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Weddings are something that most of us dream about throughout our lives. Meaning that when our big day comes around, we want to ensure that it’s perfect in every way. While a lot of the time we focus on the reception, it’s also important to take the time to ensure that your wedding ceremony is perfectly planned out. Otherwise, it may not end up being what you’ve always dreamed it would be.
The good news is that ensuring that your wedding ceremony goes without a hitch isn’t too difficult to do. It’s just a case of making sure that you do adequate planning for it and know what you would like it to be like. Ask yourself what type of ceremony have you always dreamed of? A quick one or something longer and more romantic - it’s your big day, so you need to make sure it’s what you want it to be.
To help you ensure that your wedding ceremony is exactly as you have always imagined it would be, below are a few ideas and suggestions. Take these on board and you can make sure that your big day is memorable for all the right reasons.
Double check your invitations
The good news is that ensuring that your wedding ceremony goes without a hitch isn’t too difficult to do. It’s just a case of making sure that you do adequate planning for it and know what you would like it to be like. Ask yourself what type of ceremony have you always dreamed of? A quick one or something longer and more romantic - it’s your big day, so you need to make sure it’s what you want it to be.
To help you ensure that your wedding ceremony is exactly as you have always imagined it would be, below are a few ideas and suggestions. Take these on board and you can make sure that your big day is memorable for all the right reasons.
Double check your invitations
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Before sending out your wedding invitations, make sure to double check them. The last thing you want is for a printing error to cause problems, such as the time or postcode being wrong, for instance. So take the time to check over your invitations before sending them out, to ensure that your guests have all the right details. This is important as without the right information, some of your most important guests may end up getting lost or not turning up at all.
Have a schedule in place
For everyone in the wedding party, put together a schedule. That way everyone will know what they need to be doing and when. Having a plan written out will help to ensure that everyone arrives at the church on time and does what they’re meant to do. A few days before the wedding, email out the schedule for the day of your wedding to everyone in the wedding party. That way they can make sure that everyone knows what they’re meant to be doing and when. This will help to calm your wedding day nerves and ensure that everything goes to plan.
Get your orders of service sorted
Have a schedule in place
For everyone in the wedding party, put together a schedule. That way everyone will know what they need to be doing and when. Having a plan written out will help to ensure that everyone arrives at the church on time and does what they’re meant to do. A few days before the wedding, email out the schedule for the day of your wedding to everyone in the wedding party. That way they can make sure that everyone knows what they’re meant to be doing and when. This will help to calm your wedding day nerves and ensure that everything goes to plan.
Get your orders of service sorted
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Whatever you do, don’t forget about your orders of service. If you want to make sure that your ceremony goes to plan, it’s important to give each guest an order of service. That way, everyone knows what to expect from your nuptials. If you’re yet to get your wedding ceremony programs sorted, get in touch with a specialist order of service printing company. The last thing you want is for your orders of service not to have arrived by your wedding date, so make sure to get them sorted in advance.
Have a tick list of what needs to be done on the day
So that on the morning of your wedding, you’re not stressing about everything that needs to be done, create a tick list. So that you have a simple list of the tasks that need to be completed to hand. You can then give this list to your head bridesmaid, who can make sure that everything on it is completed. This should contain things like ensuring everyone gets their buttonholes and making sure that all the ushers are at the church early. Just the little things that otherwise, could end up being forgotten about.
Don’t forget to call to confirm
Have a tick list of what needs to be done on the day
So that on the morning of your wedding, you’re not stressing about everything that needs to be done, create a tick list. So that you have a simple list of the tasks that need to be completed to hand. You can then give this list to your head bridesmaid, who can make sure that everything on it is completed. This should contain things like ensuring everyone gets their buttonholes and making sure that all the ushers are at the church early. Just the little things that otherwise, could end up being forgotten about.
Don’t forget to call to confirm
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Last but not least, a few days before your wedding, call your service providers to confirm your booking. For instance, if you’ve hired a car to take you to the venue, call the company a few days before to confirm. That way you can double check that the vehicles you’ve hired will all arrive at the right times and places. Or say, for example, you’ve paid to have flower displays put together for the church. Call the florist to confirm what time they’ll be delivered, so that you can ensure someone is there. This will give you peace of mind and will help to ensure that your day goes as smoothly as possible.
