I like 2 girls; they're friends. What to do?

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Dear Readers,
Sometimes I answer questions on various sites online as I find them.
I occasionally post the question (edited) as my Frank Advice answer here on my blog.

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The Question:

Dear Frank,

Say you're at the gym, so you meet two girls (who happen to be very close friends). Talked to one first, made her laugh a bit then walked away and when ran into her again about 5 minutes after, she kept talking to me and introduced me to her friend (which happens to be very cute as well), so we talked for a bit and when I was going to go away I just asked them if they are on Facebook, just saying let's be friends, so they both added me on Facebook.

I wouldn't mind with going out and proceeding further with either of them, however I can only do that with one of them (for obvious reasons). I'm indifferent on which one, both of them are very close to each other and both of them are single, so if I ask one out she will for sure tell the other one

How would you proceed to meet one of the girls again? Message both? message one? I have some stuff in mind on how to proceed, but would love to know your opinion

-Caught in between

Dear Between,

Since you do not see the possibility of dating them both, and you feel you need to choose one over the other, I would suggest that you set up a social circle event (click that link to see the book on social circle dating) and invite them both, as part of a larger group.  See through their actions which one would want to date you. Go with that.

You will be able to better see which one you are more compatible with, and in the even one of them likes you more than the other, you will be able to spot that if you know what the signs are that someone is attracted to you.  (If you do not know this, sign up for my coaching program).

With that said, be mindful that you do have the option of dating more than one person at a time, and there are ways to initiate conversations to see what is possible with these two friends, without coming across as inappropriate.

For the time being, find out what common interests all three of you have, and set up some social circle events for all of you (and additional friends) to attend and get to know each other.

-Frank, Because I have to be
Originally published July 18, 2016, updated on April 20, 2018

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