de mieux paraître dans les sites Web de rencontre.

​Dans Internet, des dizaines de forums de discussion réservés aux hommes et consacrés à l’art de la drague sont apparus. Des gars de partout dans le monde y racontent en détail leurs tentatives de séduction. D’autres y vont de trucs et de conseils. Le Montreal Lair, qui compte 130 membres, est la vitrine locale d’une communauté mondiale de séducteurs. Il y a des «repaires» à Toronto, Los Angeles, San Francisco, New York, Paris, Londres, Milan, Budapest, Tokyo. La communauté a ses gourous. Une cinquantaine de maîtres autoproclamés de la séduction vendent, dans leur site Web, leur méthode en format livre ou DVD. Le plus grand d’entre eux est Neil Strauss, alias Style. Son livre autobiographique, The Game (HarperCollins), est devenu la bible des apprentis séducteurs.

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Start a Lair
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Learn Charisma
​Depuis deux ans, Montréal devient pendant trois jours, en juillet, le cœur de cette communauté. Une trentaine de gourous transforment l’hôtel Château Champlain, au centre-ville, en université de la drague. Les hommes paient 800 dollars pour assister à leurs ateliers. Quelques-uns de ces experts organisent aussi des séminaires «sur le terrain» dans les grandes villes de la planète. Le programme s’adresse à des groupes de 5 à 10 hommes. L’après-midi, il y a classe. Le soir, les élèves font la tournée des discothèques et testent leurs nouvelles connaissances, sous l’œil attentif du maître. En janvier dernier, un tenancier de bar torontois est venu donner un séminaire du genre à Montréal. Prix demandé pour une fin de semaine: 2 150 dollars!
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​On a créé un espace d’apprentissage pour les hommes. C’est une chose nouvelle pour un jeune trentenaire comme moi. À l’école secondaire, on m’a appris le nom d’une dizaine de maladies transmissibles sexuellement et montré comment enfiler un condom. Mais on ne m’a pas enseigné quoi faire pour me rendre à l’étape de l’utilisation. Mon père ne m’a jamais emmené à la pêche pour m’initier aux secrets de la gent féminine. Et mes «vieux chums» préfèrent discuter de hockey et de jeux d’ordinateur plutôt que des femmes.

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Good Sex Starts Here

L’homme qui s’assoit seul au bar et attend qu’on le courtise pourrait être déçu. Car à peine 7% des Québécoises croient que c’est à elles de faire les premiers pas, révèle un sondage CROP commandé par L’actualité. Elles sont 34% à penser que l’homme doit faire les avances, et 54% estiment que cela n’a aucune importance. Fait étonnant, les jeunes de 18 à 34 ans (hommes et femmes) sont les plus conservateurs. Près de la moitié — 43% — confient la tâche de draguer à l’homme.
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Be Honest

«Séduire, c’est d’abord exprimer son désir pour quelqu’un, par un regard, un sourire, une remarque bien placée», dit le sociologue de la sexualité Michel Dorais, qui enseigne à l’Université Laval. Le Québécois est-il un bon séducteur? Les avis sont partagés. Un peu plus de la moitié des femmes (56%) affirment qu’il sait très bien ou plutôt bien séduire, indique le sondage CROP. Mais 31% d’entre elles disent qu’il est plutôt mauvais ou très mauvais (les autres ont refusé de répondre).

Michel Dorais, lui, va dans le sens du «plutôt mauvais». Le Québécois n’est pas de taille devant le Français, l’Italien, l’Espagnol et le Belge, dit-il. Car le flirt est un jeu qui se pratique beaucoup en Europe et très peu de ce côté-ci de l’Atlantique. Le sociologue se promenait récemment dans les rues de Namur, en Belgique, aux côtés d’une séduisante collègue. «Cinq ou six passants se sont arrêtés pour la complimenter sur sa beauté. Chaque fois, elle répondait: “Merci.” On ne voit jamais ça au Québec!»

​On ne connaît pas grand-chose de cette timidité du Québécois envers les femmes. On ne l’a pas mesurée, comparée ou analysée. En fait, l’homme est un sujet de recherche nouveau au Québec. «On a étudié ses réalisations en long et en large, mais pas son identité, sa façon de se percevoir et de percevoir l’autre sexe», dit Martine Saulnier, étudiante en doctorat de sciences humaines appliquées à l’Université de Montréal. Son enquête lui permettra de débroussailler le terrain. Elle fait de longues entrevues avec des hommes de 30 à 40 ans. Mais ses résultats ne seront pas connus avant 2008.


