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Juicing for Dating for Men
Juicing and Dating for Men
by Olivier Langlois
Picture this: You invite your sweetheart for a romantic evening at your place. You put some romantic music. You adjust the lights. Everything is going to amazing and you start to anticipate the beautiful moment that you are going to share together. Maybe you even start to feel your heart pounding with excitement.
You know what is it that would surprise your sexy girlfriend and put some spices in this magical evening?
Some exotic and aphrodisiac fruit juice that will enhance the physical sensations of both of you during your lovemaking session and I happen to know few recipes in that area.
Who am I to have such knowledge?
I have written 4 juicing recipe books to improve several aspects of men sexual health from low testosterone to erectile dysfunction. I write a weekly newsletter to provide juicing and general health advice for men to my members and I also have a very nice YouTube channel where I have a lot of fun sharing wisdom with my viewers on the topic of juicing.
Surprisingly, juices that can help increase sexual pleasure for men. The results are so powerful.
Now that you have been warned, if you want to have a very hot evening with your girl continue to read on...
I'm going to assume that the majority of guys that will be ready this have little or no experience with juicing so I am going to share in this post a recipe that is very simple and at the same time very potent.
The main ingredient is ginger. Ginger is a powerful aphrodisiac that has been used for centuries. One of the reasons for this, it is that it improves blood flow and improved blood flow in the genital area will:
Improve erections and make them harder
Increase sensations in genitals
ultimately, amplify orgasms
Here is the Pear Ginger juice:
Ingredients:
5g of fresh ginger (5 thin slices)
1 pear
6 red grapes
The pear contains some vitamin B which contributes to testosterone production.
The red grape, the pear and the fresh ginger contain a lot of antioxidants helping the body to eliminate toxins.
Directions:
Put all the ingredients into a blender with a cup of water. Blend of 30 seconds.
Strain the juice with a strainer if a clear juice is desired.
You can see me doing this juice on Youtube at:
by Olivier Langlois
Picture this: You invite your sweetheart for a romantic evening at your place. You put some romantic music. You adjust the lights. Everything is going to amazing and you start to anticipate the beautiful moment that you are going to share together. Maybe you even start to feel your heart pounding with excitement.
You know what is it that would surprise your sexy girlfriend and put some spices in this magical evening?
Some exotic and aphrodisiac fruit juice that will enhance the physical sensations of both of you during your lovemaking session and I happen to know few recipes in that area.
Who am I to have such knowledge?
I have written 4 juicing recipe books to improve several aspects of men sexual health from low testosterone to erectile dysfunction. I write a weekly newsletter to provide juicing and general health advice for men to my members and I also have a very nice YouTube channel where I have a lot of fun sharing wisdom with my viewers on the topic of juicing.
Surprisingly, juices that can help increase sexual pleasure for men. The results are so powerful.
Now that you have been warned, if you want to have a very hot evening with your girl continue to read on...
I'm going to assume that the majority of guys that will be ready this have little or no experience with juicing so I am going to share in this post a recipe that is very simple and at the same time very potent.
The main ingredient is ginger. Ginger is a powerful aphrodisiac that has been used for centuries. One of the reasons for this, it is that it improves blood flow and improved blood flow in the genital area will:
Improve erections and make them harder
Increase sensations in genitals
ultimately, amplify orgasms
Here is the Pear Ginger juice:
Ingredients:
5g of fresh ginger (5 thin slices)
1 pear
6 red grapes
The pear contains some vitamin B which contributes to testosterone production.
The red grape, the pear and the fresh ginger contain a lot of antioxidants helping the body to eliminate toxins.
Directions:
Put all the ingredients into a blender with a cup of water. Blend of 30 seconds.
Strain the juice with a strainer if a clear juice is desired.
You can see me doing this juice on Youtube at:
and here is another more recent aphrodisiac juice that I created more recently:
sex enhancing pokemon juice:
Have fun and let me how your romantic juicing experiences went...
-Olivier Langlois
http://olivierhealthtips.com/
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Do not talk about sex if you are a virgin
Do Not Talk About Sex if You Are an Adult Male Virgin
by Frank Kermit
Helping Adult Male Virgins (AMV)
who want to find their first girlfriend to have sex with
is specialization in my coaching practice
Here is a Quick Tip for Adult Male Virgins
Do NOT Talk about Sex. You are a virgin, and you might end up saying
something that presents you in a really negative way.
Just like the main character in the movie The 40 Year Old Virgin,
he was found out when he tried to talk about something he had no
experience in (remember the bags of sand line?)
My AMV coaching clients are often surprised to learn that some of the
statements they make casual to their friends and associates reveal
just how inexperienced AMVs can be, not only for sex, but for
dating and relationships as well.
If you have ever made negative statements about sex (Ewwww! That's disgusting),
or innocently asked questions such as
"Why would people do that?"
when talking about what seems to you to be a futile sex act,
or remarking how something "Isn't really important", those people
around you are spotting your inexperience.
Unlucky for you, they are also likely too polite to call you on it.
Which means, you continue to go about your business, never knowing
what they really think they know about you: that you are a virgin.
Simply put, people who have had sex, can spot you without you knowing it.
One of the ways you can limit this, is that you just do not talk about sex.
When someone tries to get you to talk about sex, here is what you can do:
Just tell everyone that there are certain things you do not talk about or
discuss publicly and sex is one of them.
Then make sure YOU STICK TO IT!
That also means no sex jokes too.
Yeah, it may not be fun. However, if your goal is to lose your virginity,
it is one of the best strategies you can apply.
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Steve Piccus Interview
On two separate occasions, Frank Kermit got to interview Steve P.
Steve P is the creator of White Tiger Tantra, a sensual enhancement system that can help take any women to her next level of releasing the flood gates of ecstasy. Many women who thought they were anorgasmic* were able to have the life changing experience of achieving full body, multiple and sustained orgasms.
