I need to restructure my life
What does it mean to be a man?
I need a direction but I don't know where to start
How do I find out what I want?
How can I learn to be assertive without being aggressive?
I am scared women will hate me.
Women never seem to want to date me
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LEARN THE EMOTIONAL NEEDS OF WOMEN
I always thought of myself as a smart guy, but never understood women. I had a small share of dates here and there, but nothing consistent. The only true consistency was heartbreak and emotional torture.
Two weeks before I turned 30, I reached out to Frank because I never had a girlfriend in my life.
Frank finally spoke a language I could understand.
My friends, despite their good intentions, could not help me.
Frank broke it down to a SCIENCE.
When a girl rejected me, I now viewed it as ME not doing my homework rather than her simply being picky. Addressing women's emotional needs because my homework, but it was finally something concrete for me to understand.
Within 15 days of coaching, I slept with the girl on the first date, a milestone I never would have imagined.
Montreal, Quebec, Canada
A review found on an online forum
I used to have a shy manner about me that repelled women, but women's cruelty toward me was the reason I was so shy and reluctant to approach them. This led me to have anger against women. So it was a vicious cycle. My best advice for you is to listen to the advice of Frank Kermit. Type in his name into a search and start listening to the advice he gives. It will give you a much greater understanding of women, how they think, and what they want from men. Women are not A to B thinkers like men are. That's why so many women wind up dating and marrying losers who beat them. What if you could have the same appeal to a woman as an abusive man has without being an abuser? Check out the material.
-Review by ksnake10
A Review of How the Emotional Needs Analysis system prevented a mass shooting
During some of my worst years in high school, I planned out scenarios to go down in history in a blaze of gunfire somewhere like my school, taking as many women with me as I could who rejected me. Even during college I questioned doing the same. If I had not discovered (Frank Kermit's Emotional Needs Analysis material), I may have done just that and shot a group of women I did not know.
Before I started studying with Frank (direct coaching for having confidence and reading the emotional needs material), I remember just feeling a lot of low self worth at that time, and even after having had sex a few times it was still something that floated around. I had a lot more anger towards women back then, and I think a lot of it was just my own self-hatred really coming out and being misdirected at hating women.
I feel like the Emotional Needs Analysis coaching system helped me realize what was actually going through the heads of women, and understood why they were rejecting me. I couldn't be so resentful towards women anymore when I could understand their perspective, and how they were looking at the world. When I would be rejected before I would often feel like women as a whole were at fault. After the Emotional Needs Analysis I understood that I was the one who was turning them off.
I traded in my anger so I could date multiple women at the same time, and have experienced a lifestyle that back then I could only dream of. Today I am in an open relationship with a hot goth girl who is perfect for me. She adores me and she likes to have sex with women as much as I do. I never thought this would be my real life now.
Thank You Frank! I bet you saved a lot more lives that you think.
-Review from Clyde, former MGTOW INCEL
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
In my desperation, I searched the internet for quick fixes that I know do not exist (but are
sometimes very tempting). The search word that led me to Franktalks.com was "adult male virgin pain”.
I have read ‘The Adult Male Virgins Handbook’, and I'm pleased to see how honest Frank is. He writes about the reality of being an adult aged virgin, as opposed to the naivety I have found elsewhere.
I was baffled by how apparent it was that so many of the characteristics Frank wrote about are present in my life. I really appreciate your work Frank.
Your work has actually convinced me to put my "normal" life on hold for the next six months and go out there to get my act together.
- Review by Lanny,
I arranged for ‘Pay As You Go Coaching’ with Frank Kermit, but I had never done phone coaching before, so I didn't know what to expect. Being an adult aged virgin, it is quite difficult finding someone you can easily talk to, and who will give you sound advice as well.
The phone coaching session with Frank Kermit was very enlightening. It began with Frank trying to pinpoint why I've been a virgin for so long. He then began to work with me to challenge the many ideas and concepts I believed about dating and relationships. I learned that there are factors involved in dating and relationships that I had not considered.
1 1/2 hours goes by very quickly when Frank Kermit is your coach! I got an excellent perspective on certain things, and I realize now what I have to do to better myself if I want to improve this part of my life.
Frank gives very direct, concise, advice which I feel many people can benefit from. He is also very articulate, and I strongly suggest that any adult should get in touch with him if they are having difficulties of any kind in their romantic life.
