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by Frank Kermit
For whatever reason, losing your virginity has not been your priority.
How do I know? You are still a virgin.
Believe it or not, that is one of the biggest differences between men
who lost their virginity before you did.
Sure, some of them just got lucky and found a girl that liked them
back, and some of them just took a chance and went for it and
it just happened. But that did not happen for you.
And since it did not happen for you, that means that you are just going
to have to work harder than the other guys.
That means you have to make it a goal.
Once you make it a goal to lose your virginity, it becomes a priority
in your life. And that is a GOOD thing.
As you read in the AMV Handbook, or listened to the audio seminar,
I made it a goal after I was humiliated publicly when I was outed as a virgin.
I was unhappy being a virgin. And as soon as it became a concrete goal,
it helped motivate me to take actions so that I would put myself in
situations so that I could focus my TIME and ATTENTION on the things
that I thought would help me most.
When something is a PRIORITY in your life, you put everything else
that is NOT a priority aside, so that you can dedicate yourself to
reaching that goal.
And Yes, losing your virginity is an acceptable goal to have.
It is OK to finally lose your virginity.
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Bad Choices catch up with you
Good People Making Bad Choices
By Frank Kermit
This is blog is designed to offer advice, tips and support,
for seekers to find what they need to build, create and engage into
a successful marriage.
The reason this is such an important area of my coaching practice
is because most couple that get married
never do so in the hopes it will end in divorce.
Most people get into marriage wanting it to last until
death does them part.
Unfortunately, with the divorce rate being what it is, this is obviously not the result the majority of those couples ever wanted.
I see a lot of really good people, who want successful marriages,
in my private coaching practice working with individuals, and couples.
People who aim to live out their lives together in a successful marriage,
generally speaking, do so out of a desire to be happy, build a family
together, and want to establish a future together based on the principles that are important to them.
These same individuals aim to create a relationship structure,
that will be able to withstand the hard times, enjoy the good times,
and last a life time.
Simply put, they want to live a life of making choices to create the
most successful marriages possible.
The challenge however, is not that they lack choice to
making that happen.
It is that they do not know how to MANAGE their choices.
Years ago, I described one of the tenants of my coaching practice with this statement:
The power of choice, without the skills to know what to do with it,
can lead to a misery so great, it ends up being worse than living
in a system of oppression that meets basic needs.
That is what I see in my coaching practice.
Good people, making horrible choices that destroy their chances
of every having a happily successful marriage.
It is one thing not to be sure what choices is best for you.
It is completely a different matter to figure out how the heck
you manage a marriage in a way that
meets the emotional needs of everyone involved.
People often do not realize the mistakes they are making
managing their marriages (or upcoming marriages), until it is too late and they lose their marriages, destroy their families,
and send their kids into therapy.
So my coaching aims to help prepare all people to manage
the many choices they will have to make while they seek out
the secrets of successful marriages.
The Pre Marital Coaching is for all the people who:
-Want to Divorce Proof their marriages
-Are about to move in together
-Are thinking about getting engaged or who already got engaged
-Looking to elope
-Want to start a family
-Afraid of ever getting divorce, and want to reduce the risks
-Went through a divorce before and want to prevent another
-Have family and friends against this union and they want to prove them wrong
-Want to be sure they have the skills necessary to stick to their vows
-Are struggling with the idea of a prenuptial agreement
-Have doubts about marriage
-Want to make "til death do us part" mean something again
-Want to find ways to talk to their partner about difficult subjects
-Worry about trusting their partner
-Worry about the challenge of long term commitment
-Are looking for a marriage that is LGBTQF friendly
-Are looking for a marriage that is alternative lifestyle friendly
-Want conflict resolution skills
-Having a hard time pinpointing your relationship rules and boundaries
If you want to invest in securing a solid foundation to make sure
you are in a relationship that actually succeeds, then you are
seeking the secrets of a successful marriage
as well as those couples in already establish committed relationships that are working things out to stay together.
