 Hi Folks, Frank here. Just wanted to share some recent media appearances I have made in case you missed them. To learn more about what Frank Kermit can do for you, or to sign up on the FrankTalks newsletter please visit: http://www.franktalks.com Frank on CJAD.com 800 AM on the Passion Radio Show On September 28, 2016 Dating Dilemmas 74 This is Frank Kermit's 114th appearance on CJAD's Passion radio program. Frank Kermit joins producer and host Dr Laurie Betito and Fritz-Gerald of Elite Speed Dating to talk about the Dating Dilemmas people face. Topics discussed: -Would You Date a Virgin? -Speed Dating -Meet David Essel -Boundaries vs Preferences -Is it stalking or pursuing a love interest? -Is it OK for a woman to ask out a man for a 2nd date? -Online Dating Scam Advice -How to help a woman leave a 7 yr abusive relationship -Dating is NOT for cowards- It is JUST one date CliffsList.Com Interviews Frank Kermit Frank Kermit on CJAD.com from August 2016 August 26, 2016 Dating Dilemmas 73 This is Frank Kermit's 113th appearance on CJAD's Passion radio program. Frank Kermit joins producer and host Dr Laurie Betito and Fritz-Gerald of Elite Speed Dating to talk about the Dating Dilemmas people face. -Does the number of sexual partners matter? -How to talk about a drug involved past on a date? -Dr Laurie calls Frank a Drama King -When a guy is told he is too clean and straight to date -Online radio Matchmaking -Speed Dating -Finding time to date your spouse -her ex is dating her best friend -MGTOW man refuses to date because of how mom divorced dad -should a man pay for sex?
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 Dating is no place for a coward It is just ONE Date by Frank Kermit Something in coaching, I encounter a number of people that got in their own way I am talking about those people who got a match with someone they wanted to date who wanted to date them back... and then the person... REFUSED TO GO ON ONE DATE Really? Yes, really! Biggest reason listed was they were afraid it would not work out and that they would eventually get REJECTED. Really? Yes, really! It is so frustrating when you have two people that have already admitted they want to see each other again, and one of them chickens out. The world of dating is no place for a coward. Discovering a mutual connection and not even giving it one date is simply cruel. You owe it to the people who put in the work but still that struggle to date. You owe it to the other person. You owe it to yourself to take a chance and risk a rejection to find the love of your life. So, when you match up with someone, just go on one date, whether you are afraid or not. Just get out there and GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY This article is an excerpt from the Ebook The Frank Guide To Speed Dating -Frank Kermit  Juicing for Dating for Men Juicing and Dating for Men by Olivier Langlois Picture this: You invite your sweetheart for a romantic evening at your place. You put some romantic music. You adjust the lights. Everything is going to amazing and you start to anticipate the beautiful moment that you are going to share together. Maybe you even start to feel your heart pounding with excitement. You know what is it that would surprise your sexy girlfriend and put some spices in this magical evening? Some exotic and aphrodisiac fruit juice that will enhance the physical sensations of both of you during your lovemaking session and I happen to know few recipes in that area. Who am I to have such knowledge? I have written 4 juicing recipe books to improve several aspects of men sexual health from low testosterone to erectile dysfunction. I write a weekly newsletter to provide juicing and general health advice for men to my members and I also have a very nice YouTube channel where I have a lot of fun sharing wisdom with my viewers on the topic of juicing. Surprisingly, juices that can help increase sexual pleasure for men. The results are so powerful. Now that you have been warned, if you want to have a very hot evening with your girl continue to read on... I'm going to assume that the majority of guys that will be ready this have little or no experience with juicing so I am going to share in this post a recipe that is very simple and at the same time very potent. The main ingredient is ginger. Ginger is a powerful aphrodisiac that has been used for centuries. One of the reasons for this, it is that it improves blood flow and improved blood flow in the genital area will: Improve erections and make them harder Increase sensations in genitals ultimately, amplify orgasms Here is the Pear Ginger juice: Ingredients: 5g of fresh ginger (5 thin slices) 1 pear 6 red grapes The pear contains some vitamin B which contributes to testosterone production. The red grape, the pear and the fresh ginger contain a lot of antioxidants helping the body to eliminate toxins. Directions: Put all the ingredients into a blender with a cup of water. Blend of 30 seconds. Strain the juice with a strainer if a clear juice is desired. You can see me doing this juice on Youtube at: and here is another more recent aphrodisiac juice that I created more recently: sex enhancing pokemon juice: Have fun and let me how your romantic juicing experiences went... -Olivier Langlois http://olivierhealthtips.com/ This is a contributed post. Some people seem to have all the bad luck with relationships. The same terrible things seem to happen again and again, and they end in the same ways. For some, it really is just a run of bad luck. But what if it's not just a coincidence that things keep going wrong? If you keep repeating the same patterns, perhaps it's time to take a harder look. You need to examine the people you choose, and the reasons they choose you. You should consider the ways you behave when you're in a relationship. Think about the patterns of behavior that you and your partners always seem to get into. These can be the best ways to break the cycle of bad relationships and change things once and for all.  https://pixabay.com/en/pair-love-human-romance-happy-418697/ Date at the Beach Examine the People You Choose Have you found that you keep ending up with the same types of people, who do the same things wrong? Each time you start a new relationship, you think "this one is different". They seem kind, fun and interesting, and they seem to care about you. But inevitably, the relationship creeps into arguing, manipulation, cheating or something else. A lot of people come out of these relationships thinking "what's wrong with me?". But that's not exactly the best way to approach it. Don't convince yourself that there's something fundamentally wrong with you. You're not incapable of choosing a good partner. You need to consider how you pick your romantic partners. Where do you find them, and what attracts you to them? As well as thinking about that, you should also consider what they find attractive about you. For example, when you meet someone you like, do you immediately feel attached to them? Do you feel like you already have