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Pimping Your Pad

On peut trouver des éléments de réponse dans la culture, dit Michel Dorais. «Au Québec, la notion de charme appartient à l’espace féminin, alors qu’en Europe l’image du séducteur masculin est très présente.» Giacomo Casanova, l’aventurier qui sévissait dans les cours européennes au 18e siècle, et les personnages fictifs de Don Juan et de Cyrano de Bergerac envoûtent les femmes par la parole. L’aspect physique importe peu. Ce sont le raffinement et la poésie des mots qui font fondre les cœurs. Ce modèle n’existe pas dans la psyché collective des Québécois, dit le sociologue. Le grand séducteur s’incarne dans deux personnages de la littérature du terroir: le Survenant, héros du roman éponyme, et Ovila Pronovost, le mari d’Émilie dans Les filles de Caleb. Ce sont des hommes mystérieux, grands, musclés, la plupart du temps absents. «La seule présence de leur corps suffit à séduire», dit Michel Dorais.
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Les choses étaient plus faciles pour l’homme il y a 50 ans, lorsque les rôles sexuels étaient clairement définis. Le samedi soir, l’homme ne sortait jamais sans son veston, sa cravate et son chapeau. C’était lui le chef. Il invitait la femme à la salle de danse, il payait pour elle. Henri, un petit barbu énergique de 80 ans, se souvient des jeux de séduction dans le Montréal de l’après-guerre. Il travaillait alors comme machiniste dans la métropole. «Nous faisions la cour aux femmes. Il fallait leur ouvrir la portière de la voiture. Les complimenter sur leur habillement et leur coiffure. Leur faire sentir que c’étaient elles les reines de la soirée.» L’effort en valait la peine, puisque Henri, qui ne s’est jamais marié, a eu une soixantaine de maîtresses! «Pourtant, je n’étais pas le genre d’homme à faire tourner les têtes dans la rue», dit-il.


​On pourrait croire qu’en 2007 la danse reste une activité propice au flirt. Danser la salsa, par exemple, c’est jouer à la séduction. Les corps se touchent, les regards plongent l’un dans l’autre. C’est l’homme qui guide. Au Salon Daomé, au pied du mont Royal, la proportion est de quatre hommes pour six femmes. Une vingtaine de jeunes filles sont assises sur des canapés le long des murs et attendent une invitation à danser. Corinne Morin, elle, ne manque pas de partenaires. Cette grande brune de 26 ans est sexy dans son chandail rouge moulant et elle se déhanche bien. Elle est venue seule. Pourtant, un homme serait mal avisé de lui demander son numéro de téléphone. Pas plus à elle qu’aux autres filles. «Je ne viens pas ici pour me faire draguer. Je viens pour danser», dit-elle, soufflant entre deux pièces musicales. «La plupart des filles, ici, n’aiment pas les hommes qui tentent de les séduire. Elles veulent pratiquer un sport, de façon amicale.»



​Après un demi-siècle de féminisme, la femme est devenue un peu comme l’hiver québécois: lumineuse et froide. Elle brille, est sûre d’elle, intelligente, ouverte et fonceuse. Mais son assurance est une arme à double tranchant. Elle peut interpréter les avances d’un homme comme un manque de respect, une atteinte à son intimité. Elle réagit alors avec la froideur d’un iceberg.


​Sylvain d’Auteuil, 39 ans, en a fait la dure expérience. Pour écrire Brad Pitt ou mourir (Les Intouchables) — roman dans lequel il raconte les difficultés d’un jeune père célibataire à trouver une nouvelle copine —, il s’est lancé, en 2005, dans un véritable rallye de la drague. Il a d’abord recruté trois hommes trentenaires en mettant une petite annonce dans un journal culturel de Saint-Sauveur. Pendant un mois, les quatre mousquetaires ont abordé des filles dans les bars, dans les boutiques, dans la rue, au supermarché. «On utilisait des techniques trouvées dans Internet», dit l’auteur. Dans la grande majorité des cas, ils se sont fait répondre par un soupir ou un regard glacial. Avec les femmes d’origine étrangère, cependant, c’était différent. «Elles répondaient à nos avances par un sourire. On pouvait même quelquefois entamer la conversation et obtenir leur numéro de téléphone.» Cette expérience lui a permis de trouver un excellent endroit pour draguer: la buanderie. Les femmes y sont souvent seules et s’ennuient en attendant la fin des cycles de séchage.



​Marc Boilard, lui, croit avoir trouvé la solution pour désamorcer le mécanisme de défense des femmes. Je rencontre le gourou de 40 ans dans sa tanière, le Shed Café, resto-bar branché du boulevard Saint-Laurent. «Je viens souvent manger ici», dit-il en recevant un bol de soupe thaïe des mains d’une jolie serveuse à la robe moulante. Il a le crâne rasé, porte un large bracelet de cuir clouté et de petites lunettes rondes. Ses biceps roulent sous son chandail ajusté. Marc Boilard affirme qu’il fonde ses enseignements sur son expérience personnelle avec les femmes. Qu’il en a connu beaucoup. Mais il refuse de dire combien. «Pense à un chiffre et c’est plus que ça», lance-t-il.



​Il pratique une technique de drague en trois étapes qui rappelle celle de la guérilla. Il attaque, il bat en retraite, puis il relance l’attaque. Marc Boilard m’explique. L’autre jour, dans ce même établissement, une jolie demoiselle qui mange avec des amies lui tombe dans l’œil. Elle se lève et se rend aux toilettes. Profitant du moment, il l’intercepte. «Je lui ai dit: “Excuse-moi. J’aimerais te faire un compliment. Tu es vraiment mon genre de fille.”» Puis, sans en dire plus, il retourne à sa table. «Après cette manœuvre, la fille est déstabilisée, ajoute Marc Boilard. Elle repasse dans sa tête ce qui vient de se produire. De retour à sa table, elle va raconter l’histoire à ses amies. Tu deviens son centre d’intérêt. Lorsque tu l’accostes de nouveau, elle n’a pas peur. Elle veut entendre ce que tu as à dire.» C’est ce qu’il a fait lorsqu’elle s’est levée pour quitter le café. «Il faut qu’on se revoit, lui a-t-il déclaré. J’aimerais beaucoup t’inviter à un spectacle.» Elle a dit oui et il a obtenu son numéro de téléphone.