As you read and follow the articles on my blog,
do please reach out to me with any information that you feel,
was really helpful to you, in your pursuit of seeking the secrets of your personal success.
-Frank Kermit
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After a while in a happy relationship, it’s easy to start thinking about the future. However, marriage is such a big commitment that you need to ensure you are both ready. It can put huge pressure on your relationship, and your marriage will crumble if you aren’t both wanting the same things. Here are some signs that your relationship is ready for the next step, and it's time to pop the question.
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One of the first major steps you and your partner would have likely made in your relationship is moving in together. After all, more couples than ever are living together first before tying the knot. It helps couples to find out more about each other and how they act under difficult circumstances. Research has found that couples are less likely to divorce if they live together for a period before getting hitched. Therefore, if you have lived together for a while and are still happy together, it could be time to get married.
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Your relationship will never survive marriage if you don’t have similar future plans. If one of you wants to go traveling, while the other wants to settle down and have a family, it’s never going to work between you. Therefore, before going to buy a ring, you need to talk to her about the future. Discuss your five-year plan to see if you are both on the same page. That way, you can ensure you're both ready for the future before tying the knot.
You both are financially ready
It’s important that the two of you have enough money if you are going to get married. After all, weddings are an expensive time which can put a lot of pressure on your relationship. If you don’t have enough money, you are unlikely to have a day that you both will love. Also, a wedding can stop you from saving for other things like your own home or a big holiday which you both really want to do. Therefore, you need to both be prepared for this. On top of this, you need to have enough money to buy her a beautiful ring such as gemstone engagement rings. After all, as this feature reveals, you should spend three months of your salary on a ring! Therefore, make sure you are financially ready before planning to get hitched!
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No relationship is perfect. You are bound to have a row every so often as the odd argument is part of a healthy relationship. But if you are genuinely happy together and love being around each other, then it could be a sign you should get hitched. Also, you should ensure you want to spend the rest of your life with her. If you can’t imagine not being with another girl, then you are not in the right headspace to get married.
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Seek a life partner that has a compatible life plan to yours
Planning the rest of your life together
by Frank Kermit
When I sit down with a couple for Pre Marital Coaching,
which is working with a couple who are getting ready
to move to the next step in their relationship,
one of the questions I always ask them is
what do they have planned for the rest of their lives together?
Whether you are
moving in together
buying property together
having a child together
getting married
getting engaged
one of the key elements towards success
is having a life plan
and then checking to make sure
that your individual life plans
are actually compatible.
I have seen couples, who were very much in love
but had very incompatible life plans.
Where one person wanted 2 children in the next 5 years
and the other did not want children at all.
Where one person wanted to eventually move to Japan
and the other person wanted to move to Brazil
Where one person wanted to retire together to Florida
and the other person refused ever stop working
Where one person needed to spend the next 4 years
traveling to a different continent for a unique and specific
graduate education in a niche industry
and the other person was running out of time
to start a family
So, if you want to have a successful marriage
that will last long term
and withstand the status of separation and divorce
get your life plan in order.
Know what you need to know for your life plan
and find a partner that has a life plan that is compatible with yours.
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by Frank Kermit, Updated on March 2, 2018
During my couples coaching sessions,
one of the topics of discussion that tends to come up
is the wedding list of guests.
One of the questions I ask is:
Have either one of you had an intimate relationship with any guests,
that your partner (the one who is marrying you)
does not know about?
I think the majority of couples would be surprised by just
how often it turns out that some of the wedding guests
turn out to be secret past lovers of either member of the couple
getting married, that the other partner did not know.
What turns out to be worse, is when that secret lover,
actually made it to the actual wedding party
(either a bridesmaid, or an usher/groomsman)
Sometimes, having someone who has a sexual past
with a wedding partner attend your wedding as a guest
can be taken as an insult to the other wedding partner.
Usually, the invitation of a past lover
to a wedding can be handled,
but it is the secretive nature of the information
that causes the bigger issue.
