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Taking A Break - Needing Space when Dating
Dating Dilemmas #83
Frank Kermit makes his 124 appearance on the radio show Passion, hosted by Dr Laurie Betito and Fritz-Gerald of Elite Speed Dating.
Topic of discussion is: Taking A Break and Needing Space When Dating
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Kissing on a First Date: Rules
Kissing on a First Date:
Learning To Love The Lip-Lock
By Frank Kermit
You always go in for a kiss on the first date.
A-L-W-A-Y-S.
A first kiss isn't just for those dates that went really well from the get go. Sometimes, you might not really even know how you feel about someone after you have been on a full date with them,
and it takes a kiss to ignite the chemistry
that may be laying dormant underneath what could be confusing or neutral feelings. A kiss is likely not going to salvage a potential relationship that is dead on arrival.
However, a kiss can be the start of a potentially passionate connection if all the other elements are already there and just needed the kiss as a trigger for the kiss-boom.
In fact, the right kiss, with the right chemistry, can turn the end of a mediocre date into an invitation inside for a nightcap, to a satisfying breakfast in bed the next morning.
Better To Get Rejected Than Not Try To Kiss
Not going for the kiss is WORSE than going for it and being rejected. Even if your attempt to kiss at the end of a first date is rejected, it is still a good thing that you went for it.
Going in for a kiss sexualizes the social dynamic.
There is no vagueness.
There is no guessing if the other person likes you. Your interest is out there and the other person has to deal with it and not waste either of your time with indecision.
Not going for the kiss is WORSE than going for it and being rejected. Even if your attempt to kiss at the end of a first date is rejected, it is still a good thing that you went for it.
Going in for a kiss sexualizes the social dynamic.
There is no vagueness.
There is no guessing if the other person likes you. Your interest is out there and the other person has to deal with it and not waste either of your time with indecision.
Kissing On a First Date is an except of the 25 Rules For Everyone: How To Act On a First Date
Waiting To Kiss Only Works If....
For those people that claim that waiting for a kiss adds mystery and intrigue to a potential relationship, they do not factor in that it only works that way if the two people ALREADY like each other.
If even only one person in that couple is unsure, or at the very least feeling neutral about the other person, going in for the kiss forces the issue. If you like drama, going for a kiss, whether it is a good kiss, a bad kiss, or a rejected kiss carries a heck of a lot more drama with it, than not going for the kiss at all.
For those people that claim that waiting for a kiss adds mystery and intrigue to a potential relationship, they do not factor in that it only works that way if the two people ALREADY like each other.
If even only one person in that couple is unsure, or at the very least feeling neutral about the other person, going in for the kiss forces the issue. If you like drama, going for a kiss, whether it is a good kiss, a bad kiss, or a rejected kiss carries a heck of a lot more drama with it, than not going for the kiss at all.
The Effects Of NOT Kissing
One thing is for sure. If you want to stay "just friends" with someone, then NOT going in for that kiss at the end of a date is a pretty secure way of only ever being a good friend. Being friends can be a good thing, but it is a lousy prospect if you want MORE than just friendship with the person at the center of your heart's affection.
One thing is for sure. If you want to stay "just friends" with someone, then NOT going in for that kiss at the end of a date is a pretty secure way of only ever being a good friend. Being friends can be a good thing, but it is a lousy prospect if you want MORE than just friendship with the person at the center of your heart's affection.
The No-Kissing Male Virgin
I know one person who said that he never goes in for the kiss because he wants to show a girl that he likes that he respects her. For the record, this particular 26-year-old guy never had a girlfriend in his life. I asked him if he ever considered that the girl might have a different interpretation. He seemed confused. I pointed out to him that unless she understood that he was purposefully not trying to kiss her as an expression of respect, that the girls he dated might have in fact interpreted his lack of action as a lack in romantic interest in them.