*Anorgasmia is a type of sexual dysfunction in which a person cannot achieve orgasm despite adequate stimulation. Anorgasmia can often cause sexual frustration.
School of Steve P logo
Frank Interviews Steve P (Part 1)
April 2009
Steve P UNCENSORED. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about his upbringing, losing his virginity, his polyamorous lifestyle over the years, his current hermetic circle of lovers, the seduction community past and present, his White Tiger Tantra squirting instructional DVDs, what to do if a woman has a strong emotional reaction during an orgasmic squirting experience, and more.This interview is a no holds barred account of Steve P by Steve P himself! Any offensive dialogue was neither edited nor censored. Steve P was mentioned as a key figurehead in "The Game", a book by Neil Strauss and now get up close and personal details from the man himself.
April 2009
Steve P UNCENSORED. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about his upbringing, losing his virginity, his polyamorous lifestyle over the years, his current hermetic circle of lovers, the seduction community past and present, his White Tiger Tantra squirting instructional DVDs, what to do if a woman has a strong emotional reaction during an orgasmic squirting experience, and more.This interview is a no holds barred account of Steve P by Steve P himself! Any offensive dialogue was neither edited nor censored. Steve P was mentioned as a key figurehead in "The Game", a book by Neil Strauss and now get up close and personal details from the man himself.
White Tiger Tantra
The Secret of Dating Multiple Girlfriends
Frank Interviews Steve P (Part 2)
February 2009
Steve P UNCENSORED II. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about the Seduction Community. In this interview we cover the history of the founding of the seduction community, building deeper levels of rapport and communication, the difference between openly dating multiple women vs cheating, how to spot the girls in the clubs who are interested in being picked up and where to go to find them, goal setting: pick up vs long term relationships, the importance of finding and choosing a mentor, respecting past mentors, emulate vs imitate, how to be a good student, the difference between women who are Bi-curious and Bi-sexual, Female Orgasm and the power to give her full body orgasm, protecting a woman's reputation and privacy, alpha males, blocking and going for someone's else girl, The Instant Guru Scams and seduction-fly-by-night companies, managing a seduction lairs and re-establishing seduction brotherhood, spotting givers and takers, along with brief stories involving Hypnotica, Zan, and Johnny Soporno.
February 2009
Steve P UNCENSORED II. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about the Seduction Community. In this interview we cover the history of the founding of the seduction community, building deeper levels of rapport and communication, the difference between openly dating multiple women vs cheating, how to spot the girls in the clubs who are interested in being picked up and where to go to find them, goal setting: pick up vs long term relationships, the importance of finding and choosing a mentor, respecting past mentors, emulate vs imitate, how to be a good student, the difference between women who are Bi-curious and Bi-sexual, Female Orgasm and the power to give her full body orgasm, protecting a woman's reputation and privacy, alpha males, blocking and going for someone's else girl, The Instant Guru Scams and seduction-fly-by-night companies, managing a seduction lairs and re-establishing seduction brotherhood, spotting givers and takers, along with brief stories involving Hypnotica, Zan, and Johnny Soporno.
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The Sex Bible For Over 50 by Dr Laurie Betito
The Sex Bible for People Over 50
By Dr. Laurie Betito
To Order a Copy of this book right now Click Here
About The Author:
Dr. Laurie is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist with a specialty in Sex Therapy, and has been a practicing Psychotherapist for over 25 years. Her professional activities and experiences are diverse. More than 25 years ago, she began a career in radio when, as a co-host, she joined the team of MIX 96 in Montreal; a station that broke barriers when it introduced a call-in show (The Love Line), airing once per week, all about sex and relationships. In 1999, she joined CJAD 800 with her own talk show (this time nightly), once again about sex and relationships. This show, "PASSION", has soared to take the number one position in its time slot, and it is the only show of its kind on Montreal airwaves.
NEW! The Sex Bible For People Over 50: The Complete Guide To Sexual Love For Mature Couples
Author Dr. Laurie Betito gives readers techniques for reconnecting with their partners, bringing experimentation in long-term sexual relationships, and tips on how to handle sex and dating post-50.
Frank Kermit was quoted in this book for his:
Frank Romance Formula.
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The Show: Concept and Mission Conferences, resources, information, leisure and activities adapted to the lifestyles of singles 25 and over. More people than ever before are choosing to be part of an expanding social phenomenon that is living the single life. According to the last Quebec census1, more than one-third (36%) of the population between the ages of 25 and 75 live without a partner. These figures make up almost 1.7 million people in Quebec, half of which lives in the Greater Montreal region. The Solo Lifestyle Show is a unique event, tailored for those who are not in a romantic relationship and wish to feel fulfilled and enhance their lives as individuals... and we are talking about close to half the population! The lifestyle, needs, and concerns of these free spirits are quite different from those living as part of a couple. For instance, single parents raising their children will encounter different problems than those who are in a "traditional" nuclear family. Therefore, the Show's mission is to bring together a wealth of resources to address this modern reality. Visitors will also benefit from more than 10 entertaining conferences presented by leading experts in their field about issues arising in not only their personal but also romantic lives. Despite the more serious topics discussed, the Show will dedicate a portion of its programs to more playful topics such as leisure, travel, and activities now available exclusively to Singles. They won't have an excuse anymore to mope around at home without a partner! Of course, even if it's important to take charge of one's life and not wait for Cupid to come around, it can't hurt to give him a helping hand. Dating services will be on site to help Singles find their special someone. Whether or not they're looking for the love of their life, visitors will leave with many tools and resources to help them reach their life's goals. The Solo Lifestyle Show will, without a doubt, be a great selling platform for all service and goods providers who cater to the Singles population. 1-Data on marital status taken from the 2006 Census conducted by the Institut de la statistique du Quebec, applied to projections for 2011. Definition of a Single Person: A person not in a romantic relationship; separated, divorced, widowed, or never married
Frank Kermit lectures on Managing Friends with Benefits
Date: February 14, 2014, Title: Frank Kermit keynote speaker at the Living Solo Show at Place Bonaventure Frank Kermit was asked to present a talk on Managing The Risks of Friends With Benefits at the Living Solo Show at Place Bonaventure
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G. L. Henderson is an award-winning author and in his acclaimed work, "The Fantasy Master" he asks the question, "At what price are you willing to pay to have a Fantasy? Are you willing to give up the love in your life for a temporary moment of pleasure?"