Planning a wedding is always going to be stressful, as there’s so much that needs to be sorted. To ensure that your ceremony goes without a hitch, take note of tips and suggestions above, and implement them.
Planning a wedding is always going to be stressful, as there’s so much that needs to be sorted. To ensure that your ceremony goes without a hitch, take note of tips and suggestions above, and implement them.
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Steve Piccus Interview
On two separate occasions, Frank Kermit got to interview Steve P.
Steve P is the creator of White Tiger Tantra, a sensual enhancement system that can help take any women to her next level of releasing the flood gates of ecstasy. Many women who thought they were anorgasmic* were able to have the life changing experience of achieving full body, multiple and sustained orgasms.
*Anorgasmia is a type of sexual dysfunction in which a person cannot achieve orgasm despite adequate stimulation. Anorgasmia can often cause sexual frustration.
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Frank Interviews Steve P (Part 1)
April 2009
Steve P UNCENSORED. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about his upbringing, losing his virginity, his polyamorous lifestyle over the years, his current hermetic circle of lovers, the seduction community past and present, his White Tiger Tantra squirting instructional DVDs, what to do if a woman has a strong emotional reaction during an orgasmic squirting experience, and more.This interview is a no holds barred account of Steve P by Steve P himself! Any offensive dialogue was neither edited nor censored. Steve P was mentioned as a key figurehead in "The Game", a book by Neil Strauss and now get up close and personal details from the man himself.
April 2009
Steve P UNCENSORED. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about his upbringing, losing his virginity, his polyamorous lifestyle over the years, his current hermetic circle of lovers, the seduction community past and present, his White Tiger Tantra squirting instructional DVDs, what to do if a woman has a strong emotional reaction during an orgasmic squirting experience, and more.This interview is a no holds barred account of Steve P by Steve P himself! Any offensive dialogue was neither edited nor censored. Steve P was mentioned as a key figurehead in "The Game", a book by Neil Strauss and now get up close and personal details from the man himself.
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Frank Interviews Steve P (Part 2)
February 2009
Steve P UNCENSORED II. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about the Seduction Community. In this interview we cover the history of the founding of the seduction community, building deeper levels of rapport and communication, the difference between openly dating multiple women vs cheating, how to spot the girls in the clubs who are interested in being picked up and where to go to find them, goal setting: pick up vs long term relationships, the importance of finding and choosing a mentor, respecting past mentors, emulate vs imitate, how to be a good student, the difference between women who are Bi-curious and Bi-sexual, Female Orgasm and the power to give her full body orgasm, protecting a woman's reputation and privacy, alpha males, blocking and going for someone's else girl, The Instant Guru Scams and seduction-fly-by-night companies, managing a seduction lairs and re-establishing seduction brotherhood, spotting givers and takers, along with brief stories involving Hypnotica, Zan, and Johnny Soporno.
February 2009
Steve P UNCENSORED II. Frank Kermit interviews Steve P about the Seduction Community. In this interview we cover the history of the founding of the seduction community, building deeper levels of rapport and communication, the difference between openly dating multiple women vs cheating, how to spot the girls in the clubs who are interested in being picked up and where to go to find them, goal setting: pick up vs long term relationships, the importance of finding and choosing a mentor, respecting past mentors, emulate vs imitate, how to be a good student, the difference between women who are Bi-curious and Bi-sexual, Female Orgasm and the power to give her full body orgasm, protecting a woman's reputation and privacy, alpha males, blocking and going for someone's else girl, The Instant Guru Scams and seduction-fly-by-night companies, managing a seduction lairs and re-establishing seduction brotherhood, spotting givers and takers, along with brief stories involving Hypnotica, Zan, and Johnny Soporno.
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After a while in a happy relationship, it’s easy to start thinking about the future. However, marriage is such a big commitment that you need to ensure you are both ready. It can put huge pressure on your relationship, and your marriage will crumble if you aren’t both wanting the same things. Here are some signs that your relationship is ready for the next step, and it's time to pop the question.