Un homme qui maîtrise ce genre d’approche (il faut rester naturel!) marquera des points, assure la consultante en séduction Marie-France Archibald. «L’audace et la confiance en soi sont des qualités qui séduisent les femmes.»

De l’audace, c’est peut-être ce qui manque dans l’attirail du séducteur québécois. Car pour le reste, il se débrouille bien, dit Jean-Marc Larouche, président de l’agence de rencontre Intermezzo, fondée il y a 10 ans. L’homme de 44 ans me reçoit dans ses bureaux d’Outremont, aux murs crème et aux rideaux blancs. La majorité de ses 3 200 clients sont des gens instruits, dans la trentaine et la quarantaine. «Le Québécois n’est pas compétent pour aborder une femme à la table d’à côté. Mais dans une situation où il se retrouve en tête à tête, il est bon. Il est attentif, drôle et intéressant.» Tout ce dont il a besoin, c’est qu’on provoque un peu les choses pour lui.
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​L’agence Intermezzo le fait… pour 1 530 dollars par année. Chaque client a une relationniste attitrée qui joue le rôle de l’amie organisant un rendez-vous galant. Le lendemain, il peut l’appeler pour obtenir un son de cloche sur l’intérêt que l’éventuelle soupirante a manifesté à son endroit. «Habituellement, lorsque la relationniste lui répond “feu vert”, ça lui donne un élan incroyable!» dit Jean-Marc Larouche.


​Au cours des rendez-vous suivants, il se transforme en véritable séducteur avec sa belle.
​Et il dégrafe son soutien-gorge. 


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5 Tips To Get Her Sexting You Nudes

5/7/2017

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5 Tips to Get Her Sexting Nude Pics

5 Tips To Get Her To Send You Nude Pics
by Olivier

 
I never set out to write this article. Originally, this started as a reply to a guy asking for help to get nude pictures from a woman while texting her. He posted for help on an online forum. 


I answered it.

​
My advice was so well received that I figured I was going somewhere with it.  I hope you enjoy!
 
If you want a woman you are texting to text you nude images of her, here are 5 tips that I have used successfully.
​


​1. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS

The pics themselves aren't that important.

Do not get caught up in the exciting of getting them.


Stay calm.

​
It is the “frame” that this is important.

You are looking for her compliance in general, and the pics are just part of the overall process. 

​
​2. TIMING YOUR REQUEST

The BEST TIME to get nude pics from her

is when you text late at night.

If it is late at night, chances are she is already in bed, or close to it.

Start asking her where she is.

When she tells you (likely she will be in her bed). Then, get her to tell you what she is wearing. 


​

3. GET HER COMPLIANT

Use commitment and consistency.

Make her comply to small request first, and then build up.

First get her to send a selfie with her clothes on.

When she complies, then you can challenge with a more daring suggestion such as:

"hmmm. I wonder if you would be able to be a little bit more sexy...wink".


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4. Don't "Ask". Tell Her.

Don't ask for nudes.

Tell her to send them.


If you ask her in a nice friendly way,
you are more likely to turn her off
by making her feel she is doing you a favor,
instead of a flirty exchange
that is turning you both on. 

By being direct in your communication,
it keeps things more enticing.


Instead of ASKING: “Will you please send me a nude?”

TELL HER:
“Show me, I want to see.” 

(This of course is after you have progressed from having her tell you where she is, what she is wearing, and getting her to send you some selfies that progressively get more sexy.  



​5. Reverse-Psychology

Finally, on some women you can use negation. This is where you discourage her from sending you sexy pictures, because some women are more likely to do it, if you tell them not too. It is a form of reverse psychology that

works with women that do not like men telling her what she can or cannot do.


For example,


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​“Don't show me naughty pictures of you. That would make me think of you in inappropriate ways the whole night and that isn't something that you would want since I know that you are such a good girl.”  

If she is interested in you, but does not like being told what to do, she will follow through as you just told her how to “seduce” you, giving her the “control” in the situation.

​

​
You do not have to “convince” any woman to take nude selfies.

Chances are she has done it in the past (for herself or her past lovers), and might send you a couple of shots of a past collection if she doesn’t want to take a current shot tonight.

 
In my experience, once you receive nudes from a woman, if you proceed correctly, this is a very good sign that the next time you meet, you could end up having sex.

If she is willing to send you naked selfies to you,
she is likely more open to being naked with you

 

Hope this helps!
 
-Olivier 


About Olivier

For 4 years Olivier has been on a quest, the quest to find what was stolen from men everywhere. Modern-day men are flabby, weak, have no energy and can’t get their manhood to stand at attention like it used to. None of this is their fault, our modern diet and environment strips them of their manhood. Desperate Men resort to pills to deal with the symptoms but cannot get relief from the problem itself. Olivier has spent the last few years creating and refining the recipes that he developed to help men just like you improve their erections, energy levels, and sex drive at any age.


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Is Your Wing (Man Or Woman) In Your Way?

4/28/2017

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Is Your Wing (Man or Woman) Getting In Your Way?
Having a wingman (or woman) can be helpful while scouting for dates; other times, you’re better off flying solo. We take a closer look at why your best friend can be your worst enemy when you’re single.

By Christine Champ for Match.com Happen Magazine


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When Anna, a single gal from Seattle, WA set out to find a boyfriend, her friend Kim offered to act as her “wing woman” during her search for an entire year.

