When To Listen To Your Heart
By Frank Kermit
Some time ago, a client whose love life was a little messed up, asked me why it was so, given that she always listened to her heart.
After all, isn’t that what people are supposed to do when it comes to romance relationships? Isn’t listening to your heart the best way to find the correct and clear answers?
In my experience, the only honest response I could offer her was, “Well, it depends.”
The notion that a person’s heart will always lead them to what is best for them is a wonderful idea. In practicality however, it is nothing more than an intellectual construct.
Not because the heart of a person would not know, but because it depends on what that heart happens to already know.
Just because something feels right, does not make it the right choice to make, if your heart hasn’t learned what is in your actual best interest.
The heart wants what it wants. Just like a child that has yet to mature, and allow for life experience to take effect, to gradually teach the child (and the heart of a child) about what it should want for itself.
Basically, if your heart wants something that is actually the worst possible choice for you, your heart might not share that little secret, because your heart just does not know any better.
With that said, there are times when what your heart is telling you simply cannot be neglected. If your heart does not tell you directly, it may signal something to you intuitively.
That gnawing feeling that there is something you have to acknowledge, even if you are unable to articulate it. That kind of instinct can, when properly active, lead you to where you were meant to be.
However, even if your heart intuition happens to be correct in one area of your life, for example, a career decision, an educational path, your health management, or the choice of a life partner and future parent of your children, does not automatically mean that your heart can guide you in any other particular area.
No matter what your particular expertise and where you happen to have succeeded previously listening to your heart, it is not necessarily an indication that your heart knows best for the other areas of your life.
The best indicator of whether or not you should listen to your heart is your heart’s past performance in that particular area of your life.
If your heart has always guided you well in financial areas in the past, you have evidence that you can likely trust your heart to guide you in the near future.
If your heart has led you astray in your quest to find a loving relationship and stable commitment partner, then that is the tell tale sign that listening to your heart could be the last thing you should do at this point in time.
If you struggle to know when to listen to your heart,
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