Once again Frank, thank you. I have learned something which I never would have learned from anyone else. It would have taken me years to learn this on my own.
-Review by Anonymous,
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
I was very reluctant to use Frank Kermit's ‘Pay As You Go Coaching’ services. I knew about his practice for over two years but I was convinced that I could work things out on my own. I was a forty-year old virgin prior to working with Frank. My love life was in shambles and I was pretty much scared of my own shadow when it came to meeting women.
In just two short months working with Frank, I went from missing out on life and feeling inferior to other men to becoming much more self-confident about myself and having a huge weight lifted off my shoulders.
I used to have this checklist of attributes that a woman needed to possess in order for me to date them. It turned out that I would create this impossible list as a defense mechanism. In my mind there was always something wrong with women, when all I was doing was setting myself up for the fall.
Friends and family said that I was too picky and awkward when talking about relationships; I subsequently found out that I had many behaviours of an Adult Male Virgin. There was nothing wrong with me physically. In fact, many people have mentioned in the past that I was a good-looking man. I just sat on my fanny waiting for somebody to lead the way.
No more! Frank's approach is what is called tough love. Look elsewhere if you are seeking a coach leaving you with a warm and fuzzy feeling inside. His sessions are meant to provide you with the right tools when faced with a situation where you are in direct contact with a woman on a romantic/sexual level.
I admit to finishing a few sessions exhausted, or wanting to throw a brick at Frank!
By investing myself fully in the sessions, I was greatly rewarded by getting the results I was seeking. It's not only relationships that we tackled; we also discussed many different factors that would lead me to a fulfilled life.
Frank also did a fantastic job of following up with me outside of the sessions. I am still a work in progress but aren't we all? I still need to grow more as a person, but I now see it as a challenge rather than an obstacle.
That being said, the proof is in the pudding: My lover said that she has never been more passionate for a man, and that I knew how to please her. Quite the accomplishment for this inexperienced fellow and former adult male virgin!
-Review by Tony, Burlington, Ontario
"How FrankTalks Changed My Life" by Neal L.
The following is an excerpt from my development journal, my thoughts just after my first time having sex since studying the Emotional Needs Theories related products:
It was about one year ago that I heard Frank talk about his emotional needs theory as guest speaker at a local self help group meeting. That was when I thought this was what I wanted to learn. It makes the most sense to me, it handles the situations that I could not explain that I went through before, and if Frank is considered an expert given the way Frank looks, there must be some truth into his teachings.
Without his personal stories and explanation of how it worked for him, I may not have studied the Emotional Needs. It's been one year, a full circle from being introducing to the theories and my first time sex studying Frank's material and to know that it does work for me. This may sound like a long time, but for me the things I've learned have applied in so many situations where other people have found difficulty, is worth the time spent figuring out.
I've heard guys say I'm still working on transitioning, or comfort, or escalation; and they started this before I started my development and they're still doing the same things with the same problems. While I'm not a master at these things, I found what has worked for me and moved on to other parts of the attraction process to get myself to where I want to be.
Thank you, Frank. I never thought I'd get to this point on some skilled level instead of fully on luck. Frankisms has worked so well for me to give me that quick reminder what is the right thing to do, what is the best thing to do, this of course understanding the deeper meaning and applications of your words.
I met Frank Kermit when I first started my journey working out some of the issues I had regarding women. The time that I spent with Frank changed me for the better.
I used to try to talk with women, but our conversation would be completely asexual. I didn’t know what to say when a woman complimented me. I was also scared of confrontation and intimate touch with a woman. I was an expert at self-sabotage.
Accepting, and putting into action Frank’s initial advice allowed me to gradually face the challenges I gave myself. Frank turned me into a man!
Frank challenged my views on reality, and made me face the truth about relationships. He broke my safe bubble and asked me questions that most men would never take the time to ask themselves. He was honest and to the point.
My identity became stronger and my assertiveness as a sexual being was slowly becoming prominent. Almost nine months into my development, I have finally lost my virginity. At that crucial time I had no stress whatsoever, and I have Kermit to thank for that.
His ‘Adult Male Virgins Seminar’ helped me to resolve some of my old anchors regarding sex. I no longer feel guilty for being a sexual man.
Frank Kermit is a master in challenging a woman's tests. I have learned so much, and it has helped me to interact with women with ease. I have learned to reframe my mindset regarding relationships, and this has helped me enormously in my current relationship.