strong feelings for them and want to jump with both feet into a relationship? Not only could this be a mistake on your part, but it could signal that you're easily taken advantage of. Everyone who wants to break out of unhealthy relationship patterns needs to look at how and why they choose their partners. If you're unsure where to start, ask a trusted friend. You can even see a therapist for their honest opinion of where you're going wrong. Sites like allwomenstalk.com can help you recognize the signs of an unhealthy relationship. Look at Your Own Behaviors It's important to look out how you behave, both when looking for a relationship and when you're in one. What could you be doing that leads to the same patterns and events occurring every time? Many people find that they are sabotaging their relationships without realizing it. Unfortunately, it can take a long time to work out where you're going wrong. Some people take years or never manage to realize what they're doing. There could be many things you're doing wrong. Are you too quick to start fights, reluctant to open up, or too easily jealous? You don't have to change your personality, but you may need to rethink some of your behaviors.  https://pixabay.com/en/yoga-silhouette-woman-relaxation-544970/ Stretch Yourself Work on Yourself Before you can be in a healthy relationship, you need to know yourself. You can find advice about caring for yourself before getting back with your ex on Charice's blog ExBackExpertise.com. Whether you want to get back with someone you love or begin a new relationship, you need to be comfortable with yourself first. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to single for a while. If you think you're a serial monogamist, it could be time for a break. Try setting a time-frame for not having a romantic relationship. Give yourself six months to be on your own, but don't think about it as being lonely. Use the time to spend time with your friends, as well as spend time on your own. Do things for yourself and work out who you are. Some people find that they pick up the likes and dislikes of their partners. But when they're on their own, they're not sure who they really are. Work Out What You Want and Where to Find It It's important to know what you want from a relationship and how to get it. Choosing the right partners and working out if you're right for each other is important. You need to consider how you want your relationship to make you feel. The practical things are also important, such as marriage and children. However, what do you see your partner doing by your side? Making you laugh, traveling with you, or providing a companion through tough times? When you know what you want, knowing where to look is important too. If you're looking for a serious relationship, Tinder might not by the place to find it.  https://pixabay.com/en/sunset-kiss-couple-love-romance-691995/ first kiss Adjust Your Expectations
Sometimes you might experience the same relationship patterns because your expectations are too high. You can't enter into a relationship thinking that it's going to be perfect or won't require any work. Perhaps you bail at the first sign of an argument. Or you feel disappointed that your partner doesn't seem to be as madly in love as you. Adjusting your expectations is important, and ties into what you're looking for. Many people fall into bad relationships because what they're looking for is love. They don't care enough about who the love comes from. Perhaps they're also looking for marriage. But neither love or marriage are people. They are what happens when you find the right person. You need to think of them as byproducts, not goals. Improve Your Communication Communication can be the downfall of many relationships. Sometimes the problem is that you have different communication styles. Maybe you need time to think about something before discussing it. Meanwhile, your partner wants to hash it out on the spot. Perhaps you prefer to show you care through words, while they do it through actions. Being able to communicate effectively with your partner is essential. Of course, communication is a two-way street, so they need to meet you in the middle. Go into your next relationship with a willingness to communicate more openly and with more patience. If you want to break a cycle of bad relationships, you need to examine yourself. The choices you make affect the outcome of your relationship.  Make your love life a priority Make Having a Love Life a Priority
by Frank Kermit For whatever reason, losing your virginity has not been your priority. How do I know? You are still a virgin. Believe it or not, that is one of the biggest differences between men who lost their virginity before you did. Sure, some of them just got lucky and found a girl that liked them back, and some of them just took a chance and went for it and it just happened. But that did not happen for you. And since it did not happen for you, that means that you are just going to have to work harder than the other guys. That means you have to make it a goal. Once you make it a goal to lose your virginity, it becomes a priority in your life. And that is a GOOD thing. As you read in the AMV Handbook, or listened to the audio seminar, I made it a goal after I was humiliated publicly when I was outed as a virgin. I was unhappy being a virgin. And as soon as it became a concrete goal, it helped motivate me to take actions so that I would put myself in situations so that I could focus my TIME and ATTENTION on the things that I thought would help me most. When something is a PRIORITY in your life, you put everything else that is NOT a priority aside, so that you can dedicate yourself to reaching that goal. And Yes, losing your virginity is an acceptable goal to have. It is OK to finally lose your virginity.  Leonard Irwin the Medium As a Medium and a Human Being
By Leonard Irwin (Guest Blog) In my work as a professional medium there are times when you see grief in another person. One of my very first clients came to me after her mother had passed. There was anger, loss, loneliness and grief. She was closed off and wanting answers. I was still a new medium but also knew that I was able to help her. She (I'll call her M) wanted to know that her mom was alright and that her death was not as painful as this woman thought. M’s mother was the light of her life. In fact, M recanted stories of her mother being her best friend. There was this sense of emptiness. M not only lost her mother, but also her best friend. They seemed to be inseparable. M was coming to me for answers that she had about witnessing her mother’s body slowly dying over several days. Without going into the detail of the matter. M’s mother passed on with pain and discomfort. The memories haunted this daughter and she was grieving not saying or doing the right things to make her mother’s death less painful. As the message came through, it was evident, that M’s mother had passed on knowing full well how she was experiencing her last days. Her mother’s spirit, wanted