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coming out of the closet
Revealing the Secret of Your Sexual Orientation
By Frank Kermit
I recently watched a YouTube video that one of my colleagues sent me, as an example of what may happen to a young adult (even a teenager) who publicly declares to his or her family, their homosexual sexual orientation.
As I told my colleague, it saddens me that such intolerance still exists, and that violence can occur within a family structure. However, this is nothing new.
Probably, what is likely the worst element of that video is that it seems to imply (at least to me) that the young man in this video was led to believe he could trust his stepmother with his secret and she fed him a false sense of support, only for her to refuse to support him when he came out to the rest of his family.
The young man in the video was living with his grandparents, and when they disowned him and told him to move out, the young man asked to live with his step-mom and dad, and they also refused him. By the end of the video the young man is physically attacked by his step-mom and verbally insulted by his own father. It is very sad indeed.
In my practice, I sometimes deal with adults who are still learning about their sexual orientation. Some are questioning if they are straight or gay. Some are not interested in choosing sides as they are attracted to both genders and come to see me about figuring out what kind of relationship they can structure with a long term partner and what is realistically possible.
Still others find they are attracted to all genders, transgender individuals, and even some fetish sexual practices (they may occasionally refer to themselves as pansexual).
When the question comes up, as to how out these individuals should be about their evolving sexuality the answer I give tends to be along the lines of balancing what you think you may get from it, and what it is going to cost you.
In a perfect world, everyone would be able to be completely open about their views, about their ideas, and about their sexual orientations without any fear of consequences or repercussions. However, it is not a perfect world, and depending on where you live, and whom you may take a chance in trusting, it could also be a very dangerous world.
So if you are in a position where you want to share a secret of yours to the world, and you cannot predict how others may react to you, here are some tips to keep in mind.
First, you are under no obligation to ever reveal a truth about yourself if you will be on the receiving end of violence or abandonment that could lead to your life being threatened. If you are living with people that may kick you out into homelessness, and you have no means of living independently, then do not reveal your secret.
If you have nowhere to go, or if you are going to be attacked and left on the street to fend for yourself, then wait until the time comes when you are independent enough that even if you lose people in your life, your basic survival will not be threatened.
Second, although fully accepting yourself is part of a healing process, and loving yourself despite others intolerance and disapproval is a must for your own balanced emotional well being, that does not mean you have to put yourself in any position where you will be harassed or victimized all in the name of self-love.
Part of self-love is about never putting yourself in harms way. There are times when publicly announcing self-acceptance cannot be held off until you are free from oppression, but it is always important to pick and choose those battles. Use good judgment about when that time is.
If you have any doubt about how the people around you would react to your outing yourself, hold off for now. There will come a time in the future when it will be safe for you to express yourself. Until then, stay safe, and work towards the day that you will never have to be dependent for your survival on people who would just as easily abandon you, for you being true to yourself.
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the history of the emotional needs analysis theory of men by Frank Kermit
History of The Emotional Needs of Men Program Ally vs. Enemy:
Mastering the Emotional Needs of Men
by Frank Kermit
In September 2006 I lived out of my life long dreams. I moved from Montreal to the city of Toronto. I arrived Sept 9th. I rented a room in a house and was on a very tight budget. Going out about town was simply not a possibility. Most meals consisted of whatever I brought with me (lots of ramen noodles and jell-o)
On September 10th, 2006, I started to delve through my journals for various insights and experienced I have logged from 1998 to 2006 (over 1000 pages of journals).
It took me 40 days (from Sept 10th to October 20) to write my book
Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test.
It was 12-14 hour days with few breaks.
The week of October 20th, 2006 I self published it immediately.
My book on understanding the emotional needs of women was complete.
But there was one question that kept coming up
from the people who read my works and those I coached.
What about the emotional needs of men?
I had mentioned in Everything out of her mouth is a Test,
that I would one day produce a book on that topic sometime in the future.
So I started to put together some of my ideas on the emotional needs of men, using the emotional needs of women as an example base, as well as various insights I had logged in my pages and pages of journals and I let the ideas stew in my mind, while furthering more personal research including discussing it with people I trusted.