G.L. covers a wide range of situations dealing with the human experience. From the mentality of an emotionally battered woman to the sensuous depths she experiences in her imagination and physical being.
G.L. was nominated for top new non-fiction author by the Charlotte's Literary and Arts Awards. G.L. is coming off a self-titled national book tour, sponsored by the Oakley Corp. As a finalist for the Ebony Magazine's Top-Rated Eligible Bachelor of 2006. G.L. has a lot to say on the topic of romance and relationships. Covering both the bachelor standpoint, and the feminine perspective, he gives us the privilege of others' experiences... who dare to share. The emotional depth in his work personifies the accuracy and mystery required of such themes. The experiences of the human spirit are explained so eloquently and tastefully through his mind.
G.L. covers a wide range of situations dealing with the human experience. From the mentality of an emotionally battered woman to the sensuous depths she experiences in her imagination and physical being.
G.L. was nominated for top new non-fiction author by the Charlotte's Literary and Arts Awards. G.L. is coming off a self-titled national book tour, sponsored by the Oakley Corp. As a finalist for the Ebony Magazine's Top-Rated Eligible Bachelor of 2006. G.L. has a lot to say on the topic of romance and relationships. Covering both the bachelor standpoint, and the feminine perspective, he gives us the privilege of others' experiences... who dare to share. The emotional depth in his work personifies the accuracy and mystery required of such themes. The experiences of the human spirit are explained so eloquently and tastefully through his mind.
Infidelity: The Root of Marital Evil - how to get over it and survive
Frank Kermit makes his 3rd appearance on The G L Henderson Hour on the Artist First website network. On this show Frank and G L discuss Infidelity: the root of marital evil. A wife catches her husband having an affair, and then catches him with the same woman again. Should she leave him? They have two children together. Also discussed are ways to affair proof your marriage, accidental affairs, making monogamy work, getting past a betrayal of trust, getting over the hurt of an affair and more...Frank also shares his own story of how he got over being cheated on, finding peace and forgiveness and how he coaches singles and couples who are surviving an affair.
Can a Threesome Save A Sexless Marriage?
Published on Apr 26, 2016
Can a threesome save a sexless marriage? G L Henderson of the Artist First network talks to Frank Kermit about it. This is Frank's 2nd appearance on the show
Can a threesome save a sexless marriage? G L Henderson of the Artist First network talks to Frank Kermit about it. This is Frank's 2nd appearance on the show
Sexual Health and Families out of Control
Date: February 21, 2013 Title: G. L. Henderson Radio Hour
Frank Kermit makes his 1st appearance on the G L Henderson Radio Hour. On this show, Frank and G.L. talk about Sexual Health and Families Out Of Control.
Frank Kermit makes his 1st appearance on the G L Henderson Radio Hour. On this show, Frank and G.L. talk about Sexual Health and Families Out Of Control.
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Global News is the news and current affairs division of Global Television Network in Canada, overseeing all local and national news programming on the network's twelve owned-and-operated stations.
Sugar Baby and Sugar Daddy Websites
Date: January 31, 2015, Title: Global TV: Focus Montreal Show - Montreal Frank Kermit makes his 5th appearance on Global Montreal Television. Elysia Bryan-Baynes interviews Frank about the website SeekingArrangement.com, and Sugar Daddy/Sugar Babies in Montreal. Focusing on what the risks are for the women and men involved, if it is prostitution, and if it is ethical.
Aalia Adam interviews Frank Kermit in 2 part Sugar Baby Story
Date: January 26 and 27, 2015, Title: Global News TV Show - Montreal Frank Kermit makes his 3rd and 4th appearance on Global News Montreal Television show. This is a 2 part story. On this show, reporter Aalia Adam interviews Frank about the website SeekingArrangement.com, and Sugar Daddy/Sugar Babies in Montreal. Focusing on the reported numbers of Sugar Babies attending McGill University, and other universities in Montreal. They also talk about the hidden dating dangers the Sugar Lifestyle can have on long term participants.
Single Going Into The Holidays
Date: December 3, 2013, Title: Global Montreal Morning News TV Show
Frank Kermit makes his 2nd appearance on Global Morning News Montreal Television show. On this show, Camille Ross interviews Frank about Being Single Going Into The Holidays. Relationship Coach Frank Kermit offers a few tips on how to deal with being alone at a time of celebration. In this 4 minute interview, Frank talked to Camille Ross about "What a Single Person Can Do Going Into the Holidays." Here are a few things you'll learn: -One thing you can do RIGHT NOW to change your life and be with a great person this holiday season -Why THIS is the BEST time of the year to meet someone new, and turn a friend into a lover -A technique that is so easy and fast to build up your self confidence and self-esteem, you will wonder why you did not think about it yourself already? -What is the BIGGEST mistake singles make during this time of the year in dating? -How to approach someone at an office holiday party to start a conversation? -What is the mindset when you go out to meet people during the holidays? -What is the 1 thing you CONTROL and how to use that to your full advantage? -How to respond to anyone that tells you to Stop Looking and it will come to you!
