What You HATE Most About Dating

What You Hate Most About Dating

What You Hate Most About Dating, And What You Can Do About It
by Frank Kermit

In anticipation of appearing on the radio program Passion with Dr. Laurie Betito for the monthly feature Dating Dilemmas, I posted a question on Social Media, asking:

WHAT DO YOU HATE MOST ABOUT DATING?

The results were very interesting.

Some complaints were very common and came up often.

Other people brought up some unique points of interest, that made for great discussion.

So, we took some of those suggestions and talked about it on air during the radio show.

Unfortunately, there was not enough time to cover ALL the complaints that came up,

So, here is the youtube video of the entire radio show for you all to check out:

And just because the complaints were so amazing, I posted a number of them here:

Playing hard to get, taking time to respond, hot & cold thinking it'll make the guy more interested.
-R.

People who feign interest in another person with no intention of following through to boost their own ego. example: When a woman tells a man she wants to see his new place. Then the man tries to set up a time to make that happen and the woman suddenly stops responding or says she was just kidding.
-J

Being In Love with a Female Friend, that will not give me a chance after knowing me for years. I ask her out and she says that she does not want to ruin the friendship. Like, we are going to have a friendship after she rejects me!
-Friendzoned

I give too much to other people, and all I get is taken advantage of. Does anyone even want to get into a relationship anymore?
-People-Pleaser

A long time friend will reject you for a date, unless you approach her in this way!

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It's tilted in favour of women.
-Male

I've always felt dating favoured men or was easier for men.
-Female

Mostly they like you and you don't like them. Or vice versa
-T

People who don't seem to know what they want or can't express it.
-L

In person: Flakes. Getting them to actually meet up. Having a connection when you meet and then never want to meet up. Playing games or misleading you.
-A

Online wise: catfish, old pictures or angled shots that don't truly represent what they look like, girls who judge based on attributes you can't change when your honest. Girls who expect you to be their sugar daddy and support them and their 20 kids you had no part in creating
-A

It's the finding someone you want to date that I find annoying. At my age, late 40's, I find it obviously a lot harder to meet people than when I was in my 30's.
-M

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I miss the old fashioned dating...where you get to know each other face to face and have communication and not the texting kind . Where you go on a date and if it goes well you go on another. Now a days it's just so complicated and impersonal and they want to do everything backwards.
-S

When married men say they are divorced and after your first date it's we are separated but still live in the same house ...just waiting for the house to sell
-M

Date went well, until he told me about his girlfriend 😒 ... why accept the date if you've got a girlfriend? Yes he said it was an open relationship. Maybe theirs is, but I'm not. Monogamy is the only way for me.
-K

approach anxiety, when women pressure for monogamy, when erectile dysfunction happens
-T

Finding out the guy lied or has another girlfriend
-M

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Girls who expect the guy to always pay for everything.
-J

The phrase, "shall we split this?"
-P

I had a guy asked me to go on a date to a nice restaurant then he actually said he doesn't have money to pay for the dinner when we about to left, so I spent quite a lot that time. Then he dare to asked for another trip to cinema after I just paid for everything. I don't mean that man should pay for things but he was being rude and asked me to pay for him on a first date. He also ordered an expensive meal.
-W

When you date someone, treat them like a queen, respect etc but they eventually choose the bad boy type that treats them like garbage all the while telling you how wonderful you are. Apparently respect and kindness is not exciting anymore
-N

This was my complaint before I met my perfect match: Getting punished for treating women well, getting rewarded for doing the opposite, and the damage it did to my personality until I realized it, and until I got lucky enough to meet someone who isn't like that.
-T

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The amount of time and effort needed in order to find someone who is worth the time. Going on a first date is awful. I prefer job interviews. Then there's the waiting game... who calls whom? When? The expectation of physical intimacy on date 3 even though you may only have a total of 9 hours spent together. The head games... "I had a great time- let's do this again" and never calls.
-A

Having to tell some stranger your life story...again.
-I

Manipulation (push/pull and other coercive tactics), games, girls who play games, the immaturity, deception, feeding egos, dysfunctions, agendas/ulterior motives, affairs, lack of ethics, principles, morals, integrity, respect, the need to have things happen quickly, etc. It's a social construct that existed ever since the sexual revolution...It's done more harm than good by corrupting those involved...the generation of our grandparents did things right. Media has sold the false notion of propaganda through bad boy/girl images, fantasies, etc. The general public bought into it. Real life is completely different. Reality can make or break things or people.
-L

How to expand on the stories of your life, without lying, and presenting yourself in the best possible way for attraction

How To Get More Social with Friends and Dating, and Network in Friendly Ways

trying to start dating again at the age of 50
-J

Finding a babysitter. I've had a guy get angry because I couldn't have my son watched
-M

I hate having to shower three times a day.
-C

I hate that dating feels alienating. Like I'm never good enough. Not attractive enough or successful enough. Like I have to be a perfect specimen.
-J

The implied notion that a woman is considered a 'slut' if she goes to bed with a man too early (even though many men deny that they think that way).
-T

Getting your hopes up before a date, thinking they may actually have potential and then being disappointed.
-T

My wife finding out
-F

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Hate Most? Actually trying to GET THAT 1ST DATE! I'm a Tv & Movie Extra at 57, with a long beard and long hair. Most women won't even talk to me unless I shave. If I do, then they will consent to give me a date. but I will have to FORGET ABOUT GETTING A JOB! I'm still the SAME person, aren't I?
-J

What I always hated about dating were expectations on either (or both) sides. There is no need to "get" anywhere. There is only being nice to each other. (IMHO)
-F

It's much like job hunting. Tell to much to soon and you risk scaring them away.
-N

You are judged by your looks and your material possessions.
-R

dating is too serious and i find that people lack a sense of humour and adventure
-D

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