Towards Kink Positive Therapy

Your Sexuality Is Your Birthright - Galen Fous

Towards Kink Positive Therapy
by Galen Robert Fous


Yesterday I was banned without notice from the Depth Psychology Alliance, a moderated Facebook group for Jungian oriented therapists.

I had posted a link to an interview I had done recently titled,

“The Personal Erotic Myth and the Rise of Fetishsexuality.”


I included this quote with the link from my Psychology Today interview by Michael Aaron based on my presentation to the AltSex NYC Conference


"When engaged consciously and allowed to express and embody with a consenting partner, these fierce explorations of our taboo, wild instinctual edges can offer a profound sense of empowerment and acceptance, as well as a full-body, soulful, exquisitely spent bliss from either side of the power exchange."

The group’s moderator accepted the post.

Several positive comments were made.

The third was an agitated comment from a therapist who stated that Kink is only a pathological expression of “someone incapable of love and intimacy,” and made a reference to how harmful it was to women and relationships when men want that kind of sex.

I replied that her view was outdated and an insult to the millions of men AND women engaging in consensual Kink.

I said I felt her views were similar to and as inaccurate as those held by therapists in the 1950’s about homosexuality.

She was rather livid that I would dare compare the “courageous struggle of gays and lesbians” to pathologically disturbed people engaging in Kink.

Several more people joined the thread,

all favorable to my POV (point of view),

and some challenging the other therapist over how judgmental she was being.


I was getting excited at what I thought would be a very informative discussion about Kink within a professional psychological model I was very much at home in.


I was about to reply to someone’s comment,


and got notice the post had been removed.


I intended to contact the moderator to ask why and discovered that I no longer had access to the group.


I had been banned from the group without explanation nor notification.

In response, I started a new thread on my Facebook page titled

“Kinkaphobia -

Are you a sex-therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist suffering from Kink-phobia?

Help is available.

Get treatment now before you harm any more patients that you have shamed, judged or diagnosed as suffering from a psychological disorder or addiction based on your moralistic, outdated, unsubstantiated, harmful beliefs about Kink oriented clients.

Shaming is not therapy.”

One of the replies to this thread was from someone in the DPA group who disclosed that right after my post was taken down, a new rule about posting was created.


"Any content determined to be inappropriate, in poor taste, or otherwise contrary to the purposes of the forum will be deleted and the poster risks being removed from the group.”

She (the person who informed me of the groups actions) commented further,

“The article you posted was totally relevant to Depth Psychology. If an equivalent article regarding working with gay clients were posted and a commentator said "Homosexuality is only a pathological expression of someone incapable of love and intimacy" - we would never accept that as a reason to delete a post. I am pretty (upset) about this.”

I am too.

And I hope this begins a wake-up call within the various academic, clinical and alternative therapeutic communities to become educated about Kink oriented sexuality

and stop shaming and pathologizing client’s seeking to come to terms with their sexual truth.


-Galen Robert Fous

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About The Author

Galen Robert Fous MTP, is a Fetish Sex Expert, Psychotherapist and Sex Researcher. He studied Fetish Sexuality and Authentic Sexual Expression at Institute of Trans-personal Psychology and studied Psychology at Portland State University.

He is the author of the book: 
Decoding Your Kink:
Guide to Explore Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires

He can be reached at http://www.galenfous.com/

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