The other partner starts to wonder
what other information has not been volunteered
that will continued to be "hidden" until the correct
direction question is asked.
That is no way to start a wedding guest list.
As a general rule, ex-lovers and weddings do not mix.
And in the event one of your secret ex-lovers
has been invited to your wedding
make sure you TELL YOUR PARTNER
The worst thing that can happen,
is that the information is reveal
at the wedding, when everyone is celebrating
and secrets come out unintentionally.
It is a time people become emotionally,
and sometimes intoxicated,
which always spells trouble for secret-keeping.
I have seen this happen from direct experience
and those of my client base.
Plan for your wedding to be spectacular, not a spectacle.
If you are a couple that wants to get more serious but are worried you will end up divorced, or an individual trying to figure out if you have found the right person, consider signing up for my 12-hour pre-marriage coaching program.
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Frank's Weight Loss
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit who is a relationship coach that we’ve had on the program several times over the years, has a new coaching service that is near and dear to his heart. He’s now a certified weight loss coach, after he himself lost over 200 pounds. This is Frank's 18th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Relationships and Social Media.
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about relationships and social media. This is Frank's 17th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Dating in the Time of the Covid-19 Pandemic.
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about dating in the time of the Covid-19 pandemic. It’s a topic that Frank has written articles about, one of which you can find here.. This is Frank's 16th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
How Dating has Changed for the Next Generation
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit discusses how dating has changed for the next generation.. This is Frank's 15th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
How Soon in a Relationship Should You Start Having Sex?
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit answers the question, how soon in a relationship should you start having sex?.. This is Frank's 14th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Dating Someone Who Has Been Single for a Long Time
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about dating someone who has been single for a long time. Apparently there is a shelf life for serial singles as many might shun them as a potential mate.. This is Frank's 13th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Cuffing Season
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Cuffing Season the period during the holiday season when some singles get back into old relationships to avoid being alone during the holidays. This is Frank's 12th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
People who have been deemed “undateable.”
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about People deemed "undateable". This is Frank's 11th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Minefield of Valentine's Day
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about the minefield that is Valentine's Day. This is Frank's 10th appearance on the program.
Social Media, New Technologies and Dating & Relationships
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about technology, social media in relationships and dating. This is Frank's 9th appearance on the program.
Communication in Dating and Relationships
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about communication in relationships and dating. This is Frank's 8th appearance on the program
The Great Love Debate - Why Are We Still Single?
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Why are people still single in a time when there are more ways than ever to meet someone. Also discussed is The Great Love Debate International Tour 2014 in Montreal. This is Frank's 7th appearance on the program.
Age Gap Relationships
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Age Gap Relationships. This is Frank's 6th appearance on the show.
Making Ultimatums in Dating and Relationships
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about making ultimatums in dating and relationships. This is Frank's 5th appearance on the show.
New Relationships Going into the Holidays
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about new relationships and going to holiday gatherings with friends, co-workers and family. This is Frank's 4th appearance on the program.
Bad Media Representations of Dating and Relationships
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about bad relationships being portrayed in the media for humor and as a sales tool and how that may affect audiences. This is Frank's 3rd appearance on the program.
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Couples in Transition and Pre Wedding Conversations. This is Frank's 2nd appearance on the program.
Frank Kermit does the Intro for The STUPH File
Peter Anthony Holder presents Frank Kermit voicing the intro to his STUPH FILE Program podcast. This is Frank's 1st appearance on the program
Frank Talks Radio interviews Peter Anthony Holder
Peter Anthony Holder is a professional broadcaster. He has decades of experience in the media industry, and shares his stories about how he got started, what it takes to be a broadcaster, who he worked with, who he learned from and studied under and very special inside information that only a man with broadcast experience would know.
