How Do I Date?

HOW TO START DATING

FRANK KERMIT GIVES FRANK ADVICE

Dear Readers,
Sometimes I answer questions on various sites online as I find them.
I occasionally post the question (edited) as myFrank Advice answer here on my blog.

Names have been changed to protect privacy.
(As much privacy as one can expect posting a question online using their real names). 
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The Question:


"How do I date?"


-Without a Partner

Frank Advice Answer:

Dear Without a Partner,

It really depends what you are looking for. Your approach will be different if you are looking for something more casual (friends-with-benefits dating) or something more serious (long term commitment). Once you have an idea of what you are looking for commitment wise, you are ready for the next step.


The next step is to create a profile of the kind of person that would want, and who would be a good candidate for you. Once you can identify some of the criteria you are looking for, it becomes easier to identify where you would meet such a person.

For example: (and let’s use a particular one), let’s say you seek a sexually adventurous partner who is open minded and willing to explore new sensations with you. Well now that you have that profile, the question becomes: Where does someone who fits that profile spend their time?

Perhaps a popular sexually themed event or show? You can explore if there are communities that put on such events locally, or  seek out online communities that cater to your particular interests to meet like minded people.

Arrange times to meet people from the community or communities that you  have found. Take the time to talk to each person you meet privately. A local public coffee shop is an ideal location as it is public enough to be safe and private enough to share stories. The key here is to put your best self forward.

Do not lie about anything!  Demonstrate that you are looking for a partner and focus on what you have to give to another person.
Do not make it about what the other person must give to you.


If you are dedicated and follow through on this work (and yes dating is work) and you should have at least one, if not more dating partners within 90 days.

After you are in a relationship/s, your focus should be on relationship management. Do not  take your partners for granted but do not  allow yourself to be used either.

This information is just the start of learning to date and having a relationship/s. Coaching helps in many ways, including having an accountability partner, who can help keep you on the right track.

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-Frank Because I have to be

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