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You have lived together for a while
One of the first major steps you and your partner would have likely made in your relationship is moving in together. After all, more couples than ever are living together first before tying the knot. It helps couples to find out more about each other and how they act under difficult circumstances. Research has found that couples are less likely to divorce if they live together for a period before getting hitched. Therefore, if you have lived together for a while and are still happy together, it could be time to get married.
One of the first major steps you and your partner would have likely made in your relationship is moving in together. After all, more couples than ever are living together first before tying the knot. It helps couples to find out more about each other and how they act under difficult circumstances. Research has found that couples are less likely to divorce if they live together for a period before getting hitched. Therefore, if you have lived together for a while and are still happy together, it could be time to get married.
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You both have similar future plans
Your relationship will never survive marriage if you don’t have similar future plans. If one of you wants to go traveling, while the other wants to settle down and have a family, it’s never going to work between you. Therefore, before going to buy a ring, you need to talk to her about the future. Discuss your five-year plan to see if you are both on the same page. That way, you can ensure you're both ready for the future before tying the knot.
You both are financially ready
It’s important that the two of you have enough money if you are going to get married. After all, weddings are an expensive time which can put a lot of pressure on your relationship. If you don’t have enough money, you are unlikely to have a day that you both will love. Also, a wedding can stop you from saving for other things like your own home or a big holiday which you both really want to do. Therefore, you need to both be prepared for this. On top of this, you need to have enough money to buy her a beautiful ring such as gemstone engagement rings. After all, as this feature reveals, you should spend three months of your salary on a ring! Therefore, make sure you are financially ready before planning to get hitched!
Your relationship will never survive marriage if you don’t have similar future plans. If one of you wants to go traveling, while the other wants to settle down and have a family, it’s never going to work between you. Therefore, before going to buy a ring, you need to talk to her about the future. Discuss your five-year plan to see if you are both on the same page. That way, you can ensure you're both ready for the future before tying the knot.
You both are financially ready
It’s important that the two of you have enough money if you are going to get married. After all, weddings are an expensive time which can put a lot of pressure on your relationship. If you don’t have enough money, you are unlikely to have a day that you both will love. Also, a wedding can stop you from saving for other things like your own home or a big holiday which you both really want to do. Therefore, you need to both be prepared for this. On top of this, you need to have enough money to buy her a beautiful ring such as gemstone engagement rings. After all, as this feature reveals, you should spend three months of your salary on a ring! Therefore, make sure you are financially ready before planning to get hitched!
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You are both truly happy together
No relationship is perfect. You are bound to have a row every so often as the odd argument is part of a healthy relationship. But if you are genuinely happy together and love being around each other, then it could be a sign you should get hitched. Also, you should ensure you want to spend the rest of your life with her. If you can’t imagine not being with another girl, then you are not in the right headspace to get married.
No relationship is perfect. You are bound to have a row every so often as the odd argument is part of a healthy relationship. But if you are genuinely happy together and love being around each other, then it could be a sign you should get hitched. Also, you should ensure you want to spend the rest of your life with her. If you can’t imagine not being with another girl, then you are not in the right headspace to get married.
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There is no perfect age to get married to your other half. But you need to be both ready on a maturity level to get hitched. After all, it’s a huge commitment that you both need to be sure you want to take. Whatever you do, don’t just propose because she wants a big wedding!
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Never Force Your Worldview on Others
Don't Force Your Worldview
by Frank Kermit
Each of us views the world a certain way. It encapsulates what we believe to be right, and wrong. The worldview of each individual can change over time as our life experiences teach us about the world, teach us about the people we interact with, and teach us about ourselves.
In dating, it is important to find someone who shares your worldview. This can be very challenging if you have never taken the time to figure out what your worldview is, and more importantly, if you have never actually challenged any worldviews you had because they are the views you were brought up with.
For example, if you grew up in an environment that values sexual abstinence before marriage and took on those beliefs as part of your worldview as a child, they may not have been beliefs that you ever challenged. Then one day, as an adult, you enter the world of dating and find that not everyone you wanted to date shares in your belief systems.
For the first time, you may question if those beliefs are in your best interest. You may start to weigh the positives and negatives surrounding waiting until wedlock. You may even start to question other beliefs tied into your upbringing including whether getting legally married is even necessary in order to live together and raise children, which are separate beliefs than those about whether or not to have sex.