I am now able to form solid connections quickly with women especially in the areas of storytelling and finding similarities with each other. My learned skills now set me apart from all the other men.
Thank you Frank for your guidance! You have made me become the man I am today. I am very close to the person that I always envisioned myself being.
-Review by A.M.,
I have worked with Frank for 3 months and lost my virginity last night!!! I was a 40 year old virgin, who has a great career, good friends, and I am close with my family.
The reason I was an Adult Male Virgin was that I did not have a strong male role model to follow, and at the same time, I grew up with a very strict religious upbringing which kept me unconsciously self-sabotaging myself.
Dating women had always been my weakness until I met Frank.
I am not the same person I was before, to the point that my friends have all said that I have changed a lot. Frank taught me Emotional Needs Analysis which was a game changer!
Currently I am able to attract a variety of women even thought I am not a tall man and I am overweight.
To all the Adult Male Virgins out there: Don’t let yourself make excuses that a woman is too attractive, too intelligent, too tall, or anything else. Stop procrastinating! You will feel much worse the longer you wait to have sex.
This is still a learning process and I have a lot of room to grow, but a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I no longer feel less than other men, or inadequate.
Frank told me that we all knew at least one woman that wanted to date us when we were younger and most of us turned them down. If we had taken that chance, we never would have been Adult Male Virgins, we would have been Naturals!
I now look forward to having relationships with women, and ultimately looking for that one special woman to share my life with. The woman I am seeing now said that I was one of the best men that she had met in her life and that means a lot to me. I am learning a lot about how to treat and react around women that treat me well.
Tell your wife that I appreciate her patience with you spending time with me during those last minute emergency calls, and that it was a great help in changing my life for the better.
Again your help and work has been invaluable to me finally starting to realize a satisfying life. My love life was the biggest thing that was out of balance.
Off and on I thought about killing myself because I was a 40 year old virgin. Your help, and the moment of beauty with my lover (MY LOVER?) changed all that in a short time. A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulder and I feel so relaxed that it surprises me.
-Review by Ethan,
*After taking a break from dating, this client arranged for 'Pay As You Go Coaching' with Frank and then began dating again. This review is based on his new dating experiences.*
Frank, listening to your audio programs, as well as reading your books have taught me to be more direct with women, and when I do, I get great responses!
Keep up the great work! Your work is definitely unique and vital for men like me who are trying to build lasting relationships and not just use women.
I was impressed that my date yesterday cost me almost no money, and she treated me well. She was very relaxed with a bubbly personality. She has a nice energy to be around.
I tried to use what I have learned, including ‘Emotional Needs Analysis’, changing locations, testing her response etc. It was just a coffee, a walk, and then talking at my house. I would have never thought that was possible before I found your work!
Today I am reading your eBooks ‘101 Great First Dates- What To Say’ and ‘25 Rules For Everyone- How To Act On A First Date.’
-Review by Ethan,
Hey Frank, here is my general review: I was introduced to Frank and his work at a Toronto meeting probably looking at close to 4 years now. The thing he offered everyone at this meeting was not a quick or a guaranteed solution. He offered the solution that worked best for me based on my own work and merit.
He offered something that I feel that not many could offer. A true solution to changing your life in the way you want it to and not how someone else to dictate it how it should in a singular way, and it all depended on yourself, your conviction, your effort, your hard work, and your ability to grow as a person.
I've been practicing, studying and using Frank's work for the last 4 years, and I have to say, I am where I want to be when I set out this journey of getting better with women and self improvement. I am the man, the leader, the friend, the lover, the boyfriend, and the mentor that I envision myself to be.
When I first started out, I was introverted, never really had a girlfriend, let alone get a number, soft, not confident, socially awkward, and a bunch of other things you can probably describe if you're relating to this. The one thing I did have going for me is the feeling to make the change in myself. After one birthday, I made one realization about myself at the time. At the way things are going for me, I will never achieve the dreams that I've always truly wanted. Something had to change. Something must change. Something will change. Determined, disciplined, and optimistic were essential skills that I carried forward to achieve my success.
I have done what many of Frank's Students have done. Read his books, listen to his audio programs, done the workbooks, do the homework required of me, attended his coaching, and so on. Hard work, plain and simple. Work that no one could do except for myself because the answer were within myself. Frank doesn't tell you what kind of man you should be. He doesn't tell you what to do. He teaches you the tools, ideas, concepts, values, and lessons to enable you to really be a leader in yourself. He gives you the tools to educate yourself about yourself and ability to make better choices for yourself.
