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Reasons The Intimacy Has Gone In Your Relationship

11/15/2021

If the fire has gone from your relationship, you may be worried that this means your relationship is coming to an end. Or, you may simply assume that this is a natural progression that starts to happen when we get older. However, it does not need to be this way. While a lot of couples can reach a point where the intimacy stops, there is often a valid reason for this. With that being said, we’re going to take a look at some of the different reasons why the intimacy may end in a relationship.

There Are Many Reasons Why Intimacy Stops In Relationships

Exhaustion - This is one of the main reasons why a lot of couples stop having fun in the bedroom. We all lead very busy lives in this day and age, and they seem to be getting more and more hectic all of the time. Between taking care of children and working, sex ends up being very low on the list of priorities. If you do not have any energy left, it is going to be a lot harder to have sex.
Being afraid of what you or your partner may say - You may have reached a point whereby you are scared about revealing your desires or you are scared that your partner’s desires may not match up with your own or that they may not find you attractive anymore. Whether you want to add some sex toys and natural personal lubricant to the mix, or you want to try something even more adventurous, you won’t know how your partner is going to respond to this until you bring it up with them.
Discomfort during sex - This can be applicable to anyone but it tends to be more common in females as they get older. A lot of women are concerned with pain during sex and dryness. However, rather than discussing this or getting to the bottom of this, they simply decide to start avoiding sex altogether. However, you should not be embarrassed. Book an appointment with your gynaecologist.
Not feeling good about your body - Last but not least, your body might have changed. Maybe you’ve put on some weight or you’re feeling unhappy about getting older. No matter what the reason may be, hardly anyone who feels negative about their body wants to get naked, especially if they feel like their partner has seen them looking a lot better. However, you will often find that this issue is one that is more in your head rather than being something that your partner cares about.

As you can see, there are a lot of different reasons why couples start to lose intimacy in their relationship. However, this does not mean that it is lost forever. The first place to start is by understanding why the intimacy stopped, to begin with. Once you understand this, you can then start to take the steps that are required to get the fire back into your life.

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The Misunderstood: Mental Disorders

11/13/2021

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"It is not unusual for people with mental conditions to be treated as though they are different or even "crazy." Mental disorders are severe medical conditions that affect millions of men, women, and children worldwide. Yet because of stigma, prejudice, and discrimination, many people live in silence about their mental health problems. World statistics indicate that 300 million people suffer from depression worldwide, which is only the people diagnosed. As a result, most mental conditions are misunderstood. Many of these conditions are caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and can be treated with medication and therapy. People who suffer from these disorders can be given tools to cope with the disorder and lead a normal life. With the help of a psychiatrist and a strong support system of people who are willing to educate themselves on these conditions, most people can successfully be treated.

Most People Can Be Successfully Treated

Bipolar Disorder

It has been referred to as "Manic Depression," which is inaccurate because it does not accurately describe what Bipolar Disorder entails. Bipolar disorder causes shifts in moods between depression and mania. This can happen daily or weekly instead of just once or twice per year, like the "once in a while" version of Manic Depression would suggest.People who are bipolar may also experience periods with no symptoms, often called euthymia or wellness. This can be extremely confusing for the individual because there is nothing to differentiate between being well and not-well other than looking back on past behavior compared with current behavior.

-Mania is a state in which the individual feels exceedingly happy and excited about life, almost to the point of feeling invincible. During these periods, it can be difficult for friends or family members to get through because they are often met with irritability, impatience, stubbornness - you name it! The person experiencing mania may also feel like they are on top of the world, with an increased sex drive and decreased need for sleep.
-The depressive state is often filled with hopelessness, lack of motivation or interest in activities that would generally bring joy to them, irritability towards friends/family members (even if they're trying their hardest), along with significant changes in appetite.

Gender Identity Dysphoria

A condition in which an individual feels that they are not the gender they were born with. The disorder causes significant distress and problems functioning because of these feelings. People with this disorder often feel like "outcasts" and may even attempt suicide. An estimated one in 30,000 males and one in 100,000 females seek treatment for the condition. This might be the most controversial disorder as many people disagree on how a child with this disorder should be treated. Some treatment options for this condition include hormone replacement therapy or gender reassignment surgery. Other methods may consist of psychiatric help and medication.

