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How To Play The Charisma Game

1/31/2018

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Learn How To Play The Charisma Game for Singles

The Charisma Game
by Frank Kermit


This is a Group Activity I created for you to practice with others.

I created this for use when I was running weekly workshops for single for dating.

I have included it in my coaching workbooks:
I'm a Man, That's My Job
and
I'm a Woman, It My Time


The premise: Each person in the room will offer one compliment to every other person in the room, WITHOUT expecting a compliment in return.

When someone compliments you, you are instructed to simply say “THANK YOU”, without offering a compliment back.

There are a few different ways to do it.





For a larger group, have them walk around without saying a word, approaching as many people as they can. When they get face to face with someone, they must offer a compliment, without expecting one back, and the person being complimented must say. “THANK YOU” before saying anything else.

For smaller groups, or groups of people with limited mobility, you can have everyone sit in a circle and each person takes a turn in complimenting all the other members in the group, one by one. In this set up, allow everyone some time to write down their compliments to others in the group without having anyone share them. Smaller groups ideally have everyone wearing a name-tag (use first name or nickname)
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Finally for very small groups of people who are horrendously shy, you can resort to people writing down the compliment for each person on a number of pieces of paper, then all the papers are collected and the host of the evening will pull out each one and read them out loud.

Do not use this one unless in extreme circumstances. It is a last resort method of doing it. It does not reach all of the goals needed.






The compliments can be superficial.

It can be based on a physical feature like a smile, complimenting the person’s eyes, mode of attire, or style of clothing.

If you start the group meet with the Charisma Game, most all of the compliments are going to be superficial, as most people will likely not know each other.

If you run the Charisma Game 3-4 times over the span of the group meet (which is the way is usually works best), at each start of the Charisma Game you an instruct people to compliment how the person has participated in the group meet thus far.





Very important to keep in mind; Instruct everyone that compliments are to remain appropriate and be non-sexual in nature. Do remember that some of the people who attend such group meetings are very socially awkward and may not know what is and is not an appropriate compliment. So offer some guidelines as to what is and is not an appropriate compliment.

Finally, set a time limit. The Charisma Game is to happen for a 2-4 minute span at most with medium sized groups. You do not want the same people pairing up during the same segment of the game.







The point of The Charisma Game is:


-To teach people that going up to meet a stranger
to make that person feel good is OK to do



-To teach people strangers coming up to meet you and
attempt to make you feel good is OK to do



-To teach people how
to simply accept a
compliment
(Which some people have a hard time doing)



-To teach people that saying
THANK YOU
is enough,
and not to feel obligated to compliment
back just because
someone complimented them first



-To teach people not to expect anything back
and
not be attached to an outcome when they try to
meet someone new



-To build up people’s
confidence in being able to compliment others, and
for people to have their confidence reinforced by
the compliments of others



-To give people a
chance to meet each other in the group settings
are going to be regular ongoing meetings



-To teach people that the more times you approach
the same person over the course of the workshop,
the easier it gets each time, and carry that comfort
outside the workshop space

​



The Definition of Charisma as I teach it, is to make a person feel good about him or her self, while at the same time present a positive impression of yourself to them.

If you can do that, then you have Charisma.

THE ART OF CALIBRATION PROGRAM: FROM CREEPY TO CHARISMA EBOOK


The use of compliments is how you make a person feel good. HOW you compliment a person without the pressure of expecting anything said in return is how you start to train yourself to make a favorable impression of yourself in the process.



Some of the things that would happen is that people from the workshop would get used to talking to people they liked as well as talking to people they did not like, which is a good social skill to develop.

Some of the people would approach me afterwards and tell me how difficult the first few were, but once they got used to it, they felt more comfortable as they did it more often.

Some people would take me aside and complain that everyone complimented him or her on exactly the same thing (for example, everyone complimented one person on her hairpin, and never on anything else). If this happens, it is a sign for the person to “step up” and give people something else to compliment. It is a great way for someone to learn they may not come across in the ways they thought.

Get a group of people together and try it. Good luck!

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