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If you are lost in the world of wedding planning, this contributed post may help make it a little easier.

Planning a wedding can be very tough, if you’re in the middle of planning one, then I don’t need to tell you how hard it can be! There are so many different aspects and details that need to be thought about very carefully. Today, I want to help any wedding planners out there by giving you the main aspects of your wedding that you can’t afford to neglect. Nail these things, and your wedding will be a memorable success for everyone that attends.
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wedding vows

The Vows

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Ensuring that you get the vows right is so important for your wedding. Nobody wants to deal with the awkwardness of a poorly prepared set of vows. If the two of you aren’t comfortable writing your own vows, then don’t force it! This should be THE moment of your wedding, that special part where dry eyes become wet. Just make sure that you know your vows, and you’re both comfortable saying them. This avoids any awkward moments at the altar.


The Rings
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 Your rings are and should be an important part of your day - after all, in marriage, the rings signify your dedication to each other! Taking the time to choose the right colour, and make sure you pick a quality diamond like Sofia Lior Diamonds offer. Go big or go home we say - you’re only getting married once!
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The Groomsmen/Bridesmaids

Choosing the groomsmen and bridesmaids is a tough task that needs lots of attention. You need to ensure you make the right picks and don’t offend anyone. Don’t choose a handful of your core friend group to be your groomsmen or bridesmaids and leave out a couple of others. Either they’re all in, or none of them are in. Or, you can devise a fair way to decide between them all. Normally, it’s a good idea to choose family as these people because it means none of your friends will be upset.
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beach wedding ideas

The Send Off

The send-off happens right at the end of the ceremony as you and your partner walk hand in hand back down the aisle waving and beaming at all your guests. It’s a huge moment. It’s the moment that remains etched in people’s minds and signals the beginning of your marriage and the start of party time at the reception. There are loads of wedding send off ideas out there, ranging from the boring - having people throw rice over you as you walk out to the classic wedding theme - to the more elaborate - glitter, pom poms, sequins, and even live doves being released into the air. The choice is yours, just make sure you give this aspect some extra thought.

The Reception

Naturally, your reception is just as important as your wedding ceremony. If anything, it might be more important that you get this right. It’s the part of your big day where everyone can have a real celebration and let their hair down. Make sure you pick a good location, have various food and drink options, and cater to anyone with dietary requirements. The aim here is just to make sure everyone has the best time possible and leaves with happy memories.

There you have it; the main aspects of your wedding that demand the most of your attention. Anything else I haven’t mentioned? Feel free to contribute some ideas of your own so we can all come together and help make wedding planning a whole lot easier!
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5 relationship resolutions are discussed in this contributed post.
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Many of us grow up with the notion that when we meet the right person, everything will fall into place. That life will be easy, and our relationship will be perfect. We have the unrealistic idea that the right relationship won’t take any effort, it will just work.

In reality, this is far from true. All relationships take time, effort, understanding and compromise to work. If you’ve spent 2017 focused on business or your own development and not given your relationships the time they need to grow and thrive, then it’s time to make some changes. Even if you feel like 2017 was a great year and your relationship is in a good place, you can always do more. So, let’s take a look at some relationship resolutions for 2018.
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third wheel meme

Give Them Time

When we’re working hard or busy looking after our children, it can be easy to neglect our partners. We just assume they’ll always be there and that if we live together, we’re seeing them plenty. Even if you go to sleep together every night, wake up together every morning and eat the odd meal around the same table, it might not be enough. Promise yourself that in 2018 you will give them more time. Quality time when you sit and talk, cook a meal together, or go for a date night. Where it’s just about you two and your relationship. Do this as often as you can.

Learn to Compromise

At the beginning of a relationship, when we’re keen to impress, we compromise a lot. We want them to think we’re the right person for them, so we let things go.  Then, as time goes by the art of compromise can be lost. Everytime something happens, try to remember how happy this person can make you. Is that worth losing over whatever you are fighting over, or would you be better off compromising or letting the small stuff go?

Put them First

Work, kids, social media, nights out, and hobbies are all things that we often put before our partners when we are in long-term relationships. Don’t. Sometimes say “no I’m not going to go to that event, I’m going to spend that time with you” let them see that you value them and your time together above all else.

Switch Off

One of the main problems with relationships today is that we’re all only ever giving real life half of our attention. We get home from work and spend the evening glued to a screen. Even when we’re out with our partners or families, we’re constantly checking our notifications. Make a rule that phones and tablets go away after a certain time, and don’t always take them out with you. Give your real life your full, undivided attention, and you may all enjoy it a lot more.

Try New Things

Don’t get stuck in a pattern. We all need a routine when it comes to working and the school run, but you can still try new things. Go to new places, play a new game, listen to new music, try a new meal, anything different is something shared together and gives you something to talk about.

If a relationship has come to an end this year, and you’re not happy about the decision, it doesn’t have to be the end. Make some changes and try to get your ex back, before it is too late.

Relationships are one thing in life that it’s worth looking after. Whatever state yours is in, make 2018 the year it soars.

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The Frank Kermit December Holidays Collection


The December Holidays Collection

by Frank Kermit



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Some wedding entertainment ideas are explored in this contributed post.
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What’s the best part of a wedding? Is it getting to make your vows in front of all your nearest and dearest? Or is it the wedding breakfast and all the delicious goodies you’ll get to drink throughout the day? We all have our own favorite part of weddings, but I’m sure that most of the guests will agree that their favorite part is the evening party. This is after all of the usual formalities and when everyone can let their hair down.

Want to throw an evening wedding celebration that your friends and family will remember for the rest of their lives? Here are some great ideas that can help you get the wedding party started!

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DJ And Disco

One of the usual options that you will find couples go with is a DJ and disco. After all, everyone loves a good old dance, and you will find that the best wedding DJ gets all of your guests up on their feet! A DJ will spin his records throughout the night and until the wee hours. If you want, you and your partner can let him or her know what type of music you prefer so that you can be sure that you will enjoy the music. Just make sure you add some classic wedding songs. After all, it’s not a wedding party if the DJ doesn’t play Lionel Richie!

Live Band

As well as DJs, live bands are a very popular choice for evening wedding entertainment. This is an especially popular choice for couples who really enjoy music and regularly go to gigs. There will be lots of great wedding bands in your local area, so it’s a good idea to take a look and see who you can get to play on your special day. Whether you prefer rock music or jazz, I’m sure you will be able to find someone that plays your kind of tunes!

Party Limo

There are now lots of firms, such as http://www.bergenlimo.com/fleet/new-jersey-nj/, that hire out large party limos for various celebrations. Why not incorporate these into your wedding’s evening celebrations? This is a really great idea if your wedding ceremony is going to be in a different venue to your evening party. It’s a super fun way to get all your guests from A to B!


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Karaoke

Do you have a few friends and relatives who love to sing? If so, then they will dive head first into a karaoke party! You can either hire a karaoke bar, such as one of the ones mentioned at http://www.refinery29.com/the-best-karaoke-bars-in-nyc, or you can rent a karaoke machine to take to your reception venue. Either way, I’m sure all of your guests will love showing off their vocal skills or lack thereof!

No matter which one of these you choose, you are sure to have a great wedding party!


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36 reasons you got ghosted after a great first date

36 Reasons Someone Ghosts You After a Great First Date

by Frank Kermit



You go out on a first date that goes incredibly well. There is great music, a proper mood, great talks, laughter, and physical contact including passionate kissing, and you maybe even had sex!

Things are going so well that based on the way you are connecting, you both make plans for a second date. Then the next day, the person contacts you and says that they are not interested anymore and did not feel any chemistry. Why would anyone go through the motions of an entire first date as if they are interested only to say in an impersonal communication the next day they did not feel any chemistry?

Actually, it could be a number of reasons. It really depends on the overall context. As a coach for dating and relationships, I have come across more than my fair share of reasons why people disappear (Ghost) after a great first date.

Here are some possibilities and reasons that come directly from my experience as a coach, working with people who have dumped someone after a
great first date.:


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When It is Because of You
(You did something that turned them off)

Each person has emotional needs. If you did not satisfy the emotional needs of the person you dated they will have no motivation to date you again. Maybe you seriously violated the person’s emotional needs. If you did not violate an emotional need, it is also possible that you simply did not address them and were neutral.  When someone tells you “no chemistry” it is possible you killed the chemistry yourself.



1. Something you said/did on the date turned the other person right off. The person could not react in the moment, (for example: During the date you made insulting jokes about a particular group of people and the person is related to someone of that group) so instead of acting in the moment and revealing private personal information, the person chose to act as if everything was OK to protect their privacy for the rest of the night to be safe.


2. You’re just a little too boring. The person sensed that you generally have a good heart, but they simply are not into you as much as you are into them. The person liked you a lot, but not as much as you liked them, so they decided it was best to cut you loose before you get more attached and got really hurt. The person might be trying to be ethical after all, but has chosen a less than great way to do it.

3. You love too much drama.  The person is more sedate and seeks a calmer companion, but everything about you screams drama-drama-drama, from the things you like to talk about, to how you handle common situations that came up on your date.  Maybe you acted too immature, like a child. The emotional range that comes with high doses of drama can in fact be a lot of fun in the short term, but can be very draining for others in the long term. After that first date was over the other person decided that you were too much for them.

4. You did not stand up for yourself. I hear this one quite a bit. Sometimes your date will test you to see if you would stand up for yourself, and when you didn’t, it was a turn off. Some people just do not want to date a mousy person. They seek out someone that isn’t afraid to be assertive, and are willing to speak their minds.  Ever had that gnawing feeling that you should have said something at some point on the date, but held back because you were trying to be too nice and too polite?  That might have been the moment you failed a test for assertiveness.






5. You came across like you were going to dump them. You gave the impression that you were not serious about seeing the other person again, so the other person decided to dump you first, before you had the chance to abandon them.  Did you make the person feel they were unique to you? Did you give the impression you were the type of person that could commit long term? If you did not do these two things, the other person has no evidence to take you seriously when you say you intend to see them again. Very few people are going to stick around for a second date with a person that comes across as wanting to be independent of them.

6. You came across as untrustworthy. If the person you dated felt you could not be honest with them out of a fear of conflict, or if you came across as someone that could not be honest with yourself, they simply will not be able to put faith into anything you say or do.  Trust is a key factor for any relationship.  Violating a person’s sense of trust will not get you a second date, even if they decided to have fun with you on the first date.