An interesting study on My Transgender Blog has found that transwomen are three times more likely to come out than transmen. Overall, the study found that transwomen come out at a younger age compared to transmen. This study also showed that transgender people often first come out to their mothers and friends, and one out of 10 people want to tell their spouses first. Many transgender people reported that it is not as bad coming out as they thought, but many people also noted that there are negative consequences to coming out.
Overall many transgender people are afraid that people will reject them when they come out, but this study shows that a lot of people have a positive experience.

Sex Addiction

Sex addiction is another disorder that has until recently been misunderstood by society. Sex addiction symptoms may include obsessive sexual thoughts, sexual fantasies, urges to act out sexually, and compulsive behavior with multiple sexual partners. In addition, people suffering from this disorder lie to cover behavior. Sex addiction can have debilitating effects that interfere with sufferers' daily lives, like their jobs and family. People suffering from sex addiction might also endanger themselves for sexual gratification and feel guilty after such sexual experiences.

Although no consensus exists on what constitutes addiction or how it should be defined, some research suggests that the brain responses seen in people with addictions are similar to those linked with other disorders, including alcoholism and drug abuse.
Sex addiction requires specialized treatment to overcome the disease and attend a sex rehab center where therapists have experience treating sex addicts with cognitive behavioral therapy techniques specifically designed to treat sex addiction.

Dissociative Personality Disorder

Previously known as multiple personality disorder. People diagnosed with this mental disorder have experienced a separation of the mind and often switch between two or more personalities that control their behavior.
Dissociative Identity Disorder is not just having different personas but being unable to recall personal information because these experiences are so deeply repressed. As a result, it is not uncommon for someone who has this disorder to experience blackouts.
Treatment can be complex because the patient has to integrate all of their personalities into one. This is done through hypnosis and psychoanalysis, which can take years, but it helps bring together aspects of personality that were once separate.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

It is characterized as a "pervasive pattern" of grandiosity, or in other words, an inflated sense of self-importance and entitlement. People with this disorder often seek excessive attention. They crave admiration even when it is not given. They feel entitled to special treatment and often exploit and manipulate others to get what they want while ignoring social norms or rules of conduct.

The critical thing to remember about people with narcissistic personality disorder is that they are not "bad" or intentionally acting out. Instead, NPD often suffers immensely because of it and frequently feels deep shame, guilt, and remorse for their behavior towards others, even if it is not intentional. They also often suffer from depression and anxiety and may abuse drugs or alcohol to cope with these feelings. Treatment options for people with NPD typically involve psychotherapy, in which the therapist helps identify and understand problem areas while also encouraging positive behavior through reinforcement.

The fact is that mental disorders are still very misunderstood by the general public, even today. There is a great deal of stigma associated with these issues. People can be incredibly judgmental about it without prior knowledge or experience regarding what they are talking about. This lack of understanding often leads to exclusion rather than inclusion for those struggling with a mental disorder. It can make the person feel as though they are alone and that nobody understands what they are going through, which is not always true. People need to talk about their struggles openly to see how much support exists from those around them. Mental disorders do not discriminate; anyone of any race, gender, age, or socioeconomic status can be affected by one. The sooner people understand this and start changing their views on mental disorders, the better it will become for those struggling.

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Ways To Support Friends And Family Who Identify As LGBTQ

11/13/2021

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There are many ways to support friends and family members who identify as LGBTQ. Whether you are coming out yourself, supporting a partner or child, or just looking for resources to help someone in your life, there is always something that can be done. This blog post will explore ways people can show their love and understanding for their LGBTQ friends and family members.

Learning Is Empowering

Educate Yourself!

First, you can learn about the LGBTQ community. The more people know about what it means to be gay or transgender, the better they will understand their loved ones and friends who are members of this community. Learning is empowering, so get together with your family member or friend for a grab-and-go lunch where they can fill you in on all the latest information and research or read a book together.

Educating yourself will show that you value your loved one's identity and want to learn more about it. It would help if you also did some research into what steps would be helpful for people who are coming out - whether they're still figuring things out themselves or are ready to come out and be open about their identity.