At first, it sounded like a fabulous idea — but just one month later, Anna “fired” Kim.

You see, whenever the two met a single man somewhere, Kim turned into a flirting machine: tossing her hair,
giving seductive sideways glances…she stole the spotlight every time away from Anna, even going so far as to physically block her friend out of some conversations by standing in front of her!

Whenever Anna asked Kim if she was interested in these men herself, she’d deny it. Instead of a boyfriend, all Anna acquired during her short-term experiment was self-doubt, frustration and confusion.

​As Anna describes it, all her experience managed to do “was clip my own wings.” 




Mark Fitzgerald, 36, from Sacramento, CA recalls the time he asked his longtime friend to size up the cute retail clerk he’d been mustering up the courage to ask out. Instead of returning from the recon mission with his stamp of approval, Mark’s friend came back with the retail clerk’s phone number — and plans to date her himself.

So — (frenemies aside, obviously) — why would a friend, sister, brother or other close comrade get in your way when you’re looking for love?

We’ve come up with a few reasons that take malice out of the equation entirely. ​

​

Five reasons why good friends can sometimes make bad “wingers”...

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1. They feel obligated to make chivalrous chit-chat on your behalf and end up shifting the target’s attention in the wrong direction.

Fitzgerald has been on both sides of the wingman block himself; once, when a friend’s flirting turned into floundering, he felt responsible for keeping the conversation going so the woman his friend was interested in wouldn’t leave. Fitzgerald now realizes that commandeering the conversation might actually intimidate a tongue-tied buddy, so he makes an effort to tread carefully when helping cultivate initial small talk before excusing himself from the conversation entirely. ​




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2. Their own insecurity drives them to try and “win” every perceived competition… even if they lose your friendship in the process.

For some people — single or not — the subconscious urge to compete with their peers trumps everything else. It’s about proving they can win the guy or girl’s attention, even if they’re not looking for a relationship themselves. Dr. Diana Kirschner, Ph.D., author of Love in 90 Days, observes that often, insecurity is what’s really behind these competitors’ outward show of confidence and flirting — along with the drive to demonstrate they’re desirable, regardless of the cost to their friendships. Sometimes, adds Dr. Kirschner, “scarcity consciousness” can also make people worry “there’s not enough to go around” when it comes to finding potential dates. ​




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3. They’re addicted to being in the social spotlight.

Ron Geraci, author of The Bachelor Chronicles, notes that some people simply “cannot stand the fact that someone else is getting attention.” But, adds Geraci, don’t condemn these attention hogs too harshly; basking in the romantic limelight gives a “shot of adrenaline to their ego” that boosts their own low self-confide
nce. 
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4. Some people have trouble choosing their own romantic partners, so they aren’t helpful in scoping prospects for you, either.

A recent University of Indiana study suggests that people note the preferences of others — regardless of whether they’re friends or strangers — to make their own search for a mate more efficient. This stems from the idea that “who others like might be a good choice for ourselves,” according to Skyler Place, a researcher in UI’s Department of Psychological and Brain Studies who coauthored the study, along with Peter M. Todd, a professor in the university’s Cognitive Science Program. Frank Kermit, relationship coach and author of From Loser to Seducer, cites another reason: sometimes people don’t trust their own judgment when it comes to finding someone else attractive. ​


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5. You’re hunting for a date, but your friend’s a natural-born poacher.

University of Texas psychology professor David Buss coined the term “mate poaching” to refer to people’s tendencies to try to steal romantic partners away from others. Geraci believes the principle applies equally to singles on the prowl, saying that “it’s a convenient way to find a mate because someone else is doing a lot of the work.” Singles should use caution when choosing wingmen or wing women; watch out for those friends who exhibit potential poaching tendencies and avoid going out with them when you’re looking for dates. After all, when you’ve engaged a prospect that piques your pals’ interest, “it’s like bringing your kill into a pack of hyenas,” warns Geraci. ​



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Mending a “broken wing” relationship

Before you try to mend your relationship with a failed wingman or wing woman, make sure you’re not misreading any signals — like the silent cues that your tall, dark and handsome (or blonde and beautiful) target sends that indicate your attraction isn’t mutual after all. According to matchmaker and etiquette coach Joy Nordenstrom, the three biggest clues that your flirting is indeed being reciprocated include: direct eye contact, mirroring (i.e., your crush copies your body movements) and leaning in to get physically closer to you.

If it’s still obvious your friend’s crossed a boundary, here’s one solution: exclude him or her from social situations where you might connect with someone romantically. Advises Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again: “that’s how you teach people that they’re socially unacceptable,” though she considers an intervention to be worthwhile if you believe your friend’s bad behavior is unintentional. If you do decide to stage an impromptu bathroom meeting to interrupt the offender’s advances, Kirschner recommends keeping it positive — like asking your cousin to tell the ladies about your smooth salsa moves, then adding that you’ll be ready to take the lead on the dance floor right after the next song begins. ​

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Establishing the rules of engagement

If you really want your wingman or wing woman to “rise to the occasion,” says Nordenstrom, establish some rules of engagement first so that it’s clear “you’re playing on the same team.” Start by clarifying your goals for the outing, and have your friend do the same. Agree to put each other in the best light possible throughout the evening — from subtly pointing out the broccoli in your friend’s teeth to bragging about his or her tennis skills. Think of flattering stories to share about your friend or make a mental note of his or her most attractive features before you go out together. Mutually agree on a code word (like “yesterday”) to indicate you’re interested in someone so both of you don’t end up inadvertently flirting with the same person. If you end up eyeing the same hottie without realizing it, take a beat by yourselves to discuss and compare your desire levels on a scale of 1 to 10. A good wingman or wing woman knows when “to step back,” but as Tessina also cautions, “every person you meet isn’t Mr. [or Ms.] right” — so choose your showdowns wisely! ​

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Flying solo: is it an option?


