Sometimes I answer questions on various sites online as I find them.
I occasionally post the question (edited) as my Frank Advice answer here on my blog.
Names have been changed to protect privacy.
(As much privacy as one can expect posting a question online using their real names).
"I keep getting friend zoned by every girl I like, what should I do about it, what am I doing wrong?
How can you make your friends love you?"
Frank Advice Answer:
As the author of the book From Friends To Lovers, Stop Being Her Emotional Cookie Man I am telling you that basically you are friends ONLY (aka Friendzoned) because you address only SOME of the emotional needs of the other person, BUT not enough.
By addressing SOME of the emotional needs you become a person they “Like” and want as just a friend. (Sometimes they really want to be good friends and other times they might try to use you and take advantage of your feelings).
Take a break from the other person and make some changes in the way you communicate. Your goal is to learn what the emotional needs are and what you have been doing until now that violated them to the point that your friend is not attracted to you in that way.
Attraction is not a choice. When you address the emotional needs in the way the person needs them addressed in order to respond with attraction, then attraction happens.
You have to see what you were doing that did not attract your friend, so that you can change that behavior and start to attract them.
I hope this helps.
-Frank because I have to be
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