I know one person who said that he never goes in for the kiss because he wants to show a girl that he likes that he respects her. For the record, this particular 26-year-old guy never had a girlfriend in his life. I asked him if he ever considered that the girl might have a different interpretation. He seemed confused. I pointed out to him that unless she understood that he was purposefully not trying to kiss her as an expression of respect, that the girls he dated might have in fact interpreted his lack of action as a lack in romantic interest in them.
The look of remorse and realization that took over his face is forever etched in my memory.
How To Practice Kissing
For people that are new to kissing, or wanting to experiment with kissing techniques, here are some tips.
- To practice getting used to unfamiliar tongue movements, fill up a glass with ice cubes only and move them around with your tongue. The idea is to deal with your own awkward feelings about the physical nature of kissing, so that when you get to that point in real life, kissing feels familiar and you can enjoy the good vibes that kissing can produce throughout your body.
Tips for Kissing
- Start with a gentle peck on the other person's lips then back off just a few centimeters. Then go in again, and gently lick the other person's lips with your tongue, then back away again. Go in again and repeat until it turns into a French kiss when the other person opens their mouth.
French Kissing Note:
Some people do not like French kissing, so let the other person invite your tongue in for a more passionate lip locking if it is within their scope of comfort, but never force your tongue in.
Some people do not like French kissing, so let the other person invite your tongue in for a more passionate lip locking if it is within their scope of comfort, but never force your tongue in.
Eyes Open or Eyes Closed When Kissing
Should you close your eyes?
The rule is, the person leaning in for the kiss keeps their eyes open, until lip meets lip.
Otherwise, you run the risk of poking someone in the eye with your nose!
(Did that myself, and did it ever ruin the moment.)
The person on the receiving end of the kiss gets to close their eyes and enjoy the lip-locking landing.
A word about boundaries...
When someone tells you, "I never kiss on a first date" they are expressing a boundary.
Respect it.
Find out what that person's boundaries are and when a first kiss IS an option.
If the person says, "a kiss is OK on a third date"; then back off and wait until the 3rd date.
However, there is a catch.
You respect the boundary to the point where, if your partner seeks to break his or her own boundary, you refuse to give in.
It is a test.
If you give in to the kiss, you will likely not see that person again.
If trust and safety are important to the person who stated the boundary you will get the kiss, but likely not another date.
If you hold out, you are more likely to get to see that person again, and the good night kiss might just be one of those times you end up making that person breakfast the next morning.
Never Kiss And Tell
Finally, when you do kiss (whether it is the lousy-peck-on-the-cheek type or the lasting-wet-passionate-curl-your-toes-shivers-down-spine-tingling-in-the-fingers type of kiss) you never kiss and tell.
Never.
Not your best friends,
not your closest confidant,
and not your social networks.
The person you kissed may tell,
but you never let
your lips slip loosely.
In time, the more people that learn you keep your kiss history to yourself, the more people will offer to be part of your kiss list history.
-Frank Kermit
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Adult Male Virgin Advice: If She Likes You, DATE HER!
(originally an article from the Frank Talks Adult Male Virgin Newsletter)
Start Dating Someone That Already Wants You
by Frank Kermit
Once you and I starting coaching, you may be starting to remember some of those girls who were into you and wanted to date you, but who you never gave a fair chance.
These women liked you enough, and you knew it.
But you would not be open-minded enough.
THIS is one of the reasons you are still a virgin.
So here is your tip of the week:
EVERY GIRL GETS ONE DATE WITH YOU.
If she is into you, you go out on a date or two and
GIVE HER A CHANCE.
This will accomplish 3 things.
1. First, you get EXPERIENCE and PRACTICE in dating. That is something you absolutely need as a living Adult Male Virgin who wants to lose his virginity.
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2. Second, you might find out you like her enough to keep seeing her. And if that happens, you just might lose your virginity to someone you like and that likes you back!
3. Third, you likely KNOW what it is like for someone NOT to give you a chance in the past. (Part of the reason you are still a virgin). Well, the best way to help change the world is to be the example that you want the world to follow.
Fast Track To Charisma
If YOU aren't willing to give a girl a chance, then on some level, you will only focus on women just like you, who would NOT be open enough to give you a chance.
