Juicing and Dating for Men by Olivier Langlois Picture this: You invite your sweetheart for a romantic evening at your place. You put some romantic music. You adjust the lights. Everything is going to amazing and you start to anticipate the beautiful moment that you are going to share together. Maybe you even start to feel your heart pounding with excitement. You know what is it that would surprise your sexy girlfriend and put some spices in this magical evening? Some exotic and aphrodisiac fruit juice that will enhance the physical sensations of both of you during your lovemaking session and I happen to know few recipes in that area. Who am I to have such knowledge? I have written 4 juicing recipe books to improve several aspects of men sexual health from low testosterone to erectile dysfunction. I write a weekly newsletter to provide juicing and general health advice for men to my members and I also have a very nice YouTube channel where I have a lot of fun sharing wisdom with my viewers on the topic of juicing. Surprisingly, juices that can help increase sexual pleasure for men. The results are so powerful. Now that you have been warned, if you want to have a very hot evening with your girl continue to read on... I'm going to assume that the majority of guys that will be ready this have little or no experience with juicing so I am going to share in this post a recipe that is very simple and at the same time very potent. The main ingredient is ginger. Ginger is a powerful aphrodisiac that has been used for centuries. One of the reasons for this, it is that it improves blood flow and improved blood flow in the genital area will: Improve erections and make them harder Increase sensations in genitals ultimately, amplify orgasms Here is the Pear Ginger juice: Ingredients: 5g of fresh ginger (5 thin slices) 1 pear 6 red grapes The pear contains some vitamin B which contributes to testosterone production. The red grape, the pear and the fresh ginger contain a lot of antioxidants helping the body to eliminate toxins. Directions: Put all the ingredients into a blender with a cup of water. Blend of 30 seconds. Strain the juice with a strainer if a clear juice is desired. You can see me doing this juice on Youtube at: and here is another more recent aphrodisiac juice that I created more recently: sex enhancing pokemon juice: Have fun and let me how your romantic juicing experiences went... -Olivier Langlois http://olivierhealthtips.com/
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Do Not Talk About Sex if You Are an Adult Male Virgin by Frank Kermit Helping Adult Male Virgins (AMV) who want to find their first girlfriend to have sex with is specialization in my coaching practice Here is a Quick Tip for Adult Male Virgins Do NOT Talk about Sex. You are a virgin, and you might end up saying something that presents you in a really negative way. Just like the main character in the movie The 40 Year Old Virgin, he was found out when he tried to talk about something he had no experience in (remember the bags of sand line?) My AMV coaching clients are often surprised to learn that some of the statements they make casual to their friends and associates reveal just how inexperienced AMVs can be, not only for sex, but for dating and relationships as well. If you have ever made negative statements about sex (Ewwww! That's disgusting), or innocently asked questions such as "Why would people do that?" when talking about what seems to you to be a futile sex act, or remarking how something "Isn't really important", those people around you are spotting your inexperience. Unlucky for you, they are also likely too polite to call you on it. Which means, you continue to go about your business, never knowing what they really think they know about you: that you are a virgin. Simply put, people who have had sex, can spot you without you knowing it. One of the ways you can limit this, is that you just do not talk about sex. When someone tries to get you to talk about sex, here is what you can do: Just tell everyone that there are certain things you do not talk about or discuss publicly and sex is one of them. Then make sure YOU STICK TO IT! That also means no sex jokes too. Yeah, it may not be fun. However, if your goal is to lose your virginity, it is one of the best strategies you can apply. On two separate occasions, Frank Kermit got to interview Steve P. Steve P is the creator of White Tiger Tantra, a sensual enhancement system that can help take any women to her next level of releasing the flood gates of ecstasy. Many women who thought they were anorgasmic* were able to have the life changing experience of achieving full body, multiple and sustained orgasms. *Anorgasmia is a type of sexual dysfunction in which a person cannot achieve orgasm despite adequate stimulation. Anorgasmia can often cause sexual frustration. Frank Interviews Steve P (Part 1) April 2009 Steve P UNCENSORED. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about his upbringing, losing his virginity, his polyamorous lifestyle over the years, his current hermetic circle of lovers, the seduction community past and present, his White Tiger Tantra squirting instructional DVDs, what to do if a woman has a strong emotional reaction during an orgasmic squirting experience, and more.This interview is a no holds barred account of Steve P by Steve P himself! Any offensive dialogue was neither edited nor censored. Steve P was mentioned as a key figurehead in "The Game", a book by Neil Strauss and now get up close and personal details from the man himself. Frank Interviews Steve P (Part 2) February 2009 Steve P UNCENSORED II. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about the Seduction Community. In this interview we cover the history of the founding of the seduction community, building deeper levels of rapport and communication, the difference between openly dating multiple women vs cheating, how to spot the girls in the clubs who are interested in being picked up and where to go to find them, goal setting: pick up vs long term relationships, the importance of finding and choosing a mentor, respecting past mentors, emulate vs imitate, how to be a good student, the difference between women who are Bi-curious and Bi-sexual, Female Orgasm and the power to give her full body orgasm, protecting a woman's reputation and privacy, alpha males, blocking and going for someone's else girl, The Instant Guru Scams and seduction-fly-by-night companies, managing a seduction lairs and re-establishing seduction brotherhood, spotting givers and takers, along with brief stories involving Hypnotica, Zan, and Johnny Soporno. The Sex Bible for People Over 50 By Dr. Laurie Betito To Order a Copy of this book right now Click Here About The Author: Dr. Laurie is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist with a specialty in Sex Therapy, and has been a practicing Psychotherapist for over 25 years. Her professional activities and experiences are diverse. More than 25 years ago, she began a career in radio when, as a co-host, she joined the team of MIX 96 in Montreal; a station that broke barriers when it introduced a call-in show (The Love Line), airing once per week, all about sex and relationships. In 1999, she joined CJAD 800 with her own talk show (this time nightly), once again about sex and relationships. This show, "PASSION", has soared to take the number one position in its time slot, and it is the only show of its kind on Montreal airwaves. NEW! The Sex Bible For People Over 50: The Complete Guide To Sexual Love For Mature Couples Author Dr. Laurie Betito gives readers techniques for reconnecting with their partners, bringing experimentation in long-term sexual relationships, and tips on how to handle sex and dating post-50. Frank Kermit was quoted in this book for his: Frank Romance Formula. The Show: Concept and Mission Conferences, resources, information, leisure and activities adapted to the lifestyles of singles 25 and over. More people than ever before are choosing to be part of an expanding social phenomenon that is living the single life. According to the last Quebec census1, more than one-third (36%) of the population between the ages of 25 and 75 live without a partner. These figures make up almost 1.7 million people in Quebec, half of which lives in the Greater Montreal region. The Solo Lifestyle Show is a unique event, tailored for those who are not in a romantic relationship and wish to feel fulfilled and enhance their lives as individuals... and we are talking about close to half the population! The lifestyle, needs, and concerns of these free spirits are quite different from those living as part of a couple. For instance, single parents raising their children will encounter different problems than those who are in a "traditional" nuclear family. Therefore, the Show's mission is to bring together a wealth of resources to address this modern reality. Visitors will also benefit from more than 10 entertaining conferences presented by leading experts in their field about issues arising in not only their personal but also romantic lives. Despite the more serious topics discussed, the Show will dedicate a portion of its programs to more playful topics such as leisure, travel, and activities now available exclusively to Singles. They won't have an excuse anymore to mope around at home without a partner! Of course, even if it's important to take charge of one's life and not wait for Cupid to come around, it can't hurt to give him a helping hand. Dating services will be on site to help Singles find their special someone. Whether or not they're looking for the love of their life, visitors will leave with many tools and resources to help them reach their life's goals. The Solo Lifestyle Show will, without a doubt, be a great selling platform for all service and goods providers who cater to the Singles population. 