Mastering the Emotional Needs of Men
by Frank Kermit
In September 2006 I lived out of my life long dreams. I moved from Montreal to the city of Toronto. I arrived Sept 9th. I rented a room in a house and was on a very tight budget. Going out about town was simply not a possibility. Most meals consisted of whatever I brought with me (lots of ramen noodles and jell-o)
On September 10th, 2006, I started to delve through my journals for various insights and experienced I have logged from 1998 to 2006 (over 1000 pages of journals).
It took me 40 days (from Sept 10th to October 20) to write my book
Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test.
It was 12-14 hour days with few breaks.
The week of October 20th, 2006 I self published it immediately.
My book on understanding the emotional needs of women was complete.
But there was one question that kept coming up
from the people who read my works and those I coached.
What about the emotional needs of men?
I had mentioned in Everything out of her mouth is a Test,
that I would one day produce a book on that topic sometime in the future.
So I started to put together some of my ideas on the emotional needs of men, using the emotional needs of women as an example base, as well as various insights I had logged in my pages and pages of journals and I let the ideas stew in my mind, while furthering more personal research including discussing it with people I trusted.
In 2008 I did my biggest live seminar in Toronto on the topic of
Frank Inner Game based on the book, I'm a Man, That's My Job.
It was in I'm a Man book that I first published my initial thoughts
on the emotional needs of men.
There, at my seminar, I devoted an entire hour on the topic of the
Emotional Needs of Men, and released it as
an introductory audio program
The Emotional Needs of Men 101: An Introduction (a program for men).
Demand for more information on the emotional needs of men continued to grow, and to respond to the demand, in 2008 I self published an Emotional Needs Analysis workbook on the emotional needs of men. Normally I would have published the theory book first, and then the workbook, but the demand was getting stronger, and with the other challenges I was facing at the time in my personal life, the workbook was all I had time for.
In late 2009, I found myself in a quandary. I had achieved some personal goals such as getting married and becoming a father, which was good. But I also had made some bad business decisions along with battling health challenges that I ended up doing something I never thought I would do…I moved my new family back to Montreal with me for an opportunity to get my life more stable again.
In January 2010, just before I left Toronto, I sent my wife and son ahead of me to Montreal, and in our tiny empty apartment, I recorded 11 seminars with live audiences over 21 days (some seminars were at little as 6 hours, while others lasted 2 full days). One of those lectures was a 2 full day seminar on the emotional needs of men. In February 2010, I arrived in Montreal and began to edit and release whatever programs I could, but due to making my family and our collective well being a priority, the men’s emotional needs seminar recordings were left untouched until years later.
In the Summer 2014, Master Class on The Emotional Needs of Men, to an audience that was mostly women who wanted to better understand how to attract a man's commitment. This was released as
The Emotional Needs of Men - An Analysis for Women audio download.
In 2016, after recovering from various challenges and refocusing on releasing the remaining seminar programs that had been sitting on my computer for years, I finally released (after quite a bit of editing) Ally vs. Enemy: Mastering The Emotional Needs of Men audio program of 7 hour long mp3s.
Later in 2016, I was approached by a fan of my work, who wanted to invest the money necessary to transcribe the edited 7 hour audio lecture, so that I could self publish and release the Ally vs Enemy: Mastering The Emotional Needs of Men ebook and paperback. THANK YOU DUDE!
The week of October 10th 2016, exactly 10 years to the month of releasing my first book on the emotional needs of women, I had the pleasure and pride of releasing Ally vs Enemy program
I hope you enjoy your journey of learning about the Frank Kermit Emotional Needs Analysis Theories, as much as I enjoyed creating them.
-Frank
The week of October 10th 2016, exactly 10 years to the month of releasing my first book on the emotional needs of women, I had the pleasure and pride of releasing Ally vs Enemy program
I hope you enjoy your journey of learning about the Frank Kermit Emotional Needs Analysis Theories, as much as I enjoyed creating them.
-Frank
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positive thinking law of attraction tips
Grateful To Positive, Positive To Attractive
By Frank Kermit
Thanksgiving is here! It is a time for people to be grateful for everything they have, even if they do not have everything they need or want. With that said, the practice of being grateful for what we already have is also a wonderful tool for being attractive enough to attract the kinds of people you would like to date and have more serious relationships with.
On its own accord, the process of being grateful helps individuals break the process of taking things for granted. This is an excellent way to get into a good habit, so that you never end up potentially taking people (like the individuals you date and get more seriously involved with) for granted either.