to reassure M, that there was nothing she could have done. As it was not her (spirit) but her body that was dying. Through the process of giving the reading, M held my hand, cried, even openly wept for a few minutes. As a medium and a human being I knew that the most powerful thing I could do in those moments was to do nothing. Over the past 5 years I’ve had many more instances where the person sitting in front of me was grieving the loss of someone. This past summer in July 2016 a woman came to me about connecting to her parents. Over the course of the reading, she started to break down and admit some things that she wished she had not said to her parents before their respective deaths. I got to experience a strong self-willed independent woman. Where, these very qualities, caused the most turmoil in her parental relationship. I witnessed this woman break down and cry like a little girl. At some point I asked, "Do you need a hug?" It seemed like the right thing to do. I held this woman who cried in my arms for about 10 minutes. Her body letting go of the grief. She told me after this experience that when I held her she felt vulnerable and safe enough to let go. To finally allow herself the freedom to really grieve. Sometimes the simplest things are the most powerful. And they are also the most meaningful. Human connections even during our times of grief are still the most powerful acts one person can do for another. -Leonard Irwin www.LeonardIrwin.com  How to write a eulogy How To Write a Eulogy by Frank Kermit Hi Friend, One of the best speeches I ever gave in my life, was my father's eulogy. I wrote it in a way with the specific goals to not only talk about who my father was, but it was also designed to bring a measure of peace and healing to the many people drowning in grief at the funeral. I made a list of goals that I wanted to achieve with that eulogy, and based on the reactions of the various attendees, I seemed to have achieved that goal. If you are about to give a eulogy, and are nervous because you want to do a good job, but are not sure about what you should say, and if talking directly from your heart, is not something that comes easy for you, then this article was written with you in mind. Once you write it and give the eulogy, do contact me and let me know how things turned out for you. I would love to hear from you. 25 Steps The Best Eulogy 1-You can mention your own grief, but do not focus on it. My main point of grief writing my dad's eulogy is that he died before my own children were born, and that was my biggest regret. That my own children would never get the chance to meet him. I mentioned it once in the eulogy. But that was it. I did not stick with that theme throughout the speech. Never use a eulogy in a way, that it could be mistaken for seeking out pity. 2-Languages. My father taught himself to read and write in three languages. So I made sure to give the eulogy in more than one language. If the person you are giving the eulogy for was also multilingual, do your best to include a sample of each language into your eulogy. 3-Focus on the good (How did that person make a difference) What is the legacy that the person left behind? What accomplishments was that person most proud of? What did that person want to be remember for? These are all good points to bring up during a eulogy. 4-Everyone grieves differently It is important for you as a eulogist to remind all attendees to have compassion for one another. One person may deal with grief by wanting to be left alone and not speak to others for a while. Other people may need to cry out loud. The most important thing to remind everyone is that we all will grieve differently and to support each other with acceptance of the different ways we cope with loss. 5-Be prepared Have water handy in case your voice dries out. Have a handkerchief or tissues to dry your eyes and blow your nose. Have someone close to you to pat your back or hold your hand if you think you might need it. At one point during my speech, my eyes were so watery, I had blurred vision and no tissues. Using the sleeve of my shirt, I washed away the tears and calmed my breathing down in order to continue. 6-Don’t dwell on that persons hardships, just use them as time markers We all have hardships, but most people want to be remembered for more than just the hardships they endured. They want to be remembered for how they lived, not for all the bad stuff that happened to them. My father lost an eye during an accident when he was six years old. I mentioned it only to point out he had to grow up very fast after that. But I never talked about it again in the speech. I could have mentioned all the prejudice he faced in his life because of it. But I am sure my father would want to be remembered for being a hard worker, teaching himself how to read and write 3 languages, and of his devotion to his children's education and not be remembered for the bad stuff that happened to him. 7-What you talk about at the wake Before you give the eulogy, go around to the people at the wake, or those that reach out to you with condolence. Ask each person what they noticed most about the person BUT do not tell them you are seeking info for the eulogy. This will give you an idea of what words to use, and maybe even a story to share, about how others viewed the person you are talking about. Just before the funeral, my brother, sister and I were speaking, and they mentioned to me how much my father liked a good discussion. It was something that wasn't in my original speech, so I jotted it down just before it was time to deliver the eulogy. 8-Quote the person in that persons voice (imitate voice and gestures) Quoting the person is always a good idea. However, if you have the ability to quote that person, using a similar sounding voice or accent as the person, then use it. It helps to release some of the tension people are feeling when the eulogy is given. 9-Name drop as many people as you can, who attend the funeral When talking about stories where naming people is appropriate, do make the effort to name as many people as you can, that you know are in attendance at the funeral. It makes people feel that are very much a part of the process of showing respect for the person that has died. If you can, do mention the names of the people that traveled long distances, just to attend and pay their respects. 