Frank Kermit makes his 2nd appearance on Global Morning News Montreal Television show. On this show, Camille Ross interviews Frank about Being Single Going Into The Holidays. Relationship Coach Frank Kermit offers a few tips on how to deal with being alone at a time of celebration. In this 4 minute interview, Frank talked to Camille Ross about "What a Single Person Can Do Going Into the Holidays." Here are a few things you'll learn: -One thing you can do RIGHT NOW to change your life and be with a great person this holiday season -Why THIS is the BEST time of the year to meet someone new, and turn a friend into a lover -A technique that is so easy and fast to build up your self confidence and self-esteem, you will wonder why you did not think about it yourself already? -What is the BIGGEST mistake singles make during this time of the year in dating? -How to approach someone at an office holiday party to start a conversation? -What is the mindset when you go out to meet people during the holidays? -What is the 1 thing you CONTROL and how to use that to your full advantage? -How to respond to anyone that tells you to Stop Looking and it will come to you!
Single After Valentine's Day
Date: February 15, 2013, Title: Global Montreal Morning News TV Show
Frank Kermit makes his 1st appearance on Global Morning News Montreal Television show. On this show, Camille Ross interviews Frank about Starting Over and Being Single after Valentine's Day. Relationship Coach Frank Kermit offers a few tips on how to jump-start your dating life after Valentine's day.
Frank Kermit makes his 1st appearance on Global Morning News Montreal Television show. On this show, Camille Ross interviews Frank about Starting Over and Being Single after Valentine's Day. Relationship Coach Frank Kermit offers a few tips on how to jump-start your dating life after Valentine's day.
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On the verge of a marriage meltdown? Newlywed, Nearly Dead? is coming to the rescue. Couples that drive each other crazy receive a big dose of tough love from marriage expert Gary Direnfeld. Also a variety of other Relationship Experts and Self Improvement types are invited in on a per episode basis and are matched up with their skill base, and the particular needs of the couple. Newlywed Nearly Dead? aims to lower North America's divorce rate one couple at a time.
50 Shades of Frank Kermit, Couples Coaching and Intro to BDSM
Date: July 27, 2009, Title: Newlywed, Nearly Dead?
A nationally broadcast television program on Slice TV.
Episode# 3034 Lisa and Mark started off really great in their relationship, but a few personality quirks and some personal crisis have had their toll on their relationship. Newlywed, Nearly Dead? invites Frank Kermit a Relationship Expert and his teachings of Emotional Needs to give a little guidance to their love life. Frank Kermit joins Lisa and Mark for some private Couples Coaching.
A nationally broadcast television program on Slice TV.
Episode# 3034 Lisa and Mark started off really great in their relationship, but a few personality quirks and some personal crisis have had their toll on their relationship. Newlywed, Nearly Dead? invites Frank Kermit a Relationship Expert and his teachings of Emotional Needs to give a little guidance to their love life. Frank Kermit joins Lisa and Mark for some private Couples Coaching.
Reviews of the Couple Mark and Lisa
Review by Lisa
MARK IS A MAN AGAIN. Mark has definitely stepped up a lot, and turned into the man he once was. Everything has definitely shifted, and it has become more of an adult relationship. The challenge was for Mark to learn to step up and be a man and learn to seduce me mentally again, which he has somehow lost down the lines of our relationship. It was very beneficial because Frank actually knew what I wanted before he met me and he was right on with what he needed from Mark.
When we did the exercise I could really feel that that is what I need from Mark. I need him to be more of a man in control of himself. And he showed that. Throughout the exercise Frank was coaching Mark from a different area with a microphone in his ear. Just telling him things a woman would like. Mark was responding. Sort of doing a little bit of his own, but listening to instruction from Frank and it was very good. It was very beneficial. I was enjoying it. I was not uncomfortable at all because I knew that Frank was not going to make us go past any of our boundaries. I was quite comfortable with the scenario. It was very beneficial. It was exactly what I needed. It was more the kind of relationship I want to have in the bedroom with Mark. We used to have that kind of relationship, but somewhere down the road it stopped. I needed that boost in him. I needed that confidence in him, and know that he can not talk like a boy in the bedroom and he has to be like a man or else it turns me off. So it completely helped us because he has not acted like a boy at all, even in the bedroom, and I have been more turned on than anytime! I loved what happened in the bedroom! I loved what he was doing to me! I absolutely felt safe.
I felt like he was going to do nothing bad to me...only what I wanted him to do. I definitely felt like he was a man. He was not a boy in there with me. He was a man, and thats what I wanted. It did not feel like authentic Mark, but the whole challenge was that Frank told us we have to develop our own technique and Mark has to be the kind of man he is going to be. Those were just ways he would seduce a woman. Mark has to come up with his own identity in the bedroom. It does not have to be exactly what Frank did. But Frank was teaching us how to tap into that again. I definitely feel it changed Mark. I know that he said it was very beneficial to him. I think that it got him out of the rut because it made him feel like he is a man again. He does not have to act like a little boy. And I think that is what he is been wanting but he just did not know how to go about and do it. As much as I tell him, it was not the way he needed to be told. He was not hearing what I was saying. He needed someone else to come along and tell him how to tap into my emotions rather than the things he used to do.
Frank sort of taught me that if Mark is going sort of in the right direction of what I am looking for, then to not be critical of it. There are ways to actually show him what I want, or what I am not responding to rather than just come out and say it. I was not aware that that is what I was doing before. It did help me as much as it helped Mark. My favorite part of it was actually that I do not have to be in control anymore. I can actually allow Mark to have control in the bedroom. My favorite thing about the challenge was just letting go and letting Mark actually be the man that I have always wanted him to be. I know it is in there. It has been in there before, we have just lost that in the last little while. It was nice to know that he is learning how to tap into my emotions and I do not have to work. I can just let go and be free.
I think the biggest thing before was that I was always turned off because he was a little boy. Frank actually taught him how to remain a man throughout the entire evening. So, it has been great. And No it was not hard for me at all. It is what I have been wanting. After Frank left it got hot and steamy. It was wonderful! I am definitely going to continue being a woman and not being his mother.