1-Data on marital status taken from the 2006 Census conducted by the Institut de la statistique du Quebec, applied to projections for 2011. Definition of a Single Person: A person not in a romantic relationship; separated, divorced, widowed, or never married Frank Kermit lectures on Managing Friends with Benefits Date: February 14, 2014, Title: Frank Kermit keynote speaker at the Living Solo Show at Place Bonaventure Frank Kermit was asked to present a talk on Managing The Risks of Friends With Benefits at the Living Solo Show at Place Bonaventure G. L. Henderson is an award-winning author and in his acclaimed work, "The Fantasy Master" he asks the question, "At what price are you willing to pay to have a Fantasy? Are you willing to give up the love in your life for a temporary moment of pleasure?" G.L. covers a wide range of situations dealing with the human experience. From the mentality of an emotionally battered woman to the sensuous depths she experiences in her imagination and physical being. G.L. was nominated for top new non-fiction author by the Charlotte's Literary and Arts Awards. G.L. is coming off a self-titled national book tour, sponsored by the Oakley Corp. As a finalist for the Ebony Magazine's Top-Rated Eligible Bachelor of 2006. G.L. has a lot to say on the topic of romance and relationships. Covering both the bachelor standpoint, and the feminine perspective, he gives us the privilege of others' experiences... who dare to share. The emotional depth in his work personifies the accuracy and mystery required of such themes. The experiences of the human spirit are explained so eloquently and tastefully through his mind. Infidelity: The Root of Marital Evil - how to get over it and survive Frank Kermit makes his 3rd appearance on The G L Henderson Hour on the Artist First website network. On this show Frank and G L discuss Infidelity: the root of marital evil. A wife catches her husband having an affair, and then catches him with the same woman again. Should she leave him? They have two children together. Also discussed are ways to affair proof your marriage, accidental affairs, making monogamy work, getting past a betrayal of trust, getting over the hurt of an affair and more...Frank also shares his own story of how he got over being cheated on, finding peace and forgiveness and how he coaches singles and couples who are surviving an affair. Can a Threesome Save A Sexless Marriage? Published on Apr 26, 2016 Can a threesome save a sexless marriage? G L Henderson of the Artist First network talks to Frank Kermit about it. This is Frank's 2nd appearance on the show Sexual Health and Families out of Control Date: February 21, 2013 Title: G. L. Henderson Radio Hour Frank Kermit makes his 1st appearance on the G L Henderson Radio Hour. On this show, Frank and G.L. talk about Sexual Health and Families Out Of Control. Global News is the news and current affairs division of Global Television Network in Canada, overseeing all local and national news programming on the network's twelve owned-and-operated stations. Sugar Baby and Sugar Daddy Websites Date: January 31, 2015, Title: Global TV: Focus Montreal Show - Montreal Frank Kermit makes his 5th appearance on Global Montreal Television. Elysia Bryan-Baynes interviews Frank about the website SeekingArrangement.com, and Sugar Daddy/Sugar Babies in Montreal. Focusing on what the risks are for the women and men involved, if it is prostitution, and if it is ethical. Aalia Adam interviews Frank Kermit in 2 part Sugar Baby Story Date: January 26 and 27, 2015, Title: Global News TV Show - Montreal Frank Kermit makes his 3rd and 4th appearance on Global News Montreal Television show. This is a 2 part story. On this show, reporter Aalia Adam interviews Frank about the website SeekingArrangement.com, and Sugar Daddy/Sugar Babies in Montreal. Focusing on the reported numbers of Sugar Babies attending McGill University, and other universities in Montreal. They also talk about the hidden dating dangers the Sugar Lifestyle can have on long term participants. Single Going Into The Holidays Date: December 3, 2013, Title: Global Montreal Morning News TV Show Frank Kermit makes his 2nd appearance on Global Morning News Montreal Television show. On this show, Camille Ross interviews Frank about Being Single Going Into The Holidays. Relationship Coach Frank Kermit offers a few tips on how to deal with being alone at a time of celebration. In this 4 minute interview, Frank talked to Camille Ross