7. You don’t make people feel safe with you. Maybe the person looked you up on the Internet after the first date and the searches revealed lots of information about you from your professional work profiles, and your social media. With the mystery gone, (and perhaps finding out things about you and your worst moments and traits), it was a no-go from there. Maybe you are friends with someone that is an ex lover of theirs, or they do not like the social circles you keep. Maybe they just did not feel safe with you, either physically or they worry associating with you will hurt their reputation. Perhaps you publicly shared too many things that your date would rather keep private and they worried you are not a good secret keeper. The bottom line is that even after a great first date, if a person does not feel safe enough with you, there will be no second date.

8. You’re a lousy kisser and/or lover. I am sorry to say this, but just because you really enjoyed yourself on that first date, it is not a direct indication that your date enjoyed it too.  Even if your date had an orgasm, it may have less to do with your efforts than you might care to admit. This is not about just being sexually incompatible (see further down the list when that comes up). This is about you just not being any good.  Sexual skills are just like any other skills. You can develop a better skill set, if you are willing to learn, experiment, and are open to feedback.  However, unless you make it clear that you want feedback to help your date enjoy being with you, your date might assume that you are just going to be this lousy on an ongoing basis, and rather than tell you the truth, they would rather just avoid having to be physical with you again.





9. You come across too happy being single. You are not relationship minded enough.  You said that you wanted to see the other person again and you really meant it, and the person believes you meant it as well. However, the question becomes are you capable?  Not everyone knows how to act in a relationship.  This comes up a lot for people that have either never had a relationship, or people that have been single for so long that they have forgotten the nuances of how to take another person’s involvement into account. A person who acts too happy being single, might give the impression they would rather not be in a relationship.  If you expressed how much you rather enjoy doing things on your own that the other person would rather do as a couple, you aren’t going to convince anyone that you are seriously interested in a second date.

10. You would rather be with a different gender/sexual orientation. Believe it or not, just because you are willing to date someone of a certain gender/sexual orientation, it is not enough evidence you actually want to be dating a person of that gender/sexual orientation.  Sometimes the frustration that you feel towards the dating scene and specifically the gender/sexual orientation of your past dates, might come across that you would rather date someone that is the opposite of the gender/sexual orientation of the person you are currently dating.  If you are giving a vibe that you may not be fully comfortable in your own skin, or if your frustrations get misinterpreted as hate, or lack of attraction for the gender/sexual orientation of the person you are currently dating, it is unlikely that they will want to have a second date with you, even with the first date ending OK.

11. You are missing something they want. Some people do not want to bother with a second date if they do not see a definite future with you. If the other person is looking for someone to back them up for the long term, they will be looking for things like: stability, if you can support their lifestyle, and their social environment. Can you hang with their social groups, and at least equal or better their own current status. If they already have elements of a life plan in place and they do not see you fitting into their plans, a great first date, might also be the last date if they cannot envision a future with you being part of their life plan.

12. You are too needy.  Perhaps things were going really well until you went a little too far and gave the impression that you were just too needy. This means that the other person did not feel that you wanted them because of the commitment they had earned from you; they felt you were so desperate for any companionship that you wanted a second date because it is better than being alone. Sometimes a needy person comes across as way too compliant; lacking any personal boundaries who might one day lash back because they do not feel they are getting the same level back from the other person that they are putting in. The scariest thing about getting attached to a needy person is that a needy person can go to one extreme and get obsessive, or go to the other extreme where since they no longer feel needy for you, they can dump you unceremoniously. Why chance any of that with a second date?








When it is The Other Person
(You did nothing wrong)

In the next cluster of reasons we are going to look at reasons you were Ghosted that actually have nothing to do with you, but have everything to do with the other person.  In this section, it is clear that you did not do anything wrong, or incorrectly.  It is just a matter that the other person was the direct cause of you not getting a second date, and possibly involved in a situation that you may not have been aware of. So when someone tells you “no chemistry”, maybe there wasn’t any, or maybe there was, but it wasn’t enough.






13. The person was using you to pay for the meal and lavish date, or using you to get into a venue that you have access too. Once the person got what they wanted in exchange for a little compensation touching, they moved on to the next target.  You never actually had a chance for a second date, because dating you again was never the goal. The goal was to use you for the experience of a date.

14. The person is running scared. The person did not expect to like you so much and wasn’t ready for the potential connection that seemed to be developing, so they ran away from you using any excuse they could think of. (Run Forest Run!) Some people really have a fear of intimacy and you came across too good to be true. For example: Your date was a virgin (or very inexperienced) and did not know how to process intense emotions that comes after having a great first date. That person does not want to feel pressured into going on a second date, as they were not ready to experience the next level of intimacy that a second date may represent. (This is assuming that you did not have sex on that great first date.) The pressure that a virgin feels to perform sexually on subsequent dates can be more than enough to cancel any possibility of dating you in order to avoid that pressure. At the same time, they do not have to be in a position to admit to being an adult aged virgin (which can be stigmatizing for some).

15. The person is trying hard to date someone (i.e. you) who is not their type BUT isn't willing to push through the next level of a second date. You weren’t the type they were normally attracted to and they were looking to be open-minded on a first date, but could not fake it enough to make a second date happen. Sometimes people date as part of an experiment to try putting themselves out there in new situations to learn about who they are (self-actualization). This could involve dating someone they weren’t really attracted too in the first place.  Usually, this kind of self-actualization process requires the person to give people like you an honest chance with a series of dates before calling it quits, but not everyone has that level of resolve.

16. The person lied on the first date about something, and is worried they will get found out.  You got dumped before you even have the chance to dump them later on when you would have found out the truth. People who lie on a first date are not usually expecting to have a second date, or subsequent dates. It can happen that they realize they really like you, but they know that they have already ruined their long-term chances by lying early on. In most cases the person in question might be self-sabotaging with this kind of behavior pattern as part of a fear of intimacy, which helps keep them out of any potential serious relationships. A person that lies so much might have incredibly low self-esteem and figures that you will eventually end it when you get to know them, so they dump you first even though they actually want to date you. They feel it is better to dump you now instead of you abandoning them later, and justifying their low self-esteem.   







17. The person was a professional (sugar baby/sex worker) looking for you to pay money for companionship on an ongoing basis.  They discovered through the process of the date that you were either not wealthy enough or not willing to accept such an arrangement. Rather than try to change your mind or reveal their true intentions, they would rather focus on recruiting an easier client and cancelled any second date you tried to set up. This gave them the ease of not having to reveal their true intentions if they wanted to keep their economic interests a private matter.

18. The person was running a bet or taking part in a contest with some friends. Maybe it was who could they get to date them? Maybe it was how many first dates could they get, or how far they could get someone attached to them who wanted a second date? This one is cruel, but it does happen. You might have been a target for someone else’s participation in a contest or bet that had nothing to do with you. One such scam I came across in my coaching practice involved getting the “targets” into heated text messages after being dumped and insulted.  The texts would then be posted online as a means of ridicule. Very cruel indeed! If something like that ever happens to you, as much as you are being baited to write back hatefully, try as much as possible to walk away. The person you think you are cursing out might not even be the one writing to you.

19. The person wants to play a mind-game with you to see if you will chase them. Some people are legitimately interested in you, but the way they react to any attachment/attraction is to push that person away really hard to see if they are going to “prove” themself and chase them. Some people will have no interest in you at all, but they love the attention you may shower on them by pushing you away, and having you come back to chase them again. Some of these people could be suffering from a mental illness of some kind, while others are just malicious. Either way, if someone pushes you away that much, accept it and move on.

20. The person was a people pleaser. Fear of conflict makes some people act completely agreeable during the first date to the point of misleading you to think you actually stand a chance at a second date. They hide behind a polite façade to the point of aggressively going along in the moment with anything someone presents them with, to the point where they react with a backlash the next day with a rejection. It might be a good thing that you did not end up dating that person more than you did!





21. The person was cheating on an existing partner (or attempting to cheat) They decided against it and ended it before things got out of hand. In this vain of thought, if the person was actually trying to cheat and got caught (or almost caught), it would make sense to end it quickly before you sent a series of text messages that the cheaters partner may come across. When someone tells you “no-chemistry” most people will back off at that point, which is what the cheater counts on.

22-The person has a sexually transmitted infection (STI).  I have come across difference cases of this as a coach. Some people with an STI desire socializing, even limited physical touching, but cannot risk giving into the impulse to have sex, so the person cancels any potential future dates where sex could happen. Instead of wondering why someone broke your heart, you might actually consider being grateful that someone may have just spared your health without you knowing it. It is easier for an infected person to dump someone than to expose their health status to a relative stranger.  In other cases, a person with an STI rather than deal with being in a relationship may go out for anonymous sex without ever telling their lovers of their condition unless directly asked about it.  It is easier to simply disappear after a first date sexual encounter, than to go on subsequent dates where the person would have to reveal their status of their STI, which they would rather keep private.

23. The person is just not ready for something serious. It is very possible that the person really liked you and really thought about getting more serious with you, but then decided that you were too a good a distraction and did not want to be tempted. Some people need to be hyper focused on things like getting an education, establishing a career, or even raising kids, and are just looking to causally date and have fun.  However, they met you, and really liked you and even considered allowing themselves to break their own rules, which explains why the first date was so great. However, realizing that you really are the right person, but at the wrong time in their lives, it can be easier for some people to let you go completely instead of continuing to see you and be tempted with a strong distraction from their previous set goal plan. Others may or may not agree with this decision, but the issue is not whether it is agreeable; the matter is what it is.

24. The person is Immature. Very sad to say that at some point, it really can come down to a simple matter of a lack of maturity.  The inability to know what they want, getting swept away in the moment of the first date, then making the snap decision to recant and disassociate without the benefit of a more personalized goodbye. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with the person being too immature to take any accountability or responsibility for their own actions, or for leading you on.
 






When it is Neither of You

Lastly, in this next section are situations where it is not you, or the other person that is at the source of you not getting a second date, but some real possible situations that people find themselves in, or issues of compatibility that has nothing to do with how a person feels. Rather than discuss the real reasons, it is easier for people that do not know each other beyond a great first date, to simply cite “no chemistry”, so that they can end this particular stage with you, because it is just easier that way when life happens.





25. The person was hit with a crisis situation that required all of their focus and attention, and simply was not in a position to even entertain getting into a relationship much less date. A personal medical diagnosis, sickness of a family member, the death of a loved one, the loss of a job, and any other major sense of loss that a person would have to cope with. Tragedy can kill any feeling of chemistry that may have actually existed, and the person would rather set you free than to be honest and risk you wasting your time waiting for them. Tragedy changes people, and the person they become might not be a good dating partner for you in the future anyways.

