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Finding Your Confidence Once Again

11/23/2021

Unfortunately, you might be like a good chunk of the population and be struggling with your confidence and self-esteem. This is okay and usually, nothing to worry about, it happens to the best of us. Occasionally, problems with confidence and self-esteem can lead to more serious issues such as anxiety and depression. If you want to avoid this happening then take a look at this article for some helpful tips.

Meet People

If you are struggling with your confidence then getting out with your loved ones or those close to you is a great way to distract yourself. Distraction is key to not thinking about why you have lost your confidence. It may be due to a previous toxic relationship, these can be very draining and what has been said sticks with you for a while. Going out with your family and friends can prove to you that you are loved and wanted, leading to a huge boost in your confidence levels.

If you are wanting to find new interesting people to meet then why not listen to a dating-themed podcast for young professionals. This will give you some top tips about how to act with people and how to carry on that relationship after the first date.

New Hair

If you feel like your loss of confidence has been caused by your hair then there are ways to fix this. This is an immediate fix and can instantly make you feel better. You can style it differently at home or you can add a splash of colour if you fancy a change. There are plenty of box dyes that you can get your hands on if you don’t fancy venturing out to the salon.

If you do want to visit a hair salon then hairdressers are very adept at transforming people. When you look in the mirror you will see a whole new person. Think about what you want, maybe even show the hairdresser a couple of pictures and they will have an idea about what to do.

They can completely change up your hair, you might have long luscious hair but want it short. They will cut it and style it into a short bob or other short hairstyle. You can also get it coloured the way you want at a salon. Go big and bold, show the world you have nothing to hide.

Updated Wardrobe

Finally, if you open your wardrobe every morning and are faced with the same dread at not being able to find anything to wear then you are not alone. This is a common occurrence in households. You might have outgrown your current style so you no longer feel comfortable in what you wear. This is another quick and easy fix. Take a visit to the local store and see what you can get your hands on. You could even take advantage of the local personal shopper service. This is where the assistant listens to what you want to wear and brings you different outfits to try on.

The great thing about a personal shopper service is there is absolutely no pressure to buy what they bring you. You can try it on and decide if it is for you, if not simply hand it back. They will go to all lengths to make you happy and leave with some new clothes for a new you.

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Ways to Make you Look and Feel Better

11/23/2021

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If you suffer from a lack of self-confidence, then it is important that you find ways to start looking and feeling more attractive. The way you feel about yourself is inextricably linked to the way you look. It doesn’t matter who you are. You can do many things to become a much better version of yourself. Increasing your self-confidence will have a knock-on effect across the who of your life. It may improve your career prospects, your love life, and your family life as well as making it more likely that you will step outside your comfort zone. So, lets a have a look at some easy you can look and feel better.

Increasing Your Self Confidence Benefits Many Areas Of Your Life

Physical Activity

If you want to look and feel better, then you really should start by increasing your level of exercise. Exercise has such a major impact on how we feel that if it could be bottled and sold, it would be. Exercise increases the amount of a chemical in the body called endorphins which enable us to feel happy. Exercise also physically makes you look better. It allows you to lose weight and tone your muscles. You can use it alongside things such as shredded af to maximize fat loss. Physical activity can also boost our immune system, so if you are one that is prone to illness, than you really should start to embrace that treadmill.

Pep Talk

Instead of focusing on the negative in your life and constantly repeating those in your head, give yourself a pep talk instead. You should point out all the good things about yourself to yourself, and this will give you an extra boost. If you focus on positive qualities and give them attention, you will find that you become happier. You will become less withdrawn, and other people will start to notice. It is all about how you view yourself. So, big yourself up and focus on the positives. We all have them.

Your Wardrobe

A great way to boost how you feel is to go out and buy yourself a new wardrobe. If there is a job you want to go for, why not dress the part. How you dress will have a huge impact on how other people view you. If you dress up in a suit, or some nice jeans and a jumper you give a great first impression. Dress shabbily, and people will see you as shabby.

Cut Out Toxicity

There is usually someone in your life that manages to bring you down and make you feel worse after you have seen them. These people dwell on the negative and never see anything positive. They will moan and bicker. Well, maybe it is about time you cut that person from your life. If you want to feel better, you need to find people who bring you up and stick around someone who keeps you down in the dumps. If you can manage to cut out toxicity from your life, you will begin to feel freer and happier as a result.

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Reasons The Intimacy Has Gone In Your Relationship

11/15/2021

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If the fire has gone from your relationship, you may be worried that this means your relationship is coming to an end. Or, you may simply assume that this is a natural progression that starts to happen when we get older. However, it does not need to be this way. While a lot of couples can reach a point where the intimacy stops, there is often a valid reason for this. With that being said, we’re going to take a look at some of the different reasons why the intimacy may end in a relationship.