about "What a Single Person Can Do Going Into the Holidays." Here are a few things you'll learn: -One thing you can do RIGHT NOW to change your life and be with a great person this holiday season -Why THIS is the BEST time of the year to meet someone new, and turn a friend into a lover -A technique that is so easy and fast to build up your self confidence and self-esteem, you will wonder why you did not think about it yourself already? -What is the BIGGEST mistake singles make during this time of the year in dating? -How to approach someone at an office holiday party to start a conversation? -What is the mindset when you go out to meet people during the holidays? -What is the 1 thing you CONTROL and how to use that to your full advantage? -How to respond to anyone that tells you to Stop Looking and it will come to you! Single After Valentine's Day Date: February 15, 2013, Title: Global Montreal Morning News TV Show Frank Kermit makes his 1st appearance on Global Morning News Montreal Television show. On this show, Camille Ross interviews Frank about Starting Over and Being Single after Valentine's Day. Relationship Coach Frank Kermit offers a few tips on how to jump-start your dating life after Valentine's day. On the verge of a marriage meltdown? Newlywed, Nearly Dead? is coming to the rescue. Couples that drive each other crazy receive a big dose of tough love from marriage expert Gary Direnfeld. Also a variety of other Relationship Experts and Self Improvement types are invited in on a per episode basis and are matched up with their skill base, and the particular needs of the couple. Newlywed Nearly Dead? aims to lower North America's divorce rate one couple at a time. 50 Shades of Frank Kermit, Couples Coaching and Intro to BDSM Date: July 27, 2009, Title: Newlywed, Nearly Dead? A nationally broadcast television program on Slice TV. Episode# 3034 Lisa and Mark started off really great in their relationship, but a few personality quirks and some personal crisis have had their toll on their relationship. Newlywed, Nearly Dead? invites Frank Kermit a Relationship Expert and his teachings of Emotional Needs to give a little guidance to their love life. Frank Kermit joins Lisa and Mark for some private Couples Coaching. Reviews of the Couple Mark and Lisa Review by Lisa
MARK IS A MAN AGAIN. Mark has definitely stepped up a lot, and turned into the man he once was. Everything has definitely shifted, and it has become more of an adult relationship. The challenge was for Mark to learn to step up and be a man and learn to seduce me mentally again, which he has somehow lost down the lines of our relationship. It was very beneficial because Frank actually knew what I wanted before he met me and he was right on with what he needed from Mark. When we did the exercise I could really feel that that is what I need from Mark. I need him to be more of a man in control of himself. And he showed that. Throughout the exercise Frank was coaching Mark from a different area with a microphone in his ear. Just telling him things a woman would like. Mark was responding. Sort of doing a little bit of his own, but listening to instruction from Frank and it was very good. It was very beneficial. I was enjoying it. I was not uncomfortable at all because I knew that Frank was not going to make us go past any of our boundaries. I was quite comfortable with the scenario. It was very beneficial. It was exactly what I needed. It was more the kind of relationship I want to have in the bedroom with Mark. We used to have that kind of relationship, but somewhere down the road it stopped. I needed that boost in him. I needed that confidence in him, and know that he can not talk like a boy in the bedroom and he has to be like a man or else it turns me off. So it completely helped us because he has not acted like a boy at all, even in the bedroom, and I have been more turned on than anytime! I loved what happened in the bedroom! I loved what he was doing to me! I absolutely felt safe. I felt like he was going to do nothing bad to me...only what I wanted him to do. I definitely felt like he was a man. He was not a boy in there with me. He was a man, and thats what I wanted. It did not feel like authentic Mark, but the whole challenge was that Frank told us we have to develop our own technique and Mark has to be the kind of man he is going to be. Those were just ways he would seduce a woman. Mark has to come up with his own identity in the bedroom. It does not have to be exactly what Frank did. But Frank was teaching us how to tap into that again. I definitely feel it changed Mark. I know that he said it was very beneficial to him. I think that it got him out of the rut because it made him feel like he is a man again. He does not have to act like a little boy. And I think