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Top 3 Reasons To Sleep With A Younger Man A-sap
Guest Post by Anna Jorgensen, Wingmam
An Older Woman Should Sleep With A Younger Man
—Here’s Why
Even after I managed to find a man who wanted to marry me with all my self-perceived physical—and real personality—flaws, I wasn’t yet over self-esteem so low you’d step on it.
Every woman has an area they feel “less than” about, whether it’s body image, financial status, smarts or sex appeal, we’ve all got something we wish was “better” about us.
It’s still commonly accepted for an older man to sleep with (or be with) a younger woman, but for an older woman to sleep with a younger man, well, there’s still a few hushed words heard over that role reversal.
My husband was 16 years older than me and a good man. He adored me. But…
In my case, I was so insecure--
How insecure?--
I was sooo insecure… I took the CD covers out of their cases if they contained a sexy woman’s image.
Celine Dion? Bye. Shania Twain? So gone!
I was sooo insecure that even after a dozen years with my husband I still felt uncomfortable getting undressed in front of him.
And even though my husband was, and still is, a good man, he couldn’t (and didn’t try) to “fix me.” I had to do that part. Ultimately, that part didn’t happen until after we divorced.
The next guy I met was 11 years younger than me and the model of fitness and hotness and, having let myself slide in the hot bod department during my marriage, I didn’t feel sexy at all.
For whatever reason, he desired me anyway.
At first I tried to think of all the reasons to sleep with a younger man, like if I could rationalize it to myself I’d somehow build confidence overnight.
But then I thought, “This was my do (him) or die” moment.
I was at the climax (pun) of my own movie where I could step up and become the heroine—or slink back to the rest of my life feeling like a loser.
I said, “F’ it!” and went for it. Him.
I acted “as if” I was secure and hot and worthy and sexy AF.
I got naked in the middle of the day in broad daylight.
I didn’t body shame myself or restrict my movements to hide my flaws.
I didn’t ask for validation and I didn’t make apologies.
And doing this was one of the first and biggest steps I took to conquering low self-esteem.
Now, I’m Wonder Woman, at least in my own mind, no longer wondering if I’m good enough but instead courageous and empowered—plus there’s the whole cape accessory!
So, if you’ve ever wondered why an older woman should sleep with a younger man…
Top 3 Reasons An Older Woman Should Sleep With A Younger Man A-sap
1. Virility. Bam! As in: bam, bam, thank you ma’am.
2. Boosts naked-self esteem.
3. Teach a young dog some new tricks.
If you feel so inclined, just do it (him)!
Anna Jorgensen is a dating coach for men in Vancouver, Canada and founder of www.Wingmam.com. She offers online programs (for men and women) on how to understand the opposite sex, get sexy and find love.
Guest Post by Anna Jorgensen, Wingmam
An Older Woman Should Sleep With A Younger Man
—Here’s Why
Even after I managed to find a man who wanted to marry me with all my self-perceived physical—and real personality—flaws, I wasn’t yet over self-esteem so low you’d step on it.
Every woman has an area they feel “less than” about, whether it’s body image, financial status, smarts or sex appeal, we’ve all got something we wish was “better” about us.
It’s still commonly accepted for an older man to sleep with (or be with) a younger woman, but for an older woman to sleep with a younger man, well, there’s still a few hushed words heard over that role reversal.
My husband was 16 years older than me and a good man. He adored me. But…
In my case, I was so insecure--
How insecure?--
I was sooo insecure… I took the CD covers out of their cases if they contained a sexy woman’s image.
Celine Dion? Bye. Shania Twain? So gone!
I was sooo insecure that even after a dozen years with my husband I still felt uncomfortable getting undressed in front of him.
And even though my husband was, and still is, a good man, he couldn’t (and didn’t try) to “fix me.” I had to do that part. Ultimately, that part didn’t happen until after we divorced.
The next guy I met was 11 years younger than me and the model of fitness and hotness and, having let myself slide in the hot bod department during my marriage, I didn’t feel sexy at all.
For whatever reason, he desired me anyway.
At first I tried to think of all the reasons to sleep with a younger man, like if I could rationalize it to myself I’d somehow build confidence overnight.
But then I thought, “This was my do (him) or die” moment.
I was at the climax (pun) of my own movie where I could step up and become the heroine—or slink back to the rest of my life feeling like a loser.
I said, “F’ it!” and went for it. Him.
I acted “as if” I was secure and hot and worthy and sexy AF.
I got naked in the middle of the day in broad daylight.
I didn’t body shame myself or restrict my movements to hide my flaws.
I didn’t ask for validation and I didn’t make apologies.
And doing this was one of the first and biggest steps I took to conquering low self-esteem.
Now, I’m Wonder Woman, at least in my own mind, no longer wondering if I’m good enough but instead courageous and empowered—plus there’s the whole cape accessory!
So, if you’ve ever wondered why an older woman should sleep with a younger man…
Top 3 Reasons An Older Woman Should Sleep With A Younger Man A-sap
1. Virility. Bam! As in: bam, bam, thank you ma’am.
2. Boosts naked-self esteem.
3. Teach a young dog some new tricks.
If you feel so inclined, just do it (him)!
Anna Jorgensen is a dating coach for men in Vancouver, Canada and founder of www.Wingmam.com. She offers online programs (for men and women) on how to understand the opposite sex, get sexy and find love.
5 Comments
Like you had any flaws........ you were/are a goddess silly twit!
Ha! Thanks, but I sure felt flawed and that's what counts!
Thanks for sharing, so honest. As a man I sometimes forget that women that we idealize share the same or similar insecurities. Hopefully one day you'll see yourself the way we do. Hopefully you already do. :)
Im 54 / fit and had super hot sex with a very fit 74 year old woman last week. Her long curly grey hair. Her Irish freckles and slender build had me thinking about her alot. We met at the gym.
Okay, this is like the hottest thing I ever read! Shame on me!!
