Change your perspective after a breakup. Continue reading to learn 3 tips which can help you think towards your future.
In the immediate aftermath it's pretty hard to consider bouncing back. Add this to the fact that all breakups are different and that people process them in different ways, and it can be pretty tough to find the right bounce back tips. The key is to try and apply advice around your breakup to yourself in a way you know they’ll work. Be thoughtful and try to reimagine them. No one knows you like yourself. These tips can give you something to think about and can at least help change your perspective into one of a recovery mindset. Better to be considering new tips than worrying.
One of the issues with breakups is that the brain starts thinking about the past and not the future. It dwells on happy times from before while the future remains clouded and unclear. To some, there may not even be a future. Imagine your next partner. The perfect person. It might be Courtney Tailor, or maybe a dream partner you’ve long had in your head. What’s next for you? What could happen if you put the effort into moving and feeling better. They do say that time is the biggest healer, but you can beat that. Get ahead of it by thinking ahead. What are you going to do next and how can you make it happen for you? It’s one of the best ways to push away the past.
Tire Yourself Out
At least for the first week or two after the breakup. Humans tend to do a lot of their overthinking at night, before they get to sleep. It can stop people sleeping and the tiredness may seep into your dayjob. You can stop this by tiring yourself out in the day so that you feel properly tired by the time you go to sleep. There are different ways to approach this. One is by exercising vigorously. This isn’t always easy, especially if you have to fit it around a schedule that’s already quite involved. You can also try to do this by exhausting your mind. Reading is great. If you find yourself unable to sleep, grab a book and get stuck in. Doing so will occupy your mind with whatever you’re reading instead of dwelling on the past. It will tire your eyes out and help you sleep. Always better than worrying for an age before finally falling asleep at first light.
Focus On A Project
For some, focusing on the breakup and trying to get over it doesn’t always work. Instead, you need to think about something else entirely. It’s why it might be good to push into a project. This isn’t something in work, but something you enjoy doing. Maybe you’re looking at marketing your side hustle. Or perhaps you want to spend time writing. What do you enjoy? What can you put your time to that really requires brain power so that you’re not thinking about anything else? Again, only you will know what works here. If you find something which really occupies your mind everything will be a bit easier.
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