There Are Many Reasons Why Intimacy Stops In Relationships

Exhaustion - This is one of the main reasons why a lot of couples stop having fun in the bedroom. We all lead very busy lives in this day and age, and they seem to be getting more and more hectic all of the time. Between taking care of children and working, sex ends up being very low on the list of priorities. If you do not have any energy left, it is going to be a lot harder to have sex.
Being afraid of what you or your partner may say - You may have reached a point whereby you are scared about revealing your desires or you are scared that your partner’s desires may not match up with your own or that they may not find you attractive anymore. Whether you want to add some sex toys and natural personal lubricant to the mix, or you want to try something even more adventurous, you won’t know how your partner is going to respond to this until you bring it up with them.
Discomfort during sex - This can be applicable to anyone but it tends to be more common in females as they get older. A lot of women are concerned with pain during sex and dryness. However, rather than discussing this or getting to the bottom of this, they simply decide to start avoiding sex altogether. However, you should not be embarrassed. Book an appointment with your gynaecologist.
Not feeling good about your body - Last but not least, your body might have changed. Maybe you’ve put on some weight or you’re feeling unhappy about getting older. No matter what the reason may be, hardly anyone who feels negative about their body wants to get naked, especially if they feel like their partner has seen them looking a lot better. However, you will often find that this issue is one that is more in your head rather than being something that your partner cares about.

As you can see, there are a lot of different reasons why couples start to lose intimacy in their relationship. However, this does not mean that it is lost forever. The first place to start is by understanding why the intimacy stopped, to begin with. Once you understand this, you can then start to take the steps that are required to get the fire back into your life.

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The Misunderstood: Mental Disorders

11/13/2021

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"It is not unusual for people with mental conditions to be treated as though they are different or even "crazy." Mental disorders are severe medical conditions that affect millions of men, women, and children worldwide. Yet because of stigma, prejudice, and discrimination, many people live in silence about their mental health problems. World statistics indicate that 300 million people suffer from depression worldwide, which is only the people diagnosed. As a result, most mental conditions are misunderstood. Many of these conditions are caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and can be treated with medication and therapy. People who suffer from these disorders can be given tools to cope with the disorder and lead a normal life. With the help of a psychiatrist and a strong support system of people who are willing to educate themselves on these conditions, most people can successfully be treated.

Most People Can Be Successfully Treated

Bipolar Disorder

It has been referred to as "Manic Depression," which is inaccurate because it does not accurately describe what Bipolar Disorder entails. Bipolar disorder causes shifts in moods between depression and mania. This can happen daily or weekly instead of just once or twice per year, like the "once in a while" version of Manic Depression would suggest.People who are bipolar may also experience periods with no symptoms, often called euthymia or wellness. This can be extremely confusing for the individual because there is nothing to differentiate between being well and not-well other than looking back on past behavior compared with current behavior.

-Mania is a state in which the individual feels exceedingly happy and excited about life, almost to the point of feeling invincible. During these periods, it can be difficult for friends or family members to get through because they are often met with irritability, impatience, stubbornness - you name it! The person experiencing mania may also feel like they are on top of the world, with an increased sex drive and decreased need for sleep.
-The depressive state is often filled with hopelessness, lack of motivation or interest in activities that would generally bring joy to them, irritability towards friends/family members (even if they're trying their hardest), along with significant changes in appetite.

Gender Identity Dysphoria

A condition in which an individual feels that they are not the gender they were born with. The disorder causes significant distress and problems functioning because of these feelings. People with this disorder often feel like "outcasts" and may even attempt suicide. An estimated one in 30,000 males and one in 100,000 females seek treatment for the condition. This might be the most controversial disorder as many people disagree on how a child with this disorder should be treated. Some treatment options for this condition include hormone replacement therapy or gender reassignment surgery. Other methods may consist of psychiatric help and medication.

An interesting study on My Transgender Blog has found that transwomen are three times more likely to come out than transmen. Overall, the study found that transwomen come out at a younger age compared to transmen. This study also showed that transgender people often first come out to their mothers and friends, and one out of 10 people want to tell their spouses first. Many transgender people reported that it is not as bad coming out as they thought, but many people also noted that there are negative consequences to coming out.
Overall many transgender people are afraid that people will reject them when they come out, but this study shows that a lot of people have a positive experience.

Sex Addiction

Sex addiction is another disorder that has until recently been misunderstood by society. Sex addiction symptoms may include obsessive sexual thoughts, sexual fantasies, urges to act out sexually, and compulsive behavior with multiple sexual partners. In addition, people suffering from this disorder lie to cover behavior. Sex addiction can have debilitating effects that interfere with sufferers' daily lives, like their jobs and family. People suffering from sex addiction might also endanger themselves for sexual gratification and feel guilty after such sexual experiences.

