The Friends-With-Benefits Quiz Question # 1
by Frank Kermit
Let me start by saying that this information about how to manage a Friends-With-Benefits is an excerpt of my coaching workbooks for women and for men.
Sometimes people might want to answer "A. As Often as Possible" because they figure that it is like getting "free" sex and they should take as much as they can. That does seem reasonable.
Sometimes people might want to answer "B. 2-3 Times a Week" because they figure, it is just like dating someone anyways and they want to enjoy themselves with their lover and it gives them time to see their friends-with-benefits lover AND still have time to go out, do their errands, and have time to themselves. That does seem reasonable too.
Sometimes people might want to answer "C. Every Weekend" because they figure the person is just a friends-with-benefits and they have busy lives, but that they should be willing to commit to meeting every weekend so that neither one has to date anyone else so they can have guaranteed sex, and a guaranteed plan for the weekend, and no one ends up lonely. That does seem reasonable as well.
Sometime people might want to answer "D. Once a Week, Or Less" because they figure that a friends-with-benefits is not a serious commitment sex partner, and that they want to enjoy the benefits, but still keep a proper emotional distance.
These are ALL REASONABLE INTERPRETATIONS.
But there is only ONE RIGHT ANSWER
The Answer is D. Once a Week, Or Less
A proper FWB relationship means you only see each other once a week. Twice a week on occasion if you plan a special getaway.
One of the biggest mistakes that partners make in FWB is that they try to see each other as often as they can in a short time period. All this will do is confuse the issue.
Seeing each other more than once a week is acting like more serious relationship than it is, and can nurture romantic feelings to develop.
If you act like you are more than just a FWB, you can expect one or both partners to start feeling, wanting or expecting more from each other
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