In the end, you may decide to abandon all your previous beliefs. Or you may decide to enter a period of experimentation where you explore your own boundaries to see what works for you. It is also possible, that after careful consideration and challenging your beliefs that you decide that even if you did not seek out those beliefs that were thrust upon you as a child, you do in fact find they reflect your values and intend to stick to them because they are in fact in your best interest.
In fact, people who challenge their belief systems (their worldview) tend to have a stronger faith in themselves and their beliefs once they resolve their own doubts about it (a challenge to a belief system may represent a doubt in the belief system).
As a dating coach, I am less concerned about the specifics of your worldview — if it already works for you — and more concerned with 1) do you know what your worldview is? 2) Can you articulate it enough to communicate exactly what you mean? and 3) Are you aware of why you have this worldview?
If the only reason you choose a vegetarian lifestyle is because all of your friends are vegetarians, then your “why” reflects your actual values (the value of approval and acceptance of your peer group, and not necessarily a value of the benefits of a vegetarian diet).
With all that said, the point of this article is that when you date someone and it turns out that your worldview and the worldview of the other person are very different, it is important to remember that it is good to communicate your worldview to give the other person an understanding of it, and it is also good to be open to hearing and trying to understand the worldview of the other person. You do not have to agree with the opposing worldview, you just have to be open to understanding it.
The mistake some singles make, is trying to convert the worldview of the person they are dating, instead of either accepting the difference, or simply breaking up with the person and seeking out someone with a similar worldview.
If your worldview encompasses a lifestyle focused on a career and personal enjoyment instead of having children and raising a family, well that is OK. If your worldview requires you to have children and raising a family at the expense of career advancement and some personal enjoyment, well that is OK too.
One worldview life is not necessarily better than the other. The key is to find someone to date that already shares a similar worldview to your own, and not try to force, trick, shame or guilt a person into living your worldview.
Be respectful out there.
Frank Kermit
by Frank Kermit
Each of us views the world a certain way. It encapsulates what we believe to be right, and wrong. The worldview of each individual can change over time as our life experiences teach us about the world, teach us about the people we interact with, and teach us about ourselves.
In dating, it is important to find someone who shares your worldview. This can be very challenging if you have never taken the time to figure out what your worldview is, and more importantly, if you have never actually challenged any worldviews you had because they are the views you were brought up with.
For example, if you grew up in an environment that values sexual abstinence before marriage and took on those beliefs as part of your worldview as a child, they may not have been beliefs that you ever challenged. Then one day, as an adult, you enter the world of dating and find that not everyone you wanted to date shares in your belief systems.
For the first time, you may question if those beliefs are in your best interest. You may start to weigh the positives and negatives surrounding waiting until wedlock. You may even start to question other beliefs tied into your upbringing including whether getting legally married is even necessary in order to live together and raise children, which are separate beliefs than those about whether or not to have sex.
In the end, you may decide to abandon all your previous beliefs. Or you may decide to enter a period of experimentation where you explore your own boundaries to see what works for you. It is also possible, that after careful consideration and challenging your beliefs that you decide that even if you did not seek out those beliefs that were thrust upon you as a child, you do in fact find they reflect your values and intend to stick to them because they are in fact in your best interest.
In fact, people who challenge their belief systems (their worldview) tend to have a stronger faith in themselves and their beliefs once they resolve their own doubts about it (a challenge to a belief system may represent a doubt in the belief system).
As a dating coach, I am less concerned about the specifics of your worldview — if it already works for you — and more concerned with 1) do you know what your worldview is? 2) Can you articulate it enough to communicate exactly what you mean? and 3) Are you aware of why you have this worldview?
If the only reason you choose a vegetarian lifestyle is because all of your friends are vegetarians, then your “why” reflects your actual values (the value of approval and acceptance of your peer group, and not necessarily a value of the benefits of a vegetarian diet).
With all that said, the point of this article is that when you date someone and it turns out that your worldview and the worldview of the other person are very different, it is important to remember that it is good to communicate your worldview to give the other person an understanding of it, and it is also good to be open to hearing and trying to understand the worldview of the other person. You do not have to agree with the opposing worldview, you just have to be open to understanding it.