Coaching people about being grateful has its challenges. Then again, I am grateful for the opportunity to coach people, and I am grateful for everything that coaching others has taught me, and grateful that I get to share my knowledge with you dear reader. One of the challenges is that some people see gratefulness as a reason not to pursue or want more. Being grateful for what you already have is not supposed to be a deterrent from going after more of what you want. Just because you are grateful that you are living in an apartment and not living on the street does not (nor should not) make you give up your ambitions of owning a home instead of renting an apartment. When being grateful is used as a means to kill ambition, it is likely not gratefulness that someone is practicing, but potential self-sabotage.
The point of practicing gratefulness is to engage a positive state of mind. By eliminating any negative thoughts and feelings surrounding all the things you feel you do not have yet, or never got to experience, it forces you to shift your focus and energy to more positive efforts of aiming to achieve all the goals you have still set for yourself.
When negative thoughts and emotions are permitted to fester, they inevitably taint your focus to the point where, you will only be able to filter in even more negativity, and filter out all the potentially positive elements that could enter into your life. This applies to love as well. If you only focus on the hurt, heartbreak and hell of your past history, you will not be open to the possible potentially pleasing partners presenting opportunity for pairing up.
If you struggle to be positive about love, focus instead on being grateful for everything, including the lessons you learned from the bad experiences. You may not be grateful for the bad things that have happened to you, but it can be easier to accept them and move on, when you focus your attention on being grateful for all the lessons you learned from your past, as a means not to repeat the same mistakes (and thus avoid the same consequences) again.
If you give in to gratefulness living, that practice of gratefulness leads to a more positive emotional and mental state, and that will allow you to build attraction to bring in more positive people of love into your life.
Frank Kermit
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7 things to consider for your rustic outdoor wedding
Here Are 7 Things to Consider for your Rustic Outdoor Wedding
by Natalka Celebrations
1. Bear in mind you will likely have to rent everything,
tent, flooring tables, chairs, bathrooms and sound systems.
2. Get all your permits:
Contact the municipality / parks department to arrange for a permit.
Don’t forget to find out about the rules regarding, trash removal,
candles, torches etc.
Alcohol Permit: If you plan to serve alcoholic beverages.
3. In case of inclement weather, provide umbrellas, lap blankets,
and propane heaters. Make sure your guests are comfortable:
provide, plenty of water, hand held fans, flip flops, spray sunscreen,
bug repellent, and on a really hot day,
prepare a bucket full of cold wet wash cloths.
Remind your guests to wear appropriate footwear.
4. Did you choose a public place?
You may have to put up with onlookers and
unwanted noisy distractions,
speak to your DJ about the appropriate sound system.
5. You picked your location because of the rustic beauty
and your decor should emulate the natural surroundings,
consider renting burlap, unfinished wood decor,
vintage furniture and table top elements.
6. Lighting: Lanterns both glass and paper, twinkle lights,
torches and candles (if permitted. See # 2).
7. Consider a menu fitting for an outdoor wedding,
discuss food ideas with your caterer
that do well at an outdoor wedding.
-Natalka Lee Gach
Wedding Planner, Co-coordinator and Consultant
www.natalkacelebrations.com
514-652-4073
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Hi Folks,
Frank here.
Just wanted to share some recent media appearances I have made in case you missed them.
To learn more about what Frank Kermit can do for you,
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On September 28, 2016
Dating Dilemmas 74
This is Frank Kermit's 114th appearance on CJAD's Passion radio program. Frank Kermit joins producer and host Dr Laurie Betito and Fritz-Gerald of Elite Speed Dating to talk about the Dating Dilemmas people face.
Topics discussed:
-Would You Date a Virgin?
-Speed Dating
-Meet David Essel
-Boundaries vs Preferences
-Is it stalking or pursuing a love interest?
-Is it OK for a woman to ask out a man for a 2nd date?
-Online Dating Scam Advice
-How to help a woman leave a 7 yr abusive relationship
-Dating is NOT for cowards- It is JUST one date
Dating Dilemmas 74
This is Frank Kermit's 114th appearance on CJAD's Passion radio program. Frank Kermit joins producer and host Dr Laurie Betito and Fritz-Gerald of Elite Speed Dating to talk about the Dating Dilemmas people face.
Topics discussed:
-Would You Date a Virgin?