Provide Resources

Another way that you can support your loved ones is by providing resources for them, especially if they are new to the LGBTQ community. One excellent resource is PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays). The organization has chapters all over the country with professional counselors available to help with coming out or being an ally. Another resource is The Trevor Project, which has a 24/seven hotline for young people who identify as LGBTQ and might be in crisis. Giving your loved ones resources like these can make it easier for them to come out if they want to or feel better about their identity.

Know And Understand Their Challenges

Being a supportive friend or family member means understanding their challenges and making sure they're aware that you will support them all the way. The first step is simply lending an ear and asking them how you can help if anything at all. Make it clear from the beginning that your support will always be unconditional and non-judgmental.

My Transgender Blog recently posted an educational and interesting article about the transgender community and on the coming-out experience of transwomen. This blog is educational and can teach you about the fears and excitement of coming out and revealing yourself to friends and family. The study has found that transwomen are three times more likely to come out than transmen. Overall, the study found that transwomen come out at a younger age compared to transmen. The study also showed that transgender people often first come out to their mothers and friends, and one out of 10 people want to tell their spouses first. Many transgender people reported that it is not as bad coming out as they thought, but many people also noted negative consequences. However, overall the study showed that despite many people's fears of coming out, most people had a positive experience.

Avoid Making Assumptions

Another good step is to avoid making assumptions about their experiences or being too curious. This can set the wrong tone for what you're trying to accomplish all together - which is helping them through a difficult time. So take care not to make presumptions about the challenges they face in everyday life - and resist the urge to ask too many questions about their past experiences. This is especially important when it comes to asking personal questions that they may not feel comfortable answering right away, or ever at all. So let them do most of the talking in these conversations - and don't pressure them into sharing more than they're ready for if you sense discomfort.

Send A Message Of Support To Your Loved One

Another way that you can support your loved one who is new to the LGBTQ community is by sending them messages of hope and love! For example, you might write something along these lines: "I want you to know that no matter what happens with your coming out journey, you will always have me. I love and care about you so much." Also, if your friend is not out to their family members yet but might be soon, let them know that they can tell their family when and how they feel comfortable and safe doing so.

Be Patient When Discussing Identity

When talking about their identity, it's important to remember that this is an ongoing process. Some have been through the journey for a while now, and there are others still exploring what they want out of life in terms of sexual orientation or gender expression - so be patient with them both when discussing these issues. Remember that this is their journey to take at their own pace. As a friend or family member of someone who identifies as LGBTQ, you can help by simply listening - ask questions if you want to know more but do not press the person if they are hesitant to share.

If you have questions about their identity or how it affects them, remember that this is a safe space for your friend/family member, so feel free to ask - but know the context in which these conversations occur. For example, if someone has just come out and is still processing what being LGBTQ means to them, it may not be the best time to ask these questions.

Talking About Identity With Children

Children might still be in the process of discovery, but letting them know you are there and open to talking to them about it will make them feel comfortable exploring and coming to terms with whatever they decide. Therefore, there is no wrong time to bring this up, and it's okay if the conversation takes a little while before you broach the topic of sexuality or gender.

If they ask questions about sexual orientation and gender identity, answer them as simply as possible without going into too much depth for now. If your child seems confused by this, they may be too young to understand the topic thoroughly, and you can tell them that they don't need to know everything right now. It's okay for your child not to care about their sexual orientation or gender identity at a younger age; it's perfectly normal for someone to wait until their teenage years before figuring these things out.

LGBTQ people of all ages and experiences need support from their friends and family, especially those just beginning this journey. They will likely face a lot more adversity than someone with years of experience. So if you want to help your friend or family member feel supported, listen to what they are going through and be there for them.

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Let's Talk About Your Wedding: Choosing The Rings

11/9/2021

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You've gotten engaged! Congratulations! Choosing an engagement ring, or even a wedding band, is now the exciting part of the process. Whether you're looking for engagement or wedding rings, we've got all the information you need.

When Purchasing Wedding Rings Remember Your Budget!