Review by Mark
I think the purpose of Frank Kermit's session was to just bring me back when we first met. He just lead me through and gave me some good pointers, and he really opened my eyes to what I was doing wrong, and how I was making her feel. Hey, it was great. It was amazing. In the beginning it was weird. Lisa and myself were in the bedroom. Just trying to bond in a sexual manner. I had an earpiece, and he was speaking to me from another room. And just basically going through some techniques that would work and some seduction techniques. In the beginning it was a little weird. It worked out great. And she really got into it and its made a difference already. I think it brought me back to the beginning in our relationship, and that's how our sex life was like. In the end we were both having fun. And I think that was the point. She was responding pretty well to the whole situation. I think that was what she needed. She was right into that.
We have kind of lost touch with the whole, the way we used to be. I would say our sex life is back on track this week. We already had a couple times in the bedroom and it was pretty good. I would say we are on the right track anyway. Yah. I have taken a little of Frank lessons and applied it to my sex life. Its made a difference. I would say the seducer challenge was my favorite. I enjoyed it the most. I enjoyed it the most because it brought me back to where I was in the beginning. Somewhere down the line I missed. I just became a totally different person for our sex life and now it is enjoyable again. And now it is enjoyable again; experimenting and having fun in the bedroom, and exactly what we want. I did not ever think it was going to...our sex life would improve so quickly. Its definitely done a 180%.
For sure. Talking to Frank and listening to him. He just amazing. Dead on every aspect. He really knows what he is talking about. And I believe him 100%. He is definitely a master at seduction. I trust him 100%. I definitely got my Mojo back!...Thanks to Frank.
MARK IS A MAN AGAIN. Mark has definitely stepped up a lot, and turned into the man he once was. Everything has definitely shifted, and it has become more of an adult relationship. The challenge was for Mark to learn to step up and be a man and learn to seduce me mentally again, which he has somehow lost down the lines of our relationship. It was very beneficial because Frank actually knew what I wanted before he met me and he was right on with what he needed from Mark.
When we did the exercise I could really feel that that is what I need from Mark. I need him to be more of a man in control of himself. And he showed that. Throughout the exercise Frank was coaching Mark from a different area with a microphone in his ear. Just telling him things a woman would like. Mark was responding. Sort of doing a little bit of his own, but listening to instruction from Frank and it was very good. It was very beneficial. I was enjoying it. I was not uncomfortable at all because I knew that Frank was not going to make us go past any of our boundaries. I was quite comfortable with the scenario. It was very beneficial. It was exactly what I needed. It was more the kind of relationship I want to have in the bedroom with Mark. We used to have that kind of relationship, but somewhere down the road it stopped. I needed that boost in him. I needed that confidence in him, and know that he can not talk like a boy in the bedroom and he has to be like a man or else it turns me off. So it completely helped us because he has not acted like a boy at all, even in the bedroom, and I have been more turned on than anytime! I loved what happened in the bedroom! I loved what he was doing to me! I absolutely felt safe.
I felt like he was going to do nothing bad to me...only what I wanted him to do. I definitely felt like he was a man. He was not a boy in there with me. He was a man, and thats what I wanted. It did not feel like authentic Mark, but the whole challenge was that Frank told us we have to develop our own technique and Mark has to be the kind of man he is going to be. Those were just ways he would seduce a woman. Mark has to come up with his own identity in the bedroom. It does not have to be exactly what Frank did. But Frank was teaching us how to tap into that again. I definitely feel it changed Mark. I know that he said it was very beneficial to him. I think that it got him out of the rut because it made him feel like he is a man again. He does not have to act like a little boy. And I think that is what he is been wanting but he just did not know how to go about and do it. As much as I tell him, it was not the way he needed to be told. He was not hearing what I was saying. He needed someone else to come along and tell him how to tap into my emotions rather than the things he used to do.
Frank sort of taught me that if Mark is going sort of in the right direction of what I am looking for, then to not be critical of it. There are ways to actually show him what I want, or what I am not responding to rather than just come out and say it. I was not aware that that is what I was doing before. It did help me as much as it helped Mark. My favorite part of it was actually that I do not have to be in control anymore. I can actually allow Mark to have control in the bedroom. My favorite thing about the challenge was just letting go and letting Mark actually be the man that I have always wanted him to be. I know it is in there. It has been in there before, we have just lost that in the last little while. It was nice to know that he is learning how to tap into my emotions and I do not have to work. I can just let go and be free.
I think the biggest thing before was that I was always turned off because he was a little boy. Frank actually taught him how to remain a man throughout the entire evening. So, it has been great. And No it was not hard for me at all. It is what I have been wanting. After Frank left it got hot and steamy. It was wonderful! I am definitely going to continue being a woman and not being his mother.
Review by Mark
I think the purpose of Frank Kermit's session was to just bring me back when we first met. He just lead me through and gave me some good pointers, and he really opened my eyes to what I was doing wrong, and how I was making her feel. Hey, it was great. It was amazing. In the beginning it was weird. Lisa and myself were in the bedroom. Just trying to bond in a sexual manner. I had an earpiece, and he was speaking to me from another room. And just basically going through some techniques that would work and some seduction techniques. In the beginning it was a little weird. It worked out great. And she really got into it and its made a difference already. I think it brought me back to the beginning in our relationship, and that's how our sex life was like. In the end we were both having fun. And I think that was the point. She was responding pretty well to the whole situation. I think that was what she needed. She was right into that.
We have kind of lost touch with the whole, the way we used to be. I would say our sex life is back on track this week. We already had a couple times in the bedroom and it was pretty good. I would say we are on the right track anyway. Yah. I have taken a little of Frank lessons and applied it to my sex life. Its made a difference. I would say the seducer challenge was my favorite. I enjoyed it the most. I enjoyed it the most because it brought me back to where I was in the beginning. Somewhere down the line I missed. I just became a totally different person for our sex life and now it is enjoyable again. And now it is enjoyable again; experimenting and having fun in the bedroom, and exactly what we want. I did not ever think it was going to...our sex life would improve so quickly. Its definitely done a 180%.