10-Say Thank You to all care givers. If long sickness was involved, comment on the people who took care of the person and be sure to thank them all by name. When people are suffering from grief, it is very easy for anyone to feel unappreciated and taken for granted. These negative feelings could lead to bad decisions that could permanently wedge relationships in the future. During the last 8 weeks of my father's life, he was tended to by my aunt (his sister), my uncle (his brother), my brother, my sister and my mother. I made it a point to talk about each person for a few minutes, mentioned their good qualities, and anything my father may have mentioned about his love and respect for them. It brought a lot of peace to them. 11-Use the shortest phrase you can to describe the person Come up with an overall theme that encompasses everything the person was. It will be that phrase that people will remember when they leave the funeral. When trying to sum up my father in as few words as possible, I believe the term "silent devotion" encompasses everything he was to us. I used that phrase throughout the speech. I explained why it was appropriate because my father was not an outwardly expressive person (silent), but he showed his family his love with his (devotion) providing for them. To this day, some of his old neighbours still remark how they remember that eulogy for this reason. 12-The use of audio-visual materials Depending on where you conduct the eulogy, you will have to keep in mind that some places do not allow for audio-visual materials. Those that do allow for it, may not be equipped with the technology. There is a story of one particular person who was giving the eulogy of her father, and wanted to play a song that was one of her father's favorite. However, the religious authority that presided over the funeral, would not allow it because it was a not a "religious song". The young girl then simply read the lyrics of the song as part of her eulogy. If using audio-visual material is important in your eulogy, please make sure you will not have any unpleasant surprises. 13-If the person knew it was coming, mention it In all the years I have been coaching, I have learned that if it is mentioned in a eulogy that the person knew that death was coming soon, it actually brings peace to some of the people who are coping with loss. It helps people feel that, since the person knew, the person likely got to do and say things before it was too late. It really seems to help people cope with the loss. So if this applies to the person you are speaking about please mention it. 14-Dreams…if you’d had a dream of person, mention it The night after my father died, I had a dream where he came to speak to me to say goodbye and to tell me I should go and start a family of my own. I have no idea if it was just a dream, or if it was actually him trying to communicate with me after his death. I honestly do not know what to believe. Turns out, it does not matter what I believe anyways. When I told this story at his eulogy, it amazed me how much it was a comfort to others that there was even this remote possibility that my father could still communicate with the people left behind. 15-Give mourners a job Ask all mourners to celebrate the life of the person who has died, but give mourners something SPECIFIC they are suppose to do. I told everyone that they should pick one memory of my father, and that favorite memory could be a discussion they had with him, or something he did for them, and to talk about that favorite memory to everyone who also knew him. By giving mourners a job, you give them an ability to further help them deal with the loss. 16-End off with saying something to the person directly When you end the eulogy, this is where you can say something direct to the person. It could be a simple, "I love you", or "I will miss you" or "good bye". It might also be something very personal between you and the person. My father used to tell me that I would never admit he was right about anything. So one of the last things I would say at the eulogy would be, "Hey dad...you were right" 17-They will ALL forgive you Keep in mind that when you are giving the speech, as long as you do it from an honest place, people will forgive you if you cry or break down. I broke down in the middle of my speech and needed a couple of minutes to compose myself again in order to continue. It is more than forgivable even the circumstances. 18-Forget you are talking to a crowd of people When you give your speech, talk as if you are speaking directly to the person's closet contacts. If that does not work well enough for you then talk to the person that you mention in your speech, as if you are practicing reading their eulogy to him or her. 19-A eulogy is for the people still left, not the one who died. As contrary as this may sound, when you write and recite the eulogy, keep in mind that the purpose is MORE to give those still alive some form of peace and healing, and LESS to do with actually saying something to the person that has died. 20-A eulogy is designed to bring people together. Deaths can break up the family, and a eulogy MUST help reunite them This is why you thank people in the eulogy, and remind them to show compassion to one another. Mourning can sometimes bring out the worst in people. The eulogy is there to help bring out the best in people. No matter how justified it may feel at the moment, never use a eulogy to bring negative attention to anyone. 21-Why people remember the eulogy Grievers do NOT remember much of the entire week of death, funeral home, or the burial…..EVERYONE remembers the eulogy. It is one of the elements of the mourning phase that speaks directly to people, and is easier for people to remember, because the other memories of the death of a loved one, could be too much for many to handle. A eulogy does not get blocked out, because it brings comfort and closure. 22-When talking about God Unless the person was a particularly devote religious person, do not mention god or religion. If that person believed, then mention their faith. But if that person did not beleive, do not mention god or faith. Those that believe will believe, and those that don’t will not. 23-List what made the person happy in life Name three things in that persons life that made that person exceptionally happy. This will help mourners remember the person as being happy. It is a good image and memory for mourners to hold on to, especially at such a time of great sadness and stress. A couple of the things I mentioned that my gave my father the greatest happiness were his pet dog, his cottage in the country area, and watching his family grow. People that knew him were reminded if images of his being happy in life. 24-The importance of a continuation A preacher gave me this great bit of advice. When people struggle with the idea of a person's life line coming to an end, help re-direct their thoughts that line is not a linear line with a beginning and an end. Life is a circle. The person did not reach the end of the line; the person completed the cycle of their circle of life. As circles are continues in their nature, it is easier for mourners, to envision a form of continuation as a circle and the end of one cycle and the start of another cycle circle, then to think about the line having ended abruptly 25-The story of passing the love forward. In the eulogy I gave for my father, I talked about how my grandmother always said that because I was born in the same month as the death of her brother, that she believed that all the love she had for her brother should be re-directed to me. She said that when someone dies, it is a sign that the person in the family was was born closest to that time should now be a magnet for the affection that person used to get. So I told people that the baby born closest to my fathers death (a third cousin who lived in the area) should be the receiver of all the love that my father got, and to give that child a little extra attention. The idea is to help mourners to a put a focus to love the children that need their attention, instead of getting lost in their own selves with grief.  