The mistake some singles make, is trying to convert the worldview of the person they are dating, instead of either accepting the difference, or simply breaking up with the person and seeking out someone with a similar worldview.
If your worldview encompasses a lifestyle focused on a career and personal enjoyment instead of having children and raising a family, well that is OK. If your worldview requires you to have children and raising a family at the expense of career advancement and some personal enjoyment, well that is OK too.
One worldview life is not necessarily better than the other. The key is to find someone to date that already shares a similar worldview to your own, and not try to force, trick, shame or guilt a person into living your worldview.
Be respectful out there.
Frank Kermit
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you know you are a parent when...
You Know You're a Parent When...
After 2 years of bathing
your child is suddenly afraid of water
and you have to figure out
how to give them a bath
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Wedding Vows are to be taken seriously
The Bad Times
by Frank Kermit
Updated on March 2, 2018
The Bad Times is when your commitment to marriage
matters the most.
Anyone can keep themselves
in check to keep a promise
when things are great.
You make the decision to be married
with someone
to remind you of why you made that decision
when times are bad.
And over the course
of a long term relationship
things WILL get bad.
Even the best relationships
have periods where things are less than ideal
and those periods
could last from days to weeks, months, and even years.
Then again,
what are 4-5 rough years
compared to what a 40 year relationship is suppose to mean?
In Good Times, and in Bad,
In Sickness and in Health
is not just a saying...it is a warning....
It is letting you know what you are signing up for.
Can you handle the expectations of marriage
that you and your partner agree too
when things go bad?
If you aren't sure,
then you have some homework to do.
If you are a couple that wants to get more serious but are worried you will end up divorced, or an individual trying to figure out if you have found the right person, consider signing up for my 12-hour pre-marriage coaching program.
by Frank Kermit
Updated on March 2, 2018
The Bad Times is when your commitment to marriage
matters the most.
Anyone can keep themselves
in check to keep a promise
when things are great.
You make the decision to be married
with someone
to remind you of why you made that decision
when times are bad.
And over the course
of a long term relationship
things WILL get bad.
Even the best relationships
have periods where things are less than ideal
and those periods
could last from days to weeks, months, and even years.
Then again,
what are 4-5 rough years
compared to what a 40 year relationship is suppose to mean?
In Good Times, and in Bad,
In Sickness and in Health
is not just a saying...it is a warning....
It is letting you know what you are signing up for.
Can you handle the expectations of marriage
that you and your partner agree too
when things go bad?
If you aren't sure,
then you have some homework to do.
If you are a couple that wants to get more serious but are worried you will end up divorced, or an individual trying to figure out if you have found the right person, consider signing up for my 12-hour pre-marriage coaching program.
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In memory of Hagan
Remembering Hagan
by David Black
Today I am absolutely dejected as I unfortunately had to say goodbye to the best friend I've ever had in my entire life.
We had the best 13 years together that any dog and human could ask for, and I wouldn't trade one day of the time we got to spend together. You were intelligent, cunning, brave, loyal. You never needed a leash, you could say human words. You even had a sense of humour, which may sound unbelievable but anyone who knew you knows how smart, present and eerily coherent you always were.
I will miss you forever and I will never ever forget you!
This really stings, and I'm trying to just keep reminding myself you are in a better place and no longer suffering. You were my entire world and my heart I literally loved you and thought about you as much as any people in my life.
You are and always were people too as far as I'm concerned, and I will remember you and miss you and cherish you and the time we spent together as best friends forever.
I hope your soul is somewhere, running with people who love you and take care of you and your eating all the pita bread, cheese and pizza you could ever want.
Rest in peace Hagan, I'll always love you and you'll always be my Hoogy and my number 1 best buddy.
by David Black
Today I am absolutely dejected as I unfortunately had to say goodbye to the best friend I've ever had in my entire life.
We had the best 13 years together that any dog and human could ask for, and I wouldn't trade one day of the time we got to spend together. You were intelligent, cunning, brave, loyal. You never needed a leash, you could say human words. You even had a sense of humour, which may sound unbelievable but anyone who knew you knows how smart, present and eerily coherent you always were.