One of my employers recently told me that "You're something who takes on leadership roles in all things, and does it so well. It is a rare quality to be found in someone. I appreciate the things you do." This made me smile, and made me think of Frank and the work related to being a man and a leader.
While I did go into this because of women, I came out of this a much more enriched man that exceeded my original purpose.
I've changed so much from inward and outward, that my friends who knew me before are stunned at the transformation for the better, and the friends who knew me during and after the transformation don't believe the kind of person I was before. Those are the type of changes that last a lifetime.
If you're reading this review to decide if you want to take on the challenge of Frank and his work, let me tell you this: It won't be easy all of the time. It won't be fun all of the time. It won't be quick all of the time. it won't be what you expect all of the time. But it is all worth it in the end. When all of your hard work pays off and comes together where the lessons you learned, the skills you gained, and the experience you had will be with you forever. It be applicable going forward no matter what you do, who you talk to, or what situation you will be in. It says relevant no matter how young, or how old you become. It sticks, and it sticks well.
Review by a legitimately grateful student,
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
When I first came across Frank's materials, I was an adult male virgin in my late 20s. I had a very religious background that emphasized "purity" and preached hellfire for even thinking about sex. My family was in ministry, so I was indoctrinated from a young age, and I really believed it.
I read books which promoted not dating and I believed it. I repented every time I had a lustful thought or masturbated. All through High School and College I would "flee temptation" and never had sex or allowed any "sexual impurity" to enter the "relationships" I had with women during those years.
In my mid 20s I left my family's church. Once I didn't have a theological issue with sex, I realized how wrong everything I had been taught about love, sex and women really was! It simply did not work in the real world. I realized how poorly calibrated I was to the dating scene and it led to a lot of depression. I had no game, and I was still plagued by guilt whenever I talked to women. Also the social skills I had developed up to that point in life seemed to only attract women who treated me like one of their girlfriends!
There are no shortage of books out there with formulas on how to pick up women with the right moves and tricks. The difference with Frank Kermit’s materials is that he focuses on authentic personal development instead of games and gimmicks.
Working with Frank I learned to accept my own sexual and emotional needs as man, and I was able to look at sex and relationships in a much more authentic way. The emotional pain and scars that came from believing deeply in a religion that demonizes sexuality were real and very painful to face. I learned that denial and avoidance are natural responses that have to be overcome in order to recover from the kind of sexual trauma that people with backgrounds like mine have been through.
Frank's approach to coaching was helpful during my process of recovery. In addition, his books; especially the ‘Adult Male Virgins Seminar’ and “I’m A Man That’s My Job’ were excellent.
Frank was incredibly compassionate and respectful, and never belittled me or trivialized my difficulties. That being said, he also didn't pull punches and motivated me to face my fears through action.
After several months of learning from my mistakes, facing my fears, and understanding sex in a whole different way, I was able to say that I was no longer a virgin! I can't tell you what a difference that has made in my life! My virginity is now a thing of the past, no longer some secret I have to keep, no longer haunting me every time I see a woman, and every night as I fall asleep.
If you are an adult male virgin and don't want to be anymore, especially if you have baggage from a religious background, I highly recommend Frank's books and coaching. Trust me, it will be the best thing you have done for yourself.
-Review by Jason,
Chicago, IL, USA
This review is from a former adult male virgin who purchased the '100 Hours Coaching Package’ with Frank as well as purchasing and studying the ‘Adult Male Virgins Seminar’, ‘From Friends To Lovers: Stop Being Her Emotional Cookie Man’ eBook, and the ‘How To Build A Social Circle Network’ program.
Frank, it’s working!!
In the past few weeks my social circles have reached critical mass! I am suddenly meeting more quality women than ever before without a lot of effort other than showing up!
Last night I was able to be with a woman who had been a close platonic friend for almost a year. I had previously been very uncomfortable pushing the relationship into that region for some reason. Your coaching provided me with the ability to find the motivation to take the necessary actions when it was time, as in the past I didn't make a move when it was time.
This was exactly the kind of non-drunken sex I had always wanted but did not get until now, and it felt great!
I am really happy with the direction my life is going in now.
-Review by Samuel P.,
St. Paul., Minnesota, USA
*This is an update from the same client above.