For sure. Talking to Frank and listening to him. He just amazing. Dead on every aspect. He really knows what he is talking about. And I believe him 100%. He is definitely a master at seduction. I trust him 100%. I definitely got my Mojo back!...Thanks to Frank.
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Get Out of the FriendZone
From Friends To Lovers:
Stop Being Someone’s Emotional Cookie
By Frank Kermit
You have been friends for a long time. You share secrets, you are there for each other and when the phone rings at 3 am, you are ready to pick it up and just listen while your best friend tells you about the problems he or she is having with the person they are dating. That friend of yours would do it for you as well, so what’s the problem? Oh right. You are in love with your best friend, and would rather your best friend be dating you, but they just don’t notice you in that way.
The entire concept of from friends to lovers plays out a lot in popular media. The idea that your “friend” at some point is just going to wake up one day and realize that you have been there all along is great for selling stories, but it does not work that way in real life.
A number of people that seek out relationship coaches usually already have someone in mind they would like to be with, and it usually is their best friend.
Is it possible to turn a friend into a lover, however that usually requires your friend to go through something major, maybe even traumatic, in order to be able to appreciate you. If your friend is not returning your attraction, or at least your romantic affections, it is likely you are simply not addressing your friend’s particular emotional needs that would cause that person to fall in love with you. Sometimes it takes a real crisis before a person’s emotional needs priorities change. Jane may have to reach a point where her abusive boyfriend almost kills her, before she can be in a position to find her non-violent but non-muscular friend John a sexy suitor. Bill may have to be pummeled through an emotionally and financially draining divorce before he can appreciate his slightly plain-looking friend Betty as the best girlfriend he could possibly have.
Notwithstanding the crisis your friend has to go through in order to see you with eyes of love (or lust, whichever you prefer), the easier way to attract your friend is actually by stopping to be such good friends.
If you friend has ever made it a point to say that they would never date you because they would not want to ruin your friendship…leave and stop being such a good friend. When someone that knows you intimately, but platonically, rejects you, it is probably the nicest insult you will ever get, even though most people do not view that kind of rejection as an insult. It is one thing when someone that you do not know at all rejects you and refuses to date you or take your phone number. No insult there because they do not know you, but when it is someone that knows exactly what a great relationship partner you could be (or at least how great YOU think you are), and they STILL reject you…take it for what it is. It is an insult that should make you want to focus your time on someone that actually wants you romantically.
If you want your old friend to be your newest lover, you have to stop being the emotional cookie comfort. Think of it like how some people need to be comforted, and when they feel that way, they turn to eating cookies. It is not healthy for them, but it makes them feel better in the moment; and then when they are ready to face the world and are no longer in need of that comfort, they don’t particularly appreciate the cookie anymore. Sometimes they even make disparaging remarks about the cookies that were there for them, and how those cookies were good, but not what they REALLY needed.
When you are in love with your best friend, and your best friend uses you for comfort, but does not think you are worthy of being romantically involved with you…YOU ARE BEING AN EMOTIONAL COOKIE.
The BEST way to get a friend to see you as something more than just an emotional cookie is to stop being so available to your friend, and spend your time actively looking to meet someone new for your romantic intentions. This means no more spending your Friday and Saturday nights, and Sunday afternoons (optimal date times) with your friend. No more taking those 3 am phone calls. And most important…START DATING OTHER PEOPLE.
Pledging your time to someone that does not return your affects does not prove your level of loyalty. All it proves is that you have no sense of your own value as a relationship partner. If you cannot demonstrate through your actions that you recognize your value, your friend certainly never will. Keep in mind that continuing to hold out for a friend like that can damage you emotionally, and train you to build attachments to people that treat you as if you are unwanted. People are their repeating behavior patterns.
There is a pretty good chance that once you are too busy with your new partner(s) that your friend might start to wonder if they missed out on something. After all, if someone else desires you, maybe your friend desire should too. And the next time you friend calls you at 3 am, and you do not answer, your friend can wonder if someone else was occupying your time at that particular hour. Hopefully, someone is.
Part of the problem is that your friend does not recognize you as a sexual being and potential sexual partner. The best way to prove you are, is to demonstrate that others recognize it in you…action speaks louder than words, and that is why it does not work to “argue” your friend into dating you, or to settle for you. You deserve to be someone’s first choice, not someone’s back up.
The best part is, once you get used to having a new partner that appreciates you romantically, it is likely that you might stop seeing that best friend of yours as anything more than a past waste of your attention.
I wish you all great love, sex, dating and relationships for the new year! Make it the year of your heart!
Frank Kermit
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Sex Between Friends Is Anything But Casual
The Rules Of Friends-With-Benefits
By Frank Kermit
Sex between friends! There are some different names this particular relationship structure goes by. Sex-friends, Sex-buddies, C.S.B.F. (casual sex between friends) are among the less vulgar terms. Virgins, or those people with just a little sexual experience, call them "practice partners". The one that seems to be the most popular is F.W.B (friends with benefits). It really does seem like a good idea at the time. Neither of you are in serious relationships. You are both friends. You like each other...enough. You feel comfortable and trust each other. You are lonely, horny, curious or just bored. However, like any relationship structure, there are guidelines to follow and not managing your FWB well, will not only cost you the "benefits" but could also cost you both the entire friendship.
A proper FWB relationship means you only see each other once a week. Twice a week on occasion if you plan a special getaway. One of the biggest mistakes that partners make in FWB is that they try to see each other as often as they can in a short time period. All this will do is confuse the issue. Seeing each other more than once a week is acting like more serious relationship than it is, and can nurture romantic feelings to develop. If you act like you are more than just a FWB, you can expect one or both partners to start feeling, wanting or expecting more from each other, even if you had "the talk". (The Talk is when you talk and both agree that this is just friends having sex, that it will not change anything in your friendship, and you both understand that this is not going to turn into a relationship.