Although no consensus exists on what constitutes addiction or how it should be defined, some research suggests that the brain responses seen in people with addictions are similar to those linked with other disorders, including alcoholism and drug abuse.
Sex addiction requires specialized treatment to overcome the disease and attend a sex rehab center where therapists have experience treating sex addicts with cognitive behavioral therapy techniques specifically designed to treat sex addiction.

Dissociative Personality Disorder

Previously known as multiple personality disorder. People diagnosed with this mental disorder have experienced a separation of the mind and often switch between two or more personalities that control their behavior.
Dissociative Identity Disorder is not just having different personas but being unable to recall personal information because these experiences are so deeply repressed. As a result, it is not uncommon for someone who has this disorder to experience blackouts.
Treatment can be complex because the patient has to integrate all of their personalities into one. This is done through hypnosis and psychoanalysis, which can take years, but it helps bring together aspects of personality that were once separate.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

It is characterized as a "pervasive pattern" of grandiosity, or in other words, an inflated sense of self-importance and entitlement. People with this disorder often seek excessive attention. They crave admiration even when it is not given. They feel entitled to special treatment and often exploit and manipulate others to get what they want while ignoring social norms or rules of conduct.

The critical thing to remember about people with narcissistic personality disorder is that they are not "bad" or intentionally acting out. Instead, NPD often suffers immensely because of it and frequently feels deep shame, guilt, and remorse for their behavior towards others, even if it is not intentional. They also often suffer from depression and anxiety and may abuse drugs or alcohol to cope with these feelings. Treatment options for people with NPD typically involve psychotherapy, in which the therapist helps identify and understand problem areas while also encouraging positive behavior through reinforcement.

The fact is that mental disorders are still very misunderstood by the general public, even today. There is a great deal of stigma associated with these issues. People can be incredibly judgmental about it without prior knowledge or experience regarding what they are talking about. This lack of understanding often leads to exclusion rather than inclusion for those struggling with a mental disorder. It can make the person feel as though they are alone and that nobody understands what they are going through, which is not always true. People need to talk about their struggles openly to see how much support exists from those around them. Mental disorders do not discriminate; anyone of any race, gender, age, or socioeconomic status can be affected by one. The sooner people understand this and start changing their views on mental disorders, the better it will become for those struggling.

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Ways To Support Friends And Family Who Identify As LGBTQ

11/13/2021

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There are many ways to support friends and family members who identify as LGBTQ. Whether you are coming out yourself, supporting a partner or child, or just looking for resources to help someone in your life, there is always something that can be done. This blog post will explore ways people can show their love and understanding for their LGBTQ friends and family members.

Learning Is Empowering

Educate Yourself!

First, you can learn about the LGBTQ community. The more people know about what it means to be gay or transgender, the better they will understand their loved ones and friends who are members of this community. Learning is empowering, so get together with your family member or friend for a grab-and-go lunch where they can fill you in on all the latest information and research or read a book together.

Educating yourself will show that you value your loved one's identity and want to learn more about it. It would help if you also did some research into what steps would be helpful for people who are coming out - whether they're still figuring things out themselves or are ready to come out and be open about their identity.

Provide Resources

Another way that you can support your loved ones is by providing resources for them, especially if they are new to the LGBTQ community. One excellent resource is PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays). The organization has chapters all over the country with professional counselors available to help with coming out or being an ally. Another resource is The Trevor Project, which has a 24/seven hotline for young people who identify as LGBTQ and might be in crisis. Giving your loved ones resources like these can make it easier for them to come out if they want to or feel better about their identity.

Know And Understand Their Challenges

Being a supportive friend or family member means understanding their challenges and making sure they're aware that you will support them all the way. The first step is simply lending an ear and asking them how you can help if anything at all. Make it clear from the beginning that your support will always be unconditional and non-judgmental.

My Transgender Blog recently posted an educational and interesting article about the transgender community and on the coming-out experience of transwomen. This blog is educational and can teach you about the fears and excitement of coming out and revealing yourself to friends and family. The study has found that transwomen are three times more likely to come out than transmen. Overall, the study found that transwomen come out at a younger age compared to transmen. The study also showed that transgender people often first come out to their mothers and friends, and one out of 10 people want to tell their spouses first. Many transgender people reported that it is not as bad coming out as they thought, but many people also noted negative consequences. However, overall the study showed that despite many people's fears of coming out, most people had a positive experience.