26. The person could have been triggered by a past trauma and just cannot date you. It has nothing to do with you personally. It could be that you remind the person of someone that hurt them; or it could be the feeling of connection and chemistry that triggered them; and they associate good feelings with a core hurt. It is easier to dump you than to deal with past trauma.

27. The person was struggling and/or questioning their sexual orientation.  They decided to try to date someone like you to see what it would be like, to either prove, confirm, or disprove something. Sometimes you are just someone else’s experiment while questioning.

28. The person really liked you and intended to date you again, but felt their friends and or family would not approve of you so they dumped you. Family and friends can be very important factors in deciding whom a person continues to date. It is interesting to note that seeking the validation of friends and family approval is why some people will continue to end up perpetually single.



29. The person was seeing multiple people at the same time, and someone made the move before you did to earn a monogamous commitment. For this reason the person had to dump all the other people they were dating.  I have witnessed how dating another person can motivate an admirer to pursue someone.  It is a common enough occurrence that as soon as someone starts going on dates, others who worshipped from afar, or who were dating casually until now, suddenly feel compelled to make a move and secure the affections of their would-be lover. Sometimes people can date you just to make someone else jealous for exactly this reason.

30. The ex of the other person came back into the picture between your first and second date. It is easier to tell you that they felt no chemistry, instead of telling you the truth. With that said, if the communication is happening right in front of the newly returned partner/formerly ex, it would make sense for the person to completely downplay any chemistry that might have actually existed. There is nothing quite like seeing the person you like dating others to light a fire of motivation to aggressively pursue (whether out of jealousy, or a legitimate belief that they should be together). 

31. Off Limits. After a great first date, the person comes to identify you as an “Off-Limits” person.  This means that they came to realize that you were someone they never should have had a first date with, or they already had such a hesitation, gave into temptation, but afterwards came to their senses not to pursue you any further. Perhaps you are a co-worker and they do not want to complicate anything by putting their careers in jeopardy if things go really bad. Perhaps they realize that they were romantically involved in the past with one of your friends or a family member (or vice-versa), and would rather follow a rule of non-fraternization. Putting someone in the “Off Limits” category is about avoiding dating someone who, for reasons that have nothing to do how you feel about the person, could complicate other areas of their life.

32. Different stages in life. After a great first date the person goes home and recognizes that you are both at very different stages in life. For example: One of you wants the lifestyle that comes with retirement, while the other to seeks a lifestyle that is just starting out with a family or new career.  A great first date can reveal the awesome potential you may have as a couple, but if your lifestyles are incompatible because of the different stages you may be at, those incompatibilities may be more than enough to end things before a second date ever gets started.






33. It’s about the kids. This reason lumps together all the cases having to do with having kids. Perhaps it is that one of you wants kids, and it comes up during the date that the other does not want, or cannot have kids. Perhaps is it a matter of one person never wanting to be a parent or step-parent, only to find out the other is a single parent already. It could be that one person is not interested in helping raise younger children, and the other person has younger children.  It can be politically incorrect for anyone to claim they are skipping a second date, after a great first date, because of the issues surrounding having children. There is no fault, blame or judgments here. Just people that went on a date who are not compatible for a long-term involvement because the issues surrounding having kids will eventually end the involvement regardless of what a great start it had.

34. Incompatible pasts.  Each day of our lives we all make choices, and with each choice we make there are consequences. We do not control what those consequences might be. Whether it is a series of choices that leads to having a criminal record, choices affecting your health today, choices about the education you opted for, or the job environments you had to work in, or choices in the people you have dated in the past, each of us has a past built on the choices we made, both good choices or bad choices.  Not everyone you date will be able to handle or accept your past, just as you will not be able to handle the past of everyone you ever date.  There is a difference between being non-judgmental about someone’s past, and getting romantically involved with someone with a past that you would not want to be associated with.  When getting more serious beyond a first date, it is important that you are with someone that can fully accept your past. If someone does not accept your past, or you cannot accept theirs, then it is best to end it.  Again, no fault, blame, or judgments here. Just people that went on a date but are not compatible for a long-term involvement.

35. Sexually incompatible. This is different from a person just being lousy at sex.  The issue here is that you were not compatible. For example:  If the other person was just looking for a one-night stand and you did not make the first move or give them a sign, it is not just an issue of not having sex, but an issue of having different sexual values. Perhaps there is nothing wrong with your love-making skills, but you just aren’t used to going at the pace as your lover, it does not mean you aren’t good, it just means that you are not seeking the same kind of touch. Some people like a really gentle touch, while others like it more rough. There is nothing wrong with either. Even if you had sex on the first date but the sex was not what the other person is used too, or hoped for, and there was no sign or discussion that you have similar sexual values as the other person, then a lack of sexual compatibility can be classified as a lack of sexual chemistry.

36. There actually is no chemistry.  The date came across as just two good friends hanging out but nothing more. It is good to get along with your date, but if all you do is act like good buddies, it may not be enough to help generate attraction.  And yes, even if you had sex on a first date, friends can experience casual sex together and enjoy their time together, but still lack the chemistry necessary to take it to the next level.  So when someone tells you that they did not feel any chemistry, it is possible they are lying for any number of the reasons listed above, or maybe they are being rather truthful, in that they just did not feel what they needed to feel to see you as anything more than a friend (that they were willing to try having sex with).




Conclusion

Chances are, that in reading these stories from my years of coaching, you might see yourself in one of them, or even come up with a few more possible reasons on your own.

Regardless of the reason, you might just be better off without a person that would Ghost you to begin with.

You are not in control of others rejecting you. You are only in control of how you come across. If you are coming across in ways that unintentionally turn people off there are things you can do to change that. Just do not give up. Even with the odds against you, you can still find what you are looking for, as long as you are willing to put in the work. With that said if you continue to have no second dates, you may want to sign up and see a dating coach, before no second dates turns into no first dates either.



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25 reasons you got ghosted dumped after a great first date

25 reasons you got ghosted dumped after a great first date
by Frank Kermit

I recently came across a question about a particular dating dilemma. You go out on a first date that goes incredibly well. There is great music, mood, great talks, laughter, and physical contact including passionate kissing. Things are going so well that based on the way you are connecting, you both make plans for a second date. Then the next day, the person contacts you and says not interested and did not feel any chemistry. Why would anyone go through the motions of an entire first date as if they are interested, only to say in an impersonal communication the next day they did not feel any chemistry?

Actually, it could be a number of reasons. It really depends on the overall context. As a coach for dating and relationships, I have come across more than my fair share of reasons why people disappear after a great first date.





Here are some possibilities and reasons that come directly from my experience as a coach, working with people who have dumped someone after a great first date:



1-The date came across as just two good friends hanging out, but nothing more. It is good to get along with your date. But if all you do is act like good buddies without any sexual tension, then kissing may not be as passionate for the other person as it was for you.


2-The ex came back into the picture between your first and second date. It is easier to tell someone that they felt no chemistry, instead of telling you the truth. With that said, if the communication is happening right in front of the newly returned partner/formerly ex, it would make sense for the person to completely downplay any chemistry that might have actually existed.


3-The person was cheating (or attempting to cheat) but in the end decided against it and ended it before things got out of hand. In this vain of thought, if the person was actually trying to cheat and got caught (or almost caught), it would make sense to end it quickly before you turn stalker-like and send a series of messages that the cheater partner may come across. Hard to keep pursuing when someone tells you “no-chemistry”.


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4-The person has a sexually transmitted infection (STI) and desires socializing, even limited physical touching, but cannot risk giving into the impulse to have sex, so the person cancels any potential future dates. Instead of wondering why someone broke your heart, you might actually consider being grateful that someone may have just spared you life without you knowing it. It is easier to dump a person than to expose themselves by revealing the true nature of their health status to a relative stranger.


5-The person was using you to pay for the meal and lavish date, or using you to get into a venue that you have access too. Once the person got what they wanted in exchange for a little compensation touching, they are moving on to the next target.


6-The person really liked you and intended to date you again, but felt their friends and or family would not approve of you so dumped you. The validation of friends and family approval is why some people will continue to end up perpetually single.



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7-Something you said/did on the date turned the other person right off but the person could not react in the moment (for example, during the date you made insulting jokes about a particular group of people and the person is related to someone of that group). So instead of acting in the moment and revealing private personal information, the person chose to act as if everything was OK to protect their privacy for the rest of the night to be safe.


8-Each person has emotional needs. If you did not satisfy the emotional needs of the person you dated they will have no motivation to date you again. Maybe you seriously violated the person’s emotional needs, or you simply did not address them and were neutral.


9. The person is a virgin (or very inexperienced) and does not know how to process intense emotions that comes after having a great first date and does not want to feel pressured into going on a second date. Not everyone is ready to experience the next level of intimacy that a second date may represent.



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10-The person is trying hard to date someone not their type BUT isn't willing to push through the next level of a second date. You weren’t the type they were normally attracted to, and they were looking to be open-minded for a first date, but just could not fake it enough to make a second date happen.


11-The person could have been triggered by a past trauma and just cannot date you. It has nothing to do with you personally. It could be that you remind the person of someone that hurt him or her; or it could be the feeling of connection and chemistry that triggered them; and associate those good feelings with a core hurt. It is easier to dump you than to deal with past trauma.


12-The person lied on the first date about something, and worries they will get found out. So you get dumped before you even have the chance to dump them later on when you find out the truth.





13. The other person was just looking for a one-night stand, but was waiting for you to make a move or give them a sign. When you did not, the person lost interest. If someone is just looking for a one-night-stand, they are not committed to anything they say in the moment, because the current moment is all that interests them. They were never interested in a second date. They just wanted sex that night, and when the moment passed, they aren’t interested in giving you another chance to waste time.


14-The person was a professional looking for you to pay money for companionship on an ongoing basis, but discovered through the process of the date that you were either not wealthy enough or not willing enough to accept such an arrangement. Rather than try to change your mind, or reveal their true intentions, they would rather focus on recruiting an easier client.


15-The person was seeing multiple people at the same time, and someone made the move before you did to earn a monogamous commitment and thus the person had to dump all other people he or she was dating.


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16-The person was running a bet or taking part in a contest with some friends, about who they could get to date them, or how many first dates the person could get, or how far they could get someone attached and wanting a second date. This one is cruel, but it does happen. You might have just been a target for someone else’s participation in a contest bet that had nothing to do with you.


17-The person was struggling and/or questioning their sexual orientation and decided to try to date someone like you to see what it would be like, to either prove, confirm or disprove something. Sometimes you are just someone else’s experiment while questioning.



