Why do I get stomach pain after I make out with a girl?

Dear Readers,
Sometimes Frank answers questions randomly online as they appear.
In those cases he occasionally posts the question
(with some editing) and his Frank Advice answer  here on this blog.
Names have been changed to protect privacy
(as much privacy as one can expect posting a question online using their real names).

Question:

Dear Frank,

Why do I get stomach pain after I make out with a girl after a couple of minutes?

-Pain In The Belly

Frank Advice Answer:

Dear Belly Pain,

it depends.

If this is an isolated incident, it could just be you getting sick at a bad time (got the flu bug and it only manifested when you were making out).

If this is the first time you ever made out AND had the pain, but did not get sick with a bug, it could be nerves. Anxiety and nervousness can manifest itself into physical symptoms. More exposure to the new act of intimacy might be all it takes to calm your stomach and enjoy the intimacy.

You may want to consider signing up for my Adult Male Virgin System if this was one of your first times.


If this is part of a repeating behavior pattern where it happens and keeps happening, this COULD be because your actions are challenging your self identity. If you have a self identity as someone that does not have intimacy (and this allowed you to survive say childhood in a very strict religious household), then your body might be reacting to doing something that is not yet "you".

If this is the case, check out some Frank Coaching, and pick up the Coaching Workbook for Men entitled I'm A Man, That's My Job as it has an entire chapter on creating a Persona to help you transition from your current identity to one that is comfortable with women, kissing, dating and sex.


-Frank, Because I Have To Be