 Never Force Your Worldview on Others Don't Force Your Worldview
by Frank Kermit Each of us views the world a certain way. It encapsulates what we believe to be right, and wrong. The worldview of each individual can change over time as our life experiences teach us about the world, teach us about the people we interact with, and teach us about ourselves. In dating, it is important to find someone who shares your worldview. This can be very challenging if you have never taken the time to figure out what your worldview is, and more importantly, if you have never actually challenged any worldviews you had because they are the views you were brought up with. For example, if you grew up in an environment that values sexual abstinence before marriage and took on those beliefs as part of your worldview as a child, they may not have been beliefs that you ever challenged. Then one day, as an adult, you enter the world of dating and find that not everyone you wanted to date shares in your belief systems. For the first time, you may question if those beliefs are in your best interest. You may start to weigh the positives and negatives surrounding waiting until wedlock. You may even start to question other beliefs tied into your upbringing including whether getting legally married is even necessary in order to live together and raise children, which are separate beliefs than those about whether or not to have sex. In the end, you may decide to abandon all your previous beliefs. Or you may decide to enter a period of experimentation where you explore your own boundaries to see what works for you. It is also possible, that after careful consideration and challenging your beliefs that you decide that even if you did not seek out those beliefs that were thrust upon you as a child, you do in fact find they reflect your values and intend to stick to them because they are in fact in your best interest. In fact, people who challenge their belief systems (their worldview) tend to have a stronger faith in themselves and their beliefs once they resolve their own doubts about it (a challenge to a belief system may represent a doubt in the belief system). As a dating coach, I am less concerned about the specifics of your worldview — if it already works for you — and more concerned with 1) do you know what your worldview is? 2) Can you articulate it enough to communicate exactly what you mean? and 3) Are you aware of why you have this worldview? If the only reason you choose a vegetarian lifestyle is because all of your friends are vegetarians, then your “why” reflects your actual values (the value of approval and acceptance of your peer group, and not necessarily a value of the benefits of a vegetarian diet). With all that said, the point of this article is that when you date someone and it turns out that your worldview and the worldview of the other person are very different, it is important to remember that it is good to communicate your worldview to give the other person an understanding of it, and it is also good to be open to hearing and trying to understand the worldview of the other person. You do not have to agree with the opposing worldview, you just have to be open to understanding it. The mistake some singles make, is trying to convert the worldview of the person they are dating, instead of either accepting the difference, or simply breaking up with the person and seeking out someone with a similar worldview. If your worldview encompasses a lifestyle focused on a career and personal enjoyment instead of having children and raising a family, well that is OK. If your worldview requires you to have children and raising a family at the expense of career advancement and some personal enjoyment, well that is OK too. One worldview life is not necessarily better than the other. The key is to find someone to date that already shares a similar worldview to your own, and not try to force, trick, shame or guilt a person into living your worldview. Be respectful out there. Frank Kermit
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by Frank Kermit Updated on March 2, 2018 The Bad Times is when your commitment to marriage matters the most. Anyone can keep themselves in check to keep a promise when things are great. You make the decision to be married with someone to remind you of why you made that decision when times are bad. And over the course of a long term relationship things WILL get bad. Even the best relationships have periods where things are less than ideal and those periods could last from days to weeks, months, and even years. Then again, what are 4-5 rough years compared to what a 40 year relationship is suppose to mean? In Good Times, and in Bad, In Sickness and in Health is not just a saying...it is a warning.... It is letting you know what you are signing up for. Can you handle the expectations of marriage that you and your partner agree too when things go bad? If you aren't sure, then you have some homework to do. If you are a couple that wants to get more serious but are worried you will end up divorced, or an individual trying to figure out if you have found the right person, consider signing up for my 12-hour pre-marriage coaching program.  In memory of Hagan  Dog Love Remembering Hagan by David Black Today I am absolutely dejected as I unfortunately had to say goodbye to the best friend I've ever had in my entire life. We had the best 13 years together that any dog and human could ask for, and I wouldn't trade one day of the time we got to spend together. You were intelligent, cunning, brave, loyal. You never needed a leash, you could say human words. You even had a sense of humour, which may sound unbelievable but anyone who knew you knows how smart, present and eerily coherent you always were. I will miss you forever and I will never ever forget you! This really stings, and I'm trying to just keep reminding myself you are in a better place and no longer suffering. You were my entire world and my heart I literally loved you and thought about you as much as any people in my life. You are and always were people too as far as I'm concerned, and I will remember you and miss you and cherish you and the time we spent together as best friends forever. I hope your soul is somewhere, running with people who love you and take care of you and your eating all the pita bread, cheese and pizza you could ever want. Rest in peace Hagan, I'll always love you and you'll always be my Hoogy and my number 1 best buddy.  