Every Way To Meet Someone Is A Good Way
By Frank Kermit
Every way to meet someone is a good way. The point is to introduce you, or be introduced, to someone that is looking to meet someone to date and possibly have a more serious relationship with.
It does not matter if it is a blind date (two people who have never actually met nor seen each other, being set up to go out on a date by a third party), dating online, through speed dating (like my own Montreal Speed Dating Meet Up Group), meeting through social circles of friends and family), cold approaches (introducing yourself to a stranger on the street or frequented establishments like coffee houses and grocery stores because you found that person attractive), newspaper personals, or going to events of interest that you share in common with the other people attending (weddings, classes, festivals, and clubs). There is no wrong way to meet someone.
In a time when prisoners who are locked away from society can forge relationships through pen pal letters, and cheaters in relationships are able to find other unfaithful partners to have secret hook ups, there really is no excuse for anyone to claim that they are not able to find someone to date. If you have been single for a long time, you may have to consider that you sabotage yourself, whether you recognize it or not. Show me a person that says that no one has ever made a real effort to get to know them, and I will show you a person that unknowingly brushed off someone showing genuine intrigue because the person was able to read the indicating signs of interest. It is more likely that you are unaware of the people that would date you if you were more open to dating people that you are not initially massively attracted too.
As a coach, one of the more trying moments that I deal with is a client who claims he or she is unable to meet someone to date. When we exhaust the list of ways to meet someone, usually there are some means (as mentioned above) that the client was reluctant to even try. I often hear things like, "that is for desperate people", or "I refuse to go that route!" or the more insidious "that is not the way people are SUPPOSE to meet". How very sad; an entire generation of people were seduced by fictional movies and romance scenes and are waiting for love to come to them across a crowded room and live happily ever after without any efforts on their part.
Sorry folks. Life is not scripted and if you were not lucky enough to have it happen to you already, it means you are one of those people that is going to have to work and take action to find your soul mates. The first step is to make meeting someone to date a top priority and be accepting of every way possible to meet that special someone. Until then, whether you understand it or not, you are closing yourself off to people that want to date you right now, but who already felt rejected by you. Now stop making excuses, and get out there!