Date: April 17, 2012, Title: Dr Carole's Couch
Frank Kermit makes his 1st appearance on Dr. Carole's Couch radio show broadcast on Voice America Internet Radio. On this show, Dr Carole interviews Frank about Seduction Lairs and Frank's personal development story.   Dr. Carole Lieberman's multi-dimensional career as an internationally renowned "Media Psychiatrist" is always leading edge! On TV, Radio, the Internet, in Film, Print, as a Speaker and as the first Shrink on Board airline in-flight entertainment, Dr. Carole's insights help people seize the moment to live happier, more fulfilling lives. Today, called upon more than ever to help people cope with terrorism and other 21st century challenges. The doctor is in! A three-time Emmy award-winner, Dr. Carole Lieberman analyzes the psychological impact of world events, as a guest and/or host on all major media outlets. Her passionate commentary is far more than entertaining and exciting -- it dauntlessly cuts to the heart of the issue! Perhaps that explains why everyone from Oprah to Larry King, Katie Couric to Bill O'Reilly, and countless others, think of Dr. Carole when they need a 'house call'. Viewers will recognize her from frequent appearances on Fox News, CNN, BBC, "The Today Show", "Good Morning America", Court TV, "Entertainment Tonight" and many more. She can be heard live as the host of "Dr. Carole's Couch", a weekly Internet radio show on voiceamerica.com. Here she analyzes the problems and pop culture of today's headlines: from terrorism to trials, love affairs to business affairs, and success stories to celebrity scandals.

Date: September 5, 2010, Title: "Love and Lipstick" Radio Show
Frank Kermit makes his first appearance on the Ottawa radio show "Love and Lipstick" on EZ Rock 99.7 FM hosted by Sue McGarvie. Sue has been a practicing Clinical Relationship Therapist in Ottawa since 1993. With degrees and coursework from Carleton, Concordia, Laurentian and Ryerson Universities in psychology, and reproductive medicine, Sue is one of Canada's leader in the field of women's relationships and hormonal health. Sue has counseled thousands of people from all over the Ottawa/Gatineau area. Frank was interviewed for a short piece on the use of Seduction in Relationships. 

 

The Attraction Theory
Originally published July 18, 2018, updated April 20, 2018
By Frank Kermit
 

There is an attraction theory that states,


"How you do one thing,

is representative of how you do

all other things."
 

Although this particular theory is not realistic and cannot be applied across the board in any tangible and measureable way, it does have some merit when it comes to the Emotional Interpretations.

Basically, the theory claims that if you are looking for signs as to what kind of partner someone would be for you in a relationship, look at how a person conducts him or her self, to give you an idea, of what kind of partner someone would make.
 

On some level, this does make sense, as people generally are their repeating behavior patterns.

Someone whose repeating behavior pattern is to lie, lie and lie some more, may be very incapable of being honest with anyone, including the people he or she dates.
 
On the other hand, the theory that how you do one thing represents how you do all things is not correct when it comes to all things.

How someone acts in one context may be very specific to that context.

Just because someone puts in the time to take care of her health, does not mean she will put time into taking care of her family connections.

Just because someone makes the extra effort at his job, does not mean they will be able to put in that same effort in managing his own business.

In both those examples, there could be extraneous circumstances to explain how one behavior does not represent a predictable behavior in another context.
 

For example, the woman in the above example may be overly preoccupied with her appearance such that she focuses on her own health and beauty, and does not focus on the emotional fulfillment of her family, and the man in the example works hard because he responds to authority checking up on him, but would not be assertive for himself if no one is there to scold him for being less pro-active.

 
However, when it comes to dating, many people look for those “signs” that someone is meant to be your best potential soul mate.


They look at status symbols that may include education level, wealth, social connections, and even wearing white after Labor Day, none of which is a direct indicator of how well someone treats a partner in a relationship.

 
Those “signs” can serve as indicators of some kind of significance, but if you really want to safeguard yourself from being mislead by “signs”, then remember this one point:

How someone treats you must be your most important criteria.

If you plan to have children, or already have children, then your most important criteria should also include an analysis of what kind of parent someone would be.
 
Frank Kermit

 The Top 3 Frank Wing Rules
 
By Frank Kermit
 
WING is the term used to define the person that is helping you in your quest to connect with the target of your heart's desire. The role of a wing (whether a wingman or a wing-girl) is simple to understand, but not always easy to pull off. Your duty as a wing-person is to help someone get more opportunity to spend time alone with whomever that person wants to be with.
 
This can involve talking to the friends of the target person, so that those said friends do not interfere with the impending conversation. It can involve being a fill-in on a double date because someone is unable to date at all unless they are able to bring a tag-along chaperone. It can simply involve being a cheering section, where the wing does not take part in any conversation with anyone, and is just there for emotional support and encouragement as someone faces their fears in trying to be more open in a social situation. Having been a wing myself, and having depended on wings in the past, I learned the hard way that there are some top rules to make winging a winning success.
 
1.Do not travel with your wing. In cases where you are out about town looking to meet new people or trying to better engage someone you already know and like, and want to be open to seeing a potentially romantic interaction through to whatever end you are seeking (for example, sex at the end of the night), never be dependant on your wing for a lift, and never be stuck having to cut the party short because your wing needs to turn in for an early morning appointment. Even if you arrive together, be willing to leave separately as the conditions require. If you are too dependent on a lift because you cannot afford your own way home, you should not be out with a wing.
 
2.Beware the folly of professional wing services. There are actually paid services where you can hire people to be your wings. Usually, they pretend to be your friend and their goal is to introduce you to new people at a social setting, which relieves you of having to make the initial approach and risk rejection. Now, if all someone is looking for is one night stands and casual hook-ups, then it could work.
 
However, the folly of using these services is that in the event that you meet someone that you really connect with, and there is a real potential for a long term relationship, you are now in the messy predicament of either telling your new partner the truth (that you hired a wing service to help you meet up which could taint how your new partner would relate to you), or to forever keep it a secret and lie about who those wing service pseudo-friends really were (which starts your relationship on a falsehood). Buildings that are constructed on foundations that already have cracks in them make it easier to knock those buildings down.
 
3. Choose Wings Wisely. Do not choose someone to be your wing just because you are BFF (best friends forever). Your friends may be a reflection of you in terms of who you associate with, but a wing has a very specific goal, which is to give you the time, space and opportunity you need to either meet someone new, or to see if you can take your relationship to the next level with someone you already like. Your friends may not actually be able to help you achieve that goal, especially if they feel in competition for your attention themselves. Friends can sabotage you, without intending too, for the simple fact, their goal may be to spend time with you, and not help you be with someone else.
 
There is more to share on this topic, but that can be explored in a future article.
 
Frank Kermit