The insights we’ve shared here should help you choose a wingman or wing woman that brings out the absolute best in you — because, according to Nordenstrom, when your romantic radar reacts, you often “have a very short window to make a strong impression.” Or, try flying solo — Kirschner believes you may unleash your “inner charisma” when you’re forced to conquer your shyness and/or social anxiety. If you attempt a solo recon mission for scouting dating prospects and spend all night cowering next to the bathroom instead, finding a friendly co-pilot you can rely on is definitely the better way to fly!



***Disclaimer: DEAR READERS:  This was an article written by Christine Champ for Match.com that Frank Kermit was quoted in.  All rights, titles and interests in the article remain with the author and Match.com

​Author Bio:

Christine Champ is a freelance writer based in the Northwest. Her writing has appeared on MSN.com, MSNBC.com, Film.com and in The Seattle Times.

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Finding The Right Sex Toy For A Couple

4/26/2017

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Find The Right Sex Toys For A Couple by Dr Stacy Friedman
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​How to Find the Right Toy for a Couple

By Dr. Stacy Friedman

 
 
Whether you’re a beginner or more advanced in using adult toys, knowing what toy to bring into your relationship may be confusing. 

Some people may feel that they are less of a lover or not capable enough to please their partner if they need or want to use toys,



​but that can’t be further from the truth! 


Toys are great if you want to spice things up! 

​They can enhance any relationship and can even help with difficulty in having orgasms. 




​
​When it comes to finding the right toys for a couple,


communication is important so you are both on the same page. 


You need to see what the purpose of the toy is,


whether it’s just to try something new or if you struggle reaching orgasm and you want a toy to help. 

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Starting for the beginners, finding something a little more simple and less intimidating is key.  



Then you can move to a few advanced ideas​

Here are some tips
​so you know what toys may be best for what you need.


1. Start with some lotions, oils or soy massage candles.  A soy candle with the wax poured on the skin after the candle is blown out will not burn the skin but can be erotic, fun and can also be used as a massage oil.  There are enhancing creams containing stimulating gel that increases the blood flow and gives a throbbing feel between your legs.  Try some edible warming massage oil and lick it off the body.  Yum! Don’t forget the lube. Lube makes everything glide better!

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​2. My beginner go-to toy starts with a silver bullet.  It’s called a silver bullet because that’s exactly what it looks like.  It’s a stimulator that is used on the clit as it vibrates.  It can also be used on the male’s perineum (area between the testicles and the anus) while giving oral sex for a heightened experience.  Use it on the clit while having intercourse to enhance the sensation for those who struggle with vaginal orgasms.



​3. The next thing you can use is a C-ring, which is great for men to keep the blood flow in the penis, which can help them last longer. If you get one with the bullet attached to the ring, it can help women have an orgasm through intercourse because it rubs on the clit as the man penetrates.  

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Believe it or not 75% of women can’t have an orgasm through intercourse so this helps take some of the pressure off! 

​Just make sure lube is used when putting the ring on
 or it may not slide on very comfortably…ouch!

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​4. As you get more comfortable, you can bring in some light bondage such as handcuffs, rope ties and blindfolds.  As long as both adults consent and you have trust in each other, then playing with these toys can be very erotic.  When using these toys, you are taking away one or more of the senses so it allows the other senses to be more enhanced…very stimulating!

​


​5. To the more advanced couple, you can try anal plugs or anal beads (they have vibrating ones too!) and try stimulating the forgotten pleasure zone…the anus!  Get yourself some silicone lube, which is best to use on the backside and go slow, listen to your partner and how they are feeling, then continue playing around while the plug or beads are still inside. 
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The plug is a great prostate stimulator so anyone can enjoy anal play. Give some oral or have intercourse and then feel the intensity of your orgasm! 


Don’t knock it until you try it! 
​

​

​The most important thing is deciding together, as a couple, what is best and just be open to trying something new. If it doesn’t work, then try something else but be open to variety, as it is the spice of life!
 
Written by: Dr. Stacy Friedman



About The Author

Dr. Stacy Friedman, DHS, CSC
 
Dr. Stacy is the founder of Creating Intimacy Coach, Inc. She got involved in the field of Clinical Sexology because of her passion for helping people learn to experience the best sexual intimacy with themselves and with their partner(s). She holds a Doctorate degree in Human Sexuality, a Masters in Clinical Sexology and is a Certified Sex Coach. Dr. Stacy is a member of WASC (World Association of Sex Coaches), and of the ACS (American College of Sexologists), which shows she has earned top credentials in her field. She also has a BA in Psychology and a Registered Diagnostic Medical and Vascular Sonographer.
 
Sex Coaching is designed to help women, men, and people of any sexual orientation or gender address their concerns about sexuality, sexual function and sexual expression. Additionally, since 2006, Dr. Stacy has been a consultant selling adult novelties and has coached and educated many people in a fun, positive approach to love, romance and in all aspects of sexuality. Her education and personal, spiritual and sexual journey, including life experience uniquely enables her to help people to face the challenges that may lie ahead and to achieve their goals.
 