Speed Dating tips and advice Taking Notes by Frank Kermit It is important to take notes when speed dating (or any dating for that matter). I am not referring to the speed dating form where you indicate YES or NO for requesting a match I am talking about taking your own notes about the people you speed date on a sheet of paper that you take home with you One of the more embarrassing situations that may happen is that you end up on a date with someone you met speed dating but come across as not remembering what you talked about during your first speed-dating meeting. Fact is, that night you are going to meet a number of people and it will be easy to forget who said what. Sometimes people even refuse to go on the date after being matched out of fear they will look foolish for not remembering the first conversations. So, take notes about each person you speed date, including things they said that were of a mutual interest. Include those tidbits of information when you first contact your matches to set up first dates. This will make your matches feel more involved and more eager to meet with you. Next time you speed date, make sure you bring an extra sheet of paper for your own personal notes. It will make your communication with your matches so much more attractive. This article is an excerpt of the book The Frank Guide To Speed Dating #dating #speeddating #charisma  you know you are a parent when... You Know You Are A Parent... by Frank Kermit You Know You Are A Parent... When your child finds it funny to call you by your first name or the pet name your life parent uses. It's OK, eventually, kids train parents best when they learn to use terms like mommy and daddy as parents routinely respond to appropriate stimuli  In memory of Bob McDevitt Remembering Bob McDevitt by Frank Kermit Bob was a great guy. I had the great fortune of working as his Teaching Assistant for two years, when he was a lecturer at the Journalism of Concordia University. I got to sit in on his classes and absorb his lectures, and study the way he would convey his 30+ years of journalist experience to class after class of students. His lectures included journalism know how, grit, and personal stories from his days as a professional. I still remember some of the stories he told, which communicated exactly the honorable good, and the painfully disgust that is humanity, and how to present a story to be fair and balanced. Thank you Bob for your wisdom and the opportunity to work for you. -Frank Kermit Robert (Bob) McDevitt - Obituary McDEVITT, ROBERT (BOB) September 6, 1931-September 8, 2016 After several months of declining health, Bob McDevitt died September 8, 2016 at the Jewish General Hospital with his wife Pat at his side. Starting as a 16-year-old sailor in the Merchant Navy, Bob lived life to the fullest. He had an illustrious 34-year career in broadcasting, beginning as Ol' Saddlesores, a country & western DJ in Sudbury, Ontario. Bob eventually moved to the CBC in Montreal where he spent 27 years as a sports journalist, interviewing everyone from Muhammad Ali to Lester B. Pearson. After taking early retirement from the CBC, Bob embarked on another adventure, teaching Broadcast Journalism for 12 years at Concordia University and helping shape a new generation of journalists. This fact was endlessly amusing to Bob, a kid from Park Ex with only a grade 8 education. Professional life aside, Bob was perpetually curious about the world, and people were his oxygen. He loved few things more than hoisting a jar with friends and was actively involved in a variety of clubs, including the Montreal Irish Rugby Football Club, the Montreal West Curling Club, the NDG YMCA, the Cavendish Club, and the Fossils. Above all, Bob was a devoted family man, supportive, generous, and loving, who taught his children invaluable lessons in the way he embraced honesty and integrity in his daily life, sometimes to the detriment of his professional life. Bob went out true to himself: not quietly. His last few days were eased by the expert and humane care of the doctors, nurses, and staff at the Jewish General Hospital, for which the family will be forever grateful. Bob embodied these lines from Invictus, his favorite poem: "I am the master of my fate / I am the captain of my soul." Well done, dear husband. Well done, dear dad. Bob leaves behind Patricia, his wife of 56 years, his three children, Katy, Neale, and Craig, and their respective partners and children. At Bob's request, there will be no funeral service. There will be a visitation on Thursday, September 15, 2016 from 1:00 pm to 4:00 pm at Collins Clarke MacGillivray White Funeral Home, 5610 Sherbrooke St. West, Montreal. Cards of condolence may be sent to the funeral home. A celebration of Bob's life a party will be held at a future date. Details to be announced later. The family asks that in lieu of flowers, donations be made to the Bob McDevitt Award Endowment at Concordia University: online at concordia.ca/givenow; by telephone at 514-848-2424, ext. 3884; by sending a cheque payable to Concordia University to: Concordia University, 1455 De Maisonneuve Blvd. W., FB-520, Montreal, QC H3G 1M8. When making a contribution, donors should specify their gift is for the Bob McDevitt Award Endowment.  Sign Up For Coaching  Do not talk about sex if you are a virgin Do Not Talk About Sex if You Are an Adult Male Virgin by Frank Kermit Helping Adult Male Virgins (AMV) who want to find their first girlfriend to have sex with is specialization in my coaching practice Here is a Quick Tip for Adult Male Virgins Do NOT Talk about Sex. You are a virgin, and you might end up saying something that presents you in a really negative way. Just like the main character in the movie The 40 Year Old Virgin, he was found out when he tried to talk about something he had no experience in (remember the bags of sand line?) My AMV coaching clients are often surprised to learn that some of the statements they make casual to their friends and associates reveal just how inexperienced AMVs can be, not only for sex, but for dating and relationships as well. If you have ever made negative statements about sex (Ewwww! That's disgusting), or innocently asked questions such as "Why would people do that?" when talking about what seems to you to be a futile sex act, or remarking how something "Isn't really important", those people around you are spotting your inexperience. Unlucky for you, they are also likely too polite to call you on it. Which means, you continue to go about your business, never knowing what they really think they know about you: that you are a virgin. Simply put, people who have had sex, can spot you without you knowing it. One of the ways you can limit this, is that you just do not talk about sex. When someone tries to get you to talk about sex, here is what you can do: Just tell everyone that there are certain things you do not talk about or discuss publicly and sex is one of them. Then make sure YOU STICK TO IT! That also means no sex jokes too. Yeah, it may not be fun. However, if your goal is to lose your virginity, it is one of the best strategies you can apply.  