I don't know where it's going to go, but it has been incredible to spend the evening together, fall asleep together, and be so relaxed, close and comfortable with a woman. The sex has been great - very natural and instinctive. She's a sweet and gentle girl who likes it rough, and likes to be dominated. It has been healing for me to be able to let that part of myself out and realize that I'm not hurting, damaging or violating someone else. The sex feels second nature, and I don't feel like I need to juggle my thoughts and manage my stress in order to become or stay aroused.
Before I constantly needed "space" to lick my wounds and manage my stress. Now, I'm much more comfortable with people. I don't feel like there's some part of myself that I need to hide. I have had a few moments of redemption when my lover and I have been at my place and wind up having sex in the front room. While I would prefer to have more privacy, there has been something very affirming and redeeming about being able to be with a woman while the guys I live with walk in and out.
Frank because of you I no longer feel like I am an imitator trying to pose as a man - I am a man, doing my job, and doing it very well vs being overwhelmed in my pain and dysfunction.
-Review by Samuel P.,
St. Paul, Minnesota, USA
IS FRANK KERMIT ANOTHER RANDOM DUDE COACHING?
I started with NOTHING. No women, no guy friends.
Now, I have 6 women on rotation. I've done every nasty little thing with women. I really feel like I have choice when it comes to women. But...all this was a transformation. Throughout I met all sorts of guys. I've met 90% of the gurus in the business. You really need to use your head and discard the garbage.
When I think about my transformation, I can think of cute all-encompassing-rules I heard from all kinds of gurus. "It's all about being the prize man. It's all about having a purpose man." These are just marketing cute lines. It's never ALL about ONE thing.
Truthfully, there's only ONE guy I owe my inner transformation to: Frank Kermit.
I've been getting so many "Thank you" PMs on my inbox because of the dating advice I give. At the very core, most the stuff I know, I owe it to Kermit.
Newbies want the pick up lines. The quick ways to get laid. THAT DOESN'T EXIST. This is an inner transformation. You've accumulated years of bull, it doesn't just go away with some stupid 2 day bootcamp. I pity the fool that does a 2-day bootcamp thinking he can change. Bootcamp can maybe just show you what's possible. You may get lucky. But do you seriously think you can change in 48 hours? You can lie to me, but don't lie to yourself. The truth is, most guys don't get much from a bootcamp,
I've never done a bootcamp in my life and I get sex probably as much, if not more than the bootcamp guys. Bootcamps are just about flashy "Look man, I can talk to this group, look man, I can makeout with miss thing over there".
Kermit's stuff transforms your core. It gets rid of the inner demons you have, the REASON you can't approach, the REASON you feel small, the REASON you feel she's out of your league. That's why Frank teaches over weeks. It's a transformation. It's like when you learn how to dance. You can't become a Salsa pro in a weekend. It took me 2 years.
If you don't at least try, you've convinced me that you don't truly want the results.
By the way, for those wondering, Kermit didn't ask me to write this. In fact, I don't write anything for anyone. Most of the people in the dating industry just regurgitate someone else's garbage by paraphrasing it.
Try finding Kermit's 10 emotional needs somewhere else. "Everything out of her mouth is a test" is a must-have book. There's one thing to know how to get laid, and a whole other to know how to teach it. Helping someone transform is a skill in and of itself.
I consider myself so lucky to have met this guy when I did.
If I am where I am today, it's thanks to the hours of help I got from this guy.
-Review by Andre P.,
Hi Frank, I hope all is doing well.
Recently, I have been quite busy working on the career aspect of my life. I have became what you called "freed" in the relationship aspect of my life. I am no longer a starving as a virgin as I was in the past.
I must give most of my development credit to you Frank. You are the one who actually got me results and it just went like wild fire ever since. You even allowed me to date multiple women simultaneously. Your original works that I have purchased had became a major and necessary component in my life.
As my military days are winding down to its final month, my career into the working world is starting to emerge. After a year of deciding what I should be doing during the military, I have decided to work as a real estate agent. I have chosen this job due to a mixture of interest and wealth. (Hey, I can't be a free-loader in my family anymore now). It's time for me to finally make something of myself.
I still have interest in furthering my studies with you. However, it won't be a biological drive for me anymore. Getting more sex doesn't seem to motivate me to chase anymore (as it did in the past when I was more inexperienced). If I am ever going to delve myself into this as deeply as I did in the past, it is going to be because of the art form itself and finding a greater purpose in it.
You had done a great job.
-Review by M. M.
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