Diamond

Finding the ideal diamond for your preferences is something that many people take for granted. Diamonds come in a variety of colours, sizes, and shapes. It's important that the one you pick is one that you'll cherish for the rest of your life. Examine your options and decide if you want a perfect diamond that dazzles and wows, or whether you'd be content with a quaint little gem on your finger. Keep in mind that immaculate diamonds will almost certainly set you back an extortionate amount.

Size

We know, it's a very obvious thing to consider. On the other hand, people sometimes choose rings that are somewhat bigger in order to avoid the possibility of getting their finger stuck. Make an appointment to get your wedding ring finger properly measured. Many jewellery stores will do this for you at no cost, but keep a note of your size if you aren't planning on purchasing from that particular store. Keep in mind that you may get your ring adjusted if it becomes too little or too big for your finger. You can order a ring measurement tool if you’re choosing to buy your rings online. Brilliant Earth can send one to you for free to measure your fingers before ordering.

Colour

Consider the colour of your wedding bands before venturing out to find your wedding rings. Do you want your engagement ring to be accompanied by a classic gold ring? Would you prefer to have your ring made of white gold or platinum, which you can flaunt proudly on your ring finger? Platinum, on the other hand, is significantly more costly than gold.

Personalisation

When a couple becomes engaged, they might have a personal statement or phrase inscribed on the inside of their wedding band. If this is something you're interested in, talk to your jeweller about how much it would cost to have this done for you and your spouse. Remember that the wording or message must be brief enough to fit in a ring while still having meaning for you. "I love you" is a frequent choice.

Cost

The cost of your wedding rings has been covered briefly throughout this piece. Before you go shopping for your engagement rings, make sure you and your partner have agreed on a budget. Set a limit for yourself that you will not be able to exceed. This way, you may specify your pricing range to the jeweller and choose from their selection. Alternatively, if you want to shop online, you may input your maximum price and browse the options.

That concludes the complete guide on purchasing wedding/engagement rings. Remember that you'll be proudly wearing your rings for the rest of your life, so even if you're on a budget, why not go all out and get each other wonderful rings to honour your love?

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How Your Love Life Affects Your Health

10/27/2021

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So many of our feelings and emotions are linked to our health; it’s incredible when you know how everything you are thinking of can have an actual, physical impact on your body – and vice versa. It makes sense, then, that your relationship status and how you feel about that can also determine how you feel when it comes to your health.

You can feel it happening. Love gives us a natural, physical reaction that includes a quickened heart rate, dilated pupils, ‘butterflies’ in the stomach, sweaty palms, and it can even make it hard to speak or find the right words to say.

Studies have shown that those in a committed, happy relationship tend to be healthier (and even live longer) than those who are single. Yet it’s not quite as simple as that. There are many things that go into how your love life affects your health.

Studies Show That Those In A Committed, Happy Relationship Tend To Be Healthier

Your Weight

If you’ve ever noticed that you put on a little (or perhaps a lot) of weight once you are in a stable relationship, there could be a good reason for it. Once you are happy with someone and comfortable with your body around them, many will stop trying quite so hard to keep fit, and the weight will start to gain. So, although putting on weight might be a sign of a happy relationship, it’s not good for your health.

If you find that you and your partner have become heavier since moving in together or marrying, for example, you can do something about it. Using that same partnership that allowed the weight to come in the first place, you can go out and exercise together, join the same gym, or even attend the same class. If you set weight loss goals as a couple, losing the weight should be easier than trying to do it separately.

Your Stress Levels

People who have sex regularly are a lot less stressed than those who don’t. That’s because sex reduces your blood pressure levels by increasing the level of serotonin (the happy hormone) and reducing the level of cortisol (the stress hormone) in your body. That gives you a good balance of the right kinds of hormones, and you’ll feel fantastic; you won’t feel stressed.

The more often you have sex, the better you’ll be able to react when it comes to stressful situations, and you’ll be a much calmer person in general. This is why being compatible in bed is actually more important than many people realize. If you feel that this is an issue, it might be time to shake things up. You can learn about Wild Flower’s pursuit of genderless toys leads to The Enby 2, and start a new exciting chapter in your sex life.