-Speed Dating
-Meet David Essel
-Boundaries vs Preferences
-Is it stalking or pursuing a love interest?
-Is it OK for a woman to ask out a man for a 2nd date?
-Online Dating Scam Advice
-How to help a woman leave a 7 yr abusive relationship
-Dating is NOT for cowards- It is JUST one date
CliffsList.Com Interviews Frank Kermit
Frank Kermit on CJAD.com from August 2016
August 26, 2016
Dating Dilemmas 73
This is Frank Kermit's 113th appearance on CJAD's Passion radio program. Frank Kermit joins producer and host Dr Laurie Betito and Fritz-Gerald of Elite Speed Dating to talk about the Dating Dilemmas people face.
-Does the number of sexual partners matter?
-How to talk about a drug involved past on a date?
-Dr Laurie calls Frank a Drama King
-When a guy is told he is too clean and straight to date
-Online radio Matchmaking
-Speed Dating
-Finding time to date your spouse
-her ex is dating her best friend
-MGTOW man refuses to date because of how mom divorced dad
-should a man pay for sex?
Dating Dilemmas 73
This is Frank Kermit's 113th appearance on CJAD's Passion radio program. Frank Kermit joins producer and host Dr Laurie Betito and Fritz-Gerald of Elite Speed Dating to talk about the Dating Dilemmas people face.
-Does the number of sexual partners matter?
-How to talk about a drug involved past on a date?
-Dr Laurie calls Frank a Drama King
-When a guy is told he is too clean and straight to date
-Online radio Matchmaking
-Speed Dating
-Finding time to date your spouse
-her ex is dating her best friend
-MGTOW man refuses to date because of how mom divorced dad
-should a man pay for sex?
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Dating is no place for a coward
It is just ONE Date
by Frank Kermit
Something in coaching, I encounter a number of people that got in their own way
I am talking about those people who got a match with someone they wanted to date
who wanted to date them back...
and then the person...
REFUSED TO GO ON ONE DATE
Really? Yes, really!
Biggest reason listed was they were afraid it would not work out
and that they would eventually get
REJECTED.
Really? Yes, really!
It is so frustrating when you have two people that have already admitted
they want to see each other again,
and one of them chickens out.
The world of dating is no place for a coward.
Discovering a mutual connection and not even giving it one date is simply cruel.
You owe it to the people who put in the work but still that struggle to date.
You owe it to the other person.
You owe it to yourself to
take a chance and risk a rejection
to find the love of your life.
So, when you match up with someone, just go on one date, whether you are afraid or not.
Just get out there and GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY
This article is an excerpt from the Ebook The Frank Guide To Speed Dating
-Frank Kermit
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Juicing for Dating for Men
Juicing and Dating for Men
by Olivier Langlois
Picture this: You invite your sweetheart for a romantic evening at your place. You put some romantic music. You adjust the lights. Everything is going to amazing and you start to anticipate the beautiful moment that you are going to share together. Maybe you even start to feel your heart pounding with excitement.
You know what is it that would surprise your sexy girlfriend and put some spices in this magical evening?
Some exotic and aphrodisiac fruit juice that will enhance the physical sensations of both of you during your lovemaking session and I happen to know few recipes in that area.
Who am I to have such knowledge?
I have written 4 juicing recipe books to improve several aspects of men sexual health from low testosterone to erectile dysfunction. I write a weekly newsletter to provide juicing and general health advice for men to my members and I also have a very nice YouTube channel where I have a lot of fun sharing wisdom with my viewers on the topic of juicing.
Surprisingly, juices that can help increase sexual pleasure for men. The results are so powerful.
Now that you have been warned, if you want to have a very hot evening with your girl continue to read on...
I'm going to assume that the majority of guys that will be ready this have little or no experience with juicing so I am going to share in this post a recipe that is very simple and at the same time very potent.
The main ingredient is ginger. Ginger is a powerful aphrodisiac that has been used for centuries. One of the reasons for this, it is that it improves blood flow and improved blood flow in the genital area will:
Improve erections and make them harder
Increase sensations in genitals
ultimately, amplify orgasms
Here is the Pear Ginger juice:
Ingredients:
5g of fresh ginger (5 thin slices)
1 pear
6 red grapes
The pear contains some vitamin B which contributes to testosterone production.
The red grape, the pear and the fresh ginger contain a lot of antioxidants helping the body to eliminate toxins.
