Digital Age Dating and Finding Your Soulmate

6/12/2017

Dating in the Digital Age

Dating in the digital age... how to find your soul mate.
Written by: Pillow Talk Gal

Can anyone ever find their soul mate?

Is there even such a thing as a soul mate?

If there is, how do you find them?

These are some of the many questions single gals and gents are faced with on a daily basis.

If you are a believer in the fact that your happy ending depends on finding that one special person to fulfill you, then you are one of many that believes this depends on finding ‘’the one’’ (an expression that rom-coms have been using as their bread and butter for so many years).

So, once you know what you are searching for,
how do you make sure you find it?

There are some who prefer to go old school and just let it happen naturally (typically these people will just let life run its course).

Others prefer to take a more ‘’bull by the horn’’ approach and decide to consult dating sites.

Both methods depend on the comfort level of the particular person. I can tell you I have used both methods and can speak to the pros and cons of both.

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Time

When we’re younger we truly believe we have all the time in the world and are usually in no rush to settle down.

As time marches on, we begin to feel like something is missing (this is often brought on by the fact that our friends or people in our inner circle, begin to settle down by choosing mates, getting married or having children).

In some women, this is often the point where that infamous biological clock starts to chime so loudly you would swear it’s the default ringtone on your phone.

At this point it becomes about finding someone to be with.

You go on date after date, hoping to find the person you are supposed to be with.

Time after time you put yourself out there (sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s really horrible and sometimes it’s just downright wrong/uncomfortable).

Then, just when you tell yourself you are done looking, the most amazing thing happens. Love seems to find you!

You know that saying:

‘’you will find love when you stop looking for it’’,

well I can tell you for a fact that it does happen (it turns out rom-coms do get a few facts right).

This is the scenario that sometimes happens when you let life runs its course.

Now, what do you do if you’re not in your 20’s or 30’s anymore and you find yourself starting over?

You want to go back out there and look for love again but dating seems so scary and juvenile.

Where do you start?

Well, that’s the beauty of dating sites!

Technology is for once on your side because now that you have experience with love, you (hopefully) know what you’re looking for.

Dating sites can really help you put yourself out there in a way that makes you feel less vulnerable than before (instead of having to either ask someone out or be setup on a blind date).

Apps and sites can help you target exactly the kind of mate you’re looking for.

Trust

Although there is a certain comfort in picking and choosing from many different profiles, you still have the same uncertainty as with the more traditional methods:
the trust factor.

Is the person you are interested in being totally honest with you?
Do they really look the same in real life as their profile picture?
Do they really prefer cats over dogs?
Does he/she really love camping and long hikes in the woods?

This is where Internet dating and traditional dating resembles each other the most.

You never really know until you meet and spend time with the actual person.

Internet Dating Vs Traditional Dating

So in the end, which method is best for finding your soul mate?

The answer is either.

In today’s society it’s so easy to just click a button and search for love, but ultimately it’s about the time and effort you put in that counts.

No magic wands, no fairy god mothers just good old fashioned time, effort and of course faith that eventually love will ultimately find you (whether it’s digital or otherwise).

Either way, love is out there and you just have to figure out what works best for you.

– Pillow Talk Gal

About Pillow Talk Gal

Born and raised in British Columbia, she is a professional woman managing a career, marriage, and a teenager. Life can be challenging at times but she's a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason, and more often than not, she tries to understand those reasons.

"Join me in my journey throughout life’s issues and I guarantee you’ll be left pondering an issue or two." - Pillow Talk Gal

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