However, if you give every girl that likes you a chance, you will start to focus on girls that WOULD give you your chance.
-Frank Kermit
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Dating in the Digital Age
Dating in the digital age... how to find your soul mate.
Written by: Pillow Talk Gal
Can anyone ever find their soul mate?
Is there even such a thing as a soul mate?
If there is, how do you find them?
These are some of the many questions single gals and gents are faced with on a daily basis.
If you are a believer in the fact that your happy ending depends on finding that one special person to fulfill you, then you are one of many that believes this depends on finding ‘’the one’’ (an expression that rom-coms have been using as their bread and butter for so many years).
So, once you know what you are searching for,
how do you make sure you find it?
There are some who prefer to go old school and just let it happen naturally (typically these people will just let life run its course).
Others prefer to take a more ‘’bull by the horn’’ approach and decide to consult dating sites.
Both methods depend on the comfort level of the particular person. I can tell you I have used both methods and can speak to the pros and cons of both.
how do you make sure you find it?
There are some who prefer to go old school and just let it happen naturally (typically these people will just let life run its course).
Others prefer to take a more ‘’bull by the horn’’ approach and decide to consult dating sites.
Both methods depend on the comfort level of the particular person. I can tell you I have used both methods and can speak to the pros and cons of both.
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Time
When we’re younger we truly believe we have all the time in the world and are usually in no rush to settle down.
As time marches on, we begin to feel like something is missing (this is often brought on by the fact that our friends or people in our inner circle, begin to settle down by choosing mates, getting married or having children).
In some women, this is often the point where that infamous biological clock starts to chime so loudly you would swear it’s the default ringtone on your phone.
At this point it becomes about finding someone to be with.
You go on date after date, hoping to find the person you are supposed to be with.
Time after time you put yourself out there (sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s really horrible and sometimes it’s just downright wrong/uncomfortable).
Then, just when you tell yourself you are done looking, the most amazing thing happens. Love seems to find you!
You know that saying:
‘’you will find love when you stop looking for it’’,
well I can tell you for a fact that it does happen (it turns out rom-coms do get a few facts right).
This is the scenario that sometimes happens when you let life runs its course.
Now, what do you do if you’re not in your 20’s or 30’s anymore and you find yourself starting over?
You want to go back out there and look for love again but dating seems so scary and juvenile.
Where do you start?
Well, that’s the beauty of dating sites!
Technology is for once on your side because now that you have experience with love, you (hopefully) know what you’re looking for.
Dating sites can really help you put yourself out there in a way that makes you feel less vulnerable than before (instead of having to either ask someone out or be setup on a blind date).
Apps and sites can help you target exactly the kind of mate you’re looking for.
Trust
Although there is a certain comfort in picking and choosing from many different profiles, you still have the same uncertainty as with the more traditional methods:
the trust factor.
This is where Internet dating and traditional dating resembles each other the most.
You never really know until you meet and spend time with the actual person.
Although there is a certain comfort in picking and choosing from many different profiles, you still have the same uncertainty as with the more traditional methods:
the trust factor.
- Is the person you are interested in being totally honest with you?
- Do they really look the same in real life as their profile picture?
- Do they really prefer cats over dogs?
- Does he/she really love camping and long hikes in the woods?
This is where Internet dating and traditional dating resembles each other the most.
You never really know until you meet and spend time with the actual person.
Internet Dating Vs Traditional Dating
So in the end, which method is best for finding your soul mate?
The answer is either.
In today’s society it’s so easy to just click a button and search for love, but ultimately it’s about the time and effort you put in that counts.
No magic wands, no fairy god mothers just good old fashioned time, effort and of course faith that eventually love will ultimately find you (whether it’s digital or otherwise).
Either way, love is out there and you just have to figure out what works best for you.
– Pillow Talk Gal
About Pillow Talk Gal
Born and raised in British Columbia, she is a professional woman managing a career, marriage, and a teenager. Life can be challenging at times but she's a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason, and more often than not, she tries to understand those reasons.