Directions:
Put all the ingredients into a blender with a cup of water. Blend of 30 seconds.
Strain the juice with a strainer if a clear juice is desired.
You can see me doing this juice on Youtube at:
by Olivier Langlois
Picture this: You invite your sweetheart for a romantic evening at your place. You put some romantic music. You adjust the lights. Everything is going to amazing and you start to anticipate the beautiful moment that you are going to share together. Maybe you even start to feel your heart pounding with excitement.
You know what is it that would surprise your sexy girlfriend and put some spices in this magical evening?
Some exotic and aphrodisiac fruit juice that will enhance the physical sensations of both of you during your lovemaking session and I happen to know few recipes in that area.
Who am I to have such knowledge?
I have written 4 juicing recipe books to improve several aspects of men sexual health from low testosterone to erectile dysfunction. I write a weekly newsletter to provide juicing and general health advice for men to my members and I also have a very nice YouTube channel where I have a lot of fun sharing wisdom with my viewers on the topic of juicing.
Surprisingly, juices that can help increase sexual pleasure for men. The results are so powerful.
Now that you have been warned, if you want to have a very hot evening with your girl continue to read on...
I'm going to assume that the majority of guys that will be ready this have little or no experience with juicing so I am going to share in this post a recipe that is very simple and at the same time very potent.
The main ingredient is ginger. Ginger is a powerful aphrodisiac that has been used for centuries. One of the reasons for this, it is that it improves blood flow and improved blood flow in the genital area will:
Improve erections and make them harder
Increase sensations in genitals
ultimately, amplify orgasms
Here is the Pear Ginger juice:
Ingredients:
5g of fresh ginger (5 thin slices)
1 pear
6 red grapes
The pear contains some vitamin B which contributes to testosterone production.
The red grape, the pear and the fresh ginger contain a lot of antioxidants helping the body to eliminate toxins.
Directions:
Put all the ingredients into a blender with a cup of water. Blend of 30 seconds.
Strain the juice with a strainer if a clear juice is desired.
You can see me doing this juice on Youtube at:
and here is another more recent aphrodisiac juice that I created more recently:
sex enhancing pokemon juice:
Have fun and let me how your romantic juicing experiences went...
-Olivier Langlois
http://olivierhealthtips.com/
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Some people seem to have all the bad luck with relationships. The same terrible things seem to happen again and again, and they end in the same ways. For some, it really is just a run of bad luck. But what if it's not just a coincidence that things keep going wrong? If you keep repeating the same patterns, perhaps it's time to take a harder look. You need to examine the people you choose, and the reasons they choose you. You should consider the ways you behave when you're in a relationship. Think about the patterns of behavior that you and your partners always seem to get into. These can be the best ways to break the cycle of bad relationships and change things once and for all.
https://pixabay.com/en/pair-love-human-romance-happy-418697/ Date at the Beach
Examine the People You Choose
Have you found that you keep ending up with the same types of people, who do the same things wrong? Each time you start a new relationship, you think "this one is different". They seem kind, fun and interesting, and they seem to care about you. But inevitably, the relationship creeps into arguing, manipulation, cheating or something else. A lot of people come out of these relationships thinking "what's wrong with me?". But that's not exactly the best way to approach it. Don't convince yourself that there's something fundamentally wrong with you. You're not incapable of choosing a good partner.
You need to consider how you pick your romantic partners. Where do you find them, and what attracts you to them? As well as thinking about that, you should also consider what they find attractive about you. For example, when you meet someone you like, do you immediately feel attached to them? Do you feel like you already have strong feelings for them and want to jump with both feet into a relationship? Not only could this be a mistake on your part, but it could signal that you're easily taken advantage of. Everyone who wants to break out of unhealthy relationship patterns needs to look at how and why they choose their partners. If you're unsure where to start, ask a trusted friend. You can even see a therapist for their honest opinion of where you're going wrong. Sites like allwomenstalk.com can help you recognize the signs of an unhealthy relationship.
Look at Your Own Behaviors
It's important to look out how you behave, both when looking for a relationship and when you're in one. What could you be doing that leads to the same patterns and events occurring every time? Many people find that they are sabotaging their relationships without realizing it. Unfortunately, it can take a long time to work out where you're going wrong. Some people take years or never manage to realize what they're doing. There could be many things you're doing wrong. Are you too quick to start fights, reluctant to open up, or too easily jealous? You don't have to change your personality, but you may need to rethink some of your behaviors.
