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Frank Kermit is a Relationship Coach pitting his tested emotional needs theories and applying them to loving relationships to keep men and women and all partners together. Frank Kermit has a huge range of products and has in-depth knowledge about each product he releases. This is truly a one-stop resource for all your emotional needs and relationship questions. Get on Skype and have some Frank Talks with a Frank Kermit Skype talk!.
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Frank, I just want to say thanks for taking the time with me last night. As much I've learned in the past couple years, it shows there's always another layer of questions and answers I hadn't thought of. When you feel stuck and realize you're one of those square pegs trying to fit in a round hole (hmmm, pun intended?), it just makes you feel more at ease when someone gives you the skills and sandpaper to smoothe the edges and give you a way forward.....I feel "unstuck" and have a path and concrete plan for my relationship that I can now act on -- thanks so much Frank
- D. Fleshmen
This is a review of an hour long phone call I had this evening with Frank B Kermit. He has been extremely professional and prompt in responding. The conversation began by him asking me what I wanted to talk about. I spoke about two general issues that are problematic in my life: one about being too negative in spite of being generally successful, and the other about not having enough (regular) sex or female company. I spoke about how I've stopped approaching because I although overcoming approach anxiety is good -- I didn't have much to begin with -- I don't approach because I know that I don't know what to say. Frank B Kermit kept focus very well in the conversation, keeping track of what I was saying and asking if I wanted to discuss the first issue or if I wanted to talk about something else, too. A big issue for me is that I am not very decisive. Frank B Kermit picked up on this very quickly and tried very hard to make me understand that my JOB AS A MAN is to BE DECISIVE. It's not to be always right -- that's impossible -- but it's to make decisions and make things happen. I've known this from other aspects of my life besides women. I was already aware of some of the exercises Frank B Kermit has had his students do, namely THE LISTS. I had been incapable of completing this in the past weeks despite sincere and repeated effort. Frank B Kermit made me realize I have a mental block. I am used to either be neutral or not have an opinion at all. For me, this is heavy s***. I think now, after our conversation, I will be able to complete the exercise and it will be a step in practicing the skill of decisiveness. Frank B Kermit repeated that I WAS BORN WITH BALLS. It's not a choice to use them, it's a responsibility and simply the way things are. I f***ing want to be a man and know what I want and make the f***ing decisions. Again, this is a big deal for me and quite a shift to make. I've seen this shift before but now it's very f****ing clear how important it is to make it and not look back. Bearing in mind that this was nearly the first time we spoke, Frank B Kermit was extremely perceptive and careful in judging how strong or weak I am before offering criticism. I did want to hear it all, but he made sure before he said anything. He has obviously worked with and met a lot of people in his life, he read me accurately and quickly. Some things I already knew, some things I sort of knew and some things were hammered home. My opinion is that Frank B Kermit is extremely qualified to help men be better with women by becoming better men, or at least help me be better with women by becoming a better man.
- Nic S.
I had a phone consultation with Frank and we discussed a couple of important topics. First was the idea of giving a girl so much, and feeling like she owes something back to you at some point. I told Frank about a story of a girl I was dating, and how I felt that at some point she should want to reciprocate but I always felt I was giving her more than she was giving back. I started to think, how I know when I should expect something of her in a relationship, and when I'm just being paranoid. This is part of relationship management after all. Frank gave me a really great rule of thumb. You cannot expect anything from her, because when you expect things from others, you can only be disappointed. Instead, what I should be doing is expecting something from me. I can empower myself by expecting that I will stand up for my boundaries of wanting to be treated fairly and with respect, by communicating my standards and what I would like in return for doing something for the other person. This will avoid me feeling dissapointed the other person didn't follow through on what I would like them to do, and instead give them clear indication of what I am looking for. At this point, Frank mentions it is sitll important you not expect them to get it done, but instead monitor them to see if they get it done. If they do, then you know they can be relied on to do that. If they cannot, you know clearly what you can and cannot get out of this person. This will help you in determining how far along your able to take any relationship.Frank says, you must always keep this in mind. In any relationship, one person is going to always feel like they are giving more than the other. Equality in all things is an intellectual construct, and in real life it hardly works out that way. One person is always taking on more burden than the other, etc. It is ok if I am giving more than the other, as long as it's even somewhat equitable. If the other person is giving nothing and I give a car to them, then there is something wrong. This brings up to the second point, how to figure out the same thing with friends, and not just lovers. It came out that it's the same rule applies, don't have expectations, and just communicate what it is you want clearly. The only time you screw up is by not expecting yourself to communicate what you are looking for in return. By being quiet, I am only hurting myself, building anger and frustration inside. I helped a friend move, and in return I should have communicated clearly that next time he goes to a lingerie party he invite me if he can. That would be an example of communicating my expectation for doing something. After that point, it's just about monitoring to see if that friend can follow through on what I asked. If not, then you know what you can get out of that person, and what you cannot, and you slot them accordingly.
-Anonymous J
I just had a very interesting talk with Frank B Kermit. We talked about congruence. It is very important for a man to be congruent with his words and his actions. It is what really defines a man. Some people believe that they are integral with themselves but they can't stand up to even the simplest of criticisms. Many people can't stand when they are shown not to be congruent. They lash out at the accuser. All the while proving that they are not whole and lacking in integrity. It is very important to 'walk the walk and talk the talk'. It is actually the core and the foundation of connecting with women over the long term. If you cannot master who you are and what you want out of your love life (or even Life itself) then you will be like a chicken with his head cut off. You will be learning techniques and strategies but not knowing how to apply them. You will be delivering lines without actually believing in them. Now why is this important, you ask? Can't I just fake it until I make it? Can't I use new techniques as training wheels until I get good? No. You can't. Women are ten times better at picking up subtle body language cues. They are also ten times better at detecting whether you are truly congruent as a man. Do your actions match your words? A woman can tell instantly. The slightest mis-step and her radar will be alerted. The only way to combat her heightened sense of BS detection is to truly be integral with yourself. Live like you want to live. Seek what you really want to seek in your love life. Make no apologies for what you want. What you want is the right thing simply because it is what you want. But it must be real. It must be you. Without this foundation I don't believe one can truly succeed connecting to women. It is very painful to actually go through this process but the rewards far outweigh the pain. Imagine how Life would be if you are totally congruent with yourself. It would be a brand new and powerful world.
- W. Adieus