Avoid Making Assumptions

Another good step is to avoid making assumptions about their experiences or being too curious. This can set the wrong tone for what you're trying to accomplish all together - which is helping them through a difficult time. So take care not to make presumptions about the challenges they face in everyday life - and resist the urge to ask too many questions about their past experiences. This is especially important when it comes to asking personal questions that they may not feel comfortable answering right away, or ever at all. So let them do most of the talking in these conversations - and don't pressure them into sharing more than they're ready for if you sense discomfort.

Send A Message Of Support To Your Loved One

Another way that you can support your loved one who is new to the LGBTQ community is by sending them messages of hope and love! For example, you might write something along these lines: "I want you to know that no matter what happens with your coming out journey, you will always have me. I love and care about you so much." Also, if your friend is not out to their family members yet but might be soon, let them know that they can tell their family when and how they feel comfortable and safe doing so.

Be Patient When Discussing Identity

When talking about their identity, it's important to remember that this is an ongoing process. Some have been through the journey for a while now, and there are others still exploring what they want out of life in terms of sexual orientation or gender expression - so be patient with them both when discussing these issues. Remember that this is their journey to take at their own pace. As a friend or family member of someone who identifies as LGBTQ, you can help by simply listening - ask questions if you want to know more but do not press the person if they are hesitant to share.

If you have questions about their identity or how it affects them, remember that this is a safe space for your friend/family member, so feel free to ask - but know the context in which these conversations occur. For example, if someone has just come out and is still processing what being LGBTQ means to them, it may not be the best time to ask these questions.

Talking About Identity With Children

Children might still be in the process of discovery, but letting them know you are there and open to talking to them about it will make them feel comfortable exploring and coming to terms with whatever they decide. Therefore, there is no wrong time to bring this up, and it's okay if the conversation takes a little while before you broach the topic of sexuality or gender.

If they ask questions about sexual orientation and gender identity, answer them as simply as possible without going into too much depth for now. If your child seems confused by this, they may be too young to understand the topic thoroughly, and you can tell them that they don't need to know everything right now. It's okay for your child not to care about their sexual orientation or gender identity at a younger age; it's perfectly normal for someone to wait until their teenage years before figuring these things out.

LGBTQ people of all ages and experiences need support from their friends and family, especially those just beginning this journey. They will likely face a lot more adversity than someone with years of experience. So if you want to help your friend or family member feel supported, listen to what they are going through and be there for them.

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Let's Talk About Your Wedding: Choosing The Rings

11/9/2021

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You've gotten engaged! Congratulations! Choosing an engagement ring, or even a wedding band, is now the exciting part of the process. Whether you're looking for engagement or wedding rings, we've got all the information you need.

When Purchasing Wedding Rings Remember Your Budget!

Diamond

Finding the ideal diamond for your preferences is something that many people take for granted. Diamonds come in a variety of colours, sizes, and shapes. It's important that the one you pick is one that you'll cherish for the rest of your life. Examine your options and decide if you want a perfect diamond that dazzles and wows, or whether you'd be content with a quaint little gem on your finger. Keep in mind that immaculate diamonds will almost certainly set you back an extortionate amount.

Size

We know, it's a very obvious thing to consider. On the other hand, people sometimes choose rings that are somewhat bigger in order to avoid the possibility of getting their finger stuck. Make an appointment to get your wedding ring finger properly measured. Many jewellery stores will do this for you at no cost, but keep a note of your size if you aren't planning on purchasing from that particular store. Keep in mind that you may get your ring adjusted if it becomes too little or too big for your finger. You can order a ring measurement tool if you’re choosing to buy your rings online. Brilliant Earth can send one to you for free to measure your fingers before ordering.

Colour

Consider the colour of your wedding bands before venturing out to find your wedding rings. Do you want your engagement ring to be accompanied by a classic gold ring? Would you prefer to have your ring made of white gold or platinum, which you can flaunt proudly on your ring finger? Platinum, on the other hand, is significantly more costly than gold.

Personalisation

When a couple becomes engaged, they might have a personal statement or phrase inscribed on the inside of their wedding band. If this is something you're interested in, talk to your jeweller about how much it would cost to have this done for you and your spouse. Remember that the wording or message must be brief enough to fit in a ring while still having meaning for you. "I love you" is a frequent choice.

Cost

The cost of your wedding rings has been covered briefly throughout this piece. Before you go shopping for your engagement rings, make sure you and your partner have agreed on a budget. Set a limit for yourself that you will not be able to exceed. This way, you may specify your pricing range to the jeweller and choose from their selection. Alternatively, if you want to shop online, you may input your maximum price and browse the options.

That concludes the complete guide on purchasing wedding/engagement rings. Remember that you'll be proudly wearing your rings for the rest of your life, so even if you're on a budget, why not go all out and get each other wonderful rings to honour your love?

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