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18-The person was hit with a crisis situation that required all of his or her focus and attention, and simply was not in a position to even entertain getting into a relationship much less date. A personal diagnosis, sickness of a family member, the death of a loved one, the loss of a job, and any other major sense of loss that a person would have to cope with. Tragedy can kill any feeling of chemistry that may have actually existed, and the person might rather set you free than to be honest and risk you wasting your time waiting for him or her. Tragedy changes people, and the person they become might not be a good dating partner for you in the future.


19-The person sensed that you generally have a good heart, and that they simply are not into you as much as you are into them. The person likes you a lot, but not as much as you liked them, so decided best to cut you loose before you get more attached and get really hurt. The person might be trying to be ethical after all, but has chosen a less than great way to do it.


20-The person looked you up on the Internet after the first date, and the searches revealed lots of information about you from your professional work profiles and on your social media. With the mystery gone, and perhaps finding out things about you and your worst moments and traits, it was a no-go from there. Maybe you a friends with someone that is an ex lover of theirs, or they do not like the social circles you keep.




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21-The person was a people pleaser. Fear of conflict makes some people act completely agreeable during the first date, to the point of misleading you to think you actually stand a chance at a second date. They hide behind a polite façade to the point of aggressively going along in the moment with anything someone presents them with, to the point where they react with a backlash the next day with a rejection. Might be a good thing that you did not end up dating that person more than you did.


22-The person has incredibly low self-esteem and figures that you will eventually end it when you get to know them, so they dump you first, even though they actually want to date you. Better to dump you now instead of you abandoning them later and justifying their low self-esteem.


23-The person wants to play a mind-game with you to see if you will chase them. Some are legitimately interested in you, but the way they react to any attachment/attraction is to push you away really hard to see if you are going to “prove” yourself and chase them really hard. Some have no interest in you at all, but just love the attention you may shower them with by pushing you away and watching you chase them. Some of these people could be suffering from a mental illness of some kind, while others are just malicious. Either way, if someone pushes you away that much, maybe you should just accept it.




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24-The person is running scared. The person did not expect to like you so much and wasn’t ready for the potential connection that seemed to be developing, so they ran away from you using any excuse they could think of. (Run Forest Run!) Some people really have a fear of intimacy and you came across too good to be true.


25-Maybe the person really likes your company in the moment but does not see a long-term future. If someone is seeking out a serious long term partner, they may not want to spend their time with people who they are interested in, but do not believe will be there long term. Maybe the person really liked you and you read all the signs correctly. However, after the first date, it is possible the person reflected on their life goals and realized that they need to focus on dating people that have a serious long-term relationship candidacy and felt you did not qualify for that. Chances are, that in reading these stories from my years of coaching, you might see yourself in one of them, or even come up with a few more possible reasons on your own. You are not in control of others rejecting you. You are only in control of how you come across. If you are coming across in ways that unintentionally turn people off there are things you can do to change that. Just do not give up. Even with the odds against you, you can still find what you are looking for, as long as you are willing to put in the work.




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5 ways to boost your confidence are explored in this contributed post.

Confidence is the key to life. It’s a way to help you believe in your own actions, and it assists in giving you the power you need to overcome adversity. Confidence also gives you the self-motivation it takes to succeed in life, whether it’s reaching your goal of marriage or operating a successful business. Confidence can be what makes or breaks our lives, so here are some tips to help inspire your confidence.

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Confidence is sometimes seen as a measure of how much you believe in yourself. Being able to go outside while wearing a suit and not feeling out of place? That’s confidence. The ability to stand up on a stage to speak to an audience? Confidence. Suggesting workplace changes to your boss for the sake of improving their business? Once again, confidence. If you believe in yourself and wash away the doubt, you’ll find that it’s much easier to live your life and make the right calls.

Appearances Matter

Your appearance is a huge part of your confidence. Whether it’s the clothes you wear or the smile you put on in public, your confidence can be determined by your outward appearance. You should keep yourself well-groomed, browse for custom suits that make you look comfortable and also practice better body language. Just remember that your appearance will be the first thing people see, and that’s how they will typically judge you the first time around.

Destroy Negativity

Negative thoughts are pointless, useless and don’t serve any purpose other than to scare you and make you doubt. If self-belief is one of the keys to a confident lifestyle, then lowering your worth and spreading negative thoughts is a quick way to destroying any belief you have in yourself.

Promote Positivity

On the contrary, promoting positivity is a sure way to bolster your own self-worth. Learning to spread positive messages and thinking in a positive manner will help you maintain our confidence. Being able to smile and think logically in the face of adversity, be it a problem at work or an issue at home, will help you deal with problems quickly and efficiently. Your positivity will eventually grow on people and become infectious, and people will see you as a driving force of positive energy that will motivate them.

Know Yourself

Knowing yourself is half the battle when aspiring for confidence. As mentioned before, confidence is how much you believe in yourself, but if you’re unsure about your own principles then this is almost impossible to achieve. Learn more about yourself by exploring things that you hide away from the public. Live the life you want to and embrace the thoughts and feelings you have. You’ll find it much easier to believe in yourself and grow confidence if you have a good understanding of your own personality.

There are many other ways to promote confidence in yourself, but these should give you a fantastic foundation to build upon. Just remember that finding confidence is an endless journey of self-discovery.

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成人男性维珍计划的中文评论。
Chéngrén nánxìng wéi zhēn jìhuà de zhōngwén pínglùn.


Reviews in Chinese of The Adult Male Virgin Program.

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專為成年處男製造的最好的產品。弗蘭克給他的聽眾最好的知識,理解他們為什麼仍然處男。他充滿了如此強大的知識及還包括一些他自己的個人故事。弗蘭克介紹我們一個成年處男的跡象和如何失去處男身。他也給了許多意見如何準備你的第一次性經驗。弗蘭克給我留下了非常簡單的步驟,以最佳的方式失去你的童貞。弗蘭克還講座強調在男女關係擁有性的重要以及當擁有性過後是如何影響女性。我強烈推薦這個產品給任何其他成年處男。弗蘭克談到這個敏感的話題非常成熟,非常機智。經過這次演講,我是一個新人。弗蘭克的知識引導我走向成功之路。

-- Liam, 21




Frank處男研討會應該會引起很多女性的公憤, 但對很多男生來說是非常有用的。 我一直都以為女性們希望在兩性關係裡有男女平等。Kermit對這點有非常不一樣的看法。 Kermit認為你生唯一位男人, 你的責任就是引導。Frank也解釋為什麼壞男人會得到女生的喜愛。我從小就被教育要對女生紳士以及對她好。他說我們還是可以這樣做但是要適應的做, 也要同時給他不同的感受 (包括不好的)。

Kermit也專注了為什麼有些男人過了許多歲月之後還是處男。 因為某些心靈創傷?要求太高?你還沒有能力要求高的水準。

這堂課在解釋女性是如何思考的, 男生總是只想這位女生我想不想跟他上床。 一個很重要的意見就是你需要保護他的名譽, 當她知道你可以的話, 你的價直相等的也會增加。

Kermit也很詳細的介紹男生因該如何佈置自己的生活空間好展現雄性的魅力。這個部份的價值很高 我認為"如何佈置自己的生活空間"可以甚至可以位這個話題開另一個講座 。 Frank給了一個簡單的功課那就是首先知道自己想要哪種生活, 然後再從中推算你要追求女生的種類。 然後記住一點:所有的女生都是練習。

我非常推薦這項講座給任何處男, 或者對女性經驗少的男生。這個講座包括了許多理論跟主題讓你能改變你對女生的互動。

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我是抱著很緊張的心情來參加處男講座會, 因為我已經是三十出頭的人了 。 當我寄e-mail給Frank Kermit的時後我是非常情緒的, 因為我從來沒跟任何人談過我的處境 。 隔天晚上我跟Frank Kermit通過電話 我聊的很好, 他給了我很多我可以馬上實行的意見 。這個講座會是能夠讓我掌握我感情方面的問題。 參加講座的當天我真的很緊張, 不過我還是逼我自己去參加。 講座開始時讓我感到舒適 ,大家都很友善 我們也當然擁有共同之處。 Frank Kermit分享了他自己痛苦的過去的故事 到現在成功的過程 。 這讓Frank Kermit證明他能了解我們的痛苦。 講座的話題進行的非常的細心何順暢。 我門了解到什麼是男人, 還有他的定義。 對我做重要的話題包括如何打扮自己的住家, 讓他更充滿有性的, 按摩技巧,為什麼有些女生會愛上壞男人, 保護女生的名譽, 如何主導性的發生。 除了這些之外還有更多的其他話題 。 在講座之前我門每個人都e-mail Frank Kermit我門自己想問的問題, 他在以無名的方式探討這些話題。 每個話題也是對在座的所有人非常有用 。 你能夠相信Frank Kermit對隱私的注重。你也能夠相信他能帶給你有效又現實的答案。 如過你是位年長痛苦的處男, 或是年輕的處男, 你應該要了解Frank跟他的講座是一個安全的地方讓你獲取這方面的知識 。

- J.D. (31歲)




這次的處男講座讓我體會很深,讓我更為自己的性別更有自信以及幫助我有關性的問題。 Kermit回答我所有的問題 。 看到在座的各要兄弟舊的觀念被他改變 你可以感受到大家對性的想法轉變了360度 。

我們有了更深入的了解為什麼我麼再這方面進展的比一班人慢 。 Kermit非常詳細的分享他的第一次性經驗 。 他讓我門了解我們的生殖器官是有一定義意的。 Kermit讓我們不會認為當男人是一件很丟臉的事。

Kermit不會對你保留他對你的看法 他會很誠實的告訴你該改進的地方(經過你的允許),也會告訴你擁有哪些對性不正確的看法....我非常推薦! 他的"白雪公主"故事非常幽默 。 他擁有非常獨特的思考以及原創的教材 。我有去過他其他的講座 Kermit交了許多這社會缺乏並且有用的訊息

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自從參加弗蘭克的成人處男研討會,他開創了一個全新的我。我學到了很多關於這個世界是怎樣看帶性。現在我覺得我更接近一步失去我的童貞,因為我已經獲得了知識。我學到的第一件事情是,一個男人必須帶頭領導跟女人在一起的關係。弗蘭克談到一個重點,那就是處男會散發出暗號讓人們知道你是處男。這是很好的資訊,因為雖然我正在往失去童貞的目標邁進,我也可以不要讓自己看上去像一位處男。以下是我在研討會學到的一些重點:

- 避開會防止你發生性行為的人們
- 失去童貞的步驟
- 失去貞操的重要
- 有些意見,只適用於女性,而不適合男生
- 我認為什麼是性,跟事實什麼是性相差很多

總體來說,我對任何成人處男推薦這個研討會。弗蘭克的成年處男研討會是很精心設計和詳細,一切您所需要知道的資訊都在裡面!