I will miss you forever and I will never ever forget you!
This really stings, and I'm trying to just keep reminding myself you are in a better place and no longer suffering. You were my entire world and my heart I literally loved you and thought about you as much as any people in my life.
You are and always were people too as far as I'm concerned, and I will remember you and miss you and cherish you and the time we spent together as best friends forever.
I hope your soul is somewhere, running with people who love you and take care of you and your eating all the pita bread, cheese and pizza you could ever want.
Rest in peace Hagan, I'll always love you and you'll always be my Hoogy and my number 1 best buddy.
I Love My Dog Hagan
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In memory of Merv Williams
Remembering Merv Williams
by Sheldon Eric Fried
I am totally shocked to hear the news about the passing of my friend as well as my former work colleague Merv Williams. I worked with him many years at CJAD, Mix (now Virgin) 96 & CHOM. He had an extraordinary sense of humour & shared many laughs. Merv was also extremely talented and I remembered he would work so many hours at a time.
He loved his work at the radio stations and he would always go to bat for the people who knew him and worked with him. Merv is now on stage up above looking at us from heaven and telling us stories that will make us smile and laugh. You will be missed.
My deepest sympathies to his family, friends, & loved ones. My heart & thoughts shall be with all of you during this very difficult and painful time.
(The funeral) was a very emotional day for many people like myself to pay tribute to a former work colleague, a person with a great sense of humor - the late Shannon Mervyn Williams whose life had been taken away way too early as we gathered all together and said goodbye to him one last time.
There were many people who had spoken about Merv; some had amusing stories, while others had sad ones. The turnout was incredible as the hall was filled to capacity of people - many from CJAD, Virgin 96, & CHOM.
It was a tribute to a wonderful Human being. It was nice to catch up with one another however, hopefully in the future, will be under better occasions. There were many stories told and shared by all of us if Shannon. I was proud to work with a dedicated, humorous, and down to earth individual who never had a bad word to say about anyone.
To everyone in Shannon Mervyn Williams' family, thank you for allowing us to get to know him and having the opportunity to work with him.
Thank you also for allowing all of us to all come together and pay tribute one last time in honour of the late Shannon Mervyn Williams - forever in our hearts and thoughts. R. I. P!
Rest In Peace my good friend!
by Sheldon Eric Fried
I am totally shocked to hear the news about the passing of my friend as well as my former work colleague Merv Williams. I worked with him many years at CJAD, Mix (now Virgin) 96 & CHOM. He had an extraordinary sense of humour & shared many laughs. Merv was also extremely talented and I remembered he would work so many hours at a time.
He loved his work at the radio stations and he would always go to bat for the people who knew him and worked with him. Merv is now on stage up above looking at us from heaven and telling us stories that will make us smile and laugh. You will be missed.
My deepest sympathies to his family, friends, & loved ones. My heart & thoughts shall be with all of you during this very difficult and painful time.
(The funeral) was a very emotional day for many people like myself to pay tribute to a former work colleague, a person with a great sense of humor - the late Shannon Mervyn Williams whose life had been taken away way too early as we gathered all together and said goodbye to him one last time.
There were many people who had spoken about Merv; some had amusing stories, while others had sad ones. The turnout was incredible as the hall was filled to capacity of people - many from CJAD, Virgin 96, & CHOM.
It was a tribute to a wonderful Human being. It was nice to catch up with one another however, hopefully in the future, will be under better occasions. There were many stories told and shared by all of us if Shannon. I was proud to work with a dedicated, humorous, and down to earth individual who never had a bad word to say about anyone.
To everyone in Shannon Mervyn Williams' family, thank you for allowing us to get to know him and having the opportunity to work with him.
Thank you also for allowing all of us to all come together and pay tribute one last time in honour of the late Shannon Mervyn Williams - forever in our hearts and thoughts. R. I. P!
Rest In Peace my good friend!
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Seek a life partner that has a compatible life plan to yours
Planning the rest of your life together
by Frank Kermit
When I sit down with a couple for Pre Marital Coaching,
which is working with a couple who are getting ready
to move to the next step in their relationship,
one of the questions I always ask them is
what do they have planned for the rest of their lives together?