Your Sleep

Getting the right amount of sleep each night is essential for your good health. Sleeping well for around seven to eight hours a night will help you to lose weight, make you more productive, lower your blood pressure, protect you from heart disease and heart attacks, reduce your chances of stroke and type II diabetes, and even stop some cancers from forming (although other factors will, of course, come into play here).

When you sleep next to someone you totally trust and really love, you will sleep better because you will be more relaxed. Of course, if your partner keeps stealing the covers or snores, then it might not be the most relaxing sleep you have ever had, but if this is the case, there are ways to fix the issues, such as using a tool that keeps the covers in place and wearing earplugs.

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‘Kevin Can F**k Himself’ Shows a Whole New Side of Sitcom Marriages — What Can Guys Learn From It?

10/8/2021

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Expert Dating and Relationship Coach Frank Kermit is quoted in an article about a new AMC series

KevinCan F**K Himself

Image © Zach Dilgard/AMC

AMC’s “Kevin Can F**k Himself" Proves We Don’t Need Misogyny for a Laugh

While it might not be the wisest place to look, seeking out a role model in the characters we see portrayed on television and in movies happens all the time. This is typically harmless, leading us to hold the noble, honest, and exceedingly good-natured superhero like Captain America in such high regard, or applaud the actions of a kind and caring father figure like Uncle Phil on The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. But for every Uncle Phil we applaud, there’s about ten Peter Griffins being the worst kind of person.

Sitcom husbands and fathers, typically serving as the central comedic forces of these particular shows, have gotten away with bad behavior for decades. And as audience members, we sat back and laughed right along with them.

What’s more, the creators of these sitcoms — The King of Queens, Still Standing and According to Jim, to name a few — have often followed what author and screenwriter Gillian Flynn once termed the “fatty-gets-a-family” formula, which she described as a working-class doof of a husband landing a mysteriously hot wife while seemingly caring much more about TV, beer, and sports than his own partner or kids. While that formula might be successful at producing some chuckles, it also leaves this question unanswered: Are these kinds of oddball pairings truly realistic? And if we were to go even further, are these really the kinds of male role models we should be taking our cues from?

Kevin Can F**k Himself, a new AMC series that premiered in June, asks viewers to consider these types of questions. The show keeps the model of a boorish, immature man paired with an attractive female partner (Annie Murphy of Schitt’s Creek fame), but turns the dynamic on its head by revealing the very unfunny behind-the-scenes reality that might exist if this husband-wife relationship played out in real life. Mixing brightly-lit sets and the ambience of audience laughter typical of sitcoms with gritty, darker-hued scenes more akin to television dramas, Kevin Can F**k Himself is a satire of family-oriented sitcoms that uncovers the emotional scars left in the wake of too many crude jokes cracked at a woman’s expense.

Right from the jump, it’s clear the writers of the show are determined to highlight the kind of over-the-top bad behavior men have been getting away with in sitcoms for years. The first episode of Kevin Can F**k Himself opens with husband Kevin playing a round of beer pong in the middle of the living room with his best friend and next-door neighbor Neil, as Kevin’s dad and Neil’s sister spectate from the couch. As soon as wife Allison enters the room from the kitchen carrying a laundry basket, she’s hit by a stray shot from Neil. Before she has the chance to say anything, Neil throws his hands up and jokingly says, “Sorry, mom!”

The sitcom-style scene continues with Allison asking her husband if, instead of throwing an “anniversa-rager” (as they’ve seemingly done for their nine previous wedding anniversaries), they could have a grown-up dinner together, seeing as they’ve both reached their mid-thirties. Kevin responds: “Yeah, but you’re ‘lady 35’ and I’m ‘boy 35’ ... I’m just hitting my prime, and you...” trailing off before course correcting, unconvincingly, in a higher-pitched voice, “are, too.”

Moments later, Allison announces that dinner’s almost ready and asks that beer pong be put on hold. The other characters groan loudly before Neil says, “Now, see, this is why I call you mom.” Kevin momentarily comes to her defense (“Someone has to be responsible,” he says) before tossing his empty beer mug at her and asking for refills.

It’s when Allison walks back into the other room that the tone of the show does a 180. Compared to the brightly-lit living room, the kitchen is overly dark and dramatic. A high-pitched sound grows louder and louder as she sets the laundry basket down that she was holding, squeezing her eyes shut tight as if fighting off a migraine, only for an empty glass mug to shatter on the countertop as an apparent representation of her feelings after what’s just transpired in the other room.