- R.O. 20歲



CD1 假如你有學過任何的兩性關係教學你應該把它們通通忘記, 因為這即將是你學過最好的課程讓你丟棄你的處男身。

在這CD裡Frank告訴你人們是如何看待處男 。 這個CD會讓你更加接觸到現實 。 Frank很直接也很誠實 。 來讓你發現女生到底在想什麼當他知道你是位處男, 還有位什麼她總是對你說"我們當朋友吧 。 "

CD2 這是個非常好的CD!我認為這是最重要的一片CD因為它告訴你你哪裡做錯了什麼。 Frank會讓你知道你為什麼會失敗, 還有你做出哪一些動作讓女生們覺得你是處男, 未出櫃同性戀, 或是有受過情緒上強烈的打擊 。 當你知道這些不應該有的動作後 ,你就會避開這些動作 ,當你懂的避開這些 ,你就會表現的像一般男生一樣。

CD3 在這片CD裡, Frank告訴你其他導致他人認為你是同性戀或被虐待者 。 非常經典!

Frank緊接著告訴你不應該做的事 。像是你不應該像個小孩子一樣拿同性戀開玩笑 。 攘後他詳細告訴你如何借調這些不良的習慣 。

最後Frank教導你應該做的事情, 那就是不要在看A片。 這是一個艱難的挑戰當你還不熟悉但是我必需老實告訴你, 你必須停止。

CD4 我唯一能說的就是這片CD真的很棒。 Frank介紹第一次的性, 還有該如何滿足女生, 如何放上保險套, 還以基本的性技巧。

最後Frank提出訓練方法可以讓你以十倍的速度讓你不再是位處男。


-Barak, Alberta


我從這次的講座學到很多東西 。 有些是我已經知道的東西, 像是我不應該有太高的"水準", 因為現在我認識的女生只是"練習"而已。如果我想要有"高水準"的女生, 我必須知道我能夠吸引到"低水準"的女生 。Kermit也讓我知道在性關係發生時要如何面對 ,也讓我更有自信。我也得到許多在性關係發生之前需要的知識, 像是性疾病, 早洩, 性技巧 ,人體構造 ,等等 。 最重要的是這些資訊是針對處男 大部分市面上的資訊都是假設你已經有過性經驗。Frank並不會給你很籠統的答案像是"你到時候自然就會知道該怎麼做",而是給你很有建設的意見讓你更適應女生何跟她們發生性關係。 這種講座很好, 因為你可以遇到很多跟你面臨一樣問題的人們 ,你不會覺得自己會孤獨。

他(Frank)也有一些如何對待女生的大概念。 其中一個是他自創的女生的"10項情感需要" ,和解是為什麼"壞男人"的表面能夠滿足女生的這10樣需要 。 還有一個是男人是需要不停在兩性關係裡做領導的角色 。 我知道在兩性關係裡領導的重要, 但萬萬沒想到居然這麼的"重要" 。 我這時發現原來男生的肩上需要承擔多少壓力 。 不過, 這些都是值得的, 因為這可以讓我們選擇我們喜歡的對象, 而不是被別人選擇 。

最後 我覺得這個講座是每個十八歲以上的處男應該去上的。 你沒辦法跟你的親朋好友討論這些, 我知道因為我試過, 她們只會跟你說"不用擔心 ,這種事情遲早會發生的" 。 這種答案到底對你有什麼幫助? 對她們來說可能自然而然就發生, 單是我不是他們, 或許她們並不了解這種事情的影響力。Kermit由一個很有智慧跟現實的回答我們每一個人想要問的問題 。我給他兩個大姆子讚!

-OC



我的旅程開始就預見Kermit。我們花了好一段時期的工夫了解一些有關女性的問題。我有機會學習到Frank的不同看法。我跟他學習的時間改變了我的一生。女生會誇我,但我不知道該對她們說些什麼。我很愚笨,我不懂得面對一個女孩的對我好 ...如何處碰女生對我來說也是一大問題,我曾經跟女生談話但在對話中感覺上像好姊妹。我開始在自己身上下工夫和採取Kermit的給我的意見,挑戰自我。Kermit使我成為一名男子漢。他挑戰我的兩性關係看關,使我面對兩性關係得真相 ...他打破了我的現實,問我的問題是大多數人不會花時間來問自己的。他講話非常直率也同時講到重點。我的身份變得堅強和有信心,我的個性正在慢慢變得突出。近9個月的發展,我終於失去了我的童真。我沒有任何壓力,我有Kermit感謝這一點。他的研討會幫助我解決一些舊的性關係疑問。我不再感到內疚作為一個喜歡性的男人。在此之前,每次當我身體接觸女生,我都會身體發麻不知如何是好。Kermit是一個能夠挑戰女性給的測試的男人。我學到了很多關於這一點,它幫助我處理這方面的問題更加容易。他還幫我重新塑造我的心態,並幫助了我極大的設置與女孩的關係。我所學到的東西以幫我改善人際關係了10倍。特別是在聊自己的故事,和跟一個女人找到相似之處得部分。我可以在兩分鐘內帶動有趣的話題,這是讓我擁有跟其他男生不一樣的地方。謝謝您的指導 ...Kermit你塑造了今天的我。我現在很接近我未來想要成為的人。

- A.M.





我是一位現代社會的處男 。 在現在的社會裡你需要擁有足夠的魅力來吸引異性。當你還是處男的時候你覺得這個社會都在排擠你跟你的存在。 女性都會假裝說喜歡好男人但實際上會覺得你經驗不夠而排擠你。 你覺得很痛恨 痛恨你自己已讓費大半的人生沒有好好享受到人生 或許可能是人生最美好的事。一個大家都在享受除了自己已外 。你活著的每一天會比前一天還痛苦 。 他會把你的人生整個摧毀掉 。那麼你應該如還把著巨大的壓力移除呢? 你的朋友甚至會嘲笑你 或許你的家人會故意避開這敏感的話題 而在背後聊你的致命傷 。 看精神醫生或許可以讓你得到所謂的"安慰"不過並不會讓你真正得到解救 。

我個人是很討厭"處男"這兩個字 因為在這個字就好像在你的頭上貼了各大字 訴所有人你的經驗不足 。這股力量讓你痛苦 生氣 無助 這也就是只有在受過這種痛處之後才能體會Frank B. Kermit的課是奪麼的珍貴 。

這是人生中第一次有人這麼嚴肅的討論這個話題。 Frank不會跟你客氣 。你不會得到安慰說"你就算21,24,30,40還市處男都無所謂" 不只你可以在一個很能接受你的環境下討論著個話題 還可以得到很多正確的思考方式 。 他能讓你很快的進入狀態 讓你跟上大家 。 你會嘗到很強的藥效像是男人要主導,和如何讓他感到性興奮 。 Frank會把你打成一個男子漢 。他會讓你知道這是你的問題 除了自己以外沒有人會幫你解決 。 除了能夠讓你能失去你的童真以外 同樣的理念開倒了你面對其他的人生問題 。 一句"你是男人,這是你的責任,由自己處理"我很推薦Frank的產品 這像是天上掉下來的寶 。或許這會是第一次你面對這樣的問題 這是個機會 如果你也是一位處男 你欠你自己這個產品。

-Cédéric P. (29歲)




我從來沒有參加過Frank的演講,但在這次的處男演講,他完全得到了我的肯定。每一個可能會發生的問題都有被討論到,甚至把每個問題分析到最小的細節。作為一個男處,我一直不懂得處碰女性,因為我怕這樣做是錯的或不知道該怎麼做。Frank徹底粉碎了這樣的念頭:Frank給我一步步的觸碰技巧,直到你跟他上床的等級。他甚至更深一步,告訴我們究竟需要成為什麼樣的人能夠提高女性在床上的性經驗,我很高興這跟技術沒有關係。老實說,我相信,這是所有處男唯一需要聽的講座,這都要感謝Frank和他的驚人的工作。

姓名:凱文
年齡:22




我剛剛聽過的最後部分的成人處男MP3檔案。
這是一個非常好的課程,我希望我10年前就得到這個資訊。
我以經不是成人處男了,但是一些資訊仍然非常有用。
我現在可以運用到的東西包括不看色情及自慰由於調節作用可能導致刺激/性能方面的問題。我認為我遭受的正是你描述的問題。

接下來,我有一個困難,我總是要求超出我現在能力範圍以外的女性,我一直在試圖
補救辦法。

最後,您介紹了如何交有性關係的女性朋友,如何觸摸,親吻一個女孩,如何帶避孕套等。課程裡面的內容專注於如何讓成人處男失去童貞,從改變思想和行為做起。我真希望我在年輕的時候就已經擁有它了。

- Oswald



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Reviews in Indonesian of The Adult Male Virgin Program.

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Program ini hanya dalam bahasa Inggris


Indonesia translation of review:

Menghadiri seminar Frank pada Pria Dewasa Perjaka membuka cahaya baru bagi saya. Saya belajar banyak tentang bagaimana seksual di dunia ini. Sekarang saya merasa saya satu langkah lebih dekat untuk kehilangan keperawanan saya karena pengetahuan saya peroleh. Hal pertama yang saya pelajari adalah bahwa seorang pria harus memimpin interaksi dengan seorang wanita. Salah satu bagian penting dalam apa yang Frank bicarakan adalah tentang bahwa ada tanda-tanda bagaimana orang-orang dapat memberitahu Anda seorang perjaka. Ada baiknya untuk tahu bahwa ketika aku sedang dalam perkembangan kehilangan keperjakaan saya, saya bisa melakukan hal-hal untuk mencegah diri dari terlihat sendiri. Beberapa poin kunci yang saya pelajari selama seminar:

-Menjauhi orang-orang yang mencegah Anda dari berhubungan seks
-Langkah-langkah yang saya bisa ambil untuk kehilangan keperawananku
-Bagaimana pentingnya kehilangan keperawananku ASAP
-Bagaimana beberapa orang mengatakan berlaku untuk perempuan saja, tidak untuk laki-laki
-Bagaimana seks benar-benar berbeda dari apa yang sudah dianggap

Secara keseluruhan, saya merekomendasikan seminar ini kepada siapa saja yang merupakan laki-laki dewasa perjaka karena Anda bekerja untuk menyingkirkan masalah tentang keperjakaan Anda. Seminar Frank laki-laki dewasa perjaka adalah yang paling terperinci, lengkap dan segala sesuatu yang perlu Anda ketahui ada di dalamnya!

-R.O. umur 20



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aistierad barnamaj aldhukur albikr aldhukur

Reviews in Arabic of The Adult Male Virgin Program.

