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Embarking on a new relationship is always exciting. But, it can also lead to anxiety. You don’t know the other person yet, so it’s easy to misinterpret their actions and intentions. Through all the excitement, you may start feeling you don’t know where you stand. You may worry that the other person isn’t on the same page as you. And, you can’t ask without putting undue pressure on things. Besides, what’s to say they wouldn’t lie? If the other person lets you down or acts in a way you don't understand, it might be a sign that things aren't right. If you’re worried that falling in love is about to fall apart, it’s important you keep your head about you.
But, how can you do that? Start by thinking about whether your expectations are leading to disappointments. If the issue is that he keeps standing you up, or doesn’t message for weeks on end, your suspicions may be right. But, if your disappointments are more abstract, it may be a case of expectation getting in the way. In a world filled with love stories, it’s normal to have certain expectations. But, remember that love doesn’t work like it does in the movies. Things aren’t that straight cut. He may not shower you with affection or buy you expensive jewelry, but that doesn’t mean he’s not into you. It’s also important to note that things don’t always move as fast as they do on television or films. Don’t worry if he takes a while to tell you he loves you. Real love takes a while to blossom. On average, most couples don’t get to that stage until 4-6 months into the relationship.
It’s also important to untangle your feelings. Falling in love can be a confusing experience. That in itself can lead to misunderstanding. If you’re picking holes in your guy, it might be that you don’t feel the way you think you do. At the same time, if you’re too involved, you may become confused because he isn’t acting the same. In short, love can stop you from seeing things clearly. If you think that may be happening, turn to outside sources. Even if you don’t believe in horoscopes, take a look at pisces love information, or whatever your star sign is. The important thing here is to take note of how you react to what you read. If you jump on negative predictions, it's time to think about whether the relationship is worth pursuing. If you already expect the worst, there may not be a future for this guy.
For the most part, the best way to decide whether a relationship is moving in the right direction is to listen to your heart. If you treat love like a checklist, you’re going to encounter problems. Every relationship is different because we are all different. Forget timelines and ideas of love. If this guy makes you feel good, he might be a keeper, irrelevant of how many boxes he ticks
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