FYI: The talk does not work if you act like you are publically dating regardless of what you agreed to in private before sex.) When you do see your FWB, make sure that it is never on Friday or Saturday nights, as those nights are best left reserved for family and social outings, where you are likely to meet someone that you can have more committed love relationship than that with a FWB.
It is key to remember that FWB is a time-limited affair. You are only together for as long as it takes for just one of you to meet, date and get serious enough with another person such that being FWB would become an act of infidelity to the new partner. Once your FWB finds someone new, or you do, you stop being FWB. If you have managed it well, you will hopefully still be friends. If you cannot wish your FWB to be able to find love and happiness with a potential soul mate that is not you...then be ethical. Do not become FWB.
FWB is a discreet engagement. No one should ever know you even have a FWB. No one should ever be able to find out just by seeing the two of you together that you are being intimate when alone. When you and your FWB are in the same social circle and happen to be at the same party or social event, you behave like friends who are NOT sleeping together.
FWB works behind closed doors when no one is looking. You do not hold hands, kiss or show romantic affection for each other in the presence of your other friends. If your FWB is talking with someone that could be a potential future date for him or her, you cannot express any jealousy. You are not in a public romantic relationship. You are having a private intimate exchange with someone that is a friend. Too the rest of the world, you must present yourselves as nothing but friends. You do not "date" your FWB. You do not attend events "with" your FWB. You can meet up afterwards in secret, but again, keep your mouth shut, as no one should know your private business. In fact, you never even tell your FWB about your other FWB, nor should you ask whom else your FWB has as a FWB. For this reason, use protection and practice safe sex. There are many secrets you can share with friends, but who else is your FWB, and or whether or not you even have one, is not one of them.
Virgins can find lots of benefits as FWB. The opportunity to practice kissing, touching, being sexual, without the pressure of trying to get a partner to keep liking you, adding to that the comfort of being vulnerable with someone that is already deemed a friend has prompted many virgins to lose their virginities through FWB. At least that is the theory.
Some people who lost their virginities as FWB feel it gave them the confidence they needed to take a chance on the future relationships they went into, while others regret not waiting as they wished they would have experienced their first times within relationships that were more meaningfully committed. Be sure you know what you value. There are things you simply cannot take back.
Be mindful that FWB can be educational and very fun. However there are always negatives with this lifestyle. First, great fun can be easily confused with great escapism. Some people thrive as FWB because they have deep-rooted intimacy issues and it is a means to continue that dysfunctional repeating behavior pattern. When fun becomes escapism, the sex stops being satisfying and resorts to just another temporary distraction to combat the entrenched empty feelings associated with intimacy barriers. Ironically, some people only do FWB because they want to see as many people as they can so that they never end up alone.
The reality of FWB is that these time-limited love fits, tend to end quickly and the FWB practitioners tend to end up alone at the worst possible times. For example, no one would want to spend Valentine's Day with a FWB when they could have the potential (not even a guarantee, but just a potential) of meeting someone new for a deeper connection which is why many FWB tend to end abruptly just before or on V-day.
FWB is not a romantic relationship per se, and if that is all you have ever experienced, you will not have developed the social skills necessary to carry you through the rough patches that even the best-committed relationships go through. You can drop a FWB at any time, and it is actually easier to do so than it is to work out your differences. If you have formed that habit of flight instead of fighting to keep your relationship healthy, then trying to manage a more serious relationship later on will be challenging for you if all you have ever known are FWB.
Some people become too reliant on FWB, that they stop being social. It is just easier to continue being with the same FWB and not going out to meet new people. This is a horrible place to be in, because when the FWB ends (and it will), those partners that stopped meeting new people, and growing socially, end up worse off than if they never tried the FWB dynamic.
Even if managed well, as mentioned in this article, it is still very possible to end up developing romantic feelings for the person you are semi-regularly sleeping with. Your heart may not get "broken"...but your heart certainly will get dinged. It takes a level of emotional maturity management that not everyone has the capacity for. FWB is not for everyone.
Eventually, chances are very high that one or both of you will end up in a serious relationship down the road. The chances are also very high that your future spouse or partner will not want you to continue a friendship with someone that you were secretly intimate with. When getting very serious with someone, it may be the time to tell all about who your FWB were, especially if those FWB are still in your current social circle.
This may not apply to all couples, however some people change their open accepting attitudes when not only their hearts are involved, but factor in joint property investments, kids and a lifestyle, such that the idea of spending free time with people that already have established successfully being intimate with their life partner in secret in the past, will cause more trust issues for the future. It will be easier to manage the concerns of the new life partner, than keeping the friendship with an ex FWB is ever worth. Your time as FWB will end at some at some point. If you want to continue to have your FWB, as a friend when it is over, be sure to manage the relationship so that you do not lose, not only your FWB, but also the entire social networks you both were part in. And even then, your friendship will always have an asterisks next to it, so don't expect that friendship to last forever either. Just like any other endeavor that comes with lots of immediate "benefits", in the end, you end up having to pay the price over time for them. Sometimes the long term cost effects weren't worth the initial benefits you were provided.
Shop carefully!
Frank Kermit
The Rules Of Friends-With-Benefits
By Frank Kermit
Sex between friends! There are some different names this particular relationship structure goes by. Sex-friends, Sex-buddies, C.S.B.F. (casual sex between friends) are among the less vulgar terms. Virgins, or those people with just a little sexual experience, call them "practice partners". The one that seems to be the most popular is F.W.B (friends with benefits). It really does seem like a good idea at the time. Neither of you are in serious relationships. You are both friends. You like each other...enough. You feel comfortable and trust each other. You are lonely, horny, curious or just bored. However, like any relationship structure, there are guidelines to follow and not managing your FWB well, will not only cost you the "benefits" but could also cost you both the entire friendship.