Bad Choices catch up with you Good People Making Bad Choices By Frank Kermit This is blog is designed to offer advice, tips and support, for seekers to find what they need to build, create and engage into a successful marriage. The reason this is such an important area of my coaching practice is because most couple that get married never do so in the hopes it will end in divorce. Most people get into marriage wanting it to last until death does them part. Unfortunately, with the divorce rate being what it is, this is obviously not the result the majority of those couples ever wanted. I see a lot of really good people, who want successful marriages, in my private coaching practice working with individuals, and couples. People who aim to live out their lives together in a successful marriage, generally speaking, do so out of a desire to be happy, build a family together, and want to establish a future together based on the principles that are important to them. These same individuals aim to create a relationship structure, that will be able to withstand the hard times, enjoy the good times, and last a life time. Simply put, they want to live a life of making choices to create the most successful marriages possible. The challenge however, is not that they lack choice to making that happen. It is that they do not know how to MANAGE their choices. Years ago, I described one of the tenants of my coaching practice with this statement: The power of choice, without the skills to know what to do with it, can lead to a misery so great, it ends up being worse than living in a system of oppression that meets basic needs. That is what I see in my coaching practice. Good people, making horrible choices that destroy their chances of every having a happily successful marriage. It is one thing not to be sure what choices is best for you. It is completely a different matter to figure out how the heck you manage a marriage in a way that meets the emotional needs of everyone involved. People often do not realize the mistakes they are making managing their marriages (or upcoming marriages), until it is too late and they lose their marriages, destroy their families, and send their kids into therapy. So my coaching aims to help prepare all people to manage the many choices they will have to make while they seek out the secrets of successful marriages. The Pre Marital Coaching is for all the people who: -Want to Divorce Proof their marriages -Are about to move in together -Are thinking about getting engaged or who already got engaged -Looking to elope -Want to start a family -Afraid of ever getting divorce, and want to reduce the risks -Went through a divorce before and want to prevent another -Have family and friends against this union and they want to prove them wrong -Want to be sure they have the skills necessary to stick to their vows -Are struggling with the idea of a prenuptial agreement -Have doubts about marriage -Want to make "til death do us part" mean something again -Want to find ways to talk to their partner about difficult subjects -Worry about trusting their partner -Worry about the challenge of long term commitment -Are looking for a marriage that is LGBTQF friendly -Are looking for a marriage that is alternative lifestyle friendly -Want conflict resolution skills -Having a hard time pinpointing your relationship rules and boundaries If you want to invest in securing a solid foundation to make sure you are in a relationship that actually succeeds, then you are seeking the secrets of a successful marriage as well as those couples in already establish committed relationships that are working things out to stay together. As you read and follow the articles on my blog, do please reach out to me with any information that you feel, was really helpful to you, in your pursuit of seeking the secrets of your personal success. -Frank Kermit  Get comfortable with the causes of Grief Get Comfortable With The Causes of Grief by Frank Kermit This is the first of a series of articles I want to present on the topics of Bereavement, Grief and Mourning. The reason I created this group of articles is because I think that people who are coping with loss generally, do not get the compassion and support they really need. People are generally uncomfortable with dealing with any sort of grief. Whether the grief is their own, or dealing with the grief of others. It makes for awkward interactions, and that is not right. A person in grief is too wrapped up in their own emotions, to really notice the awkwardness of the people around them offering any kind of support. And those people who would want to offer support, are too concerned they might make things worse for the person in mourning. So these articles aims to help prepare all people to better manage their sense of loss, and how to better support the people in their lives who are experiencing a loss. Losses that may cause grief include: -Death of a loved one. -Being diagnosed with a chronic or terminal disease. -Disability from a severe accident or illness. -Divorce or the end of a relationship. -Miscarriage or stillbirth. -The birth of a child with a birth defect. -A diagnosis of infertility. -Learning that your child or teen has developed a behavior problem, learning disability, or substance abuse disorder. -A move from a familiar home. This is especially hard for older adults. -Job loss. -Loss of independence after a serious accident or illness. -An act of violence or a natural disaster. -Starting school (loss of the comfort of home and familiar surroundings). -Gaining increasing independence and self-responsibility in the late childhood and teen years (loss of dependence on parents). -Marriage (loss of independent decision making). -Birth of a child (loss of independence). -Retirement (loss of income, work-related identity, and daily social contact). -Aging and maturing (loss of physical strength and youthful appearance). As you can see, chances are that EVERYONE is going have to cope with loss at some point in their lives. It is fundamentally important that we all develop coping skills. I hope people find these articles useful. -Frank Kermit  Sign Up For Coaching  Creating Chemistry Looks vs Personality: Creating Chemistry By Frank Kermit A question that comes up to me in coaching often is what do you do when you find someone's personality very interesting, even attractive, but you really are not into that person's looks. The answer is one that no one wants to hear. If you are single, date that person