****This program is only in English


هذا البرنامج باللغة الإنجليزية
hadha albarnamaj biallughat al'iinjlizia



هذه الحلقه التي تمتد يوما واحدا هي منقذه للحياه. كرمت فتح عيني إلى وجود العالم الجنسي في الخارج. نفس العالم الذي كنت أعيشه و لكن مع عدم وجود اي فكره عن اسراره. اسرار أحتفظت بعيد عن العذر في مجتمعنا مثل نفسي السابقه. الناس يمارسون الجنس كل الوقت ، الفتيات ، حتى المتدينات يمارسون الجنس بشكل منتظم و هم يحبون ذلك.
من الممكن ان تتزوج ولا تكون لديك اي فكره و سوف ترى في كل يوم مع احتكاكك مع الجنس الاخر و خلال زواجك و طلاقك . إذا لم تكن تحصل على ما تريده من الفتيات ،هذه علامه واضحه انك لست في الداخل . مرفه ما يجري خلف الكواليس هو اهم شيء: من الممكن ان لا تحل مشاكلك ،ولكن سوف تفتح عينيك لترى الحلول التي لم تعلمها.
في هذا اللقاء ، تعلمت الحقيقه عن الجنس . وهو ليس جميل. قذر رطب ولكن يساعد بالتاكيد . لس فقط علمني عن كل التجارب الاولى بتفاصيل كاني كنت حاضرا ودعني اخبرك إنه ليس مثل عالمالإباحيه . بالمناسبه ، هل كنت تعلم ان الافلام الاباحيه مضره لك في المستقبل؟ انا لا امزح فقط استمع إلى فرانك وسوف تكون اقتنعت أنت أيضا . هو يكسر صوره العذر للواقع.
إذا كنت تريد ممارسه الجنس ، يجب ان تعلم اي نوع من الرجل انت. في راس المراه للحصول على الجنس بشكل منتظم و كيف تنقل صورتك كرجل. أمور سهله جدا اعلمها الان (لا تحتسب معي لا تقبل و تخبر و أحفظ سمعه المراه).
الشيء الاخر الذي ازعجني هو كيف تتحول من بلا بلا بلا إلى نعم بابي أعطيني إياه! والان لدي الجواب عن هذا الحاجز . كيرمت شرح كيف تقوم بالتحول من المحادثه إلى اللمس الذي يؤدي إلى شعل غريزة المراه الجنسيه.
هذا رائع الان اعرف كيف إذا المراه تبحث عن الجنس او تذهب إلى رجال اخرين للجنس عندما يكون لديها حبيب. واعلم ان لا اصدق اي شء تقوله المراه هو استمر بفعل الصحيح شرائي للهدايا ها ها ها . و كيف اكون متأكد لاخذ هذا الكاذب إلى سريري كعقاب. لا تصدق انها مخلصه لحبيبها إذا لم يكن حبيب جيد . لانها تحتاج الجنس على الاقل مره كل سته اشهر للحفاض على عقلها .
لا تصدق اي شيء تقوله الراه .
هذا ليس طبيعي ولا جيد ان تكون اعذر ، لا تحاول ان تتغاضى هذا الموضوع ، كلم كيرمت من اجل ذا ودعه ييساعدك .
أكبر مخاوفي ليست وجود، القذف المبكر ، الانتصاب ، الداء و مشاكل الواقي الذكري ،لا احتاج إليكم انتم م الماضي ، وداعا.

-Sebastien



أفضل المنتجات التي صممت خصيصا لالعذارى الذكور البالغين. صريح يعطي مستمعيه أفضل المعرفة في فهم السبب في انهم لا تزال عذراء. كان عليما قوية مثل ويشمل أيضا بعض من قصصه الشخصية. فرانك يعطينا علامات العذارى من الذكور البالغين ، وكيفية زيادة النجاح الخاصة بك. وهو أيضا كامل من نصائح رائعة من هذا القبيل على ما يجب القيام به المرة الأولى لك ، وكيف أن تكون مستعد لذلك. غادر فرانك لي مع الخطوات البسيطة جدا بشأن أفضل وسيلة لانقاص البكارة الخاص. فرانك حاضر أيضا على أهمية الجنس في العلاقة ، وكيف لا يصدق أنه يؤثر على المرأة. لا أستطيع أن أوصي هذا المنتج بعد الآن على أي شخص بالغ آخر خارج العذراء . فرانك يتحدث عن هذا الموضوع حساس جدا وبنضج الحيلة للغاية. بعد حضور هذه المحاضرة ، وأنا شخص جديد. المعرفةب فرانك قد تؤدي بي على طريق النجاح

-Liam





فرانك اكا الأخ كيرمت هو رجل ليس مثل هؤلاء الذين يدعون انهم نسويين ، اذاكنت منهم فهذا لن يفيدك لكن إذا كنت ممن يبحث ان يكون افضل في التعامل مع السيدات فهذا الموضوع لك.

كنت دائما تحت انطباع (استنادا إلى نشأتي والدوائر الاجتماعية) أن المرأة تريد أن تعامل مثل متساوي وأن يكون لها رأيها في العلاقات ، ويعرض كيرميت جمهوره مع وجهة نظر هذا هو مختلف تماما. كيرميت ركز تركيزا كبيرا على الرجل "لديك ، في عملك لقيادة" ، انه احتياطي هذا الشعار مع العقل تهب "10 أسباب لماذا الغليض يمكن له الحصول على الفتيات". أجاب أنه من الناحية النظرية أنه يكمل جميع إحتياجات المراه العاطفية ، والكثير من أسئلتي لماذا كل صاحب عال ، ومتكبر ، ألفا ، والذين لا يعاملون الفتيات بشكل جيد دائماالفتيات من حولهم! كنت دائم رجلا نبيلا ، علاج للفتاه وكنت لطيفا معها ، كيرميت لا يقول لا تفعل هذه الأشياء ، ويقول : افعل هذه الاشياء في الاعتدال ويعطيها مجموعة أخرى من تلك العواطف في بعض الأحيان سيئة
كيرميت يتناول أيضا لماذا في وقت لاحق في الحياة بعض الرجال لا يزالو عذرى. هل هو بسبب مسألة عاطفية؟ الخوف من العلاقة الحميمة؟ هل لديك معايير عالية جدا؟ لم تكن قد حصلت بعد مستويات عالية (نساء جميلات جدا).

هذه الحلقه تشرح كيف تفكر النساء بناء على نظرية كيرمت هم يفكرون تحت أطوار. الرجال يفكرون في لنساء انهم قابلون لممارسه الجنس أو غير قابلون لممارسه الجنس. نصيحه جيده جدا أعطيت لنا في هذه الحلقه انك دائما يجب عليك ان تحفظ سمعتها ، واجب تحت اي ثمن عندما تعلم الفتاه انك سوف تحفظ سمعتها سوف تكبر في نظرها جدا. أيضا ، ان تكون رجل الجنس هي دائما خطأك وليس الفتاه
يذهب كيرمت الى قدر كبير من التفصيل ويتحدث بشغف عن كيف يمكن لرجل أن تزين الفضاء معيشته لنقل الصوره الجنسية ويسقط بعض الأفكار الجيدة حقا ، مثل "جدار القيمة". وكان هذا جزءا من الحلقة الدراسية مفيدة للغاية ويمكن أن تكون في الواقع حلقة دراسية في حد ذاته.
فرانك أيضا يمارس تمارين قصيرة التي هي مفيدة للرجال الذين لا يزالون يبحثون عن النساء ، مع أن يسأل طلابه لاتخاذ قرار بشأن هذا النوع من نمط الحياة التي تريد أن تعيش ، ثم يقوم على أن نمط الحياة ويطلب من الجمهور لتحديد أنواع الفتيات التي تود أن تكون معه. بعد أن كنت قد حظيت بها هذه تذكره : جميع الفتيات غيرهالتدريب.
إني ارشح هذا لموضوع بشده لجميع اعذارى الذين لديه بعض او لا خبره عن لنساء أو ان لم يكن لديك صديقه ابدا. هذه الحلقه تناولت كثير من لمواضيع الجيده التي ستغير مفهومك نحو النساء .

-Anonymous




كنت متوترافي حضور حلقة دراسية حول العذرية منذ أن كنت في الثلاثينات في وقت مبكر. عندما عبر البريد الالكتروني أول فرانك باء كيرميت عن هذه الحلقة الدراسية كنت عاطفي جدا لأنني لم يتكلم حقا عن وضعي مع أي شخص. في الليلة التالية تحدثت مع فرانك باء كيرميت على الهاتف ، وكان لنا محادثات جيدة للغاية. وقدم لي بعض النقاط واضحة لبدء العمل على. وكانت هذه الندوة فرصة لبدء الحصول على هذا الجزء من حياتي المتداولة في نهاية المطاف. اليوم الحلقة الدراسية كنت متوترا قليلا لكنني دفعت نفسي هناك. مرة واحدة حصلت على الامور بدأت فعلا اشعر وكأني كنت في مكان آمن. وكان جميع الرجال الاخرين رائع جدا ووديين. من الواضح أننا جميعا في رابطة واحدة. يشارك فرانك باء كيرميت كثير من قصصه الشخصية ، حيث أظهر كيف انتقل من مكان الألم الى النجاح والسعادة مع النساء. وأظهرت هذه الطريقة فرانك كيرميت يمكن أن يعلم من حيث كنا قادمين لانه كان مثلنا. وكانت المواضيع مدروسة وعرضت في ترتيب منطقي. ونحن على الارض أنفسنا في أصول الرجال وماذا يعني ذلك. من الكثير من الامور التي ناقشناها ، وبعض من أكثر المواضيع التي من المفيد بالنسبة لي وكيفية إعداد وتزيين منزلك لتعكس النشاط الجنسي ، وتقنيات التدليك ، والعذارى مع المعايير العالية ، والنساء حاجاتهم العاطفية ، الرجل مسؤول تماما عن الجنس ، لماذا ينجذب بعض النساء الى "الرجال الغليظين" ، وحماية سمعة المرأة ، وكيفية الشروع في ممارسة الجنس. ولكن كانت هناك أشياء أخرى كثيرة تحدثنا أيضا عنها. قبل الندوة ونحن جميعا بالبريد الالكتروني فرانك باء كيرميت جاوب عن أسئلتنا الشخصية على موضوع العذرية. ثم انه متكامل كل هذه الأسئلة بشكل مجهول في مضمون اللقاء. وكان هذا كبيرا منذ حصلت على الجميع للاستماع إلى إجابات على الأسئلة الخاصة دون الكشف عن هويتهم. بالطبع هذه الأجوبة هي مفيدة لباقي المجموعة كذلك. الشيء الوحيد الذي يمكنك الاعتماد عليها مع فرانك باء كيرميت هو عليه يظهر لك الاحترام والسرية التامة. إذا كان لديك الحالة التي كنت لا تشعر مثل التحدث علنا في مجموعة يجب أن يشعر بالأمان في الكتابة أو التحدث مع فرانك باء كيرميت شخصيا. يمكنك أن تثق به لتزويدك بكل حقيقية النصائح وتكون بينك وبينه فقط. إذا كنت الشخص الذي هو في الألم أكثر من كونه عذراء ، أو حتى إذا كنت عذراء الشباب وترغب فقط في فهم متين من أسس الجنس، يجب أن نعرف أن كيرميت وحلقة دراسية وهذا هو مكان آمن لطلب العلم على وضعك

-J.D.