Chris Luna, head dating coach with Craft of Charisma, ascribes one word to Allison and Kevin’s relationship: toxic. However, he says this is a reflection of both of them.

“Kevin is awful,” says Luna. “I can’t imagine any man watching the show and thinking, ‘I want to be that guy’. But what type of woman would choose to stay in a relationship like that? What type of woman gets into a relationship with a guy like that?”

A fair question, sure, but it’s also exactly the point the show creators are trying to make. All those fictional sitcom marriages we’ve grown accustomed to seeing over the years — Doug and Carrie in The King of Queens, Jim and Cheryl in According to Jim, Bill and Judy in Still Standing — just aren’t that realistic. In direct violation of the so-called “matching hypothesis,” which Dr. Sean M. Horan, a social psychologist, describes as our penchant for dating “individuals with similar levels of physical attractiveness,” sitcoms often pair two people who wouldn’t generally sync with one another in the real world for comedic effect.

These made-for-television mismatches are applauded as the on-screen husband belittles his partner in subtle and not-so-subtle ways, typically by making her the butt of the joke. In Kevin Can F**k Himself, this dynamic is cranked up to 11 with nearly all of Kevin’s lines serving to demean Allison when the two are in a room together. It’s only when we observe her by herself that we see (from her unique POV) just how much of an impact Kevin’s actions have on her. In the first episode, his button-pushing antics ultimately lead to Allison fantasizing about stabbing him in the neck with a broken beer bottle.

“In TV relationships, the dysfunctional husband has turned into a comedic trope,” explains Luna. “Husbands are often portrayed as incapable idiots, while wives are portrayed as smart and capable and good and living with an ongoing male burden. In the first episode of Kevin Can F**k Himself, it’s clear that the show is building upon this idea, and then expanding into and exploring the wife’s anger.”

He goes on, saying that with his career, he sees and hears the problems people struggle with on a regular basis.

“Although it’s true that on some level people are the source for the problems in their life, it’s often more complicated,” notes Luna. “The types of problems we see in modern sitcoms are not accurately reflective of the types of problems or the relationship dynamics that I see in real life with clients — and the men and women I meet in real life aren’t anything like the people I see on these shows.”

Some would argue, however, that the relationships and situations that we see play out in these sitcoms aren’t really meant to translate to real life.

“The entertainment industry is not concerned with educating audiences about relationships,” notes dating coach Frank Kermit. “The entertainment industry is only interested in one thing: entertaining you in a way that turns a profit.”

To be clear, Kermit does not say this as an indictment of the entertainment industry; he’s not looking for anything to be censored or altered to be more educational. Rather, he argues that we need to resist the urge to take our relationship cues from what we see on our TV screens.

“The key is not modifying our entertainment, but bringing in better education,” he says. “As long as people are educated about how to think critically and rationally about anything in their environment that can and will influence them, then people can make sure to only take actions that are in their best long-term interests.”

It’s a solid, reasonable case — don’t think of entertainment as dating education — but when you really boil it down, there is something to be taken from a show like Kevin Can F**k Himself. As for what that is? Looking at everything wrong with the way sitcom marriages have been portrayed over the last three or four decades, they’re finally telling us not to aspire to be these people.

And if you’ve reached a place where you’d rather slit your partner’s throat with broken glass than spend another second with them? It’s probably time for a divorce.

Written by Logan Hansen. Published on askmen.com

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5 Signs That You're Ready to Go Back Out in the Dating World

9/29/2021

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When it comes to the dating world, it’s important to know when you’re ready for it. Being ready for it is going to help in creating a long-lasting relationship with the right person. These are some signs that you may be ready for that.

Happiness Begins With You

You’re confident

Being confident in yourself and your abilities is a surefire sign that you’re ready to go into the dating world again. Many people who lack confidence expect to find someone to be the confidence booster for them. This is a very unhealthy approach. Only you can boost your confidence, nobody else can do that job. There are plenty of ways to begin boosting your confidence such as finding the best type of surgeon for your rhinoplasty. Dressing differently, getting a haircut, grooming, and exercise are also ways to get the self-belief going.

