The Holiday Mistake Singles Make
By Frank Kermit
There are many mistakes singles make, that keep them single. The holiday time is no exception.
At a time when the motivation to meet someone new to date may be at an all time high, some single people make the mistake of shelving their hearts, and put off dating new people, until after the holidays are over.
On the surface, it seems like a good idea. Going into the holidays, is a busy time.
Planning for holiday parties and gift buying, trying to finish work related projects before taking time off, and studying for final exams makes the time leading up to the holidays a period of high stress.
Who has the time or energy to even think about starting to date, or pursue meeting someone new?
So really, what is the problem with holding off dating until after the holiday season is over?
Well, there isn’t really anything wrong with it per se. If you do not want to date, then do not date.
However, giving into this mindset is habit forming.
After the holidays, comes the period after New Years and it is too cold to go out to be social and date. Then comes Valentine’s Day and there is way too much pressure to face dating someone new. Springtime is too wet outside and no one likes how there bodies look coming out of the winter blues and final exams again. So let’s wait until summer rolls around. Then in summer, there are so many places to visit, vacations to plan, work projects to finish before heading out on vacation. Did we mention the humidity? Ok, and the kids are out of school, so no time for social dating then. We will get back to dating in the fall. Back to school, need a vacation from your vacation, and mending the broken heart from the loss of your summer fling, it is no time to date serious. Halloween already? I don’t want to date in costume, what am I? A clown? Next month when all the creepy decorations come down, I will make the effort for sure. Golly, weather changes are making me sleepy. Oh gee, so much to do because the holidays are coming up!
Does any of this sound familiar?
If you are perpetually single, it should.
Using the holidays as a way to avoid dating is just another excuse in a long line of excuses.
There is no perfect time to start dating.
The best time to start is right now.
Sure the holidays are hectic. So what?
There will always be lots of reasons to avoid dating.
You only need one to start, and that is because you want to.
No one wants to be alone over the holidays.
That is what makes it one of the best times to get out there and be social and meet new people.
It is OK to want to meet someone new to date, and it is OK to want to do that over the holidays.
So if you have the chance to shake off the holiday rush, and the opportunity to get out there, meet new people and a date comes your way, go for it.
Always go for it.
You likely spend a lot of time getting gifts for other people, so why not give yourself the gift of dating during the holidays.
You deserve to be loved as much as anybody.
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