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Creating Chemistry
Looks vs Personality: Creating Chemistry
By Frank Kermit
A question that comes up to me in coaching often is what do you do when you find someone's personality very interesting, even attractive, but you really are not into that person's looks.
The answer is one that no one wants to hear.
If you are single, date that person anyways
and see if chemistry develops over the time
of a few dates
Sometimes, you have to kiss that person goodnight in order to get the fireworks to initially spark.
When you meet someone in speed dating,
and that person has enough spark just from personality that makes you think MAYBE,
Just say YES
Take the chance, and go for the match. You never know...that person might even reject you!!!
It would be good to know to help you keep that ego of yours in check.
Bottom line is that you are single!
Maybe you are single because you are way too picky
Maybe your standards are too high for what you can attract
But you are single.
Give that person a chance.
You only have everything to gain.
This article is an excerpt from The Frank Guide To Speed Dating program
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you are still single because of the choices you make
Single in September
By Frank Kermit
It's the most wonderful time of the year. End of summer, back to school, and vacation period is basically over for most people.
All that means one thing. It is one of the best times to be single for taking action to meet someone special.
This is it.
The meet and greet season has started. Fresh off the blast of summer loving when all summer romances must come to an end, and people have to tune in once again to their regularly scheduled life programming.
Back to school, means back to the grind of routine, and this is when people are new, fresh, rejuvenated from time off and sunny weather, and are in the best head space to meet a new friendly face.
The signs of autumn have started-a-coming, when retail stores start putting out the Halloween decorations.
That signals just one thing:
WINTER IS COMING TOO!
It is time to start now, to seek out new life, and that new warm human body that is going to enjoy cuddling you by a delightful fire, while the weather outside turns frightful.
If you are still single, there is always some place to go, to meet new people, cause you never know.
So you better not pout, and you better not cry if you end up singing single 'cause you're bumming about town.
Tis' the season to be finding, a warm cup of your own special something. Stop, with your games of love, and get serious.
Chances are, you are single because of the choices you made leading up to this moment.
All those people you were interested in, but did not ask out. All those potential partners who liked you, but you turned down worrying about what others would think.
All your "rules" and "standards" that (really serve no purpose to finding someone who treats you amazing) just get in the way because they are simply not realistic.
If you continue to make those same choices, then chances are, again, that you will continue to be single, and continue to make it more difficult for anyone to join you for an unforgettable duet.
This could be the BEST time of the year to meet someone new. But it takes ACTION on your part to get out there, and make yourself available.
Well, OK, maybe it is not the BEST time of the year to meet someone new right now.
Song lyrics and catchy pop culture phrases can grease the wheels of the coming holiday spirit, and inspire some people from the cold-hearted wonderland of our lives.
And the fact is, every day (including TODAY) is a good day to die and go to heaven (FIGURATIVELY PLEASE!) by meeting someone special, and every season has just as much opportunity to find someone new, and every night time is the right time to be with somebody you love.
It is ALWAYS the BEST TIME to meet someone new. Today IS THAT the day. Seize it and make it yours.
Take the chance! Now is the moment. Go on and kiss the world of dating and end your reign in the valley of Singledom.
Frank Kermit
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Never Force Your Worldview on Others
Don't Force Your Worldview
by Frank Kermit
Each of us views the world a certain way. It encapsulates what we believe to be right, and wrong. The worldview of each individual can change over time as our life experiences teach us about the world, teach us about the people we interact with, and teach us about ourselves.
In dating, it is important to find someone who shares your worldview. This can be very challenging if you have never taken the time to figure out what your worldview is, and more importantly, if you have never actually challenged any worldviews you had because they are the views you were brought up with.
For example, if you grew up in an environment that values sexual abstinence before marriage and took on those beliefs as part of your worldview as a child, they may not have been beliefs that you ever challenged. Then one day, as an adult, you enter the world of dating and find that not everyone you wanted to date shares in your belief systems.
For the first time, you may question if those beliefs are in your best interest. You may start to weigh the positives and negatives surrounding waiting until wedlock. You may even start to question other beliefs tied into your upbringing including whether getting legally married is even necessary in order to live together and raise children, which are separate beliefs than those about whether or not to have sex.
In the end, you may decide to abandon all your previous beliefs. Or you may decide to enter a period of experimentation where you explore your own boundaries to see what works for you. It is also possible, that after careful consideration and challenging your beliefs that you decide that even if you did not seek out those beliefs that were thrust upon you as a child, you do in fact find they reflect your values and intend to stick to them because they are in fact in your best interest.