Happiness begins with where you are, not who you want to be with

Before going back out in the dating world, make sure that you’re currently happy. Are you happy with where you’re at in life? Are you happy with the relationships surrounding you? Are you happy with yourself? Are you happy with your job? Finances? Your home? Love is not going to solve your problems if you’re unhappy. Finding love is not going to magically flip your life right side up, no matter what the movies, songs, and books may say. Love is about bringing additional happiness to your life. You need to already be happy before bringing in any more happiness through love. So ask yourself whether you’re truly ready for that yet and how you can improve?

You love yourself

To love someone else you have to experience self-love and worth first. Nobody in the world can make you love yourself, except for you. Your problems of self-doubt or self-hatred don’t immediately end just because someone wants to date you. Choosing to love yourself first is going to be the first step in the right direction when searching and being ready for a new relationship.

You understand the importance of communication

When it comes to relationships, you have to communicate. If you’ve ever had trouble in the past with communicating then the first step is to learn to improve this. No dating app or texting is going to fix a communication problem that you have. Once you discover the importance of effective and healthy communication then it’s a sign that you may be ready for the dating world. It’s important to know how to appropriately and healthily communicate your thoughts and feelings. This means not being aggressive, not being manipulative, and not aiming to hurt the other person. Doing so will lead to a faulty relationship where even couples counseling may not be able to help out.

You don’t compare people

If you’ve ever experienced a bad relationship in the past, then there is e a very high chance that you’ve compared people that you’re talking to and dating to the person that’s hurt you. It’s not good and it’s very unhealthy. You’ll eventually let go of that bad relationship. Once you do, you can only move forward. Once you stop comparing people, especially to those that have wronged you. You’ll be able to break away and will have a better mentality when dating again.

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4 Steps To Having A Memorable & Beautiful Wedding

9/21/2021

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Your wedding day is one of the most important occasions and events of your life. It’s not only about having fun but marrying the love of your life. It’s wise to take your time planning it and make sure you attend to all the most vital details.

Learn four steps to having a memorable and beautiful wedding so you can ensure your guests enjoy themselves and you’re happy with the end results. It’ll require patience, time, and dedication on your part but know that your efforts will pay off and you’ll look back on your wedding day in the future and have no regrets.

Take Your Time Planning Your Wedding

1.   Choose the Right Venue

Your first step to having a memorable and beautiful wedding is to choose the right venue for the event and your theme. What this means is that it’s not only within your budget but a place that will impress your guests and set the right tone for the day. It’s also about choosing a wedding venue that’s suitable and appropriate for you, your finance, and your taste and style. It’s your chance to set yourself apart from the rest and have your big event stand out in a positive way.

2.   Focus on the Décor

Another step to having a memorable and beautiful wedding is to focus on the décor and creating an unforgettable environment and ambiance. For example, you should choose a wedding florist that can help you bring your vision to life and ensure your wedding looks classy, elegant, and reflects all the right colors and feelings. You’ll need a lot of flowers and in multiple places throughout the day and night to ensure your wedding day is both memorable and beautiful. Be thoughtful as you choose your linens, the lighting, and table décor as well.

3.   Pick Out A Fabulous Dress

The highlight and focus of the entire wedding day will be you, the bride. Therefore, you must commit to picking out a fabulous wedding dress that will help you look even more stunning than you already are. Go shopping ahead of time and try on different styles to see which look you like best and which is most flattering. Have a budget in mind that will help you narrow down your choices. You want your dress to be appropriate for you, the theme, and one that helps you truly have the most memorable and beautiful wedding day possible.

4.   Be Picky About the Guest List

Your wedding should be filled with people who love and care about you and want to see you two happy. It’s important that you’re picky about the guest list and who you invite to attend your big day. Your wedding day will be more memorable and beautiful when you’re surrounded by people who have your best interest at heart and are in your corner. You want to avoid including people who may create drama or who you’re not very close to. Stick to a guest list that’s full of people who love you two and want to celebrate your wedding day and happiness with you.