"Join me in my journey throughout life’s issues and I guarantee you’ll be left pondering an issue or two." - Pillow Talk Gal
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4 Dating Tips of What Women Want
Dating: What do women really want?
by Pillow Talk Gal
Dating can be a veritable mine field, from how to dress, what to say and how to act. There is no exact science to dating, no how to manuals we can read. We are often left to follow our instinct and sometimes those instincts can be either bang on or dead wrong.
As a woman I can only speak to men who are looking to find out what not to do if you plan on seeing a woman past the first date.
Below are just a few personal tips that I hope will help to make the mine field a little less daunting.
Tip #1 : Dress to impress.
Most women will take note of a man’s appearance right away. While you are busy checking her out, she is actively doing the same but in a very different way. While you may be checking out her body, she is doing that as well, but in so much more detail. She is taking note of every little detail right down to the amount of facial hair you have and whether it’s been properly groomed.
She is looking at your hands to see if your finger nails are dirty, she’s taking note on how much cologne you decided to put on (tip: less is more) and yes she is even checking to see if there is a tan line where a wedding ring might be.
Some would say appearances don’t matter, not true.
The old saying ‘’first impressions are important’’ is key!
In life they say you have to dress for the job you want, well dating is really not that different. Women love it when a man makes an effort to look good, it shows they care, not only about their date but themselves as well. (this should be a given but it’s worth mentioning)
A man who doesn’t have a good sense of style can be a complete turn off for some, where others can see it as a challenge (a fixer upper kind of guy).
Either way, it’s best to play it safe and go with a nice collared shirt (no tie) and a dressy pair of jeans.
You can never go wrong with business/casual style.
Tip #2: Leave the past behind.
Nothing is more off putting than a man that seems to not have moved on from his last relationship. We all have our relationship baggage to deal with, but dealing with it while you’re on a date with another woman is not that time (this lesson applies to women too).
If you’re out with a woman who just happens to enjoy the same kind of music as your ex, or she happens to like the same kinds of food as your ex, whatever you do, don’t bring it up!
Mentioning any kinds of similarities between a date and an ex can lead not only to insecurities on her part, but also make you look like you’re still hung up on your ex!
Of course, if you were in a serious relationship and are back on the dating scene you might notice you have a specific ‘’type’’ you are attracted to, which is fine.
There are bound to be some similarities, just don’t go out of your way to mention them, especially on the first date. She will lose interest in you faster than you can say ‘’when can I see you again?’’
Tip #3: Confidence versus arrogance.
Women love a man who is confident, but not to the point of arrogance.
It is a big turn on when we see that a man has confidence in himself but at the same time he is humble about that confidence.
For example, there is nothing worse than being with a guy who is good looking and acts like he knows it.
The turn on for us is, he’s good looking but thinks he isn’t (I know it’s weird but it’s true).
Tip #4: Keep some thoughts to yourself.
If you’re on a date with a woman whom you find very attractive, refrain from making awkward remarks about specific things you find sexy about her (especially on a first date).
You might find she has a great body or sexy lips and that’s fine, but making a point about how you happen to find those traits sexy is just creepy.
For example, your date happens to have very full sexy lips, don’t blurt out ‘’you have the most beautiful, sexy lips I have ever seen!’’.
It comes off as if all you’re looking at are her lips, which leads a woman to think all you’re interested in are her looks and not getting to know her as a person.
If the relationship progresses past a couple of weeks, then those kinds of comments most probably could be a turn on, as opposed to making her want to run screaming in the opposite direction.
Keep your cool and instead of fixating on her looks, listen to her when she speaks. Really take an interest in what she has to say.
A man who can have a real conversation with a woman is so sexy and believe me, she will notice if you’re not actively listening, so really put some effort into it.
If the chemistry is good, you will find there won’t be much effort required.
I wish you all happy dating and I hope my tips will have proven useful to at least a few people.
It can be tough out there and sometimes a few tips can go a long way.
-Pillow Talk Gal
It can be tough out there and sometimes a few tips can go a long way.