A proper FWB relationship means you only see each other once a week. Twice a week on occasion if you plan a special getaway. One of the biggest mistakes that partners make in FWB is that they try to see each other as often as they can in a short time period. All this will do is confuse the issue. Seeing each other more than once a week is acting like more serious relationship than it is, and can nurture romantic feelings to develop. If you act like you are more than just a FWB, you can expect one or both partners to start feeling, wanting or expecting more from each other, even if you had "the talk". (The Talk is when you talk and both agree that this is just friends having sex, that it will not change anything in your friendship, and you both understand that this is not going to turn into a relationship.
FYI: The talk does not work if you act like you are publically dating regardless of what you agreed to in private before sex.) When you do see your FWB, make sure that it is never on Friday or Saturday nights, as those nights are best left reserved for family and social outings, where you are likely to meet someone that you can have more committed love relationship than that with a FWB.
It is key to remember that FWB is a time-limited affair. You are only together for as long as it takes for just one of you to meet, date and get serious enough with another person such that being FWB would become an act of infidelity to the new partner. Once your FWB finds someone new, or you do, you stop being FWB. If you have managed it well, you will hopefully still be friends. If you cannot wish your FWB to be able to find love and happiness with a potential soul mate that is not you...then be ethical. Do not become FWB.
FWB is a discreet engagement. No one should ever know you even have a FWB. No one should ever be able to find out just by seeing the two of you together that you are being intimate when alone. When you and your FWB are in the same social circle and happen to be at the same party or social event, you behave like friends who are NOT sleeping together.
FWB works behind closed doors when no one is looking. You do not hold hands, kiss or show romantic affection for each other in the presence of your other friends. If your FWB is talking with someone that could be a potential future date for him or her, you cannot express any jealousy. You are not in a public romantic relationship. You are having a private intimate exchange with someone that is a friend. Too the rest of the world, you must present yourselves as nothing but friends. You do not "date" your FWB. You do not attend events "with" your FWB. You can meet up afterwards in secret, but again, keep your mouth shut, as no one should know your private business. In fact, you never even tell your FWB about your other FWB, nor should you ask whom else your FWB has as a FWB. For this reason, use protection and practice safe sex. There are many secrets you can share with friends, but who else is your FWB, and or whether or not you even have one, is not one of them.
Virgins can find lots of benefits as FWB. The opportunity to practice kissing, touching, being sexual, without the pressure of trying to get a partner to keep liking you, adding to that the comfort of being vulnerable with someone that is already deemed a friend has prompted many virgins to lose their virginities through FWB. At least that is the theory.
Some people who lost their virginities as FWB feel it gave them the confidence they needed to take a chance on the future relationships they went into, while others regret not waiting as they wished they would have experienced their first times within relationships that were more meaningfully committed. Be sure you know what you value. There are things you simply cannot take back.
Be mindful that FWB can be educational and very fun. However there are always negatives with this lifestyle. First, great fun can be easily confused with great escapism. Some people thrive as FWB because they have deep-rooted intimacy issues and it is a means to continue that dysfunctional repeating behavior pattern. When fun becomes escapism, the sex stops being satisfying and resorts to just another temporary distraction to combat the entrenched empty feelings associated with intimacy barriers. Ironically, some people only do FWB because they want to see as many people as they can so that they never end up alone.
The reality of FWB is that these time-limited love fits, tend to end quickly and the FWB practitioners tend to end up alone at the worst possible times. For example, no one would want to spend Valentine's Day with a FWB when they could have the potential (not even a guarantee, but just a potential) of meeting someone new for a deeper connection which is why many FWB tend to end abruptly just before or on V-day.
FWB is not a romantic relationship per se, and if that is all you have ever experienced, you will not have developed the social skills necessary to carry you through the rough patches that even the best-committed relationships go through. You can drop a FWB at any time, and it is actually easier to do so than it is to work out your differences. If you have formed that habit of flight instead of fighting to keep your relationship healthy, then trying to manage a more serious relationship later on will be challenging for you if all you have ever known are FWB.
Some people become too reliant on FWB, that they stop being social. It is just easier to continue being with the same FWB and not going out to meet new people. This is a horrible place to be in, because when the FWB ends (and it will), those partners that stopped meeting new people, and growing socially, end up worse off than if they never tried the FWB dynamic.
Even if managed well, as mentioned in this article, it is still very possible to end up developing romantic feelings for the person you are semi-regularly sleeping with. Your heart may not get "broken"...but your heart certainly will get dinged. It takes a level of emotional maturity management that not everyone has the capacity for. FWB is not for everyone.
Eventually, chances are very high that one or both of you will end up in a serious relationship down the road. The chances are also very high that your future spouse or partner will not want you to continue a friendship with someone that you were secretly intimate with. When getting very serious with someone, it may be the time to tell all about who your FWB were, especially if those FWB are still in your current social circle.
This may not apply to all couples, however some people change their open accepting attitudes when not only their hearts are involved, but factor in joint property investments, kids and a lifestyle, such that the idea of spending free time with people that already have established successfully being intimate with their life partner in secret in the past, will cause more trust issues for the future. It will be easier to manage the concerns of the new life partner, than keeping the friendship with an ex FWB is ever worth. Your time as FWB will end at some at some point. If you want to continue to have your FWB, as a friend when it is over, be sure to manage the relationship so that you do not lose, not only your FWB, but also the entire social networks you both were part in. And even then, your friendship will always have an asterisks next to it, so don't expect that friendship to last forever either. Just like any other endeavor that comes with lots of immediate "benefits", in the end, you end up having to pay the price over time for them. Sometimes the long term cost effects weren't worth the initial benefits you were provided.
Shop carefully!
Frank Kermit