In fact, people who challenge their belief systems (their worldview) tend to have a stronger faith in themselves and their beliefs once they resolve their own doubts about it (a challenge to a belief system may represent a doubt in the belief system).
As a dating coach, I am less concerned about the specifics of your worldview — if it already works for you — and more concerned with 1) do you know what your worldview is? 2) Can you articulate it enough to communicate exactly what you mean? and 3) Are you aware of why you have this worldview?
If the only reason you choose a vegetarian lifestyle is because all of your friends are vegetarians, then your “why” reflects your actual values (the value of approval and acceptance of your peer group, and not necessarily a value of the benefits of a vegetarian diet).
With all that said, the point of this article is that when you date someone and it turns out that your worldview and the worldview of the other person are very different, it is important to remember that it is good to communicate your worldview to give the other person an understanding of it, and it is also good to be open to hearing and trying to understand the worldview of the other person. You do not have to agree with the opposing worldview, you just have to be open to understanding it.
The mistake some singles make, is trying to convert the worldview of the person they are dating, instead of either accepting the difference, or simply breaking up with the person and seeking out someone with a similar worldview.
If your worldview encompasses a lifestyle focused on a career and personal enjoyment instead of having children and raising a family, well that is OK. If your worldview requires you to have children and raising a family at the expense of career advancement and some personal enjoyment, well that is OK too.
One worldview life is not necessarily better than the other. The key is to find someone to date that already shares a similar worldview to your own, and not try to force, trick, shame or guilt a person into living your worldview.
Be respectful out there.
Frank Kermit
by Frank Kermit
Each of us views the world a certain way. It encapsulates what we believe to be right, and wrong. The worldview of each individual can change over time as our life experiences teach us about the world, teach us about the people we interact with, and teach us about ourselves.
In dating, it is important to find someone who shares your worldview. This can be very challenging if you have never taken the time to figure out what your worldview is, and more importantly, if you have never actually challenged any worldviews you had because they are the views you were brought up with.
For example, if you grew up in an environment that values sexual abstinence before marriage and took on those beliefs as part of your worldview as a child, they may not have been beliefs that you ever challenged. Then one day, as an adult, you enter the world of dating and find that not everyone you wanted to date shares in your belief systems.
For the first time, you may question if those beliefs are in your best interest. You may start to weigh the positives and negatives surrounding waiting until wedlock. You may even start to question other beliefs tied into your upbringing including whether getting legally married is even necessary in order to live together and raise children, which are separate beliefs than those about whether or not to have sex.
In the end, you may decide to abandon all your previous beliefs. Or you may decide to enter a period of experimentation where you explore your own boundaries to see what works for you. It is also possible, that after careful consideration and challenging your beliefs that you decide that even if you did not seek out those beliefs that were thrust upon you as a child, you do in fact find they reflect your values and intend to stick to them because they are in fact in your best interest.
In fact, people who challenge their belief systems (their worldview) tend to have a stronger faith in themselves and their beliefs once they resolve their own doubts about it (a challenge to a belief system may represent a doubt in the belief system).
As a dating coach, I am less concerned about the specifics of your worldview — if it already works for you — and more concerned with 1) do you know what your worldview is? 2) Can you articulate it enough to communicate exactly what you mean? and 3) Are you aware of why you have this worldview?
If the only reason you choose a vegetarian lifestyle is because all of your friends are vegetarians, then your “why” reflects your actual values (the value of approval and acceptance of your peer group, and not necessarily a value of the benefits of a vegetarian diet).
With all that said, the point of this article is that when you date someone and it turns out that your worldview and the worldview of the other person are very different, it is important to remember that it is good to communicate your worldview to give the other person an understanding of it, and it is also good to be open to hearing and trying to understand the worldview of the other person. You do not have to agree with the opposing worldview, you just have to be open to understanding it.
The mistake some singles make, is trying to convert the worldview of the person they are dating, instead of either accepting the difference, or simply breaking up with the person and seeking out someone with a similar worldview.
If your worldview encompasses a lifestyle focused on a career and personal enjoyment instead of having children and raising a family, well that is OK. If your worldview requires you to have children and raising a family at the expense of career advancement and some personal enjoyment, well that is OK too.
One worldview life is not necessarily better than the other. The key is to find someone to date that already shares a similar worldview to your own, and not try to force, trick, shame or guilt a person into living your worldview.
Be respectful out there.
