UNDERSTANDING THE SUICIDE MIND
by Frank Kermit
May 28, 2016, updated on April 19, 2018
In order to try and understand why someone may consider suicide an option, you must first enter the mindset. A person contemplating suicide is not taking the easy way out.
The person is simply in so much pain, in such a head space, that suicide seems like the only way to escape that pain.
To give you an idea of how a suicidal mind distorts perception, a suicidal person has the belief that all those people who love him or her, would actually be better off without them. It does not make logical sense.
THAT IS THE POINT!
It is NOT going to make sense. That is just one of the ways the suicidal mind distorts the perception of reality.
Here is another to help you understand:
When you are feeling down, it is still possible to remember a time when you felt happy.
When you are in a suicidal mind state, the distortion on reality is that you can NOT remember a time you ever felt happy.
That is, in part, what contributes to someone feeling suicide is an option.
Divorced and single people, according to Stats Canada, commit suicide more often than married people. Partly because those who are divorced suffer greater losses than those who are simply alone. But in both cases, a very real factor is at play.
A person who is having a suicidal mindset needs someone OUTSIDE OF THEIR OWN MIND (another person outside him or her self) to help break the suicidal mind state.
Even then, depending on the degree of mental illness, it still may not be enough for certain individuals.
I am writing this because I see many people right now in mourning.
Anger, resentment and bitterness is PART of the mourning process.
That is normal.
However, COMPASSION is part of the HEALING process. You have a choice, you can either show COMPASSION or you can DISPLAY anger to the person who committed suicide.
And in the event you can not find it in yourself to show COMPASSION, because it is simply not an option for you, then you fully understand the mindset of a suicidal person...because that same inability to change your perspective, is exactly what that suicidal person went through.
I wish you all peace and healing.
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