-Pillow Talk Gal
About Pillow Talk Gal
Born and raised in British Columbia, she is a professional woman managing a career, marriage, and a teenager. Life can be challenging at times but she's a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason, and more often than not, she tries to understand those reasons.
"Join me in my journey throughout life’s issues and I guarantee you’ll be left pondering an issue or two." - Pillow Talk Gal
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Why Are Hot Good Looking People Still Single?
Why Are Good Looking People Still Single?
by Frank Kermit
Dating Dilemmas 81, this is Frank Kermit's 122nd appearance on Passion radio program. Airs on Montreal CJAD 800 's and Toronto Newstalk 1010 CFRB.
Frank Kermit joins producer and host Dr Laurie Betito and sponsor Fritz-Gerald of Elite Speed Dating to talk about the Dating Dilemmas people face.
- How important are good looks in dating?
- Can a good looking person be faithful?
- Why are Good Looking People Still Single?
- What are the stigmas and stereotypes of good looking people?
- Do good looking people intimidate others?
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The topic of this book, as to why women would rather choose to date a jerk than to date a nice guy and the role of Assertiveness to attract a woman to date a male friend, was covered in the interview above. Check out:
From Friends To Lovers: Stop Being Her Emotional Cookie Man.
Make Her Yours If You Love Her!
The Speed Dating Secrets Revealed
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The Frank Guide
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100 Articles on Love, Sex, Dating and Relationships
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Podcast interview - What Makes You Un--date-able ?
Published on Apr 25, 2017
What Makes someone undateable?
and are YOU undateable!
Frank makes his 11th appearance on the programThe Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder. This is episode #0401 of The Stuph File
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What You Hate Most About Dating
What You Hate Most About Dating, And What You Can Do About It
by Frank Kermit
In anticipation of appearing on the radio program Passion with Dr. Laurie Betito for the monthly feature Dating Dilemmas, I posted a question on Social Media, asking:
by Frank Kermit
In anticipation of appearing on the radio program Passion with Dr. Laurie Betito for the monthly feature Dating Dilemmas, I posted a question on Social Media, asking:
WHAT DO YOU HATE MOST ABOUT DATING?
The results were very interesting.
Some complaints were very common and came up often.
Other people brought up some unique points of interest, that made for great discussion.
So, we took some of those suggestions and talked about it on air during the radio show.
Unfortunately, there was not enough time to cover ALL the complaints that came up,
So, here is the youtube video of the entire radio show for you all to check out:
And just because the complaints were so amazing, I posted a number of them here:
Playing hard to get, taking time to respond, hot & cold thinking it'll make the guy more interested.
-R.
People who feign interest in another person with no intention of following through to boost their own ego. example: When a woman tells a man she wants to see his new place. Then the man tries to set up a time to make that happen and the woman suddenly stops responding or says she was just kidding.
-J
Being In Love with a Female Friend, that will not give me a chance after knowing me for years. I ask her out and she says that she does not want to ruin the friendship. Like, we are going to have a friendship after she rejects me!
-Friendzoned
I give too much to other people, and all I get is taken advantage of. Does anyone even want to get into a relationship anymore?
-People-Pleaser
A long time friend will reject you for a date, unless you approach her in this way!
Learning What To Say on a First Date is 50% of Learning To Enjoy Dating!
It's tilted in favour of women.
-Male
I've always felt dating favoured men or was easier for men.
-Female
Mostly they like you and you don't like them. Or vice versa
-T
People who don't seem to know what they want or can't express it.
-L
In person: Flakes. Getting them to actually meet up. Having a connection when you meet and then never want to meet up. Playing games or misleading you.
-A
Online wise: catfish, old pictures or angled shots that don't truly represent what they look like, girls who judge based on attributes you can't change when your honest. Girls who expect you to be their sugar daddy and support them and their 20 kids you had no part in creating
-A
It's the finding someone you want to date that I find annoying. At my age, late 40's, I find it obviously a lot harder to meet people than when I was in my 30's.
-M
Learn The New Rules of Dating, To ENJOY the Dating Process!