Have you found that you keep ending up with the same types of people, who do the same things wrong? Each time you start a new relationship, you think "this one is different". They seem kind, fun and interesting, and they seem to care about you. But inevitably, the relationship creeps into arguing, manipulation, cheating or something else. A lot of people come out of these relationships thinking "what's wrong with me?". But that's not exactly the best way to approach it. Don't convince yourself that there's something fundamentally wrong with you. You're not incapable of choosing a good partner.
You need to consider how you pick your romantic partners. Where do you find them, and what attracts you to them? As well as thinking about that, you should also consider what they find attractive about you. For example, when you meet someone you like, do you immediately feel attached to them? Do you feel like you already have strong feelings for them and want to jump with both feet into a relationship? Not only could this be a mistake on your part, but it could signal that you're easily taken advantage of. Everyone who wants to break out of unhealthy relationship patterns needs to look at how and why they choose their partners. If you're unsure where to start, ask a trusted friend. You can even see a therapist for their honest opinion of where you're going wrong. Sites like allwomenstalk.com can help you recognize the signs of an unhealthy relationship.
Look at Your Own Behaviors
It's important to look out how you behave, both when looking for a relationship and when you're in one. What could you be doing that leads to the same patterns and events occurring every time? Many people find that they are sabotaging their relationships without realizing it. Unfortunately, it can take a long time to work out where you're going wrong. Some people take years or never manage to realize what they're doing. There could be many things you're doing wrong. Are you too quick to start fights, reluctant to open up, or too easily jealous? You don't have to change your personality, but you may need to rethink some of your behaviors.
https://pixabay.com/en/yoga-silhouette-woman-relaxation-544970/ Stretch Yourself
Work on Yourself
Before you can be in a healthy relationship, you need to know yourself. You can find advice about caring for yourself before getting back with your ex on Charice's blog ExBackExpertise.com. Whether you want to get back with someone you love or begin a new relationship, you need to be comfortable with yourself first. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to single for a while. If you think you're a serial monogamist, it could be time for a break. Try setting a time-frame for not having a romantic relationship. Give yourself six months to be on your own, but don't think about it as being lonely. Use the time to spend time with your friends, as well as spend time on your own. Do things for yourself and work out who you are. Some people find that they pick up the likes and dislikes of their partners. But when they're on their own, they're not sure who they really are.
Work Out What You Want and Where to Find It
It's important to know what you want from a relationship and how to get it. Choosing the right partners and working out if you're right for each other is important. You need to consider how you want your relationship to make you feel. The practical things are also important, such as marriage and children. However, what do you see your partner doing by your side? Making you laugh, traveling with you, or providing a companion through tough times? When you know what you want, knowing where to look is important too. If you're looking for a serious relationship, Tinder might not by the place to find it.
Before you can be in a healthy relationship, you need to know yourself. You can find advice about caring for yourself before getting back with your ex on Charice's blog ExBackExpertise.com. Whether you want to get back with someone you love or begin a new relationship, you need to be comfortable with yourself first. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to single for a while. If you think you're a serial monogamist, it could be time for a break. Try setting a time-frame for not having a romantic relationship. Give yourself six months to be on your own, but don't think about it as being lonely. Use the time to spend time with your friends, as well as spend time on your own. Do things for yourself and work out who you are. Some people find that they pick up the likes and dislikes of their partners. But when they're on their own, they're not sure who they really are.
Work Out What You Want and Where to Find It
It's important to know what you want from a relationship and how to get it. Choosing the right partners and working out if you're right for each other is important. You need to consider how you want your relationship to make you feel. The practical things are also important, such as marriage and children. However, what do you see your partner doing by your side? Making you laugh, traveling with you, or providing a companion through tough times? When you know what you want, knowing where to look is important too. If you're looking for a serious relationship, Tinder might not by the place to find it.
https://pixabay.com/en/sunset-kiss-couple-love-romance-691995/ first kiss
Adjust Your Expectations
Sometimes you might experience the same relationship patterns because your expectations are too high. You can't enter into a relationship thinking that it's going to be perfect or won't require any work. Perhaps you bail at the first sign of an argument. Or you feel disappointed that your partner doesn't seem to be as madly in love as you. Adjusting your expectations is important, and ties into what you're looking for. Many people fall into bad relationships because what they're looking for is love. They don't care enough about who the love comes from. Perhaps they're also looking for marriage. But neither love or marriage are people. They are what happens when you find the right person. You need to think of them as byproducts, not goals.