Whether you are
moving in together
buying property together
having a child together
getting married
getting engaged
one of the key elements towards success
is having a life plan
and then checking to make sure
that your individual life plans
are actually compatible.
I have seen couples, who were very much in love
but had very incompatible life plans.
Where one person wanted 2 children in the next 5 years
and the other did not want children at all.
Where one person wanted to eventually move to Japan
and the other person wanted to move to Brazil
Where one person wanted to retire together to Florida
and the other person refused ever stop working
Where one person needed to spend the next 4 years
traveling to a different continent for a unique and specific
graduate education in a niche industry
and the other person was running out of time
to start a family
So, if you want to have a successful marriage
that will last long term
and withstand the status of separation and divorce
get your life plan in order.
Know what you need to know for your life plan
and find a partner that has a life plan that is compatible with yours.
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Ex-Lovers and Wedding Guest List
by Frank Kermit, Updated on March 2, 2018
During my couples coaching sessions,
one of the topics of discussion that tends to come up
is the wedding list of guests.
One of the questions I ask is:
Have either one of you had an intimate relationship with any guests,
that your partner (the one who is marrying you)
does not know about?
I think the majority of couples would be surprised by just
how often it turns out that some of the wedding guests
turn out to be secret past lovers of either member of the couple
getting married, that the other partner did not know.
What turns out to be worse, is when that secret lover,
actually made it to the actual wedding party
(either a bridesmaid, or an usher/groomsman)
Sometimes, having someone who has a sexual past
with a wedding partner attend your wedding as a guest
can be taken as an insult to the other wedding partner.
Usually, the invitation of a past lover
to a wedding can be handled,
but it is the secretive nature of the information
that causes the bigger issue.
The other partner starts to wonder
what other information has not been volunteered
that will continued to be "hidden" until the correct
direction question is asked.
That is no way to start a wedding guest list.
As a general rule, ex-lovers and weddings do not mix.
And in the event one of your secret ex-lovers
has been invited to your wedding
make sure you TELL YOUR PARTNER
The worst thing that can happen,
is that the information is reveal
at the wedding, when everyone is celebrating
and secrets come out unintentionally.
It is a time people become emotionally,
and sometimes intoxicated,
which always spells trouble for secret-keeping.
I have seen this happen from direct experience
and those of my client base.
Plan for your wedding to be spectacular, not a spectacle.
If you are a couple that wants to get more serious but are worried you will end up divorced, or an individual trying to figure out if you have found the right person, consider signing up for my 12-hour pre-marriage coaching program.
by Frank Kermit, Updated on March 2, 2018
During my couples coaching sessions,
one of the topics of discussion that tends to come up
is the wedding list of guests.
One of the questions I ask is:
Have either one of you had an intimate relationship with any guests,
that your partner (the one who is marrying you)
does not know about?
I think the majority of couples would be surprised by just
how often it turns out that some of the wedding guests
turn out to be secret past lovers of either member of the couple
getting married, that the other partner did not know.
What turns out to be worse, is when that secret lover,
actually made it to the actual wedding party
(either a bridesmaid, or an usher/groomsman)
Sometimes, having someone who has a sexual past
with a wedding partner attend your wedding as a guest
can be taken as an insult to the other wedding partner.
Usually, the invitation of a past lover
to a wedding can be handled,
but it is the secretive nature of the information
that causes the bigger issue.
The other partner starts to wonder
what other information has not been volunteered
that will continued to be "hidden" until the correct
direction question is asked.
That is no way to start a wedding guest list.
As a general rule, ex-lovers and weddings do not mix.
And in the event one of your secret ex-lovers
has been invited to your wedding
make sure you TELL YOUR PARTNER
The worst thing that can happen,
is that the information is reveal
at the wedding, when everyone is celebrating
and secrets come out unintentionally.
It is a time people become emotionally,
and sometimes intoxicated,
which always spells trouble for secret-keeping.
I have seen this happen from direct experience
and those of my client base.
Plan for your wedding to be spectacular, not a spectacle.
If you are a couple that wants to get more serious but are worried you will end up divorced, or an individual trying to figure out if you have found the right person, consider signing up for my 12-hour pre-marriage coaching program.
