Get Comfortable With The Causes of Grief
by Frank Kermit
This is the first of a series of articles I want to present
on the topics of Bereavement, Grief and Mourning.
The reason I created this group of articles is because I think
that people who are coping with loss generally,
do not get the compassion and support they really need.
People are generally uncomfortable with dealing with any sort
Whether the grief is their own, or dealing with the grief of others.
It makes for awkward interactions, and that is not right.
A person in grief is too wrapped up in their own emotions,
to really notice the awkwardness of the people around them
offering any kind of support.
And those people who would want to offer support,
are too concerned they might make things worse
for the person in mourning.
So these articles aims to help prepare all people to better
manage their sense of loss, and how to better support
the people in their lives who are experiencing a loss.
Losses that may cause grief include:
-Death of a loved one.
-Being diagnosed with a chronic or terminal disease.
-Disability from a severe accident or illness.
-Divorce or the end of a relationship.
-Miscarriage or stillbirth.
-The birth of a child with a birth defect.
-A diagnosis of infertility.
-Learning that your child or teen has developed a behavior problem, learning disability, or substance abuse disorder.
-A move from a familiar home. This is especially hard for older adults.
-Loss of independence after a serious accident or illness.
-An act of violence or a natural disaster.
-Starting school (loss of the comfort of home and familiar surroundings).
-Gaining increasing independence and self-responsibility in the late childhood and teen years (loss of dependence on parents).
-Marriage (loss of independent decision making).
-Birth of a child (loss of independence).
-Retirement (loss of income, work-related identity, and daily social contact).
-Aging and maturing (loss of physical strength and youthful appearance).
As you can see, chances are that EVERYONE is going have to cope with loss
at some point in their lives.
It is fundamentally important that we all develop coping skills.
I hope people find these articles useful.