Improve Your Communication
Communication can be the downfall of many relationships. Sometimes the problem is that you have different communication styles. Maybe you need time to think about something before discussing it. Meanwhile, your partner wants to hash it out on the spot. Perhaps you prefer to show you care through words, while they do it through actions. Being able to communicate effectively with your partner is essential. Of course, communication is a two-way street, so they need to meet you in the middle. Go into your next relationship with a willingness to communicate more openly and with more patience.
If you want to break a cycle of bad relationships, you need to examine yourself. The choices you make affect the outcome of your relationship.
Sometimes you might experience the same relationship patterns because your expectations are too high. You can't enter into a relationship thinking that it's going to be perfect or won't require any work. Perhaps you bail at the first sign of an argument. Or you feel disappointed that your partner doesn't seem to be as madly in love as you. Adjusting your expectations is important, and ties into what you're looking for. Many people fall into bad relationships because what they're looking for is love. They don't care enough about who the love comes from. Perhaps they're also looking for marriage. But neither love or marriage are people. They are what happens when you find the right person. You need to think of them as byproducts, not goals.
Improve Your Communication
Communication can be the downfall of many relationships. Sometimes the problem is that you have different communication styles. Maybe you need time to think about something before discussing it. Meanwhile, your partner wants to hash it out on the spot. Perhaps you prefer to show you care through words, while they do it through actions. Being able to communicate effectively with your partner is essential. Of course, communication is a two-way street, so they need to meet you in the middle. Go into your next relationship with a willingness to communicate more openly and with more patience.
If you want to break a cycle of bad relationships, you need to examine yourself. The choices you make affect the outcome of your relationship.
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Make your love life a priority
Make Having a Love Life a Priority
by Frank Kermit
For whatever reason, losing your virginity has not been your priority.
How do I know? You are still a virgin.
Believe it or not, that is one of the biggest differences between men
who lost their virginity before you did.
Sure, some of them just got lucky and found a girl that liked them
back, and some of them just took a chance and went for it and
it just happened. But that did not happen for you.
And since it did not happen for you, that means that you are just going
to have to work harder than the other guys.
That means you have to make it a goal.
Once you make it a goal to lose your virginity, it becomes a priority
in your life. And that is a GOOD thing.
As you read in the AMV Handbook, or listened to the audio seminar,
I made it a goal after I was humiliated publicly when I was outed as a virgin.
I was unhappy being a virgin. And as soon as it became a concrete goal,
it helped motivate me to take actions so that I would put myself in
situations so that I could focus my TIME and ATTENTION on the things
that I thought would help me most.
When something is a PRIORITY in your life, you put everything else
that is NOT a priority aside, so that you can dedicate yourself to
reaching that goal.
And Yes, losing your virginity is an acceptable goal to have.
It is OK to finally lose your virginity.
by Frank Kermit
For whatever reason, losing your virginity has not been your priority.
How do I know? You are still a virgin.
Believe it or not, that is one of the biggest differences between men
who lost their virginity before you did.
Sure, some of them just got lucky and found a girl that liked them
back, and some of them just took a chance and went for it and
it just happened. But that did not happen for you.
And since it did not happen for you, that means that you are just going
to have to work harder than the other guys.
That means you have to make it a goal.
Once you make it a goal to lose your virginity, it becomes a priority
in your life. And that is a GOOD thing.
As you read in the AMV Handbook, or listened to the audio seminar,
I made it a goal after I was humiliated publicly when I was outed as a virgin.
I was unhappy being a virgin. And as soon as it became a concrete goal,
it helped motivate me to take actions so that I would put myself in
situations so that I could focus my TIME and ATTENTION on the things
that I thought would help me most.
When something is a PRIORITY in your life, you put everything else
that is NOT a priority aside, so that you can dedicate yourself to
reaching that goal.
And Yes, losing your virginity is an acceptable goal to have.
It is OK to finally lose your virginity.
- Published on
Leonard Irwin the Medium
As a Medium and a Human Being
By Leonard Irwin (Guest Blog)
In my work as a professional medium
there are times when you see grief in another person.