ساعدت حلقة دراسية لي أن أكون أكثر حزما في حياتي الجنسية وساعدني في ملء التفاصيل في عداد المفقودين على أساس الجنس أو محو الضباب حول هذا الموضوع مرة واحدة وإلى الأبد. كيرميت أجاب على جميع تساؤلاتنا وكان حقا اعتبارها تهب رؤية معتقداتنا القليلة القديمة وفهم ديناميكية بين الذكور والإناث تغيرت تماما ، يمكنك أن تشعر أنهم وجهات النظر حول الجنس بدوره رأسا على عقب من خلال النظر في أعينهم... انهم الواقع أصبح أكثر قريبة من الحقيقة.

ذهبنا في عميق في محاولة لاكتشاف ما هو تعوقنا في تنميتنا. كيرميت هدانا وقال لنا كيف كانت تجربته الأولى مع التفاصيل المدققه. ساعد كيرميت واقع الأمر هي أن لدينا القضيب و صنع لغرض الجنس ، ولنا أن يكفوا عن الشعور بالخجل من مايجري.

وكيرميت لم يخف بعيدا تصوره الحقيقي منكم ، وقال انه سوف يعبر عن نفسه بحرية (بعد إذنكم طبعا) واقول لكم نظرته على تفكيرك وممكن الحد من المعتقدات التي قد تعقد حول الجنس... وأوصي بشدة بالجنس! وكان صاحب أسلوب حدة المضحك! انه حقا للخروج من مربع المفكر وأفكاره هي فريدة من نوعها للغاية. لقد كنت الى ندوات أخرى له ، كيرميت تغطي معلومات حيوية مفقودة في المجتمع

-Anon



هذه الندوة مع فرانك على الذكور البالغين العذارى فتحت ضوءا جديدا تماما بالنسبة لي. تعلمت الكثير عن كيفية الجنس في هذا العالم. الآن أشعر أنني خطوة واحده أقرب إلى فقدان العذرية بسبب المعرفةما لقد اكتسبته. أول شيء تعلمته هو أن الرجل يجب أن يؤدي الى التفاعل مع امرأة. دورا هاما في المحاضره هو فرانك قال محادثات حول ان هناك علامات على كيف يمكن للناس ان اقول لهم انهم عذراء. ومن الجيد أن نعرف ذلك من الممكن أن افعل أشياء لمنع نفسي من النظر الى مثل واحد اعذر. بعض النقاط الرئيسية التي تعلمتها خلال الندوة :

لحفظ الشعب التي تمنعك من ممارسة الجنس
، أنا يمكن أن اتخذ خطوات لفقدان العذرية
، كم هو مهم أن افقد عذريتي في اسرع وقت ممكن
، كيف أن بعض الناس يقولون الأسطر التي تقوم بتطبيقها على النساء فقط ، وليس الرجال
كيف ، الجنس هو مختلف تماما عن ما هو ينظر إليه في المجتمع

عموما ، فإنني أوصي هذه الحلقة الدراسية إلى أي شخص من الذكور البالغين عذراء لأنك تعمل من أجل التخلص من هذه المشكلة . ندوه فرانك للعذارى الذكور مفصله تفصيلا ووضع كل ما تحتاج لمعرفته هنا

-R.O.






لقد تعلمت الكثير من هذه الحلقة الدراسية. النقطة التي كنت اعرف حقا من قبل ، ولكن هذا الأخ كان في التواصل كيرميت تماما أنني بحاجة لخفض توقعاتي (وانه موافق على القيام بذلك!) ، وذلك لأن صاحبتي الأولى ستكون "ممارسة الفتيات" على أي حال. إذا كنت تريد الفتيات ذات جودة عالية ، ولا بد لي من معرفة كيفية التعامل مع تلك الفتيات منخفضة الجودة. تمكن الأخ كيرميت لتعليم لي أيضا بالضبط ما يجب القيام به "" ليلة ، لدرجة أنني لا داعي للقلق حول هذا الموضوع والتي من شأنها أن تجعلني اشعر بمزيد من الثقة. أنا أعرف أيضا ما يمكنني القيام به قبل "ليلة" ، ، أي ما قرأت عن (الأمراض المنقولة بالاتصال الجنسي ، سرعة القذف ، وتقنيات الجنس ، وجسم الإنسان...). ومع ذلك ، كان الهدف تيد نحو العذارى ، وهذا ليس في أي إغراء أو غيرها من المواد المساعدة الذاتية الى هناك ، ومعظمهم من نفترض أن لديك خبرة في ممارسة الجنس الأساسية ، والتركيز فقط على ما يحدث قبل ممارسة الجنس. انه لا يعطي المشورة غامضة مثل "عليك أن تعرف ما يجب القيام به" أو "وسوف يأتي كل بشكل طبيعي" ، ولكنها واقعية ، وتقديم المشورة العملية بشأن ما يجب القيام به من أجل بناء راحتك حول المرأة ، ويشكل في النهاية لممارسة الجنس مع لهم. مثل هذه اللقاءات دائما ما تكون جيدة أيضا لمجرد أن تحصل لتلبية الرجال في نفس الوضع ، حتى أن تعرف أنك لست وحدك. بمجرد وجودها ، كما تعلمون كنت في وضع أفضل من جميع العذارى الآخرين الذين ليسوا هناك.

ذهب أيضا إلى نظرية عامة حول كيفية التعامل مع النساء ، وما أن يكون في عقلية لكي تكون ناجحة مع النساء. وعلى وجه الخصوص ، وقدم لنا بلده الاصلي "10 الاحتياجات العاطفية للمرأة" ، وشرح لماذا "والنطر" شخصية تمكن من تلبية جميع من لهم. وكان من الضروري أن مفهوم نشأ أن الرجل هو دائما الشخص الذي ينبغي أن تكون الرائدة. كنت أعرف أن هذا كان صحيحا عموما ، ولكن لم أكن أعرف مدى جدية هذا حقا. أدركت كيف أن كثيرا من وزنه على كتفي الرجل. ومع ذلك ، فإنه يستحق الجهد الإضافي ، لأنه عندها يمكن أن يكون المختارون ، وليس تلك التي اختارت (مثل ما يحدث للنساء).

وعموما ، أعتقد أن هذه الحلقة الدراسية هو أن كل شيء العذراء فوق سن 18 ينبغي أن يحضر بالتأكيد. لا يمكنك التحدث مع هذا مع والديك أو الأصدقاء. لقد حاولت. مشورتهم تدور حول : "لا تقلق ، ان هذا سيحدث في نهاية المطاف." لكن كيف يكون ذلك مفيدا؟ ربما حدث ذلك فقط بالنسبة لهم ، ولكن لم تكن لهم ، وربما لا ترى وخطورة الوضع. تولى الأخ كيرميت فرصة للرد على كل سؤال كان لدينا بطريقة مفيدة للغاية وواقعية. اثنان ممتاز!

-O. C.





التقيت كيرميت عندما بدأت رحلتي الأولى. قضينا فترة جيدة من الوقت في العمل على بعض القضايا المتعلقة بالمرأة كان عندي واتيحت لي فرصة للتعلم على رأيه في أوضاع مختلفة. ولقد تغير فكري بعد هذا الوقت قضيت لي معه منذ ذلك الحين. والمرأة دائما ما يقدمون لي المديح ، ولكن لم أكن أعرف ماذا أقول. كنت خائفا أحمق عندما أتيحت لي لمواجهة الفتاة التي كان جذابا للسلوك السيء... لمس الفتاة كانت أيضا قضية كبيرة بالنسبة لي ، لاجراء محادثات مع النساء وحديثنا سيكون عديم الجنس بشكل كامل. بدأت العمل على نفسي يوما بعد يوم ، واتخاذ المشورة من كيرميت الأولي جعلني مواجهة التحديات التي وضعت لنفسي. تحولت كيرميت حولني الي رجل. وتحدى وجهات نظري على أرض الواقع وجعلني اكثر مواجهة الحقيقة حول العلاقات... كسر فقاعة بلدي وسألني أسئلة أن معظم الرجال لن تأخذ من الوقت لتسأل نفسها. وكان صادقا معي ، وإلى هذه النقطة. أصبحت هويتي أقوى وتأكيد الذات بصفتي كائنا جنسيا أصبح ببطء بارزة. ما يقرب من تسعة أشهر بعد تعلمي كل هذا ، لقد فقدت عذريتي أخيرا. لم يكن لدي أي ضغط من أي نوع ، لدي كيرميت أن أتوجه بالشكر لهذا الغرض. ساعدت الندوة صاحب لي حل بعض المراسي القديمة فيما يتعلق بالجنس. لم أعد أشعر بالذنب لكونه رجل الجنسي. من قبل ، وعندما تسير الأمور ستبدأ في الاقتراب من ممارسه الجنس مع النساء ، فجاه اتجمد ولا اعرف ما افعل. كيرميت هو سيد في تحدي تجارب المرأة. لقد تعلمت الكثير عن هذا وانه ساعدني التعامل معها بسهولة أكبر بكثير. وقد ساعد أيضا إعادة تشكيل عقلية لي بشأن العلاقات وساعدني بشكل كبير في تحديد العلاقة مع الفتاة التي انا حاليا اخرج معها. وتحسنت مهاراتي في تشكيل اتصال جيد مع شخص عشرة أضعاف. وخاصة عندما تقول قصة العثور على أوجه التشابه ومع امرأة. أنا يمكن أن اكون محادثة مثيرة للاهتمام في دقيقتين ، فإنه يجعلني اكون افضل من جميع الرجال الآخرين. شكرا لقيادتكم كيرميت... كنت قد قدمت لي وأنا الذي أصبح اليوم. وأنا قريب جدا من الشخص الذي يمكنني تصور نفسي دائما

-A. M.