that is what he is been wanting but he just did not know how to go about and do it. As much as I tell him, it was not the way he needed to be told. He was not hearing what I was saying. He needed someone else to come along and tell him how to tap into my emotions rather than the things he used to do. Frank sort of taught me that if Mark is going sort of in the right direction of what I am looking for, then to not be critical of it. There are ways to actually show him what I want, or what I am not responding to rather than just come out and say it. I was not aware that that is what I was doing before. It did help me as much as it helped Mark. My favorite part of it was actually that I do not have to be in control anymore. I can actually allow Mark to have control in the bedroom. My favorite thing about the challenge was just letting go and letting Mark actually be the man that I have always wanted him to be. I know it is in there. It has been in there before, we have just lost that in the last little while. It was nice to know that he is learning how to tap into my emotions and I do not have to work. I can just let go and be free. I think the biggest thing before was that I was always turned off because he was a little boy. Frank actually taught him how to remain a man throughout the entire evening. So, it has been great. And No it was not hard for me at all. It is what I have been wanting. After Frank left it got hot and steamy. It was wonderful! I am definitely going to continue being a woman and not being his mother. Review by Mark I think the purpose of Frank Kermit's session was to just bring me back when we first met. He just lead me through and gave me some good pointers, and he really opened my eyes to what I was doing wrong, and how I was making her feel. Hey, it was great. It was amazing. In the beginning it was weird. Lisa and myself were in the bedroom. Just trying to bond in a sexual manner. I had an earpiece, and he was speaking to me from another room. And just basically going through some techniques that would work and some seduction techniques. In the beginning it was a little weird. It worked out great. And she really got into it and its made a difference already. I think it brought me back to the beginning in our relationship, and that's how our sex life was like. In the end we were both having fun. And I think that was the point. She was responding pretty well to the whole situation. I think that was what she needed. She was right into that. We have kind of lost touch with the whole, the way we used to be. I would say our sex life is back on track this week. We already had a couple times in the bedroom and it was pretty good. I would say we are on the right track anyway. Yah. I have taken a little of Frank lessons and applied it to my sex life. Its made a difference. I would say the seducer challenge was my favorite. I enjoyed it the most. I enjoyed it the most because it brought me back to where I was in the beginning. Somewhere down the line I missed. I just became a totally different person for our sex life and now it is enjoyable again. And now it is enjoyable again; experimenting and having fun in the bedroom, and exactly what we want. I did not ever think it was going to...our sex life would improve so quickly. Its definitely done a 180%. For sure. Talking to Frank and listening to him. He just amazing. Dead on every aspect. He really knows what he is talking about. And I believe him 100%. He is definitely a master at seduction. I trust him 100%. I definitely got my Mojo back!...Thanks to Frank. Dear Frank,
I need advice!! In regards to men & porn. What is "right" and what is "too much"? I own the house we live in (2nd marriage for me) and he brought in porn from the start. I put my foot down, told him I didn't want it in the house. He shouldn't need/use it..he has me, a willing partner. So he does. Then 8 months later I find a ton of magazines in the garage. His response..."technically it wasn't in the house" - we fight again. All seems resolved. A year later, I find a ton of magazines hidden in the seat of his car. We go around and around again. Again, he says no more. Again, he lies. I detest porn. I detest him spending money on it when we need it for other things. I feel he is disrespecting me by lying & continuing with his habit. I tell him he has a problem...he tells me I am a prude. What do I do? I don't want to divorce over this....but I don't want to be disrespected in my own home either. HELP! Detests Porn, Dear Detest Porn, I see a couple of issues here. The first is whether or not the porn is a threat to the marriage or an aid. For some couples, porn is an aid, as it fills a need so that one or both partners do not stray and have affairs. For other couples, porn is a threat because it encourages one