Frank Kermit
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Seek a life partner that has a compatible life plan to yours
Planning the rest of your life together
by Frank Kermit
When I sit down with a couple for Pre Marital Coaching,
which is working with a couple who are getting ready
to move to the next step in their relationship,
one of the questions I always ask them is
what do they have planned for the rest of their lives together?
Whether you are
moving in together
buying property together
having a child together
getting married
getting engaged
one of the key elements towards success
is having a life plan
and then checking to make sure
that your individual life plans
are actually compatible.
I have seen couples, who were very much in love
but had very incompatible life plans.
Where one person wanted 2 children in the next 5 years
and the other did not want children at all.
Where one person wanted to eventually move to Japan
and the other person wanted to move to Brazil
Where one person wanted to retire together to Florida
and the other person refused ever stop working
Where one person needed to spend the next 4 years
traveling to a different continent for a unique and specific
graduate education in a niche industry
and the other person was running out of time
to start a family
So, if you want to have a successful marriage
that will last long term
and withstand the status of separation and divorce
get your life plan in order.
Know what you need to know for your life plan
and find a partner that has a life plan that is compatible with yours.
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Peter Anthony Holder is a professional broadcaster. He has decades of experience in the media industry, He is the producer and host of THE STUPH FILE Podcast. To learn more about Peter Anthony Holder please visit http://www.peteranthonyholder.com/.
Frank's Weight Loss
The STUPH FILE Program Episode #0717, Original Air Date: May 14, 2023
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit who is a relationship coach that we’ve had on the program several times over the years, has a new coaching service that is near and dear to his heart. He’s now a certified weight loss coach, after he himself lost over 200 pounds. This is Frank's 18th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit who is a relationship coach that we’ve had on the program several times over the years, has a new coaching service that is near and dear to his heart. He’s now a certified weight loss coach, after he himself lost over 200 pounds. This is Frank's 18th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Relationships and Social Media.
The STUPH FILE Program Episode #0706, Original Air Date: February 23, 2023
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about relationships and social media. This is Frank's 17th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about relationships and social media. This is Frank's 17th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Dating in the Time of the Covid-19 Pandemic.
The STUPH FILE Program Episode #0607, Original Air Date: April 3, 2021
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about dating in the time of the Covid-19 pandemic. It’s a topic that Frank has written articles about, one of which you can find here.. This is Frank's 16th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about dating in the time of the Covid-19 pandemic. It’s a topic that Frank has written articles about, one of which you can find here.. This is Frank's 16th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
How Dating has Changed for the Next Generation
The STUPH FILE Program Episode #0484, Original Air Date: November 25, 2018
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit discusses how dating has changed for the next generation.. This is Frank's 15th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit discusses how dating has changed for the next generation.. This is Frank's 15th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
How Soon in a Relationship Should You Start Having Sex?
The STUPH FILE Program Episode #0476, Original Air Date: September 30, 2018
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit answers the question, how soon in a relationship should you start having sex?.. This is Frank's 14th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit answers the question, how soon in a relationship should you start having sex?.. This is Frank's 14th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Dating Someone Who Has Been Single for a Long Time
The STUPH FILE Program Episode #0446, Original Air Date: March 4, 2018
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about dating someone who has been single for a long time. Apparently there is a shelf life for serial singles as many might shun them as a potential mate.. This is Frank's 13th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about dating someone who has been single for a long time. Apparently there is a shelf life for serial singles as many might shun them as a potential mate.. This is Frank's 13th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Cuffing Season
The STUPH FILE Program Episode #0433, Original Air Date: December 2, 2017
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Cuffing Season the period during the holiday season when some singles get back into old relationships to avoid being alone during the holidays. This is Frank's 12th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Cuffing Season the period during the holiday season when some singles get back into old relationships to avoid being alone during the holidays. This is Frank's 12th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
People who have been deemed “undateable.”
The STUPH FILE Program Episode #0401, Original Air Date: April 23, 2017
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about People deemed "undateable". This is Frank's 11th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about People deemed "undateable". This is Frank's 11th appearance on the program.
To listen to the episode please visit The Stuph File with Peter Anthony Holder
Minefield of Valentine's Day
The STUPH FILE Program Episode #0285, Original Air Date: February 2, 2015
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about the minefield that is Valentine's Day. This is Frank's 10th appearance on the program.
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about the minefield that is Valentine's Day. This is Frank's 10th appearance on the program.
Social Media, New Technologies and Dating & Relationships
The STUPH FILE Program, Episode #0276, Original Air Date: December 1, 2014
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about technology, social media in relationships and dating. This is Frank's 9th appearance on the program.