anyways and see if chemistry develops over the time of a few dates Sometimes, you have to kiss that person goodnight in order to get the fireworks to initially spark. When you meet someone in speed dating, and that person has enough spark just from personality that makes you think MAYBE, Just say YES Take the chance, and go for the match. You never know...that person might even reject you!!! It would be good to know to help you keep that ego of yours in check. Bottom line is that you are single! Maybe you are single because you are way too picky Maybe your standards are too high for what you can attract But you are single. Give that person a chance. You only have everything to gain. This article is an excerpt from The Frank Guide To Speed Dating program  You Know You Are a Parent When... You Know You're a Parent When... By Frank Kermit You Know You Are A Parent When You learn The Pure Pain of Stepping On Tiny Hard Plastic Toys Those toys can be the best possible toys of any childhood I would never get rid of them. But it might be time to get a new toy bin and set up a reward system for tidying up after playing.  you are still single because of the choices you make Single in September By Frank Kermit It's the most wonderful time of the year. End of summer, back to school, and vacation period is basically over for most people. All that means one thing. It is one of the best times to be single for taking action to meet someone special. This is it. The meet and greet season has started. Fresh off the blast of summer loving when all summer romances must come to an end, and people have to tune in once again to their regularly scheduled life programming. Back to school, means back to the grind of routine, and this is when people are new, fresh, rejuvenated from time off and sunny weather, and are in the best head space to meet a new friendly face. The signs of autumn have started-a-coming, when retail stores start putting out the Halloween decorations. That signals just one thing: WINTER IS COMING TOO! It is time to start now, to seek out new life, and that new warm human body that is going to enjoy cuddling you by a delightful fire, while the weather outside turns frightful. If you are still single, there is always some place to go, to meet new people, cause you never know. So you better not pout, and you better not cry if you end up singing single 'cause you're bumming about town. Tis' the season to be finding, a warm cup of your own special something. Stop, with your games of love, and get serious. Chances are, you are single because of the choices you made leading up to this moment. All those people you were interested in, but did not ask out. All those potential partners who liked you, but you turned down worrying about what others would think. All your "rules" and "standards" that (really serve no purpose to finding someone who treats you amazing) just get in the way because they are simply not realistic. If you continue to make those same choices, then chances are, again, that you will continue to be single, and continue to make it more difficult for anyone to join you for an unforgettable duet. This could be the BEST time of the year to meet someone new. But it takes ACTION on your part to get out there, and make yourself available. Well, OK, maybe it is not the BEST time of the year to meet someone new right now. Song lyrics and catchy pop culture phrases can grease the wheels of the coming holiday spirit, and inspire some people from the cold-hearted wonderland of our lives. And the fact is, every day (including TODAY) is a good day to die and go to heaven (FIGURATIVELY PLEASE!) by meeting someone special, and every season has just as much opportunity to find someone new, and every night time is the right time to be with somebody you love. It is ALWAYS the BEST TIME to meet someone new. Today IS THAT the day. Seize it and make it yours. Take the chance! Now is the moment. Go on and kiss the world of dating and end your reign in the valley of Singledom. Frank Kermit This is a contributed post Weddings are something that most of us dream about throughout our lives. Meaning that when our big day comes around, we want to ensure that it’s perfect in every way. While a lot of the time we focus on the reception, it’s also important to take the time to ensure that your wedding ceremony is perfectly planned out. Otherwise, it may not end up being what you’ve always dreamed it would be. The good news is that ensuring that your wedding ceremony goes without a hitch isn’t too difficult to do. It’s just a case of making sure that you do adequate planning for it and know what you would like it to be like. Ask yourself what type of ceremony have you always dreamed of? A quick one or something longer and more romantic - it’s your big day, so you need to make sure it’s what you want it to be. To help you ensure that your wedding ceremony is exactly as you have always imagined it would be, below are a few ideas and suggestions. Take these on board and you can make sure that your big day is memorable for all the right reasons. Double check your invitations  https://c1.staticflickr.com/7/6105/6231837339_f85c59bf7a_b.jpg Wedding Invitations Before sending out your wedding invitations, make sure to double check them. The last thing you want is for a printing error to cause problems, such as the time or postcode being wrong, for instance. So take the time to check over your invitations before sending them out, to ensure that your guests have all the right details. This is important as without the right information, some of your most important guests may end up getting lost or not turning up at all. Have a schedule in place For everyone in the wedding party, put together a schedule. That way everyone will know what they need to be doing and when. Having a plan written out will help to ensure that everyone arrives at the church on time and does what they’re meant to do. A few days before the wedding, email out the schedule for the day of your wedding to everyone in the wedding party. That way they can make sure that everyone knows what they’re meant to be doing and when. This will help to calm your wedding day nerves and ensure that everything goes to plan. Get your orders of service sorted  https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/c/c4/Memchu_wedding.jpg wedding ceremony Whatever you do, don’t forget about your orders of service. If you want to make sure that your ceremony goes to plan, it’s important to give each guest an order of service. That way, everyone knows what to expect from your nuptials. If you’re yet to get your wedding ceremony programs sorted, get in touch with a specialist order of service printing company. The last thing you want is for your orders of service not to have arrived by your wedding date, so make sure to get them sorted in advance. Have a tick list of what needs to be done on the day So that on the morning of your wedding, you’re not stressing about everything that needs to be done, create a tick list. So that you have a simple list