If you would like to discuss a concern in greater detail, you may contact Dr. Stacy at 561-899-7669 or by email at [email protected] for a complimentary consultation. Dr. Stacy works with all aspects of sexuality and specializes in women’s issues, low libido, couples with mismatched sex drives and LGBTQ concerns. Coaching sessions are available by phone, Skype (international coaching is offered) and in office sessions located in South Florida, US.
 
 
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“My passion is to help you create yours” - Dr. Stacy xo


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Seductive Home Decor

4/17/2017

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5 Tips To Make Your Home More Seductive - Pimp Your Pad

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​Your Home is Your Seduction 
By Frank Kermit

 
Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaurant. This is home field advantage.


And why not? 


After all, there is no cover charge, you do not have to share a public washroom with strangers, you can put your feet up, a meal is way cheaper, and you can even prepare the meal together as part of the fun!


What could possibly go wrong?
 

Well, depending on how you live at home...plenty could go wrong, and even though you might be able to keep your date intrigued enough, your place could be a turn off in ways you might not know.

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First Dates, Places Where To Go
Generally speaking, your place is one of the best locations to have a date.

It meets all of the Frank 5-Star Criteria that I discuss in my audio program 101 Great First Dates: Where To Go, when you are trying to decide if a location is suitable for a date, including the ever-challenging Sex-Ability Factor (the ability in a location to provide for a sexual act to happen at).

As long as you feel safe with someone coming over, your place is likely one of the best places (if not THE BEST place) for you to host a date.

However, there are pitfalls. If your home is not a warm and receptive environment that makes visitors feel invited to overstay their welcome,


you could inadvertently be pushing away your hearts desire.

​

If your home is un-kept, smelly or a trigger for guests with allergies, that great new person in your life might have reason not to see you again.​


​For example, having pets and being an animal lover is no excuse for an overflowing litter box, or inappropriate cage crust dangling off the unchanged newspaper lining.
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The Story of a Personal Journey

On occasion, I make coaching house calls for people that seek out to create an alluring seductive homestead to help them attract sexual partners and/or relationship candidates. Some people may require an objective eye to help them spot those idiosyncrasies that the proprietor may be oblivious too.

​​
The single 20+ woman who can not understand why her lover would not want to spend the night with her after sex, may have to re-consider replacing that single twin bed with something bigger like a queen-size mattress so both of you can get a decent night's sleep. ​
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​That single 30+ male gamer might have to re-think how unsexy his Star-Wars bed-sheets are to a woman that may already have young children and does not want her mommy instincts triggered. If does not matter that the single twin bed is uber comfortable, or that the bed-sheets are an expensive vintage commodity. If those things are killing your chances to get you the love life you want, put them in storage.



New parents must adapt their home environment to suit the new addition to the family, and make their spaces child-friendly, complete with electrical outlet covers, foam paddled floors, and exchanging the glass coffee table top for something toddler resistant and less jagged.

​
​If you have a new addition in your life (such as a new goal of finding someone to share that life in some capacity) you also have to adapt your living space to reflect what is important to you.

​
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The Ethics of Seduction To Keep You From Crossing the Line


​
Here are some general guidelines


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Sex Furniture To Say It For You
​1-Your sexuality must be displayed.

​This is usually best done through your choice of artwork. If you are single and living alone, let your artwork reveal what you like. Nude sculptors, sexually themed ornaments, even provocative paintings displaying your sense of playfulness will communicate what secrets someone can share with you, and what you are open to experiencing. If you feel too stifled to share yourself in your own safe space, those that visit you in that space may feel too stifled to share themselves with you as well.

2-Forget "nice" decorations.

Every item for decoration, whether paintings for the wall, or an artifact like a candle-holding knick-knack, MUST be there for a reason. That reason is to further the art of conversation. If the only reason you have it is because "you like it", that is not good enough. It must be linked to a story you can tell such as a souvenir from one of your travels, or linked too a special memory that you would want to share. Once it is established for your guest that each item in your home reveals a story to share, your guests will be more intrigued to discover what mysterious motivations inhabit your home.

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How to Tell Stories and TALK on dates that lead somewhere

3-Maintain it as if you always have a date coming over.

If you are the type of person that must scramble around the house for hours to get it just right for a date to come over, you are working too hard. First, that much work is an emotional investment you are making that can be interpreted as neediness on a date.

Second, getting your place ready each time sucks up your energy that is best spent getting to know your date and being your best self. Whatever the set up you have when a date comes over, is the way your place should look at all times.


​​If you only bring out certain candles when a date arrives, or put a particular bottle in the fridge, or move your furniture around to create an ideal setting, it is best to always have those candles out, your bottles in the fridge and your furniture in the ideal settings at all times.

​The energy levels you will take on your date that you saved from a massive cleaning will be well reserved to help create an outstanding evening.




4-Your Bathroom represents your Genitals.

I know, I know. Sound utterly ridiculous. However, that is the analogy I use to explain the importance of a clean washroom.

If there was one area of your home that needs extra care, it is the washroom just as if there was one area of your body that needs extra care it is the genital area. If you want to really turn off a potential lover, a dirty toilet and moldy shower curtain can do it.

The bathroom is usually the very last place a person visits before sex.