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about technology, social media in relationships and dating. This is Frank's 9th appearance on the program.
Communication in Dating and Relationships
The STUPH FILE Program, Episode #0270, Original Air Date: October 20, 2014
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about communication in relationships and dating. This is Frank's 8th appearance on the program
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about communication in relationships and dating. This is Frank's 8th appearance on the program
The Great Love Debate - Why Are We Still Single?
The STUPH FILE Program, Episode #0258, Original Air Date: July 29 2014
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Why are people still single in a time when there are more ways than ever to meet someone. Also discussed is The Great Love Debate International Tour 2014 in Montreal. This is Frank's 7th appearance on the program.
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Why are people still single in a time when there are more ways than ever to meet someone. Also discussed is The Great Love Debate International Tour 2014 in Montreal. This is Frank's 7th appearance on the program.
Age Gap Relationships
The STUPH FILE Program, Episode #0251, Original Air Date: June 6 2014
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Age Gap Relationships. This is Frank's 6th appearance on the show.
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Age Gap Relationships. This is Frank's 6th appearance on the show.
Making Ultimatums in Dating and Relationships
The STUPH FILE Program, Episode #0243, Original Air Date: April, 2014
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about making ultimatums in dating and relationships. This is Frank's 5th appearance on the show.
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about making ultimatums in dating and relationships. This is Frank's 5th appearance on the show.
New Relationships Going into the Holidays
The STUPH FILE Program, Episode #0225, Original Air Date: December, 2013
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about new relationships and going to holiday gatherings with friends, co-workers and family. This is Frank's 4th appearance on the program.
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about new relationships and going to holiday gatherings with friends, co-workers and family. This is Frank's 4th appearance on the program.
Bad Media Representations of Dating and Relationships
The STUPH FILE Program, Episode #0222, Original Air Date: November, 2013
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about bad relationships being portrayed in the media for humor and as a sales tool and how that may affect audiences. This is Frank's 3rd appearance on the program.
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about bad relationships being portrayed in the media for humor and as a sales tool and how that may affect audiences. This is Frank's 3rd appearance on the program.
The STUPH FILE Program, Episode #0178, Original Air Date: January 14, 2013
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Couples in Transition and Pre Wedding Conversations. This is Frank's 2nd appearance on the program.
Peter Anthony Holder interviews Frank Kermit about Couples in Transition and Pre Wedding Conversations. This is Frank's 2nd appearance on the program.
Frank Kermit does the Intro for The STUPH File
The STUPH FILE Program, Episode #0157, Original Air Date: August 20, 2012,
Peter Anthony Holder presents Frank Kermit voicing the intro to his STUPH FILE Program podcast. This is Frank's 1st appearance on the program
Peter Anthony Holder presents Frank Kermit voicing the intro to his STUPH FILE Program podcast. This is Frank's 1st appearance on the program
Frank Talks Radio interviews Peter Anthony Holder
Frank Interviews Peter Anthony Holder, Episode #1009, Original Air Date: June 2010
Peter Anthony Holder is a professional broadcaster. He has decades of experience in the media industry, and shares his stories about how he got started, what it takes to be a broadcaster, who he worked with, who he learned from and studied under and very special inside information that only a man with broadcast experience would know.
Peter Anthony Holder is a professional broadcaster. He has decades of experience in the media industry, and shares his stories about how he got started, what it takes to be a broadcaster, who he worked with, who he learned from and studied under and very special inside information that only a man with broadcast experience would know.
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life is not a fairytale
Originally published July 29, 2016, updated April 20, 2018
Life is Not a Fairytale
by Frank Kermit
You are not a helpless, beautiful princess in peril needing to be saved because of how pretty you are, nor a handsome prince who is also a knight setting out to rescue someone as a means of earning true love.
You have a lot more power and control over your own destiny than you were raised to believe you had. Believing in fairy tales may have been acceptable when we were children, but it is destructive to base decisions made for your adult love life on what fairy tales taught you.
The first thing is you do not need anyone to save you from a life of loneliness or from ending up with the wrong person. You have the power (and dare I say the obligation) to save yourself.
Want to be rescued from poverty? Earn your own money and build your own wealth.
Want to get out of a bad living situation? Make whatever sacrifice to get yourself educated or knowledgeable enough to get yourself out of there.
Want to make sure that you do not end up alone? Be proactive in meeting new people and become the kind of person that others would want to date.
Stop waiting for someone to come along to find you. You go find that someone first.