يمكن أن تكون من الذكور في مرحلة ما بعد المراهقة أعذر سوف يكون واحدا من أكثر وصم في مجتمع اليوم. مع المجتمع اغرقت لكم صورة من الذكور متعافيةولكن انت لست كذلك ما يسبب قهر الجنسي مع جميع النساء وسوف تشعر فشلا في نظر الثقافة الشعبية من حولك. حتى أن يرد عليه كلمة خاصة ، كلمة'العذرية' تشير إلى انها تحمل قوة كبيره. أنت أصبحت تشعر بالغربة من أصدقائك جميع الذكور الذين يتحدثون عن الفتيات جنسيا ، ويجب إخفاء هذا السر خوفا من العار او استخدامه ضدك. المرأة ، ، الذين يدعون إلى أن تكون لينة ، لطيفه ، ورعاية ضحايا الذين يريدون رجل لطيف وبدوره حولها ، تصب عار عليك انك عديم الخبرة الجنسيه. وكما لو أن كل ما سبق لم تكن سيئة بما فيه الكفاية هناك ألم شخصي جدا ، والحزن واليأس الذي لا يمكن وصفهاب الكلمات التي تطاردك كل لحظة من حياتك.
لن يقتصر البيولوجيا الخاص بك ان يعاقبك ولكن الروح الخاصة بك ايضا. لقد فقدت جزءا كبيرا من حياتك ، وجميع من حياتك الجنسية المحتملة دون ان تتمتع على الأرجح أكبر تجربة ممتعه أن البشر يمكن أن يعيش. بنفس التجربة أن الجميع قدتتمتع حتى الآن لكن ليس انت. ومع مرور كل يوم من آلام لا توصف تنمو أكبر وأكبر تستهلك أكثر من روحك. وسوف يضعف روحك وتسحق حياة من تكون. وجميع لمتأصلة وأساسية في أمس الحاجة للاتصال واتصال مع إنسان آخر. وبسبب هذا والعار الذي هذا يحمل في طياته عالقة فيك. من يستطيع أن يقوم بدوره في المجتمع وهناك عليك صخرة ضخمة مع هذا على كتفيك؟ أصدقائك الذين سوف يضحكون عليك وعلى الأرجح لن تسمح لك الاستماع إلى النهاية من هو؟ والديك والأسرة الذي سوف تجنب هذا الموضوع ثم ربما القيل والقال حول هذا الموضوع وراء ظهرك؟ ومن شأن المعالج أو مستشار يكون مكانا لبدء ولكن جانبا من "وجود هناك" تعاطف أنها لن تكون قادرة على مساعدتك في علاج أي الفعلي إلى أي مشكلة تحصل على وضع والتخلص من العذرية اللعينه مرة وإلى الأبد .
شخصيا أكره كلمة ملعونة "فيرجن" بسبب صبغة دينية ، وردة إلى العبث والخلط أخلاقيافي العصر ، وحقيقة أن ذلك يعني أنلا يوجد لديك من دواعي السرور الأساسيةفي الحياه التي يمكن أن تتمتع في الحياة. أولئك الذين هم في مركب واحد ، كما لي ولا شك في أن يشعر هو وشم الغضب والغضب في كلمة لأنه يشعر وكأنه عملاق مخفي على رأسك عن كل العالم أن يرى. عدم وجود منفذ لتلك الطاقة القوية التي تصل الآبار في الداخل منك أنت ببطء تتمزق إربا ، اندلعت نيرانك ، ويجعلك أكثر من في الغضب والألم ، مريرة ، لا حيلة له ، وميؤوس منها. هذا هو السبب في الحلقة الدراسية التي تقدمها فرانك باء كيرميت وهذه نعمة نادرة في بعض الأحيان عليك أن تدرك إلا بعد حضورها.
لأول مرة في حياتك عليك التصدي بجدية في حل مشكلتك (فرانك ) وبطريقة صادقة. لم يكون فرانك منافق ومثلا يقول ، مثل "كل شيء على مايرام ، لكل فرد أوقات مختلفة عندما يكونون على استعداد" أو "لا تقلق لا يوجد شيء خاطئ في كونك عذراء في 21 ، 24 ، 30 ، 40 ، الخ". أو أي من هراء أخرى مهينة والذي تحصل من عائلتك حتى انهم لا يعتقدون فيه انه مشكله ولايحاولون معالجة الموضوع, هذا حقيقية وليس فقط سوف تكون قادر على التحدث بصراحة عن الشيء الذي يفسد حياتك ببطء مع الآخرين في مكان آمن البيئة ولكن سوف يقال لك م يجب فعله ، ونظرا للموقف الحق في الحصول على علاج لهذه المشكلة. بالنسبة للأشخاص الذين ليس لديهم خلفية في أي توجيهات من دور الذكور في مجال الجنس ، هذه الندوة سوف تجلب لك ان تصل إلى حل لهذه المشكله بسرعة كبيرة. عليك النظرا بحق في الحصول على ماتريد والموارد المناسبة للبحث ، والمعلومات ذات الأهمية الحيوية على الجانب الأكثر أهمية من فقدان العذرية : المرأة. ليس فقط المرأة ولكن ما يجعل منها علامة وكيفية استخدام هذا لصالحك. عليك ان تعطي الدواء القاسية التي يخبرك انه من وظيفتك للهيمنة ، وظيفتك لقيادة وعملك ليكون مسؤولا عن الجنس وتكون قادرة على إرضائها جنسيا. باختصار لن تكون مدلل هنا ، سيكون لديك الحق في ضرب حق وجهك أنك رجل ، انها مشكلتك وعليك أن تتعامل معها ، لا أحد آخرسيقوم بذلك نيابة عنك ، وبالتأكيد ليس بعض الفتيات. ليس فقط سوف تتعلم كيفية حل مشكلتك البكارة ولكن سيتم فتح الباب حيث يمكنك تعلم كيفية التعامل مع مشاكل أخرى مع حياتك أيضا. ضوء سوف ينفجر في رأسك وشعار بسيط "كنت رجلا ، انه عملك ، والمسؤولية الخاصة بك ، والتعامل معها" كنت في تنشيط العديد من الآخرين مجالات الحياة. الجانب السلبي الوحيد لهذه الحلقة الدراسية هي أنه في حين أنها لا تعطيك ركلة جيدة في المؤخره ولكن لا يزال احتمال أن عليك في نهاية المطاف عالقا في شبق نفسك بعد ذلك بأيام قليلة. عدا ذلك ، أوصي فرانك باء كيرميت بهذه الحلقة الدراسية. للعذراء دون أدنى فكرة سيئة الطالع في العالم هذه الندوة ستكون بمثابة هبة من السماء. وسوف تساعدك مع الثقة والطمأنينة تحتاج للتعامل مع قلق معظم هذه المشاكل. لعلها المرة الاولى في حياتك سيكون لديك فرصة لفتح بشكل كامل وبصدق عن الشيء جدا لك ولعائلتك واصدقائك يحاول إنكار ولكن لا يزال هو الأكثر تعرضا ، شيء مؤلم على عقلك 24 / 7. عليك أن تكون مع الآخرين الذين هم في مركب واحد ، كما كنت ، وتبادل معهم ألمك المتبادل والإحباط وأنت تشعر أقل من ااخرين ، وتخجل لأنك أقل. انها حياتك ، انها الحياة الجنسية الخاصة بك. انكم مدينون لنفسكم. الجنس أقل ماتستحقه بل تستحق أكثر من هذا

-Cedric P





لم يسبق لي ان حضرت احد محاضرات فرانك ولكن بعد هذه المحاضره كنت قد رميت بعيدا من الدهشه! كل موضوع من الامكان ان افكر به كان قد نوقش الى ادق التفاصيل . ك بالغ اعذر ، كنت دائما لدي مشاكل ان انهي موضوع الجنس لاني كنت خائف من فعل شيء خاطيء او لا اعلم ما افعل .
فرانك اعطانى خطوة بخطوه كيف تلمس الفتاه وانت تتكلم معها حتى تاتي بها الى غرفه النوم . هو ايضا ما يجب على الرجل فعله ل انعاش تجربه المراه في السرير ، وهو عن المهاره التي لديك . اانا اظن بصدق ان اي ذكر بالغ هذه الماده الوحيده التي سوف تحتاج التي نحتسبها لفرانك وعمله المدهش .

-Kev





شعرت ان فرانك صاحب مشوره صلبه . المواد الذي غطى شرحت لي بشكل ممتاز و كانت من كمال المنطق . جميع العلامات التي فعلتها ك اعذر بالغ كانت معروضه لنا من قبل فرانك . ك أعذر انا افهم انه صعب الاعتراف بذلك لانه موضوع حساس . للكثير و لي ايضا ، حضور هذه الماده للمره الاولى هي خطوه كبيره . لكن هي خطوه للامام والطريق الصحيح . قبول ا ن يجب ان يكون هناك تغيير في حياتك وان تكون منفتح عقليا بشان قبول المساعده . في نهايه محاضره فرانك اعطانا خريطه للوصول إلى التغيير . اتمنى انه كان عندي مواد فرانك عندما كنت في المدرسه . ممكن ان استمع لفرانك يتكلم ولا امل منه ولا اسام . ولكن يجب ان تستمع لهذه الماده لانه هناك الكثير من المعلومات التي لا تستطيع ان تتذكر . لخص في دفترك منها . شكرا فرانك .

-Jim






لقد أنتهيت للتو من الإستماع إلى برنامج ام ف . أنه برنامج جيد لكل العذارى البالغين و اتمنى اني
استمعت لهذا قبل 10 سنوات
أنا لست أعذر بعد هذه التجربه لكن بعض هذه النصائح جيده جدا.ومتطابقه لي الان
هذا يشمل فكره عدم مشاهده الافلام الاباحيه او ممارسه العاده السريه الذي يؤدي إلى ضعف الاداء أو عدم الانتصاب عند ممارسه الجنس . لقد كنت اعاني من هذه المشكله كما قلت في هذا البرنامج.

ايضا ، مشكله اعطاء معايير لنفسك اكبر مما تستطيع ان تحصل عليه الان مشكله لازلت اواجهها .

اخيرا انت شرحت موضوع كيف تسال عن صديق مع نتائج خاصه كيف تقبل كيف تلمس او تضع الواقي الذكري الخ . لكن اهم شيء كان هو التخلص من العذريه .
مره اخرى ، البرنامج كان ممتاز واتمنى انني استمعت له عندما كنت اصغر عمرا بكثير .

-Oswald



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