The Secret To Breaking Up and Staying on Good Terms
I miss the old fashioned dating...where you get to know each other face to face and have communication and not the texting kind . Where you go on a date and if it goes well you go on another. Now a days it's just so complicated and impersonal and they want to do everything backwards.
-S
When married men say they are divorced and after your first date it's we are separated but still live in the same house ...just waiting for the house to sell
-M
Date went well, until he told me about his girlfriend 😒 ... why accept the date if you've got a girlfriend? Yes he said it was an open relationship. Maybe theirs is, but I'm not. Monogamy is the only way for me.
-K
approach anxiety, when women pressure for monogamy, when erectile dysfunction happens
-T
Finding out the guy lied or has another girlfriend
-M
A Guide to Managing Monogamy and Non-Monogamy
Learn the Basics of Being Romantic for your Next Date
Girls who expect the guy to always pay for everything.
-J
The phrase, "shall we split this?"
-P
I had a guy asked me to go on a date to a nice restaurant then he actually said he doesn't have money to pay for the dinner when we about to left, so I spent quite a lot that time. Then he dare to asked for another trip to cinema after I just paid for everything. I don't mean that man should pay for things but he was being rude and asked me to pay for him on a first date. He also ordered an expensive meal.
-W
-J
The phrase, "shall we split this?"
-P
I had a guy asked me to go on a date to a nice restaurant then he actually said he doesn't have money to pay for the dinner when we about to left, so I spent quite a lot that time. Then he dare to asked for another trip to cinema after I just paid for everything. I don't mean that man should pay for things but he was being rude and asked me to pay for him on a first date. He also ordered an expensive meal.
-W
When you date someone, treat them like a queen, respect etc but they eventually choose the bad boy type that treats them like garbage all the while telling you how wonderful you are. Apparently respect and kindness is not exciting anymore
-N
This was my complaint before I met my perfect match: Getting punished for treating women well, getting rewarded for doing the opposite, and the damage it did to my personality until I realized it, and until I got lucky enough to meet someone who isn't like that.
-T
How To Get Her to Date You Instead of the Bad Boy and Find out if she is actually worth it.
The Secrets Of Mastering Speed Dating in Record Time
The amount of time and effort needed in order to find someone who is worth the time. Going on a first date is awful. I prefer job interviews. Then there's the waiting game... who calls whom? When? The expectation of physical intimacy on date 3 even though you may only have a total of 9 hours spent together. The head games... "I had a great time- let's do this again" and never calls.
-A
Having to tell some stranger your life story...again.
-I
Manipulation (push/pull and other coercive tactics), games, girls who play games, the immaturity, deception, feeding egos, dysfunctions, agendas/ulterior motives, affairs, lack of ethics, principles, morals, integrity, respect, the need to have things happen quickly, etc. It's a social construct that existed ever since the sexual revolution...It's done more harm than good by corrupting those involved...the generation of our grandparents did things right. Media has sold the false notion of propaganda through bad boy/girl images, fantasies, etc. The general public bought into it. Real life is completely different. Reality can make or break things or people.
-L
How to expand on the stories of your life, without lying, and presenting yourself in the best possible way for attraction
How To Get More Social with Friends and Dating, and Network in Friendly Ways
trying to start dating again at the age of 50
-J
Finding a babysitter. I've had a guy get angry because I couldn't have my son watched
-M
I hate having to shower three times a day.
-C
I hate that dating feels alienating. Like I'm never good enough. Not attractive enough or successful enough. Like I have to be a perfect specimen.
-J
The implied notion that a woman is considered a 'slut' if she goes to bed with a man too early (even though many men deny that they think that way).
-T
Getting your hopes up before a date, thinking they may actually have potential and then being disappointed.
-T
My wife finding out
-F
How You Can Be HONEST and STILL have a Great Love Life!
Understand Women on an Emotional Level
Hate Most? Actually trying to GET THAT 1ST DATE! I'm a Tv & Movie Extra at 57, with a long beard and long hair. Most women won't even talk to me unless I shave. If I do, then they will consent to give me a date. but I will have to FORGET ABOUT GETTING A JOB! I'm still the SAME person, aren't I?