A bathroom that creeps out a person will have a very different effect than one with appropriate artwork (see above), scented candles already lit, a fresh shower curtain and a sparkling toilet.


If you want to have a spectacular love life at your home, and you do not have the time or the inclination to clean the bathroom, hire a cleaner to come over for a couple of hours each week to scrub it down.

​
​It is worth the investment.
​
5-Have extra toiletries.

Here we are in the bathroom again. Always have extra toiletries for guests staying over night. Extra bars of soap still in the package, extra toothbrushes, extra mini-tubes of toothpaste, contact lens cleaner just in case, for the guys make sure to have some tampons and pads handy, for the girls keep men's saving cream and disposal razors handy, and always keep a big clean warm towel reserved. .

The key factor is that those toiletries stay at your place after your lover leaves in the morning, and it encourages your over night guests to want to come over again, especially when they know they already have their own toiletries there

​
Making the effort of pimping your pad can be the difference between using your toilet to enhance your love life, or your love life being in the toilet.
 

Frank Kermit

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Athlete and Vixen:  Making of a Pole Dancer - Part II

4/11/2017

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Athlete and Vixen: Making of a Pole Dancer - Part II

Athlete and Vixen: Making of a Pole Dancer - Part II
by Melanie Lynch



I last posted about Pole dancing being a sport and that not all Pole dancers are strippers but I asked the question ‘what is so wrong with stripping anyway?’  

When I started Pole dancing I found that I would get so frustrated with everyone implying I was a stripper.  As years went by I started participating in more shows and met so many great women. 
 
They were all out there trying to be brave, showing up in small costumes and hoping they would put on a performance.  Some of these fantastic women were almost naked and some were actually stripping.  I marvelled at them and loved them for the courage on stage but quickly learned that although they were strong on stage backstage they were nervous balls of energy getting their courage up and trying to remember their routines.  



I discovered that there really was
nothing different between them and me.




So once again, let’s start at the beginning.  When I started my Pole journey, I went to my first class and I was wearing full-length leggings and a tank top.  To me this was revealing.   

As we progressed I needed to climb and so the leggings changed to shorts.  I learned to hold the
Pole between my legs (yes, I am aware of how that sounded) and the shorts got a lot smaller. 

Then the ultimate thing happened, I started to flip upside down and needed to position the Pole across my abdomen. 

So my tank tops needed to turn into a crop top or sports bra.  Let me tell you, after you have had three children, your first instinct is not to show off the stomach area.  

As I stood there, I had to fight the urge to cover my stomach with my hands.  But Pole is so much more than exercise.  



It’s a community. 



A loving, welcoming community that encourages women to not apologize for the way they look.  


These ladies push you to grow, express yourself and be bold! 

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At the same time as I started attending Pole shows,
I also started going to
Burlesque shows. 



The first time I went to one, I was completely blown away.  I had never seen anything like it. 

These women came out with the most amazing, decadent, creative costumes and performed with such sublime beauty that it took my breath away. 


They were stripping but the show was more than just removing their clothes, it was a celebration of beauty, whether it was the movement, the costumes or the woman themselves, it was simply beautiful.   


I had the privilege to watch one performer named Coco Framboise who came on stage wearing the massive fur boa which she slowly undressed behind. 


It was a cheeky tease because you would only see glimpses of her caramel skin behind the white softness of the fluffy boa.  She was mesmerizing and the crowd absolutely loved her.   There’s nothing like the crowds at these shows.  The first thing you notice about these crowds is that they consist largely of women and these women scream, shout and catcall the performers in encouragement.   


They show their appreciation for what is happening on stage.  I was drawn to try this too and so signed up for the Coco Framboise School of Burlesque. 



I wanted to learn how to exude
that kind of confidence and beauty.



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​Burlesque and Pole have so much in common. 
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They celebrate the beauty, power and courage of women and all are welcome. 

It doesn’t matter if you 18 or 80, it doesn’t matter what size you are and it doesn’t matter if you’re a gymnast or dancer or have two left feet. 

All that matters is that you’re out there expressing yourself, enjoying life and no matter what happens; the community will always be there to cheer and scream.  

Of course, some of those who are not exposed to the beauty of these worlds look upon from the outside in judgment.  

I once read one of those Facebook postcards that said something like “some women feel empowered by covering themselves while others by taking their clothes off, who are we to judge” and it spoke to me.  


There’s a lot of criticism about women taking their clothes off or objectifying themselves and I won’t go into all their arguments here. 


You can’t take two steps without running into their voices and you can go read about it yourselves. 

There’s something to me that just doesn’t fit about this mindset. 

  • Firstly, not everything is about men.  Sometimes we do things for ourselves.  Imagine, going out there and feeling beautiful and powerful in an alternate existence than your everyday life.  We spend huge amounts of time and energy as good mothers, wives, daughters and business people every day sometimes it is nice to step out of that world and in to one where we can feel free and be bold. 
  • Secondly, there are barely any men in the audience we usually just perform for each other. 
  • Thirdly, there are usually men behind the scenes telling us not to do that.  Trying to own our bodies and telling us what to do.  This is us telling them ‘forget you’. 
  • Lastly, most of the time women don’t feel powerful or beautiful in our everyday lives and we are often reminded that we are not the girls portrayed in the magazines.  WE need to find that feeling for ourselves and Pole helps some of us to get to that mindset but still there are some people that keep telling us we are wrong.  I want to say that we are not wrong! 
 