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Four Tips For Dating Online

9/21/2021

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Dating online is something that some people can fear, especially if they’re not used to it. It might be that they’ve just come out of a long-term relationship or simply because they’ve never tried online dating before. With that being said, here are four tips for dating online.

Complete Your Online Profile Fully To Increase Your Chances Of Matching With Someone

Take Your Time

The first thing you want to remember is that it’s important to take your time. The last thing you want to do is to rush into anything that you’re not sure of. There’s going to be a lot of people out there looking for love, whilst others may not be looking to settle down and simply want to date and explore the waters!

There are going to be people who engage with you regularly and others who may only speak to you on the occasion that they want something from you. With that being said, take your time. Think about what you want and consider what’s out there before you commit yourself to anything, whether it’s a date, a hookup or a relationship.

Set Up Your Profiles Properly

The next thing you want to do is to set up your profile properly from the beginning. There are those that will set up their profiles on a dating site but they won’t really bother with filling in everything properly or fully. It’s important to do this in order to get matched up with the right people and so that the site or app can make you readily available to everyone that you may be compatible with.

Make sure that you’ve filled in all the relevant information that has been requested and do remember to upload photos too. It’s always good to have your main photo as a picture of you, rather than you with a group of friends. That will only make it confusing for those that are perhaps interested in your profile but can’t decipher who you are from your profile picture.

Be More Open To New Experiences

There are a lot more experiences that may be new to you when it comes to online dating. Many unique characters like those with a feet fetish or a kink that you may have not even heard about before. It’s good to be open to new experiences because who knows, you might find someone who you really connect with well.

Be Careful

And finally - be careful. It’s important to remember that anyone can be anyone when it comes to the online world, particularly when it comes to dating. Be sure to meet anyone new in a public scenario and that you get to see them from afar before actually going over to introduce yourself.

The online world is a dangerous place, so caution is definitely necessary. These tips should help you get the most out of your online dating experience. Use these tips to start your online dating journey this year and hopefully, who knows, you might find your future partner. Or alternatively, a dating life that’s worth boasting about to friends!

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Tips on Choosing the Perfect Wedding Venue for You

8/26/2021

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There is one absolute must for every wedding, and that is where it will take place. You may well be able to swap a dress for a suit or saying no to a cake, but you have to physically be somewhere.

Finding the perfect wedding venue for you and your needs is not always the easiest task. First, you may well be inundated with choice. Or unsure if the theme of your wedding matches the location. One thing is for sure, you want somewhere that will be as magical as you always wished it would be, and somewhere that will leave you with a lifetime of happy memories.

Decide Your Theme Or Style First

What is Your Style?

Due to the abundance of beautiful venues, you will want to decide on your theme and style first. There is no point in having a elegant ballroom venue when you want that rustic feel. If you can decide on an overarching theme that is not going to change, you will find it easier you find the perfect location.

Budget

Before you even start thinking about venues, you should have an overall budget and limit how much you can spend on a venue. Again this will help narrow the search and avoid you looking at something totally beautiful but way out of your budget. So. budget first is a must.

Your Guest List

Creating a guest list and having a rough idea of numbers will help you search too. If you have very elderly or disabled people attending you may need to give extra consideration to wheelchair access and toilet facilities for a start. Some venues may well be perfect but are actually way too small for your needs, and vice versa. You hardly want a huge and extravagant venue and only fill one corner of it.

Think About The Experience of Your Guests

If you are going to be expecting people to travel quite some distance like to a Top Mountain Wedding Venue, it helps if you choose somewhere with enough parking spaces and some excellent stay-over facilities. Again you want to ensure you can not cramming people into a space that is far too small. You also want to make sure there are good food options, and how about a bar, or a free bar, whatever your budget allows.

Never Forget Yourself

When it comes to a wedding, yes you want your guest to come and have an excellent time, but you must not forget yourself in all the planning chaos. If you have a strict budget and can only afford X number of people, you are going to have to make some hard choices. Get somewhere you feel comfortable with and fits into your major criteria as a couple. It is your day, and it is most important that you feel special and not stressed out. This will ruin the experience for you. After all, it is supposed to be the best day of your life, not everyone else’s. So always bear that in mind when you start planning a wedding.

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