-J
What I always hated about dating were expectations on either (or both) sides. There is no need to "get" anywhere. There is only being nice to each other. (IMHO)
-F
It's much like job hunting. Tell to much to soon and you risk scaring them away.
-N
You are judged by your looks and your material possessions.
-R
dating is too serious and i find that people lack a sense of humour and adventure
-D
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What is CookandDate?
What is CookandDate?
by Cristina Mucciardi
CookandDate is one of, if not the best way to meet likeminded singles today…
Of course I’m bias as to why CookandDate is such a great way to meet potential mates because I am the founder, however time and time again we get so much positive feedback that we can’t think otherwise.
The concept is simple, get a group of singles together (average 16) in a private kitchen, with a preset menu and have them mingle and cook together before enjoying the wonderful meal.
We advertise 10-15 year age categories so that people can choose an appropriate age group based on whom they are looking to meet …
Events are typically 3-4 hours long…I or another host/hostess is always present to help with the flow of the evening.
It feels like we invited you to a dinner party amongst friends, smiles & laughter a must.
After the activity if there are any interests, you can either exchange contact info at the event, or wait for us to send our thank you email with usernames from the site, you can then msg people through the chat function.
People like this option because it’s a little less intrusive and then can plan a date without exchanging any personal info before they are really sure.
We host about 40 events every year in Montreal!
Cristina Mucciardi wrote the introduction to What To Say 101 Conversations for a First Date - a FrankTalks.com book
CookandDate, offers weekly culinary and cocktail events for singles. The evening's format has guests interact by cooking several courses and a sit-down meal. Chefs cover various cuisines, including French, Italian, Mediterranean, Indian, Kenyan and Caribbean. CookandDate recently launched events in Toronto and New York City as well as an expansion across Canada and the United States.
What is CookandDate?
Cristina Mucciardi is a 30 something year old entrepreneur that always had the dream of starting her own business. In the past she has tried importing clothing lines from Europe, starting a chain of tanning salons and investing in a small beauty company out of Ohio.
At one point, she stumbled upon a chef in France that had his own cooking school where once a month he would give cooking classes as a singles event, and she thought, “WOW she would do that!!! What an unintimidating way to meet other singles without feeling desperate or spending time in the “bar scene” which never seemed to work out right…”
She launched her site www.cookanddate.com in Jan 2008. The service has now expanded to include personalized matchmaking, appearance and etiquette coaching to name a few. CookandDate has appeared in the media including On television: Entertainment Tonight Canada, CTV, Global Television, TVA, Radio-Canada, CJNT, In print: The Gazette, La Presse, Clin D'Oeil, Summum Girl, On the radio: The Score Toronto, Virgin Radio 96, CKOI, Q92, CHOM, CJAD, On websites/blogs: MSN, About.com, FranceTop, Canoe, SingleEdition, Watchmojo, Sweetspot.ca
Cristina is getting married MAY 2107 to a great man and more importantly her best friend…
Contact for more information or to schedule an interview about CookandDate:
Cristina Mucciardi 1-888-702-2633 / 514-664-5991
cristina@cookanddate.com
CookandDate Founder & Project Coordinator
www.cookanddate.com
At one point, she stumbled upon a chef in France that had his own cooking school where once a month he would give cooking classes as a singles event, and she thought, “WOW she would do that!!! What an unintimidating way to meet other singles without feeling desperate or spending time in the “bar scene” which never seemed to work out right…”
She launched her site www.cookanddate.com in Jan 2008. The service has now expanded to include personalized matchmaking, appearance and etiquette coaching to name a few. CookandDate has appeared in the media including On television: Entertainment Tonight Canada, CTV, Global Television, TVA, Radio-Canada, CJNT, In print: The Gazette, La Presse, Clin D'Oeil, Summum Girl, On the radio: The Score Toronto, Virgin Radio 96, CKOI, Q92, CHOM, CJAD, On websites/blogs: MSN, About.com, FranceTop, Canoe, SingleEdition, Watchmojo, Sweetspot.ca
Cristina is getting married MAY 2107 to a great man and more importantly her best friend…
Contact for more information or to schedule an interview about CookandDate:
Cristina Mucciardi 1-888-702-2633 / 514-664-5991
cristina@cookanddate.com
CookandDate Founder & Project Coordinator
www.cookanddate.com
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You Don't Have Time for Toxic People in Your Life
You Do Not Have Time For Toxic People
By Frank Kermit
When I lecture, coach or regularly talk on the radio about Toxic people,
I usually define Toxic people as lacking the capacity to reason, or people who have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you.