The second thing is instead of looking for a life partner that you would need to save first, you should be seeking someone that can be a contributing partner to help you build the future you both agree on.
You are lovable without having to save someone from him-or-herself in order to earn love.
In fact, even if you do save someone, you may earn their gratitude, and you may earn their appreciation, but you did not automatically earn that person’s love.
Demanding someone love you just because you saved the person (from themselves or from someone else) does not guarantee love. It never has regardless of what fairy tales imply.
Stop trying to "hero" your way to love.
And the scariest part about this life lesson for your love life?
The realization that there is no guarantee of a happily ever after, even when you meet someone wonderfully suited to you.
Life is a series of struggles, and ups and downs.
Even when you find that magical connection and sustainable relationship, you are still dealing with two flawed human beings that will have to contend with everything nasty life has to throw at you both.
From friends and family who refuse to accept or acknowledge your love, to dealing with the death of loved ones, personal sickness, challenges as parents, broken trusts, financial concerns and other elements too numerous to mention all of which can send even the strongest couples into the negative portion of divorce statistics.
Singles who are caught up on having:
-the perfect date,
-the perfect fantasy romance,
-the perfect fantasy wedding, and
-the perfect family life
will more than likely end up perfectly single.
Life is not perfect, and neither are you.
The sooner you accept that, the sooner you will be ready for a real relationship.
-Frank Kermit
Life is Not a Fairytale
by Frank Kermit
You are not a helpless, beautiful princess in peril needing to be saved because of how pretty you are, nor a handsome prince who is also a knight setting out to rescue someone as a means of earning true love.
You have a lot more power and control over your own destiny than you were raised to believe you had. Believing in fairy tales may have been acceptable when we were children, but it is destructive to base decisions made for your adult love life on what fairy tales taught you.
The first thing is you do not need anyone to save you from a life of loneliness or from ending up with the wrong person. You have the power (and dare I say the obligation) to save yourself.
Want to be rescued from poverty? Earn your own money and build your own wealth.
Want to get out of a bad living situation? Make whatever sacrifice to get yourself educated or knowledgeable enough to get yourself out of there.
Want to make sure that you do not end up alone? Be proactive in meeting new people and become the kind of person that others would want to date.
Stop waiting for someone to come along to find you. You go find that someone first.
The second thing is instead of looking for a life partner that you would need to save first, you should be seeking someone that can be a contributing partner to help you build the future you both agree on.
You are lovable without having to save someone from him-or-herself in order to earn love.
In fact, even if you do save someone, you may earn their gratitude, and you may earn their appreciation, but you did not automatically earn that person’s love.
Demanding someone love you just because you saved the person (from themselves or from someone else) does not guarantee love. It never has regardless of what fairy tales imply.
Stop trying to "hero" your way to love.
And the scariest part about this life lesson for your love life?
The realization that there is no guarantee of a happily ever after, even when you meet someone wonderfully suited to you.
Life is a series of struggles, and ups and downs.
Even when you find that magical connection and sustainable relationship, you are still dealing with two flawed human beings that will have to contend with everything nasty life has to throw at you both.
From friends and family who refuse to accept or acknowledge your love, to dealing with the death of loved ones, personal sickness, challenges as parents, broken trusts, financial concerns and other elements too numerous to mention all of which can send even the strongest couples into the negative portion of divorce statistics.
Singles who are caught up on having:
-the perfect date,
-the perfect fantasy romance,
-the perfect fantasy wedding, and
-the perfect family life
will more than likely end up perfectly single.
Life is not perfect, and neither are you.
The sooner you accept that, the sooner you will be ready for a real relationship.
-Frank Kermit
Coaching for Men
If you are trapped in a repeating behavior pattern of seeking perfection that it keeps you single, and now you are going to die old and alone with pets, then sign up for COACHING with Frank Kermit and fix this issue once and for all!
Coaching for Women
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19 dating experts to be interviewed for a new Internet television program entitled The Men's Room produced by LifeForce TV and hosted by Mark Sparks.
Men's Room Seminar - Frank Storytelling For Dates
Date: August 26, 2010, Title: Men's Room Webinar - Frank Kermit and Mike Dawson
Frank Kermit is a guest on the Men's Room Webinar. Kermit, joins producer Mike Dawson and they talk about Frank Storytelling.
Frank Kermit is a guest on the Men's Room Webinar. Kermit, joins producer Mike Dawson and they talk about Frank Storytelling.
