This is a contributed post.
Confidence is key to a successful date or relationship. If you’re unable to conquer your fears, then it’s likely that your date will be less successful than you hoped. But don’t worry! Boosting your confidence can be easier than you think. There are plenty of motivational tricks that you can employ that’ll help to give you that boost of confidence you need to leave a good impression on your date.
Don’t Over Plan Your Date
Don’t prepare for your date like it’s an exam. You need to appear natural and have conversation flow naturally. Do a bit of research on your date, such as any hobbies that he or she has, their favourite movies, etc. Use that as a starting point to begin a conversation and build on top of that. When there’s no natural way to extend that line of conversation, then just switch the topic. Never drone on about a subject for more than a couple of minutes. Keep your conversations interesting!
For example, ask your date about the most recent show he or she watched. If they haven’t seen anything lately, then you could recommend a show that you like. Just don’t over do it and rant on for five minutes about how much you love it. But if they do mention something, then ask about it, be curious, and sound interested to know more.
People want to converse with someone naturally. They don’t want to feel like they’re being interviewed, but they also don’t want to have a silent date either. If you need a bit of help, check out some of these pick up lines that really work to inject a bit of fun into your date.
Looks Aren’t Everything
It’s cliche to think that your appearance means everything. If you have the heart not to judge a book by its cover, then so will your date. You don’t want to tidy up your appearance for two hours before a date—that’s a bit over the top. Imagine if you go on a follow-up date, or you start seeing each other more often, will you spend two hours every day just to replicate that appearance? Some people might go to that length, but a lot of people can appreciate your “normal” look without all the makeup and well-groomed hair.
Couples aren’t concerned about what their partner looks like in the morning when they wake up. It’s their normal appearance, and they appreciate each other for more than just looks. While you shouldn’t attend a date with ragged clothes and messy hair, you don’t need to invest loads of money into buffing up your appearance just for one day. Having the motivation to improve your appearance for the sake of your date is absolutely fine, just don’t go overboard—accept your appearance for what it is.
Stay Positive and Relax
Don’t let bad thoughts get to you. Focus on the positive, such as how fun the date might be or how great it’ll be to meet someone new. It’s difficult to relax if you’re nervous, but that unease comes from all of the negative thoughts such as “what will I do if this goes wrong?”. Banish those thoughts from your mind. Take a deep breath before heading out the door for your date, and treat it like a normal trip out to visit a friend. Sure, you need to make a good first impression, but you can achieve that by acting natural and confident.
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