I often advise that the best way to deal with a toxic person is not to deal with that person at all.
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One of the principles I teach in my coaching workbooks for men and women, "I'm A Man, That's My Job" and "I'm a Woman, It's My Time" respectively is that you have to learn to deal with toxic people as part of learning to manage any successful relationship.
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However, sometimes a “toxic” person may not be typically toxic at all.
In fact the person could be a very caring friend of yours that simply is giving you bad advice or encouraging you in ways that are not in your best long-term interest.
In the same way that Arizona law allows people to move forward by sealing past mistakes under ARS 13-911, it’s important to recognize when something that seems helpful may actually be holding you back.
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A “toxic” person could also be someone that you love, who genuinely loves you back, but isn’t ready or interested in moving forward with you for any number of reasons.
Sometimes a toxic person is someone you are very close to, and can even count on, but who also brings out your worst attributes.
If you are single and interested in finding a serious relationship, it is very important that you keep toxic people (and those who are not toxic per se, but have a negative impact on your love life) as far away from you as possible.
Sometimes a toxic person is someone you are very close to, and can even count on, but who also brings out your worst attributes.
If you are single and interested in finding a serious relationship, it is very important that you keep toxic people (and those who are not toxic per se, but have a negative impact on your love life) as far away from you as possible.
Here are some examples
If you happen to be overly critical of yourself to the point that you continually put yourself down, or discourage yourself from trying new things, and there is someone around you that fuels these behaviors, that person may be toxic to you.
Even if the person pushes you in discouraging yourself from trying new things because that person just wants to protect your feelings in case those new things do not work out;
regardless of the intent, that person is holding you back and not doing you any real favours.
regardless of the intent, that person is holding you back and not doing you any real favours.
Learn To Calibrate to Toxic People
If you happen to start dating someone new and the chemistry is not exactly where you want it to be, and you decided to give your date a chance to let the chemistry develop over time because you really like your date and love all of your date’s other attributes
BUT your best friend tells you that you should dump your date, because you deserve better, and should never settle,
then your best friend may be toxic to you.
BUT your best friend tells you that you should dump your date, because you deserve better, and should never settle,
then your best friend may be toxic to you.
Maybe your best friend has your best interests at heart, or maybe your best friend is jealous of your date and doesn’t want to lose spending time with you.
Either way, if you have a chance at finding a decent partner to have a serious relationship, and a person in your life is pushing you to give it up before giving it a real chance, that person may be toxic for you.
If you are attempting to adopt a healthier lifestyle of eating better, exercising and reducing the amount of alcohol and junk food you eat, and a person in your life keeps trying to get you to go out places that encourage those behaviors you are trying to change, that person may be toxic for you.
The person could attempt to join you on your new outings that encourage your new sought out healthier lifestyle, but isn’t interested, and attempts to guilt you into going places you would rather stay away from, that person may be toxic for you.
Advice on Dealing with Toxic People
If you want to move forward in your life, it is going to involve some sacrifices
and one of those sacrifices might mean to spend less time with the toxic people in your life who, good intentions or not, hold you back.
There will be consequences such as some hurt feelings, and maybe a little resentment from the people that you put some distance with.
On the other hand,
the consequences might also include a newfound sense of adventure for life, new confidence in your ability to more forward, and even the best possible serious romantic relationship ever.
In the long term, it might be a pretty good trade.
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