Men's Room Seminar - Building a Persona (Inner Game)
Date: July 29, 2010, Title: Men's Room Webinar - Frank Kermit, Mark Sparks, Mike Dawson
Frank Kermit is a guest on the Men's Room Webinar. Kermit, joins Mark Sparks and Mike Dawson and they talk about building a persona and modeling new beliefs and behaviors to integrate into your personality.
Frank Kermit is a guest on the Men's Room Webinar. Kermit, joins Mark Sparks and Mike Dawson and they talk about building a persona and modeling new beliefs and behaviors to integrate into your personality.
Mens Room Season 2 - The Emotional Needs of Men
Date: March, 2010, Title: Men's Room TV Season 2Frank Kermit is recorded for two full episodes in Season 2 of The Men's Room. In this episode Frank talks about The Emotional Needs of Men. What’s covered in this interview:
-What the purpose of qualifying a women is and how to do it
-Setting up categories of women based on what you want
-How specific criteria can lead to easy conversation topics
-What value matching is and how it’s a fast way to figure out in a woman is worth your time
-The 10 emotional needs of men and how being aware of them can save your relationships
-How to know yourself before you begin qualifying others
-The distinction of how men and women see sex as it relates to their emotional needs
-How to experiment sexually if you’re not sure what you like in bed
-What the most dangerous emotional need is
-The two principals that creating attraction is based on
-The frustration circle and how to avoid it in your own life
-The ‘friend zone’ and how it’s actually a sign of disrespect towards you
-The number one rule of a monogamous relationship
-Becoming aware of how your mother raised you and how it’s impacting your relationships
-The red flags that women can display that you should be aware of
-What the purpose of qualifying a women is and how to do it
-Setting up categories of women based on what you want
-How specific criteria can lead to easy conversation topics
-What value matching is and how it’s a fast way to figure out in a woman is worth your time
-The 10 emotional needs of men and how being aware of them can save your relationships
-How to know yourself before you begin qualifying others
-The distinction of how men and women see sex as it relates to their emotional needs
-How to experiment sexually if you’re not sure what you like in bed
-What the most dangerous emotional need is
-The two principals that creating attraction is based on
-The frustration circle and how to avoid it in your own life
-The ‘friend zone’ and how it’s actually a sign of disrespect towards you
-The number one rule of a monogamous relationship
-Becoming aware of how your mother raised you and how it’s impacting your relationships
-The red flags that women can display that you should be aware of
Men's Room Season 2 - Great First Dates
What’s covered in this interview:
-How to be your best self on the first date
-A great technique to show off your best features that will build a connection with her
-What your first date absolutely HAS to have
-Rules for success on a first date
-What to make sure you avoid on a first date to ensure she’ll see you again
-Great conversation topics that she’ll remember you by
-How to make one date feel like multiple dates so you can build comfort faster
-Being aware of setting precedents on first dates
-How to qualify a women to determine whether or not you want a first date with her
-Frank’s thoughts about kissing on a first date – it may surprise you
-The Eskimo kiss technique
-Observing the sexual dynamic on a first date and how to navigate it
-The rules of dating as a teenager vs dating as an adult and how things change
-Your obligation on a first date, and how to make sure she knows you’re interested in her
-The killer line to give her if she’s trying to put you in the friend zone
-Sex and the first date, and whether you should be aiming for it or not
-What the last location on a first date must have
-Thing you should have in your home for seduction
-Eliciting states in her to bring up powerful emotions of seduction
-How to get rid of the stigma of taking her to your place on the first date
-A fun game to play on your first date that can spark hours of conversation
-A game you can play while speed dating that will allow you to get to know her very fast
-Pulling out her hot words that you can use back on her later
-The 3 million dollar question to discover her priorities
-How to be your best self on the first date
-A great technique to show off your best features that will build a connection with her
-What your first date absolutely HAS to have
-Rules for success on a first date
-What to make sure you avoid on a first date to ensure she’ll see you again
-Great conversation topics that she’ll remember you by
-How to make one date feel like multiple dates so you can build comfort faster
-Being aware of setting precedents on first dates
-How to qualify a women to determine whether or not you want a first date with her
-Frank’s thoughts about kissing on a first date – it may surprise you
-The Eskimo kiss technique
-Observing the sexual dynamic on a first date and how to navigate it
-The rules of dating as a teenager vs dating as an adult and how things change
-Your obligation on a first date, and how to make sure she knows you’re interested in her
-The killer line to give her if she’s trying to put you in the friend zone
-Sex and the first date, and whether you should be aiming for it or not
-What the last location on a first date must have
-Thing you should have in your home for seduction
-Eliciting states in her to bring up powerful emotions of seduction
-How to get rid of the stigma of taking her to your place on the first date
-A fun game to play on your first date that can spark hours of conversation
-A game you can play while speed dating that will allow you to get to know her very fast
-Pulling out her hot words that you can use back on her later
-The 3 million dollar question to discover her priorities
Men's Room Season 1 on DVD!