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Sugar Baby and Sugar Daddy Websites
Aalia Adam interviews Frank Kermit in 2 part Sugar Baby Story
Single Going Into The Holidays
Frank Kermit makes his 2nd appearance on Global Morning News Montreal Television show. On this show, Camille Ross interviews Frank about Being Single Going Into The Holidays. Relationship Coach Frank Kermit offers a few tips on how to deal with being alone at a time of celebration. In this 4 minute interview, Frank talked to Camille Ross about "What a Single Person Can Do Going Into the Holidays." Here are a few things you'll learn: -One thing you can do RIGHT NOW to change your life and be with a great person this holiday season -Why THIS is the BEST time of the year to meet someone new, and turn a friend into a lover -A technique that is so easy and fast to build up your self confidence and self-esteem, you will wonder why you did not think about it yourself already? -What is the BIGGEST mistake singles make during this time of the year in dating? -How to approach someone at an office holiday party to start a conversation? -What is the mindset when you go out to meet people during the holidays? -What is the 1 thing you CONTROL and how to use that to your full advantage? -How to respond to anyone that tells you to Stop Looking and it will come to you!
Single After Valentine's Day
Frank Kermit makes his 1st appearance on Global Morning News Montreal Television show. On this show, Camille Ross interviews Frank about Starting Over and Being Single after Valentine's Day. Relationship Coach Frank Kermit offers a few tips on how to jump-start your dating life after Valentine's day.
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The Goodbye Show
Frank Kermit makes his 6th and final appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. This marks the last episode of this podcast as Lucia hosts her Good Bye Show. Frank Kermit, the guest holding the record for most appearances is interviewed for a brief good bye interview.
Answering The "Should I have an Affair with Younger Man?" Question
Frank Kermit makes his 5th appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Lucia receives an email from a woman who has been married for 20+years but is sexual unsatisfied and is thinking about having an affair with a much younger man renting their basement. Lucia posted this question on Facebook, and Frank responded in a way that Lucia invited Frank to come on air for the second half of her show.
Frank Kermit makes his 4th appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk about an article that Lucia wrote regarding nice guys and why women like jerks. the article went viral and to help address a number of the responses from male readers, Frank and Lucia will dissect the article to figure out what the controversy is all about.
Frank Kermit makes his 3rd appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk the Making Monogamy Work. Who does monogamy hurt more - men or women? What are the rules of monogamy? Is there a difference between monogamy and commitment?
Frank Kermit makes his 2nd appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk the Emotional Needs of Women and Frank's book The Emotional Needs Analysis Workbook volume 1. If a woman doesn't want to have sex with a man, it's because he's not satisfying one or more of her emotional needs. Find out what they are in this truly enlightening interview with Frank Kermit, relationship coach and author of, "The Emotional Needs Analysis Workbook".
Frank Kermit is a guest on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk the Emotional Needs of Men and Frank's book The Emotional Needs OF MEN Analysis Workbook.
Frank Interviews Lucia
Lucia is a Dating and Relationship Expert whose intent is to entertain, educate and enlighten. Known throughout major media as a "Cougar Expert", Lucia defends and coaches older women who are dating and in relationships with younger men. In addition to her Cougar expertise she also produces an internet podcast radio show, writes a weekly column, has authored a book and has appeared regularly on multiple talk shows including The Tyra Banks Show and The Dr. Phil Show
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Frank Kermit makes his 1st appearance EHealth Radio. Host Eric Michaels and Frank about why relationships can be so challenging, what people can do right now to learn more about relationships and how Frank got started in the relationship business
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Frank Kermit makes his first appearance on the Ottawa radio show "Love and Lipstick" on EZ Rock 99.7 FM hosted by Sue McGarvie. Sue has been a practicing Clinical Relationship Therapist in Ottawa since 1993. With degrees and coursework from Carleton, Concordia, Laurentian and Ryerson Universities in psychology, and reproductive medicine, Sue is one of Canada's leader in the field of women's relationships and hormonal health. Sue has counseled thousands of people from all over the Ottawa/Gatineau area. Frank was interviewed for a short piece on the use of Seduction in Relationships.