of the tasks that need to be completed to hand. You can then give this list to your head bridesmaid, who can make sure that everything on it is completed. This should contain things like ensuring everyone gets their buttonholes and making sure that all the ushers are at the church early. Just the little things that otherwise, could end up being forgotten about. Don’t forget to call to confirm  https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/a/a5/Wedding_car_oldtimer.jpg wedding car Last but not least, a few days before your wedding, call your service providers to confirm your booking. For instance, if you’ve hired a car to take you to the venue, call the company a few days before to confirm. That way you can double check that the vehicles you’ve hired will all arrive at the right times and places. Or say, for example, you’ve paid to have flower displays put together for the church. Call the florist to confirm what time they’ll be delivered, so that you can ensure someone is there. This will give you peace of mind and will help to ensure that your day goes as smoothly as possible.
Planning a wedding is always going to be stressful, as there’s so much that needs to be sorted. To ensure that your ceremony goes without a hitch, take note of tips and suggestions above, and implement them.  Steve Piccus Interview On two separate occasions, Frank Kermit got to interview Steve P. Steve P is the creator of White Tiger Tantra, a sensual enhancement system that can help take any women to her next level of releasing the flood gates of ecstasy. Many women who thought they were anorgasmic* were able to have the life changing experience of achieving full body, multiple and sustained orgasms. *Anorgasmia is a type of sexual dysfunction in which a person cannot achieve orgasm despite adequate stimulation. Anorgasmia can often cause sexual frustration.  School of Steve P logo Frank Interviews Steve P (Part 1) April 2009 Steve P UNCENSORED. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about his upbringing, losing his virginity, his polyamorous lifestyle over the years, his current hermetic circle of lovers, the seduction community past and present, his White Tiger Tantra squirting instructional DVDs, what to do if a woman has a strong emotional reaction during an orgasmic squirting experience, and more.This interview is a no holds barred account of Steve P by Steve P himself! Any offensive dialogue was neither edited nor censored. Steve P was mentioned as a key figurehead in "The Game", a book by Neil Strauss and now get up close and personal details from the man himself.  White Tiger Tantra  The Secret of Dating Multiple Girlfriends Frank Interviews Steve P (Part 2) February 2009 Steve P UNCENSORED II. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about the Seduction Community. In this interview we cover the history of the founding of the seduction community, building deeper levels of rapport and communication, the difference between openly dating multiple women vs cheating, how to spot the girls in the clubs who are interested in being picked up and where to go to find them, goal setting: pick up vs long term relationships, the importance of finding and choosing a mentor, respecting past mentors, emulate vs imitate, how to be a good student, the difference between women who are Bi-curious and Bi-sexual, Female Orgasm and the power to give her full body orgasm, protecting a woman's reputation and privacy, alpha males, blocking and going for someone's else girl, The Instant Guru Scams and seduction-fly-by-night companies, managing a seduction lairs and re-establishing seduction brotherhood, spotting givers and takers, along with brief stories involving Hypnotica, Zan, and Johnny Soporno. This is a contributed post After a while in a happy relationship, it’s easy to start thinking about the future. However, marriage is such a big commitment that you need to ensure you are both ready. It can put huge pressure on your relationship, and your marriage will crumble if you aren’t both wanting the same things. Here are some signs that your relationship is ready for the next step, and it's time to pop the question.  https://pixabay.com/en/couple-engagement-ring-diamond-802058/ engagement ring You have lived together for a while One of the first major steps you and your partner would have likely made in your relationship is moving in together. After all, more couples than ever are living together first before tying the knot. It helps couples to find out more about each other and how they act under difficult circumstances. Research has found that couples are less likely to divorce if they live together for a period before getting hitched. Therefore, if you have lived together for a while and are still happy together, it could be time to get married.  https://www.pexels.com/photo/landscape-sunset-couple-love-136411/ marriage proposal You both have similar future plans Your relationship will never survive marriage if you don’t have similar future plans. If one of you wants to go traveling, while the other wants to settle down and have a family, it’s never going to work between you. Therefore, before going to buy a ring, you need to talk to her about the future. Discuss your five-year plan to see if you are both on the same page. That way, you can ensure you're both ready for the future before tying the knot. You both are financially ready It’s important that the two of you have enough money if you are going to get married. After all, weddings are an expensive time which can put a lot of pressure on your relationship. If you don’t have enough money, you are unlikely to have a day that you both will love. Also, a wedding can stop you from saving for other things like your own home or a big holiday which you both really want to do. Therefore, you need to both be prepared for this. On top of this, you need to have enough money to buy her a beautiful ring such as gemstone engagement rings. After all, as this feature reveals, you should spend three months of your salary on a ring! Therefore, make sure you are financially ready before planning to get hitched!  https://www.flickr.com/photos/astrocoz/68767468 wedding ring You are both truly happy together No relationship is perfect. You are bound to have a row every so often as the odd argument is part of a healthy relationship. But if you are genuinely happy together and love being around each other, then it could be a sign you should get hitched. Also, you should ensure you want to spend the rest of your life with her. If you can’t imagine not being with another girl, then you are not in the right headspace to get married.  https://pixabay.com/en/couple-love-kiss-hug-beauty-park-1363967/ she said yes! There is no perfect age to get married to your other half. But you need to be both ready on a maturity level to get hitched. After all, it’s a huge commitment that you both need to be sure you want to take. Whatever you do, don’t just propose because she wants a big wedding!
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