or both partners to seek out other people. Do not assume it is always men. Many women enjoy porn too. The question I have is, is porn an aid or a threat to your relationship. The next issue is the question of values. If porn is against your value system, why are you with someone that seeks it out? It is not about "should"...there is no "should". You have an intellectual construct about how a willing partner SHOULD be enough. It obviously is not the case for him. That is a reality you have to deal with. Did you discuss your values before you got married? Did you talk about porn being something at issue with you? When you did talk about it, were you presenting yourself as someone that can handle truth, or did you present the issues as "You better not ever bring that up!". It is not your fault you were lied to, but you do have to figure out if you present yourself as being able to handle a Frank discussion about topics you detest, otherwise you encourage people not to be honest with you. Finally some issues with this situation...you own the house you both live in...to my understanding, when you get married (I assume from your writings you are married) that the assets are shared. If this is wrong, correct me. If it is right, then it is his house too, and although you may detest porn, it is not illegal. The final question is how your INTERPRETATION of porn is different from his. You interpret porn as disrespecting you. It seems his interpretation of porn is something else. Part of this process is to figure out what exactly is the source of your interpretation of porn, and whether or not is an accurate one. You also have to consider what his interpretation of porn means to him. THAT is the beginning of figuring out if this is an issue that is an impasse to your relationship or not. -Frank, because I have to be Dear Frank:
I am a 52 yr. old female, divorced for almost 2 years. I have been dating a man whom I met on an Internet dating site since July 2011 (almost 1 year post-divorce). We spend almost every weekend together & are very involved in each others lives. Due to our work schedules, we are not able to see each other during the week, but he does make a point of calling me every evening. It was obvious right from the start that we had that proverbial chemistry. Our chat sessions became more & more intimate. After approximately 3 weeks of on-line chatting, he asked me for my phone number, which I eagerly gave him. He called me almost immediately. We spoke on the phone daily, sometimes even 2 or 3 times a day, for sometimes 1 to 2 hours at a time. After about a week of phone calls, he invited me to his house for supper. I know I probably need my head examined for going to a man’s home that I hadn’t even met in person yet, but I accepted. His 10-year-old son would also be there, so I figured I couldn’t be in any danger. When I arrived at his home, there was an immediate physical attraction to each other & all evening, the sexual tension between us was palpable. We engaged in sexual intercourse that evening. I know, I know, I’m an idiot! I commented to him that I didn’t normally have sex on a first date & he commented that he wasn’t into one night stands, so I had better get used to being with him for a long time to come. During the first 2 months or so, we were like a couple of teenagers again; we couldn’t wait to be alone with each other. One weekend, shortly after our initial meeting, he invited me to his cottage. Let me repeat, I know, I know, I’m an idiot for going to a somewhat secluded place where there was nowhere for me to run if necessary, but I felt completely safe with him. Needless to say neither one of us spent any time outdoors that weekend. My problem is this: since the initial 2 months, the sex has stopped. We are sleeping in the same bed at his cottage every weekend, he will hold my hand when walking, kiss me, hug me, flirt, but actual intercourse, or anything more than a hug or kiss, has ceased. I have tried everything in the hopes of sparking his interest (flirting, sexy lingerie, back rubs), but to no avail. I have asked him if he no longer was attracted to me, if perhaps there was something I wasn’t doing to please him, or something I was doing that he didn’t like, etc. He replied that sex had never really been important to him & that it had absolutely nothing to do with me in particular. He said that he thought he felt that way because of the line of work he is in (he runs an x-rated theatre) because he only ever sees women being used as sex toys or being placed in degrading situations. I am totally confused. On one hand, he is still very attentive towards me, but I found out that he is still visiting, on a daily basis, the same dating site where we met. When I questioned him about it, he claimed he didn’t know how to