WE are strong and determined. 

We do not want to be told anything about ourselves anymore. 

We own our lives, our bodies and the way we choose express ourselves.  

You are not qualified to judge me or others who enjoy this activity. 


This is our choice.  
 

Why is it wrong to be us?  We are not hurting you or ourselves. 


In fact we are having fun and life should be fun. 


Maybe no one will understand what we are trying to do and that’s ok but all I ask is that the judgment stop, and that you just sit back and enjoy the show since we have worked hard to pull it together! 


If you think I am crazy and wrong, well that’s ok too because I have a whole community of women that are there with me cheering me on and supporting me every step of the way and I really didn’t choose to do it for you anyway.




To read Part 1 of this series,
http://www.franktalks.com/blog/-athlete-and-vixen-the-making-of-a-pole-dancer



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Melanie Lynch started pole dancing seven years ago for fun and exercise. Eventually, she became a Certified Pole Instructor with the Canadian Pole Fitness Association (CPFA) and began teaching all levels of students.  After a few years of dancing, she started performing for audiences. In 2016 Melanie decided to enter competitions. She made it into the Ontario Pole Fitness Champion, in the Masters Category and finished 1st runner –up.  She trains at Pole Fit Nation. 


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Making Love Count

4/10/2017

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The importance of continuing to show your love is highlighted in this contributed post.

Most of life is very simple. We’re born, we love, we laugh, we cry, we die. When you make it easy, life is simply those steps and along every step, love is the central theme. We are born into love. We are taught to grow in love before we fall in love ourselves, and it’s the most beautiful emotion. Life may be simple, but love is not. Love is the most complicated emotion in the human spectrum of emotions. We all crave it, we all seek it and for the most part, we cherish it once we have it. It comes from different places: children, partners and parents, and it means different things to everyone.

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Falling in love for the first time is one of the most meaningful experience you’ll ever have. The relationships that we have shape who we are as people and even when you think a short relationship doesn’t matter, there’s always an impact. You have to make love count where you can and live it in the moment rather than dismiss it from life, or you can end up becoming cynical about it. When you think back to the start of your relationship, you probably remember the fun. The sparks that flew, the dates you went on and the fizz in your stomach when they smiled at you are all memorable dating moments.

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Relationships do go stale and boring as time goes on; it’s an inevitability. But it comes from lack of effort. They only become boring if both parties aren’t putting their absolute all into it. You can’t be gifted with a great love and allow it to rot – you need to
nurture it and let it thrive between you. The effort has to come from both of you and if you make it spontaneous and exciting every day, you’ll have a love that counts. Making love last through the years depends on the way you treat it. See the best in the person you’re with – they’re not going to be perfect but looking at the good qualities that they have over the bad is going to end things far earlier than you may imagine. The one thing that’s different when time passes, is the effort that gets put in. There are plenty of ways that you can make an effort for your relationship and the tips available on www.mydatingsolutions.com are fantastic and can really help you with those early dating nerves. When you make love count in your relationship, you can keep that romance and passion alive. You don’t need to do huge gestures in your relationship, even the smallest gestures can be appreciated and cherished. Always be thoughtful with any gestures you make and be grateful for those that you also receive.

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You don’t have to be at the beginning of a relationship to have passion and romance. You can carry this throughout a whole relationship from beginning to whenever it ends – early or til death do you part! Did you know that one of the most important ways to show your love and affection is simply to listen?
Listening is the cornerstone of any great, successful relationship and it’s not just the goals and the fun you should be paying attention to. Listen to the rants and the upset and the stresses they are experiencing. There’s nothing more romantic than someone who sits up and takes notice of you and your life. Get to know each other every day and keep things fresh. When the relationship is going a bit stale or boring – as they often do – don’t wait for it to fizzle out. Stand up and make your love count for you both.

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There are so many ways you can make love last in your life and having
compassion is key. When you embark on a brand-new relationship, wooing is key. It’s not flowers, chocolates and dinners you need to use to woo them, but your humour and happiness and ability to show compassion. Understand their needs, be sympathetic to their desires and look for any way you can show them an act of kindness. If you’ve been married for several years, you can still show the person you love compassion and romance, and it’s even more important in a marriage. Making love last isn’t about the material things, it’s about how you can be your whole self with someone and how you can take notice of the little things. Sliding doors moments of relationships like these are the ones that count the most, such as companionably brushing teeth together before bed or making an effort to clear up a mess instead of pointing it out. Those moments are overlooked too often and they are the ones that people should be cherishing.

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Affection, passion and romance are all things that people crave with their love. Pay attention to their needs, make sure you kiss every day and make sure you spend time just laughing together. Laughter is the best thing for any relationship, new or old, to bloom. Older relationships grow into a mature love that doesn’t always need the fizz and bang of early relationship wonders, but there’s nothing wrong with having a little fizz! Mature love is usually diluted by children, jobs and distractions that secure your relationship but pull you apart romantically and make you forget those early days of passion. Rediscover them. Date each other all over again and do all the things you started out doing when you first fell in love.


You can make love count in thousands of ways, too many to list, and those ways all go hand in hand with effort for each other. If you want something to work, make it happen. If you want to fall in love again after a break up, make it happen. Put yourself out there and try hard for yourself. Love doesn’t just fall into our laps, it takes work and it’s wonderful and frustrating all at once. Once you’ve experienced it, it’s all you’ll crave. Make it count!


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