One of my very first clients came to me
after her mother had passed.
There was anger, loss, loneliness and grief.
She was closed off and wanting answers.
I was still a new medium but also knew
that I was able to help her.
She (I'll call her M) wanted to know that her mom was alright
and that her death was not as painful as this woman thought.
M’s mother was the light of her life.
In fact, M recanted stories of her mother
being her best friend.
There was this sense of emptiness.
M not only lost her mother, but also her best friend.
They seemed to be inseparable.
M was coming to me for answers that she had
about witnessing her mother’s body slowly dying over several days.
Without going into the detail of the matter.
M’s mother passed on with pain and discomfort.
The memories haunted this daughter and
she was grieving not saying or doing the right things
to make her mother’s death less painful.
As the message came through, it was evident,
that M’s mother had passed on knowing full well
how she was experiencing her last days.
Her mother’s spirit, wanted to reassure M,
that there was nothing she could have done.
As it was not her (spirit) but her body that was dying.
Through the process of giving the reading,
M held my hand, cried, even openly wept for a few minutes.
As a medium and a human being
I knew that the most powerful thing
I could do in those moments was to do nothing.
Over the past 5 years I’ve had many more instances
where the person sitting in front of me
was grieving the loss of someone.
This past summer in July 2016 a woman came to me
about connecting to her parents.
Over the course of the reading,
she started to break down and admit some things
that she wished she had not said to her parents
before their respective deaths.
I got to experience a strong self-willed
independent woman.
Where, these very qualities, caused the most turmoil
in her parental relationship.
I witnessed this woman break down
and cry like a little girl.
At some point I asked, "Do you need a hug?"
It seemed like the right thing to do.
I held this woman who cried in my arms
for about 10 minutes.
Her body letting go of the grief.
She told me after this experience that when I held her
she felt vulnerable and safe enough to let go.
To finally allow herself the freedom to really grieve.
Sometimes the simplest things are the most powerful.
And they are also the most meaningful.
Human connections even during our times of grief
are still the most powerful acts one person can do for another.
-Leonard Irwin
www.LeonardIrwin.com
By Leonard Irwin (Guest Blog)
In my work as a professional medium
there are times when you see grief in another person.
One of my very first clients came to me
after her mother had passed.
There was anger, loss, loneliness and grief.
She was closed off and wanting answers.
I was still a new medium but also knew
that I was able to help her.
She (I'll call her M) wanted to know that her mom was alright
and that her death was not as painful as this woman thought.
M’s mother was the light of her life.
In fact, M recanted stories of her mother
being her best friend.
There was this sense of emptiness.
M not only lost her mother, but also her best friend.
They seemed to be inseparable.
M was coming to me for answers that she had
about witnessing her mother’s body slowly dying over several days.
Without going into the detail of the matter.
M’s mother passed on with pain and discomfort.
The memories haunted this daughter and
she was grieving not saying or doing the right things
to make her mother’s death less painful.
As the message came through, it was evident,
that M’s mother had passed on knowing full well
how she was experiencing her last days.
Her mother’s spirit, wanted to reassure M,
that there was nothing she could have done.
As it was not her (spirit) but her body that was dying.
Through the process of giving the reading,
M held my hand, cried, even openly wept for a few minutes.
As a medium and a human being
I knew that the most powerful thing
I could do in those moments was to do nothing.
Over the past 5 years I’ve had many more instances
where the person sitting in front of me
was grieving the loss of someone.
This past summer in July 2016 a woman came to me
about connecting to her parents.
Over the course of the reading,
she started to break down and admit some things
that she wished she had not said to her parents
before their respective deaths.
I got to experience a strong self-willed
independent woman.
Where, these very qualities, caused the most turmoil
in her parental relationship.
I witnessed this woman break down
and cry like a little girl.
At some point I asked, "Do you need a hug?"
It seemed like the right thing to do.
I held this woman who cried in my arms
for about 10 minutes.
Her body letting go of the grief.
She told me after this experience that when I held her
she felt vulnerable and safe enough to let go.
To finally allow herself the freedom to really grieve.
Sometimes the simplest things are the most powerful.
And they are also the most meaningful.
Human connections even during our times of grief
are still the most powerful acts one person can do for another.
-Leonard Irwin
www.LeonardIrwin.com
