As a Medium and a Human Being
By Leonard Irwin (Guest Blog)
In my work as a professional medium
there are times when you see grief in another person.
One of my very first clients came to me
after her mother had passed.
There was anger, loss, loneliness and grief.
She was closed off and wanting answers.
I was still a new medium but also knew
that I was able to help her.
She (I'll call her M) wanted to know that her mom was alright
and that her death was not as painful as this woman thought.
M’s mother was the light of her life.
In fact, M recanted stories of her mother
being her best friend.
There was this sense of emptiness.
M not only lost her mother, but also her best friend.
They seemed to be inseparable.
M was coming to me for answers that she had
about witnessing her mother’s body slowly dying over several days.
Without going into the detail of the matter.
M’s mother passed on with pain and discomfort.
The memories haunted this daughter and
she was grieving not saying or doing the right things
to make her mother’s death less painful.
As the message came through, it was evident,
that M’s mother had passed on knowing full well
how she was experiencing her last days.
Her mother’s spirit, wanted to reassure M,
that there was nothing she could have done.
As it was not her (spirit) but her body that was dying.
Through the process of giving the reading,
M held my hand, cried, even openly wept for a few minutes.
As a medium and a human being
I knew that the most powerful thing
I could do in those moments was to do nothing.
Over the past 5 years I’ve had many more instances
where the person sitting in front of me
was grieving the loss of someone.
This past summer in July 2016 a woman came to me
about connecting to her parents.
Over the course of the reading,
she started to break down and admit some things
that she wished she had not said to her parents
before their respective deaths.
I got to experience a strong self-willed
Where, these very qualities, caused the most turmoil
in her parental relationship.
I witnessed this woman break down
and cry like a little girl.
At some point I asked, "Do you need a hug?"
It seemed like the right thing to do.
I held this woman who cried in my arms
for about 10 minutes.
Her body letting go of the grief.
She told me after this experience that when I held her
she felt vulnerable and safe enough to let go.
To finally allow herself the freedom to really grieve.
Sometimes the simplest things are the most powerful.
And they are also the most meaningful.
Human connections even during our times of grief
are still the most powerful acts one person can do for another.
Dr. Laurie Betito Quotes