I Love My Dog Hagan  Sign Up For Coaching  In memory of Merv Williams Remembering Merv Williams by Sheldon Eric Fried I am totally shocked to hear the news about the passing of my friend as well as my former work colleague Merv Williams. I worked with him many years at CJAD, Mix (now Virgin) 96 & CHOM. He had an extraordinary sense of humour & shared many laughs. Merv was also extremely talented and I remembered he would work so many hours at a time. He loved his work at the radio stations and he would always go to bat for the people who knew him and worked with him. Merv is now on stage up above looking at us from heaven and telling us stories that will make us smile and laugh. You will be missed. My deepest sympathies to his family, friends, & loved ones. My heart & thoughts shall be with all of you during this very difficult and painful time. (The funeral) was a very emotional day for many people like myself to pay tribute to a former work colleague, a person with a great sense of humor - the late Shannon Mervyn Williams whose life had been taken away way too early as we gathered all together and said goodbye to him one last time. There were many people who had spoken about Merv; some had amusing stories, while others had sad ones. The turnout was incredible as the hall was filled to capacity of people - many from CJAD, Virgin 96, & CHOM. It was a tribute to a wonderful Human being. It was nice to catch up with one another however, hopefully in the future, will be under better occasions. There were many stories told and shared by all of us if Shannon. I was proud to work with a dedicated, humorous, and down to earth individual who never had a bad word to say about anyone. To everyone in Shannon Mervyn Williams' family, thank you for allowing us to get to know him and having the opportunity to work with him. Thank you also for allowing all of us to all come together and pay tribute one last time in honour of the late Shannon Mervyn Williams - forever in our hearts and thoughts. R. I. P! Rest In Peace my good friend!  Sign Up For Coaching  Seek a life partner that has a compatible life plan to yours Planning the rest of your life together by Frank Kermit When I sit down with a couple for Pre Marital Coaching, which is working with a couple who are getting ready to move to the next step in their relationship, one of the questions I always ask them is what do they have planned for the rest of their lives together? Whether you are moving in together buying property together having a child together getting married getting engaged one of the key elements towards success is having a life plan and then checking to make sure that your individual life plans are actually compatible. I have seen couples, who were very much in love but had very incompatible life plans. Where one person wanted 2 children in the next 5 years and the other did not want children at all. Where one person wanted to eventually move to Japan and the other person wanted to move to Brazil Where one person wanted to retire together to Florida and the other person refused ever stop working Where one person needed to spend the next 4 years traveling to a different continent for a unique and specific graduate education in a niche industry and the other person was running out of time to start a family So, if you want to have a successful marriage that will last long term and withstand the status of separation and divorce get your life plan in order. Know what you need to know for your life plan and find a partner that has a life plan that is compatible with yours.  Ex-Lovers and Wedding Guest List
by Frank Kermit, Updated on March 2, 2018 During my couples coaching sessions, one of the topics of discussion that tends to come up is the wedding list of guests. One of the questions I ask is: Have either one of you had an intimate relationship with any guests, that your partner (the one who is marrying you) does not know about? I think the majority of couples would be surprised by just how often it turns out that some of the wedding guests turn out to be secret past lovers of either member of the couple getting married, that the other partner did not know. What turns out to be worse, is when that secret lover, actually made it to the actual wedding party (either a bridesmaid, or an usher/groomsman) Sometimes, having someone who has a sexual past with a wedding partner attend your wedding as a guest can be taken as an insult to the other wedding partner. Usually, the invitation of a past lover to a wedding can be handled, but it is the secretive nature of the information that causes the bigger issue. The other partner starts to wonder what other information has not been volunteered that will continued to be "hidden" until the correct direction question is asked. That is no way to start a wedding guest list. As a general rule, ex-lovers and weddings do not mix. And in the event one of your secret ex-lovers has been invited to your wedding make sure you TELL YOUR PARTNER The worst thing that can happen, is that the information is reveal at the wedding, when everyone is celebrating and secrets come out unintentionally. It is a time people become emotionally, and sometimes intoxicated, which always spells trouble for secret-keeping. I have seen this happen from direct experience and those of my client base. Plan for your wedding to be spectacular, not a spectacle. If you are a couple that wants to get more serious but are worried you will end up divorced, or an individual trying to figure out if you have found the right person, consider signing up for my 12-hour pre-marriage coaching program.  Coping with Loss at a Wedding Remembering the Dead at a Wedding by Frank Kermit Sometimes, couples who marry want to do something at the wedding in memory of the people who passed away. This happens, especially when the death was recent. At my wedding, my wife and I did a little ceremony at the reception where we lit a candle and read an inscription, announcing it was in memory of various relatives that had died, who would have wanted to attend. It was very short, but it did bring us come comfort, and it was also comforting to some of the attendees who were still in mourning. We all cope with loss differently. It is important for the wedding couple to also remember, that not everyone will appreciate your efforts to pay tribute to your lost loved ones. One of the biggest mistakes I see people make, is they try to tell someone else that how they grieve is wrong. For example, this story is of a wedding I attended: A father dies a few months before his son is set to be married. At the wedding, a special tribute is made in honor of the late father. The groom and his mom dance to a song that was in memory of his dad. All the guests were invited on the dance floor to circle them. Then it happened... at one point, the groom and his mom started to cry a little. It was not a hysterical cry at all, but the tears were evident. Everyone around them formed into a circle continued to move to the music. ...except one man. He started to raise his voice to tell the DJ to stop the music. He was an uncle in the family, and felt that the song and tribute was making them cry and that it was wrong. So he made a fool of himself trying to stop the tribute. Luckily, the DJ and the rest of the guests ignored him. The uncle was not comfortable with seeing, or dealing with, grief. He tried to "protect" everyone else from grief as well. That was the worst thing he could have done, and lucky for everyone at the wedding, the DJ was smart enough not to listen to him. Make sure that you let the DJ, or other wedding professionals involved know about any potential trouble-makers, and let the wedding professionals also know exactly what your wishes are in case a wedding guest decides to act out. If you can predict who might be the kind of person to act out, at your wedding, it might be a good idea to let that person know ahead of time what you are planning. This is not about getting that person's permission. It is more about letting that person know, so the shock of surprise in combination of the grief and mourning does not motivate that person into doing something that will turn your wedding from spectacular to a spectacle. -Frank Kermit
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