Weddings are stressful for everyone! Here are 7 Tips for men to help make their wedding day run smoothly.
Here's a call out to any guys getting married soon: Don't screw it up! Your bride-to-be will have been waiting for this day her whole life, so the last thing you want to do is to ruin it for her. Your goal is to do all in your power to ensure a successful wedding day, so take heed of the following mistakes, and start the first day of your married life the right way!
#1: Don't arrive late
The bride is often traditionally late, but you don't want to be. Your goal is to get to your wedding venue before she does, so do the following.
While you might be partying the night before, remember that you do need to get your sleep. Get home at a decent time, set your alarm, and give yourself the opportunity to wake up and refresh yourself before you need to get to your wedding.
You should also consider a wedding transportation company. Professional drivers won't let you down, and they will be ready and waiting for you to take you to where you need to be. This is better than relying on a best friend or family member for transport, especially if they have a track record of being unreliable, and if their cars have a habit of breaking down!
By following these simple steps, you should have no trouble getting to your wedding on time, much to the relief of the bride-to-be who will be expecting to see you at the aisle.
#2: Don't turn up looking a mess
If you have managed to get up at an early time on your wedding day, you should have more time to get ready. You will have time to shower and get a shave, and you will have time to make sure you look presentable in your wedding outfit (make sure you iron and hang up your clothes the night before).
The bride will be doing all she can to look good on the big day, so you don't want to embarrass her with your appearance. Make the effort to look good, as you will then avoid any stressful arguments with your bride, and she won't be forced to say some of her wedding vows through gritted teeth.
#3: Don't forget to compliment your bride on her appearance
As a follow on from that last point, don't forget to tell your bride how beautiful she looks. She will have taken a long time getting ready (probably rising from her bed hours before you), so remember to give her all of the compliments she will be hoping to hear. You don't need to make big, gushing statements, as a simple "you look amazing" will probably suffice. Hint: For a happy and successful marriage, remember to make such compliments on a regular basis!
#4: Don't screw up your wedding vows
If you're following the traditional pattern of wedding vows, you will have very little to remember. But if you have crafted your own, take time before your wedding day to rehearse them. By doing so, you are less likely to get flustered when you're stood in front of your bride, and you will be less likely to improvise with words you might later regret.
If you need some inspiration for your wedding vows, consider these real-life examples for the big day.
#5: Don't forget to spend time with your guests at the wedding
While you might only have eyes for your bride on the wedding day, especially if she looks stunning in her wedding dress, you still need to avert your gaze occasionally and consider your guests. They will want to spend time with you too, more so if they have traveled a long way to get to the wedding, so don't spend all of your time with your bride. After all, you can have all the time you want with her during your honeymoon, and in theory, you have a whole lifetime to be in her company too!
So, talk to people at your wedding, be they your friends or family members, and remember to thank them for coming. You don't need to spend a long time with each person, as a few short minutes of your time might be all it takes to make them feel appreciated.
#6: Don't overdo it on the alcohol
If you're prone to an odd tipple or two, remember not to overdo it. If you drink too much, you might only get drunk, and that could cause you to do all kinds of crazy and unfortunate things. You could stumble into the wedding cake, and demolish it with your body weight. You could reveal too many personal secrets about your bride when you're giving your speech at the dining table. And you could insult one of your in-laws, and that would not stand you in good stead for happy family relations.
So, know your limits, drink in moderation, and improve the chances of your wedding day going by without a hitch!
#7: Don't forget to lend a hand
Too often at weddings, it's the bride running around trying to make sure everything is going smoothly. From checking in with the caterers to managing the needs of the guests, the bride will often be the person that is trying to keep everything under control. Why? Because she wants the day to be perfect, as this is a day she may have dreamed about her whole life!
So, on the wedding day, remember to give her a hand (above and beyond your hand in marriage). If there are jobs that need doing, and if your bride is trying to do everything on her own, be there to support her. Of course, if you have both delegated responsibilities to others, you might both have the opportunity to relax. Still, people can let you down, so whether you have delegated or not, you should still be alert to anything that might need your intervention.
By avoiding these mistakes, your wedding day should go well. You will end the day on a happy note, and reduce the chances of your first day in marriage being a tense and argumentative one!
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