Now you can get the first season of the Men's Room on DVD. The 4-Disc set features all 20 episodes of the show including three never before seen bonus features, including: 1) A candid conversation with Mark Sparks about the making of the show and some inside information of what he learned through the process. 2) A 25 minute unreleased interview with sex expert Josey Vogels on the value of sex and communication in a relationship. 3) A montage of deleted clips from the first season including stories from Frank Kermit that didn't make the first cut. Frank Kermit is the ONLY guest to appear in two full episodes of Season I of the Men's Rooms Series. And they STILL had enough footage left over to include Frank in the bonus section of the DVD.
Men's Room Season 1 Episode 20 - Deep Inner Game
February 18, 2009. Episode #20, Final Episode of Season 1. Frank Kermit returns to the Men's Room with some advanced inner games tips. Frank Kermit defines the term "inner game", how to get a woman to stick around if you like her, working backwards to find out what you want in life, teaches both men and women why they each are the prize through powerful beliefs you should hold about yourself, what 'creative avoidance' is and how to redirect your focus, creating new behaviors for yourself that produce positive results, how a behavior turns into a belief, how belief turns into a instinct, how to control your fear, and how to break your negative patterns. Frank Kermit also covers the biggest difference between a guy with his inner game together and a guy without. This episode covers topics from his book I'm a Man, That's My Job.
Men's Room Season 1, Episode 2 - Why Women Test (Emotional Needs)
Broadcast: October 8th 2008. Episode #2, Frank Kermit talks about some of the experiences he went through during his development with how he went from loser to seducer. Why women test men and how men can deal with them. Why it's important to find high quality women and keep them and what woman's 10 emotional needs are and how to satisfy them. This interview covers topics presented in Frank Kermit's books From Loser to Seducer and Everything Out Of Her Mouth is a Test.
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Kevin Jackson is the author of the book Survive Her Affair, and founder of the site: www.soyourwifecheated.com Kevin Jackson has a unique gift to help men heal from their wife's infidelity. (At least, that is what hundreds of happy customers have to say.) Since late 2010, Kevin has been teaching men around the world how to survive their wife's infidelity, no matter how hopeless their situations seem. Using his no-b.s. approach and unique male perspective on the healing process, he has become the leader in the field of Affair Recovery For Men. Kevin's obsession with this topic began with a very personal experience of betrayal in his own life. He looked around for help to get through his own pain, but all he found were books and programs that were primarily for women. (And these books were full of examples of the man being the one who cheated... talk about sexist). Kevin used his knowledge of internet marketing to put up a website, and started helping men online navigate through the perilous waters of affair recovery. Quickly he had a loyal following and an online tribe. Kevin has leveraged his secrets and philosophies to help men in all 50 states, and from every walk of life. He is available for media interviews and appearances.
Bonus Track for Survive Her Affair
Date: August 2014, Title: Survive Her Affair
Frank Kermit makes his 1st appearance. Kevin Jackson author and founder of Survive Her Affair, interviews Frank Kermit as part of a series of audio bonus to the purchase of his book. This is a 10 minute preview of the first interview for you to listen to, and get an idea of how men react to being cheated on by their wives.
Frank Kermit makes his 1st appearance. Kevin Jackson author and founder of Survive Her Affair, interviews Frank Kermit as part of a series of audio bonus to the purchase of his book. This is a 10 minute preview of the first interview for you to listen to, and get an idea of how men react to being cheated on by their wives.
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Lucia is a Dating and Relationship Expert whose intent is to entertain, educate and enlighten. Known throughout major media as a "Cougar Expert", Lucia defends and coaches older women who are dating and in relationships with younger men. In addition to her Cougar expertise she also produces an internet podcast radio show, writes a weekly column, has authored a book and has appeared regularly on multiple talk shows including The Tyra Banks Show and The Dr. Phil Show. To learn more about Lucia please visit http://www.theartoflove.net/.
The Goodbye Show
Date: February 10, 2013, Title: The Art of Love Podcast with Lucia
Frank Kermit makes his 6th and final appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. This marks the last episode of this podcast as Lucia hosts her Good Bye Show. Frank Kermit, the guest holding the record for most appearances is interviewed for a brief good bye interview.