delete his profile. I explained to him step-by-step how to delete it, but he said his page seemed to be different from mine & he couldn't see anywhere how to delete it. For a couple of days I accepted his excuse. But, the more I thought about it, the more I found his answer to be ridiculous. So, I created a fake profile & initiated a conversation with him. Posing as a rather good-looking woman, I pointedly asked him if he was currently involved with someone & his response was “no, he wasn’t”. I was astounded. Now, I don’t know what to do with this information. Why would he lie about his relationship with me? I am utterly confused. He still acts as if we’re in a serious relationship, doing everything a couple usually does together, refers to me as his girlfriend & keeps asking me when I'm going to introduce him to my father, but any physical intimacies have come to a complete halt. I don’t know what to do or think anymore. Is he just using me until something better comes along? I would really appreciate your professional opinion. -Extremely Puzzled Dear E-Puzzled, My professional opinion is first and foremost to stop beating yourself up and calling yourself names. Calling yourself an idiot is a bad habit to get into. At best it will make you unattractive to potential good partners and at worst it will damage you on an emotional level. You did nothing wrong. You are a healthy woman who has human needs. Next, without being able to meet with you both as a couple, I can only form an opinion on what you wrote in your letter, so my scope could be limited. I do not know his relationship history, and I do not know your repeating behavior patterns from your past marriage. So, if we all did meet in person for a coaching session, I would be looking for such kinds of behavior patterns like if you tend to seek out emotional unavailable men, and if he has kept most of his relations with women limited to sexual interactions. As I see it, he may have a number of issues going on. He might be over your relationship, but does not have the courage to break up with you, so he is being passive aggressive hoping you will break up the relationship for him. He may have a fear of intimacy and when your initial relationship was merely sexual he had no problem performing, but now that it seems to have lasted beyond the romance phase, it is challenging him on an emotional level that he is not comfortable with. He could just be a jerk that leads women on because he values a “motherly” attention rather than sex, and tries to rope in as many lonely women into his circle as he can. Incidentally, to be clear, it is more probable it is not his job that caused him to have a fear of intimacy, but rather his fear of intimacy that led him to that job. Understand? With all that said, he is not the real issue in this case. You are, as you wrote the letter asking for advice. Your focus cannot be trying to understand why he is acting the way he is acting. Although understanding his motivations can be important, your primary focus must be on YOUR BOUNDARIES. You may never fully know why he acts the way he does, and quite frankly, who cares? What you are in control of is how you react to his actions. What are your relationship boundaries? For example if sex is important to you, and it is a boundary that you want sex at this stage of your life regularly in your relationships, then it is up to you to communicate that (which you already have) and if he still does not open up or attempt to accommodate you, then leave and find another partner. For example, let’s say the issue is that he suffers from impotence and was using some kind of medical aid to function sexually at that time…this is something he would need to open up about and be honest with you when reaching the boyfriend/girlfriend stage (he publicly acknowledges you as his girlfriend). What are your boundaries about his needing medication or sex not being important? Your boundaries are the deal breakers of what you will and will not tolerate. They have nothing to do with whom you happen to be dating. Boundaries are all about you and your personal value system. This will include what your boundaries are regarding being lied to, being cheated on, and being sexually rejected. Your boundaries will surely require you to address the issue of your new boyfriend keeping his online dating profile up. (Are you actually telling me that neither of you knows someone that is technical savvy enough to help take down the profile or that you could not have done it for him when next over at his place? Com’on) I think your instincts are correct about this guy. I would encourage you to learn to trust yourself more. You are not the idiot you claim to be. You know what you need to do. -Frank |
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