A Father's Day memory:
Got something in my eye...I was at the park with my son (he is 7). He tells me that he plans to do two things when he grows up, and then wants to become a parent. I told him he does not have to become a parent if he does not want to.
He says "hey, I am in charge of my own destiny!"
..then I asked him why he wants to one day become a parent,
and he says,"I want be like you"
....feeling a little choked up right now...
You are a great dad if you...
-Put your kids ahead of the rest of your extended family
-Show up to your kids weddings even if your wife did not want to attend
-Made an effort to be a better father to your own kids than your own father was to you
-built up your child's sense of independence and self esteem instead of using shame and guilt and dependence as a means of control
-ask your children about their life dreams and help guided them to turn them to goals
-supported your kids to reach full potential in ways that made kids feel good about themselves
-protected your children from those that would hurt your kids, even at the risk of your own social status in your community
-Taught your children the value of being treated well by others
-Did not involved your children into the adult fights you had with your spouse
-Who shows affection to your kids even if you still have to learn to be comfortable doing it
Happy Fathers Day if you are this kind of Dad!!
From the Coach who deals with clients that did not have this kind of dad.