Frank Kermit makes his 6th and final appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. This marks the last episode of this podcast as Lucia hosts her Good Bye Show. Frank Kermit, the guest holding the record for most appearances is interviewed for a brief good bye interview.
Answering The "Should I have an Affair with Younger Man?" Question
Date: March 18, 2012, Title: The Art of Love Podcast with Lucia
Frank Kermit makes his 5th appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Lucia receives an email from a woman who has been married for 20+years but is sexual unsatisfied and is thinking about having an affair with a much younger man renting their basement. Lucia posted this question on Facebook, and Frank responded in a way that Lucia invited Frank to come on air for the second half of her show.
Frank Kermit makes his 5th appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Lucia receives an email from a woman who has been married for 20+years but is sexual unsatisfied and is thinking about having an affair with a much younger man renting their basement. Lucia posted this question on Facebook, and Frank responded in a way that Lucia invited Frank to come on air for the second half of her show.
Date: June 6, 2011 Title: The Art of Love Podcast with Lucia
Frank Kermit makes his 4th appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk about an article that Lucia wrote regarding nice guys and why women like jerks. the article went viral and to help address a number of the responses from male readers, Frank and Lucia will dissect the article to figure out what the controversy is all about.
Frank Kermit makes his 4th appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk about an article that Lucia wrote regarding nice guys and why women like jerks. the article went viral and to help address a number of the responses from male readers, Frank and Lucia will dissect the article to figure out what the controversy is all about.
Date: September 19, 2010, Title: The Art of Love Podcast with Lucia
Frank Kermit makes his 3rd appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk the Making Monogamy Work. Who does monogamy hurt more - men or women? What are the rules of monogamy? Is there a difference between monogamy and commitment?
Frank Kermit makes his 3rd appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk the Making Monogamy Work. Who does monogamy hurt more - men or women? What are the rules of monogamy? Is there a difference between monogamy and commitment?
Date: July 25, 2010, Title: The Art of Love Podcast with Lucia
Frank Kermit makes his 2nd appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk the Emotional Needs of Women and Frank's book The Emotional Needs Analysis Workbook volume 1. If a woman doesn't want to have sex with a man, it's because he's not satisfying one or more of her emotional needs. Find out what they are in this truly enlightening interview with Frank Kermit, relationship coach and author of, "The Emotional Needs Analysis Workbook".
Frank Kermit makes his 2nd appearance on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk the Emotional Needs of Women and Frank's book The Emotional Needs Analysis Workbook volume 1. If a woman doesn't want to have sex with a man, it's because he's not satisfying one or more of her emotional needs. Find out what they are in this truly enlightening interview with Frank Kermit, relationship coach and author of, "The Emotional Needs Analysis Workbook".
Date: June 6, 2010, Title: The Art of Love Podcast with Lucia
Frank Kermit is a guest on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk the Emotional Needs of Men and Frank's book The Emotional Needs OF MEN Analysis Workbook.
Frank Kermit is a guest on The Art of Love Podcast, hosted by Lucia. On this show, Frank and Lucia talk the Emotional Needs of Men and Frank's book The Emotional Needs OF MEN Analysis Workbook.
Frank Interviews Lucia
Episode #1010, Original Air Date: July 2010
Lucia is a Dating and Relationship Expert whose intent is to entertain, educate and enlighten. Known throughout major media as a "Cougar Expert", Lucia defends and coaches older women who are dating and in relationships with younger men. In addition to her Cougar expertise she also produces an internet podcast radio show, writes a weekly column, has authored a book and has appeared regularly on multiple talk shows including The Tyra Banks Show and The Dr. Phil Show
Lucia is a Dating and Relationship Expert whose intent is to entertain, educate and enlighten. Known throughout major media as a "Cougar Expert", Lucia defends and coaches older women who are dating and in relationships with younger men. In addition to her Cougar expertise she also produces an internet podcast radio show, writes a weekly column, has authored a book and has appeared regularly on multiple talk shows including The Tyra Banks Show and The Dr. Phil Show
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Date: November 30th, 2010, Title: TDC Radio Show
Frank Kermit is the first ever guest on TDC Radio interview series. This series is hosted by Evan D. Frank and Evan D. of OnlineSeductionSecrets.com talk about Inner Game.
Frank Kermit is the first ever guest on TDC Radio interview series. This series is hosted by Evan D. Frank and Evan D. of OnlineSeductionSecrets.com talk about Inner Game.
